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| Dealing with an Ex that doesn't want to move on
Posted: 5/8/2008 11:04:11 AM | In my own defense, I am not the "crazy" she has made me out to be. I was involved with this man [beast] for 5 years. I know him much better than she ever will in the short 3 months she has been seeing him. I am happy he has found a new woman, maybe now he'll leave me alone, and quit asking me to buy him dinner at the Red Lobster, or Theo's, or Olive Garden. This man has cheated on me, not just once, or twice, but several times. He is an alcoholic and has a severe gambling problem, which is what i warned her about, and that also once a cheater, always a cheater. He not only cheated on me, he also cheated on his ex-wife. I wish I wouldve listened to his mother and his ex-wife when they warned me about him. I am good friends with his mother to this day.
Is it any of my business to inform her what she was in for? Probably not, but I sure wish I would've known what I was in for when I first met him when he was shmoozing me over. I sure could have saved THOUSANDS of dollars, that he had cost me, because of his gambling/drinking addiction.
As far as me saying anything about her son that has drowned, her new SO is twisting words around to make me look like the bad one. For him to even say such a mean thing to her, when he was trying to make himself look good and me bad, sure doesnt say much for him.
True sign of an alcoholic.. always saying something to make themselves look better. I am not a drinker nor a gambler.
Thats what caused our problems, I got tired of him cutting my children down. He is a very negative person.
The reason he hasnt seen our child, is because he hasnt been showing up for the last 10 Saturdays to come see him. He plans on coming to see him, then at the last minute he has some lame excuse, ie.. he's tired, he's sick, la la blah blah la.. weird? they just met 3 months ago, and we were still seeing each other up until 10 weeks ago? I just found out about her a few weeks ago..
So, before you go and label me as a crazy or an unstable person, there are 2 sides to every story.. and she is only hearing the one that he chooses to tell her. If he was such an honest person, him and i wouldnt be apart right now. But I dont want to deal with a cheater anymore, my loss her gain, I guess..
I wont allow this man to have my precious 4 yr old son by himself. One time when our son was 1 yr old, i left for a half hour to get something from the store for supper. He was cooking and watching our son. I came home and my baby was crouched in the corner, crying terribly, like he was frightened of something. I went to check on him and he had a big handprint on his thigh. I confronted his dad about this, and he said that he mustve fell down the stairs that he wouldnt hurt our son.. come to find out, my sons shirt was all wet, it was soaked with his dads booze that he left sitting on the end table, as it was all over the carpet too. He spanked a 1 yr old because he spilled his booze. I shouldve got rid of him then.. I promised myself that I would never leave that little boy alone with him ever again when he was drinking. I cried terribly after I saw that, how could he do such a thing to a little baby?
Our son isnt even very fond of his dad, because his dad, to this day, is always roughing him up and pulling his hair.. his other son is also under school ordered psychiatric care for threatening to kill a girl if she broke up with him.. his other son, by a previous relationship, is 12 years old.
so, there are reasons for e'thing.. its not just because some of you want to label how she wanted you to perceive me.
Its too bad she deleted her account, this would've been a good way for us to get to know each other better.
She is the reason why my son isnt seeing his daddy.. its because she is the one occupying his time, so he dont want to take the 25 minute drive to see his son. I can only put up with his excuses for so long, before I get irritated.
Her SO needs to quit texting me and sending me "naughty pictures" of himself. If anyone knows her outside of here, and has her email address, please forward this to her. The only reason i know so much about her is because her SO has told me everything. | |
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| Dealing with an Ex that doesn't want to move on
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:28:12 PM | Bethy,
I know you removed your profile, but I know you'll read just the same.
Some morons just don't learn. I'm soooooo happy you found someone worth it. We'll sit around and drink and laugh about this in Dorkfest '15 you'll see. LOL
For those that don't think you got the whole story, you're probably right. There are 2 sides to every story (or in this case 3).
I have told Beth she needs to file a complaint with the local police. Because if someone took her son's name used it to get her full name and everything about her, including her cell number and current address then they have too much tim on thier hands and that could be dangerous. This "woman" (I prefer psycho) waits for them when they come home from dates, not in the driveway but down the street. This is stalking. This "woman" calls and text's them several times a day. There is no reason, no need to call or text the new girlfriend of the kids dad. Her dealings concern the kid, child support and visitation. In no way does that have anything to do with Beth.
In such a small town just 1 rumor to the wrong person and next thing you know everyone thinks something that isn't true and it distorts the truth, which in this case can cause other ramifications.
I'll make sure Beth knows to check here for all your posts, when I talk to her later.
Kandi
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| Dealing with an Ex that doesn't want to move on
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:46:43 PM | This is quite the topic. I think I'd be scared to have anything to do with anyone connected to someone like this woman.
It would be fun to see what the guy referred to has to say about this. I can't imagine dating someone that wouldn't stick up for me. | |
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| Dealing with an Ex that doesn't want to move on
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:37:07 AM | I just feel the need to shout "Bunny Boiler" and then exit the forum as quickly as posible. When it comes o dealing with ex's, I hear ice picks are great - failing that a shotgun or for those who enjoy something more creative, arsnic or a fully loaded semi-truck should all be very effective!! Think that has just about injected some humour into this thread, woahhhh it was heavy going until now   | |
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| Dealing with an Ex that doesn't want to move on
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:37:57 AM | | the best thing to do for something like this is let blow over and the better thing to do is let your man deal with her and to tell her off it will hurt more if he dose insted of you | |
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| Dealing with an Ex that doesn't want to move on
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:23:20 PM | | i don't get it. this guy sounds like a total loser and yet 2 women are after him? WTF?? also if the person who is the *stalker* who posted the message and not a troll, i've got a question for you. this guy is a gambler/alcoholic/cheater and yet you stayed with him for 5 years and were stupid enough to have a child with him?? what is wrong with you?? WOW, some women are soooo desperate, very sad and pathetic. sometimes you are better off being alone, trust me. | |
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| Dealing with an Ex that doesn't want to move on
Posted: 5/29/2008 10:43:27 AM | nope.. not a troll!
I stuck around with this guy for 5 years because he is a liar, and kept promising me he would change. He lied continuously. I'm not after him, I would prefer that he leave me alone. He calls me at 4am, he texts me late at night, he is the one that wont let go. I finally had to block his text messages from coming in. During our 5 years of knowing each other.. he left me when i was 2 mths pregnant, and came back in my life when the child support kicked in. by then, our child was 9 mths old. he is quite the shmoozer..
i have kicked him out of my house many times, but he always found a way to weasel his way back in my life.. he is feeding this gal with so much BS, because he needs his dose of intimacy, but she is too naive to see it.
I am far from lonely, I have 3 wonderful children and lots of friends. I dont need a man to feel secure. I wouldnt mind having a man around to go travelling with and do fun things, but this man she is so in love with [barf] is so frugal, that she's going to be the one paying for the "dates" before long..
can you believe this guy that she is with was just at my house this Memorial Day weekend, wanting me to cook supper for him and his son? and then he had no problem taking all my leftovers i had frozen in my freezer? He told me anytime i want to clean my freezer out, to just let him know.. oh.. he's also a mooch! I gave him my leftovers, cuz the "dog" has to eat too! 
apparently, he is just playing her, and telling her what he wants her to hear, cuz thats the way he rolls.. best of luck to her, she's going to need it..
weird? thats the same thing his exwife and his mother told me?  | |
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I just wish he would quit texting me telling me i owe him dinner.. 
