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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/7/2008 10:49:16 AM | | I have clinical depression and was on anti-depressants for a year, have been off them 7 weeks now, oh yes, and i started a relationship after going on my meds, am still in the relationship however, since being off meds my partner finds it difficult to know what is role is now, as do I. I think some people shouldn't date someone who is taking meds for depression, it can create a rescuer/victim relationship, unintentionally, i've found that now i'm getting well and in therapy that the relationship needs redefining. Don't get me wrong, it's very hard to suffer from a mental illness, as it is to be with someone who does hit crisis points, and i take my hat off to anyone who can support someone through a mental illness, there are some people who are frightend what'll happen in the relationship, when the ill person does get better, and can try and keep you reliant on them, can sabotage the healing process. It also depends on level of depression, reasons why depression has occured. From my point of view, being clinically depressed is a very hard stigma to overcome, and although it shouldn't be there, unfortunatley still is, so i would to anyone thinking of getting into a relationship with someone who's on meds, it isn't the meds, it's the reasons why the meds are needed that should be taken into consideration. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/7/2008 11:35:00 AM |
I'd be more inclined to date someone who's on an anti-depressant versus the one who should be on them but refuses to seek help. Agree, I think there are a lot of people walking around who have mental illness but have never been diagnosed for that illness. And there are lots of people who have illness, but refuse to take medication for one reason or another. There are even religions that tell the followers not to take psych meds. I can think of 2.
But no, probably not. I would not want to date a man on pills or any kind of meds for a mental illness or condition. Anyway I don't believe that a person who is on medication should be out there dating. I've seen literature on this subject. They could maybe be trying to get better vs. trying to start a relationship or date. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:05:42 PM |
Agree, I think there are a lot of people walking around who have mental illness but have never been diagnosed for that illness. And there are lots of people who have illness, but refuse to take medication for one reason or another.
you hit it on the head! thank you!
some people will even agree to see a therapist, but manage to hide their behaviors so that they never do seek the help they really need. i dated a psych professor who did this until he realized how his behaviors damaged his relationships and, ultimately his happiness. he came clean with the professional, got his meds, moderated his behavior and reactions and now he manages just fine.
it takes a certain amount of humility, i would think, to seek admit to a problem and seek help. and only the very strong can own up to their issues. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/7/2008 1:25:56 PM | | i would becasue you can calm some one down also if you could have enough effect to bring some one out of the depression i have been in relationship with depression she spent 6 wks in hospital after car crash so i now from first hand exprecance | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/7/2008 3:36:26 PM |
it isn't the meds, it's the reasons why the meds are needed that should be taken into consideration.
A very good point. As I mentioned before, I can understand not wanting to be in a relationship with somebody with a serious mental illness, because, even if well-regulated, there may be times that it gets worse, and it can be emotionally draining on all those around. Although I'm crusading for understanding of these conditions, sometimes understanding means choosing not to be around it.
Anyway I don't believe that a person who is on medication should be out there dating. I've seen literature on this subject. They could maybe be trying to get better vs. trying to start a relationship or date.
Unfortunately, for some of us, waiting to date until we are off medication would mean either choosing never to date or going against doctors' advice. A person who has 3 or more bouts of major depression is likely to be advised to remain on medication for the rest of their life. I'm one of those. I am continuing to try to get better, and I'm steadily making progress, but I don't believe that this is a condition that I will ever be able to manage without medication. I would like to, but the risk of trying it is far too high.
On a side note, (not that most of you would care, but I'm choosing to vent anyway), over the last few months, my depression was getting worse. I was living far away from my kids, and I had unstable employment. About a month and a half ago, I moved back close to my kids, but my employment became less stable (actually, it dropped off completely as job after job fell through). This week, I finally got a stable job! With my divorce finally making progress, my kids spending lots of time with me, and my employment situation improving, I've noticed a huge improvement in the way I feel overall. This doesn't mean that I can go off my meds, but it does mean that with my meds, I'm back on track. For those who have never been here, this is an incredible feeling that is hard to describe. My best comparison is the feeling you get coming in from the cold and cuddling up with a loved one in front of a nice warm fire. It's still cold weather, but you can feel comfortable anyway. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/7/2008 10:22:39 PM | Congratulations Steve....I've been there.....good luck with your new job!
