| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/4/2005 9:40:32 PM | I do not have a lipstick case or bed post with notches for each partner...
That would be tacky! I don't look at a new, or past partner as only a
number - my sex life is not a numbers game!
But I have enjoyed each and every partner; each and every encounter...and I would not change any of my experiences.
And the answer to the question: "how many is too many?"
That question is unanswerable- Who is to judge that number whatever it is? Who gets the right to determine if someone has had too many partners? NO ONE
As long as what you are doing feels right, you keep protected, and don't hurt or decieve anyone who cares about numbers? | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 6:42:24 AM | | the reason why I posted the question in the first place was because my bf actually lied to me at the beginning and told me he had experience. I had 5 he had in that area. I found out almost a year into our relationship that he had been a virgin and was judging me all along. He dumped me to find someone with "less experience" than me. At 28, I didn't think 5 was a disrespectful number. Apparently he did. Crazy thing is, I still love him despite all of the judgement. | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 8:53:50 AM | I'd have to say there really isn't a right or wrong answer to this question. I've been careful in the past (and always will be careful) with my choices of who to be intimate with, as I'm sure they've been careful also. If safe sex was/is practiced (and I believe that one has the right to know of unsafe sex in the past) then there's not much to worry about ... just my opinion.
Although, this guy I was seeing when I was 31 thought that my # of 4 partners was too many for him to handle (and he claimed to have been with 5). He had a serious problem with this issue and never let it go ... he couldn't trust me thinking that I would screw around ... cause having 4 partners by the age of 31 meant I loved being with men. Give me a break!!!
And to hauntingdesires ... let's not let your question go unnoticed ... I do believe that commercial you're referring to had to do with AIDS and STD's. Maybe that commercial should somehow resurface to our tv screens ... especially when the government is making it mandatory for our grade 7 students to be vaccinated against Hep B! | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 11:18:36 AM | | However many it takes to keep you happy. Sometimes, one is enough. For some people, two is too many. Obviously, you have to be safe. I'm also honest about it.....which makes things a whole lot easier... | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 3:36:10 PM |
When a woman asks me this question I refuse to answer it. It's a lose/lose situation. Either you have less experience than her and she thinks less of you for it or you have had more partners than her and she thinks you are some kind of whore with low morals.
Personally, I like it when the guy is less experienced than me, because then I get to blow his mind with my talents. :-) I never considered myself to be an overly kinky person, but my ex (who I never asked the number of partners but I gather it was a lot) had only been with prudes and virgins before, so I introduced him to both things he wanted but had never been able to do, and things he had never thought of before. I guess it's not so much kink that I have as confidence. So many women are self-conscious, and a large number have never even had an orgasm!
Anyway, back to the point... I like being playful and adventurous, and it's a lot more fun to be the first woman to perform a particular act on a guy than it is to be just another one and try to out-kink all his previous partners. | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 3:44:42 PM | 5 at 28? 4 at 31???
is TOO many?????
geez, i was working on Samantha Jones territory by the time i hit 30!
and i STILL don't think i've had too many lovers!
granted, i've slowed down over the past decade - but Ottawa is a dating wasteland! | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 4:52:09 PM | "geez, i was working on Samantha Jones territory by the time i hit 30!"
Sam Jones' character is written by gay men, and thus her dating/causal sex values reflect gay values. Gays tend to be (very) prmoiscuious, more so than most women, even sluts. (This is not gay bashing; that's what I heard/read.) | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 5:57:09 PM | I can't believe marathonman pretty much told me I was stupid when I said human beings are not monogamus by human nature, but I do apreachiate his values.
I think everybody wants to find one great partner for life. I think you can sleep with too many and might not recogonize it when the right one comes along. | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 6:21:12 PM | Divine---Rock on!!
Cuterguy--Don't feel bad, I agree with you...I don't think human beings are, by nature, monogamous...that's not to say we can't hold ourselves the standard with great success, but I think it is an unnatural constriction to our biological selves... | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 6:53:22 PM | | when it comes to sex it is never quantity .......always quality. When you feel like you have had too many partners then thats your choice, but my 15 may be tame to some and make me a whore to others. Remember its not the score that counts.......its the feeling.... | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 7:00:55 PM | @mitgrad...I guess they don't have any Biology, Sociology, Anthropology or Psychology classes at MIT. Sounds like they have Theology though?
@Jumbo...are you saying dating 3 women would be a bad thing? | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 7:03:28 PM | | MITgrad (which, by the way, whoopdy freakin' do)--obviously you didn't read the above sentence when I said that as human beings we are perfectly capable of living within that framework...I am just saying I don't think it comes naturally... | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 7:11:18 PM | | Also, by no means am I implying I am perfect in anyway, shape, or form. In fact, I do follow my animal urges often, perhaps too often. But I can admit it. I guess I have not completely evolved. LOL | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 7:14:57 PM | ^^^^so then you aren't human mitgrad? I'm confused now. You'll have to forgive me, I didn't graduate from MIT so it's difficult for me to follow your deep and complex arguments.
this is a thread about sex with human beings right? If we're counting barnyard animals in this, I'm not playing without my abacus. (Hey mitgrad, did I spell that properly?) | |
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| How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 7:18:01 PM |
megwriter
MITgrad (which, by the way, whoopdy freakin' do)--obviously you didn't read the above sentence when I said that as human beings we are perfectly capable of living within that framework...I am just saying I don't think it comes naturally...
mitgrad00
How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 10:08:19 PM
Quoting myself: "Animals follow biological urge. To be human is to constrain our biological urge and do what is right."
I made my points.
megwriter
How many partners is too many and how many have you had?
Posted: 6/5/2005 10:10:59 PM
MIT grad---But you did it by misrepresenting what I had posted...and now you aren't even addressing the topic...
You are BOTH breaking the rules; You arent supposed to chat on here. That is what your message box is for. Threads are for topic-related comments.
Maria/ sub-mod XOXO | |
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