| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:18:34 PM | | Well I feel people are quite aware antidepressant pills aren't always the best solution. Coming from a person who has taken anitdepressants and antipsychotics sometimes there is no other option but to take them. I'll tell you right now, I wouldn't be alive if I hadn't taken them. But now that I am better I am learning to deal with life as a person with a disability. Although I don't actually consider myself disabled since I work, go to school, and am most of the time happy. People shouldn't be so prejudice towards people that take these medications. I was once just as normal as anybody else and now I have changed. In a lot of ways for the better. Unfortunately in my family there is a history of schizophrenia and depression. I just wanted to post this so people can realize that you should get to know a person first and then decide whether this person is too unpredictable or not for you. You may find a husband or wife or maybe just a great friend. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:28:52 PM |
Would you date someone on stool softner?
While I've made it a point that you should judge based on the individual and not one individual trait, I don't know that I could date somebody on stool softeners. I've always heard that people who take those are full of shit. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:15:28 PM | I would just like to say that those of you who have posted that you would not date someone who takes an antidepressant, I thank you from the bottom of my heart! It would be like someone who is prejudice against a different race dating someone from that race. If you don't understand depression and how antidepressants affect the person taking them, and if this lowers your opinion of the said depressed person, you will NOT be a positive influence for that person. By not dating someone who you don't understand and who would be negatively influenced by you, you are actually doing them a big favor by not messing up their lives with your uninformed opinions. The only down side is, YOU miss out on meeting and knowing some really great people. So, to answer the original question, yes, I would date someone who takes antidepressants. I also think it is absolutely FANTASTIC that kittenshere41 would NEVER date someone who takes antidepressants. She'd have give him panic attacks about whether or not his meds were going to kill him....
kitten, I felt sorry for you, that your EX husband commited suicide, but the more I read posts from you, the more it sickened me just to see your picture here. I am sorry for your loss, I am also sorry that is has caused you to have such a warped view of medication. I do not at all want to change your opinion, and in fact beg you to NEVER date anyone with any kind of mental illness, as you could never be part of the solution, only part of the problem.
There have been a couple people who take antidepressants who have stated that the worse thing you can say to a clinically depressed person is "get over it". That is my sole reason for saying thank you to those who choose NOT to date someone who takes antidepressants, because they are the very ones who would tell you such nonsense.
And finally to MalibuSteve, if there wasn't such a distance between us, oh my! you stir my heart strings,  | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:47:36 PM |
But the fact that someone is on antidepressants should be a warning sign to some. Just going by my own history though.
This may come as a surprise to some, but antidepressants are prescribed for things other than depression. Things like anxiety which manifests in the form of physical symptoms, and pain management (chronic pain, that is). There are also different forms of depression; not all depression is diagnosed as "clinical", which is the form that is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. There is also situational depression, among others.
So just because someone may be taking a medication called an antidepressant, don't assume anything. Get the facts. | |
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jaemey
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:49:44 PM | I am very happy to see this thread did not turn into a flame war. For the most part, the people on this thread have been well educated and articulate with the response to anti depressants and depression. Stigma surrounding depression and anxiety has decreased drastically within the past several years, although i know everyone still knows someone that is ill informed.
Self medication with alchohol and drugs will occur more often in those people that don't have the support of someone that believes in the importance of mental health; also, the notion that medication can serve a useful purpose for those that are unable to function properly in their daily existance for lengths of time with no reprival. If their support system consists of people that believe medication to nothing more than "happy pills", and counselling means you must be "crazy", chances of them reaching out to get help are slim... and the chances of them turning to self medication is much higher.
In my eyes someone being on AD is a good thing.... shows character, strength (because looking inside yourself and sorting emotions is never easy), and the ability to fight through hard times, instead of taking the easy way.
I'm glad to see stigma for depression has decreased... now, hopefully in the next decade or two we can say the same about other mental illness. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:26:30 AM |
you are an inspiration
ack ack ack dirty word, dirty word!!! Well intentioned and sweet but dirrrrrrtttyyyy word. I will only disappoint people who think of me that way.