Anyway I don't believe that a person who is on medication should be out there dating. I've seen literature on this subject. They could maybe be trying to get better vs. trying to start a relationship or date.
I think this is another opinion, which has created a generalization. While some people are better off alone....for example after the death of a spouse, I really believe that the circumstances surrounding why the person is taking medication need to be taken into account.
Like Steve said, for some people, medication is going to be a lifetime thing, and giving up a normal part of living would be counterproductive.... | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/8/2008 7:40:56 AM |
...and I had unstable employment. About a month and a half ago, I moved back close to my kids, but my employment became less stable (actually, it dropped off completely as job after job fell through). This week, I finally got a stable job! With my divorce finally making progress, my kids spending lots of time with me, and my employment situation improving, I've noticed a huge improvement in the way I feel overall. This doesn't mean that I can go off my meds, but it does mean that with my meds, I'm back on track. For those who have never been here, this is an incredible feeling that is hard to describe.
Yeah I've been there. I have never been on meds for depression. I wondered if they make a person feel lethargic. I have taken sleeping medication that the nurse at college prescribed to me when I was stressed out so much that I could not sleep.
And temping is alright. I have done that off and on between jobs. I got 3 permanent placements through temp jobs during the course of my working life. The first long term job I had in my 20's was through a temp agency. I think it's the best way to find a good job, as you can feel the company out and they can try you out too. That's exactly how I found the job that I have now. And I love it.
Being depressed is not fun. I wouldn't try to find a relationship while I am depressed. It just would not work, and I would be more depressed when it ended. I think that people try to use relationships for the wrong reasons. And I noticed on your profile you are still married. For me, I would not date a guy who is still married, or even separated. Because he has not worked thru the issues, but jumps right back into frying pan out of the fire. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/8/2008 10:57:21 AM | Well, I guess that counts me out....I've been separated for nearly 7 years, and had 2 fairly long term boyfriends in between....still not divorced. If my S/O has a problem with me still being married, I'll spend the money....but until then....... My sister was with her 2nd "husband" for 20 years, without ever divorcing her first husband.....no reason to....everybody was cool with it.
Being depressed is not fun. I wouldn't try to find a relationship while I am depressed. It just would not work, and I would be more depressed when it ended. I think that people try to use relationships for the wrong reasons
You're right about people that try to use relationships for the wrong reasons....and I can think of a lot worse reason, than someone who is depressed trying to find a little happiness........ | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/8/2008 2:32:37 PM | I have never been on meds for depression. I wondered if they make a person feel lethargic.
The simple answer is that different medications have different effects on different people. With most antidepressants, they tell you "If it makes you drowsy, take it at night. If it makes you feel energetic, take it in the morning." To me, it's a bit amusing how the list of potential side effects contains such polar opposites. However, as I said, people react to the medications differently.
Being depressed is not fun. I wouldn't try to find a relationship while I am depressed. It just would not work, and I would be more depressed when it ended. I think that people try to use relationships for the wrong reasons.
Since I'm likely to be dealing with depression for the rest of my life, this is a risk I will have to take at some point. I'm not really seeking a relationship right now. Some dating and some friendships would be more than enough. If something clicks and a relationship develops, I'm open to it, but it's far from a priority for me at the moment.
And I noticed on your profile you are still married. For me, I would not date a guy who is still married, or even separated. Because he has not worked thru the issues, but jumps right back into frying pan out of the fire.