I know a little off topic too.
But as far as your hero comment goes? The real heros are the ones who know their weaknesses so that they can built up a proper defense against them.
So there. You are a hero Quazi. How do you like them fightin' words! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 12:37:31 AM |
always heard that people who take those are full of shit.
You are absolutely correct in that Malibu. I am in fact quite full of shit right now. And taking prescriptions for that "situational constipation".
(sounds like a grunge band song title.) Hah! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:45:31 AM | thank you jaemey, that is exactly what I wanted to say, but you did it much better! I think someone should notate that there are really two types of people who take antidepressants. There are those who are situationally depressed, and those who are chemically imbalanced. It has been said several times on this thread that anti depressants should not be taken long term, and for those who are situationally depressed, that is very true. That is because they should work through the emotions and and grow from them, they can with help be taken off the medication and live happy normal lives. However, for those who are born with a chemical imbalance, there really arent any emotions to work through. Nothing bad happened to them to make them feel depressed, they just HURT. And as MalibuSteve said, they blow everything out of porportion, can't process reality correctly. For those people, they should NOT get off the medication unless their doctor recommends that they do, and also gives them other ways to cope with the constant pain. Being clinically depressed makes everything ten times worse than what it should be. Errr, ok, a thousand times worse than what it should be.... And taking the medication doesnt make you someone you are not, it lets you be who you truly are. For those who take the medication, they are able to cope with and live normal happy lives. For those who don't they are not fun people for themselves or anyone around them. I think I like the person earlier who asked, would someone on antidepressants date YOU? Believe it or not, there are some people who are clinically depressed that are a little bit choosey in who they date, and might not be desperate enough just to date anyone! lol Especially not someone who thinks ill of them for taking medication. Its kind of funny to see people say they wouldnt date someone who takes antidepressants, when really, who says they will ever be given that chance?  | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:14:36 AM | I had a wonderfull friend, we found it very nice to be together when the world outside never did understand why.
Highly intelegent and totaly otlandish sexy or near death she was always honest with me. and she had a shelf where if she needed them they were placed/
she was on permanant disabilit because of her depresssions her family had dissowned her and she had only oddball gents wanting to befriend her. I fit right in we actually hugged within one hour of meeting.
sometimes two months would go by she had hated me and then she returned again and we again were inseperable. I did learn by doing in her case. and living in faith and love.
we were so happy at times and i do wish I could see her today I think she was very important to me. I knew it from the first time we met and she too would agree important and deeply honest with each other that is the key.
Drugs are a part of every culture dating to the beginning of time.
Meditation is not enough whrn your head it playing tricks on you
I recently became broke (as in pennyless )and car less no friends no fun no life in general. I nearly died of the depression. My own family turned on me like in kicking someone when they are down even though you had dedicated your life to giving them crucial support in times of need.
My mom pointed out there is always someone worse off, but that did not help at all. Nothing helps
currently I can never sleep all night, I never sleep, a pot of coffee sometimes puts me to sleep.but thats the only help I can find I never take drugs
thank you for having this forum you have kept me alive one more day thank you so much | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 8:42:04 AM |
You won't disappoint me...I know you're human, not infallible....inspiration, inspiration, inspiration.....
I believe that I might be a hero...I know that I have helped many people by talking about my experiences, and that they have walked away thinking very deeply about "the human condition" and especially mental health issues.
There are a lot of ignorant people out there. I don't say that in a bad way....they just have no experience, or knowledge with them. Or they talk about what "they have heard, from, Aunt Sally about the neighbour across the street and three doors down who....hasn't had sex with his wife in three weeks, because he's having trouble at work, and his Doctor told him he's "depressed" "
One of the therapies that helped relieve my depression, was to not undermine my accomplishments.