I respect your choice not to date a separated person. You are far from the only person with this viewpoint. However, your assumption that I haven't worked thru the issues and I'm jumping into things simply because of my marital status is not valid. I stopped pursuing the divorce to deal with personal issues (housing, money, employment, and depression). Now that things are out of the crisis state, I've been working on the divorce again, but for now, all I can do is wait until my ex files her next batch of paperwork. By the time it is finished, it will have taken over a year, and since my ex seems to be in no hurry, unless I pressure her to keep working on it, I'm not sure it would ever be final. (For the record, I want it done to put it behind me, and because us guys who are still legally married are considered off the market to many women.) | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/8/2008 2:42:54 PM | | In todays world people love going around saying there are open minded and as long as two people connect the can apriacte who they are. Being on medication for a desease or chemical inbalance such as this. At least shows the person is trying to better there life and not jump of the nearest brige because no one on this form would think twice about not accepting them. So this means if you found the love of your life on here and then when it comes to meeting face to face she is in a wheel chair it would make YOUR life to difficult and you would turn the other way? This is why people are considered shallow and closed minded. Im not saying everyone is. If some of us's answered you would then at least there still is some decent minded people out there. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:38:09 PM | I've dated two women(not at the same time ...lol) who were taking anti-depressants. Neither one of them took their meds as prescribed. It was a roller coaster ride being involved with them. With that said, I wouldn't totally rule it out. But, it would take an extraordinary woman for me to give that kind of arrangement another try.
From what I've read, anti-depressants should be accompanied by counseling with an eye toward weening the patient off of them completely. If that were the case, it would go a long way toward convincing me to date that woman seriously.
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/9/2008 3:35:49 PM | People really don't realize how dangerous it is to not take their medication as prescribed.
Not taking A/D's properly, really can make the situation worse than it was to begin with.
When starting to take a new A/D, the person should follow up with their Doctor a week after starting to take the new med.....two weeks maximum!
Even though the med may not become fully effective for six weeks or so, the person should have an idea of any side effects after a week, and between the person, and the Doctor, they should be able to decide if the side effects are temporary, and will disappear over time, or if they are serious enough to discontinue the med.
Thoughts of suicide are obviously top on the list.
I have been on a number of A/D's, and whenever I started a new one, I had to go back after a week so my Doctor could "eyeball" (his word) me. He would look at me, and we would talk for a minute then he would say....."don't like the way you look" or "don't like how you're talking" or, "ok, you're good to go."
This wasn't an easy process...I'm really sensitive to medication, and I would get side effects the first time I took the med. It's quite an ordeal for me to switch meds. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/9/2008 7:27:43 PM |
From what I've read, anti-depressants should be accompanied by counseling with an eye toward weening the patient off of them completely.
Generally speaking, that is what doctors try to do, however in some circumstances (like mine), they feel that the risk is simply too great to ever try to ween the patient off of the meds.
People really don't realize how dangerous it is to not take their medication as prescribed.
Not taking A/D's properly, really can make the situation worse than it was to begin with.
When I lost my job (and therefore my medical insurance), I didn't see how I could afford to continue paying for my medication. I looked at the pills I had remaining and arranged a schedule to ween myself off of them (since quitting cold turkey is incredibly dangerous). The problem was that without my meds, I began to spiral out of control, and I was completely unable to see it. I still fee bad for what my family went through. I wish I could go back and allow myself to see what people were telling me at the time. We all would have suffered less.
The rest of Quazi's post is right on the money also. Psychiatric meds should always be monitored closely when starting, stopping, or changing dosages. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/10/2008 4:03:08 AM | Yes absolutely . In this day and age its a more common thing than we think. As for my case, I have bad asthma, and taking Zoloft decreases the spasms in my airway (a little info for any asthmatic out there), and makes it easier to breathe. Naturally it decreases my anxiety as well, helping also. I never knew so many people took anti depressants, but the way the world has become, its not such a big deal anymore. I agree that I would rather date someone that realized they needed a little help with their depression, etc, and went on the meds than to date someone who obviously needed the help but refused to believe that he did simply because of the stigma attached. Theres nothing wrong in my opinion with someone saying "Hey I cant take the stress right now and I need some help", I applaud that person for owning up and admitting. Its just my opinion though.