So, hazeldreaming...how about that? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:36:07 AM | These days people take antidepressants for PMS, weight loss, chronic pain, smoking and premature ejaculation...
it's not all that big a deal, really. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 11:04:13 AM | | I would depend on if said person was using antidepressants/antianxiety medication in conjunction with therapy and wanted to overcome their issues. If they were just using medication and weren't trying to get well then I'd pass. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 1:11:42 PM | I dated someone on antidepressants and as someone who's experienced this, I would be weary of why they are on it and if they can seek other help to fix the problem.
From time to time I may get depressed for a day or two so I know how it can be at times.
However, this person would hide out for weeks and months at a time. He couldn't hold a job, still lived with his parents at like 35(some people don't have a choice but it was like he refused to do better for himself)
He would "miss" me and then spend time with me, and then disapear for a while. I didn't mind because we were fwb but he would take them, and fall asleep with his cigarette in his hands, and burn holes all over the place.
I remember sleeping next to him and waking up to burning pillowcases and have to wake him up. It made him overly tired, irritable and he seemed more depressed. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:23:32 PM | Racheljay
Your boyfriend had much bigger problems than depression.
The bigger problems are what caused his depression.
Antidepressants wouldn't be very effective for his underlying problem. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/13/2008 11:54:15 PM |
Im bipolar. I dont take medication as I can manage without it. Would anyone date me?
I wouldn't date you. Of course, that's because of the physical distance between us, not because you're bipolar. In fact, if you're ever in my neck of the woods, look me up. (I love Scottish accents, and your profile rocks.)
I have a female friend who is bipolar (and may have other issues including possible BPD) and doesn't take meds because every combination of meds they've tried for her make her worse. She has periods of time (sometimes hours, sometimes weeks, but usually just a day or two) where she's nearly impossible to be around. However, she copes the best she can and I support her the best I can. Given the chance, I'd date her. With our issues, it might not make for a good match, but she's good people. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:55:30 AM | We're starting to get into issues that require much more than an antidespressant, at this point. I'm cool with that.....but I don't want anyone getting the idea that some of the people described in some of these posts require ONLY an antidepressant to make them feel better.
Bi-polar, and BPD, are very far removed from the depression and anxiety issues that this thread was addressing. | |
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jaemey
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/14/2008 10:12:54 AM | Bi-polar, and BPD, are very far removed from the depression and anxiety issues that this thread was addressing.
I don't think bipolar is as far removed as you indicate. This thread has already addressed one possible side of bipolar (unipolar depression), so quite a bit has been touched on - although i much agree that there are other threads that would address this better. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:43:52 PM | Oh I don't know - some of us may be diagnosed as Manic Depressive at first, which I feel is a big garbage container that's used whenever our shrinks are quite sure exactly what our pathology is. Later on we may be diagnosed as Bipolar, or that we have Dystymia, or some other close relative or off shoot of the disease. The point I'm making is that why we take meds is our business and no one else's unless we choose to share that much information. For certain, it would be very bad form to walk up and demand to know why we take these meds.
Having said that, my life got a second chance the day I found the right combination of meds that worked for me. It was very much like an epiphany, as the whole world seemed to open again and I could think without all the extraneous noise. I also found I could paint, work in 3d art and create yet another business where I could earn a decent living. So I'm Bipolar, and quite happy, comfortable in my skin, and self actualized. Yay Me! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:35:44 PM | Unipolar depression is exactly that....depression.
Bi-polar disorder is exactly that....depression....with mania.
The name was changed from "Manic Depression" to show that the moods are "polar" opposites.
Unipolar is not Bi-polar. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:55:52 PM | | I have dated someone who was later diagnosed bi-polar.. But actually seems there was BPD there too. He tried some antidepressants here and there - prescribed by family practitioner, not a specialist, after the family insisted that he needs to be "evened out" because everyone was tired of dealing with unpredictable and his anger rages and depression bouts. He didn't stay on them though because I guess they didn't mix well with vodka. Having had that experience, I would not knowingly get involved with someone who requires those kinds of treatments or medications. | |
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