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/13/2008 10:32:17 PM | as aformentioned its a tricky one ,jus parted with someone who was broken to pieces and i could not piece the jigsaw, people who are depressed will automaticaly and subconciously lash out at the people who care most for them,
deffo not the straight forward proven science claimed by the so called experts,
first diagnosis =lets try this drug first, i think it could be a depletion in the frontal lobes,
OOps sory to hear you have been sectioned under the mental health act, why dont we try this concoction,
leprephamine seems to have stabalised your anxiety attaks but unfortuantely other important emotion governing chemicals have been curbed(i.e emotional labotomy)
in my experience talk to the person ,help them realise its a battle of there own mind ,
exercise and the release of natural pheramones can only lead to better physical and mental health,
mental pain can be transformed into something far more manageble by a few simple
positve thoughts.
i realise far more serious conditions may require more inhibiting forms of medication but in scotland recent research has proven without exception that long term manic depressives who find long term use of ad medication is more likely to amplify pain than reduce,uk suicide figures unresevedly confirm this statement,
pharmacutical companies burn in hell
animal interaction ,outdoor centres etc have been established , personal shame and stigma dissapear at these centres ,when your ponytrecking with 20 others with similar conditions ,isolation dissapears ,suddenly your not the only madman in your area,people confer,laugh about there bad days, a tiny bit of light at the end of the tunnel can remove so much darkness from the tortured soul,your first real positive thought wont be your last ,that mountain aint looking so unscalable now... | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/13/2008 10:54:40 PM | | Deffinatley. Id rather date someone who acknowleges their problem and gets themself some help then someone not on meds who clearly needs them. There is absolutly nothing wrong with being on medication | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:38:35 PM | Kitten youve had first hand experience ,my condolonces
Unfortuanately in the captilast world high power pharmacutical companies can release drugs by the millions without a fraction of the required research before global rollout of a new product
have a little look at my post on page 13, fortuanately scotland puts its sick and needy before the research scientists product completion bonus, our free media has recently highlighted absolutely horrific official statitics,the nation was shocked and legislation has changed , peeps may be shocked to realise drugs can be made available to the public after basic trials which have doctored results,they rolled out medication to the proletariate, suddenly kids with attention def disorders were given this new wonderdrug(if they didnt make an attempt on sumones life within the first few weeks,then bloody went down to the local park and killed themselves) age fookn 11 ,12 13 ffs ,the fatcats ridiculed the media ,stating these were iscolated incidents, gradualy as the numbers spiraled out of control ,the goverment had no choice but to slam the book at these insensitve inhumane greedy fatcat murderers | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:57:12 PM | Why not? This question is like asking if you would date someone who takes insulin or high blood pressure medications.
The problem or stigma comes from people's misconceptions from what they see on television or read in newspapers concerning the "bad" experiences people have had with anti-depressants. Example was the disasterous stories associated with Prozac.
There are millions of people who are on anti-depressants and are treated successfully and then there are thousands of people who should be on them but are not. (cannot afford them, refuse to take them for whatever reason...)
I'm on an anti-depressant periodically but I am also Bi Polar (life-long medication and monitoring). The men I have dated do not seem to have an issue with this. Maybe because I explain to them what this condition is, what can happen, and if they start to see signs of depression/instability to please say something and be persistant.
It all comes d0wn to information and communication...
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:20:22 AM | 
OK I am going to LMAO My ex is BIPOLAR 1 but "IS NOT"
He has declared himself fine.
played it up
doesn't take meds
I was Just talking last week to a man on POF who is BIPOLAR 2 but "IS NOT"
He has declared himself fine
doesn't need meds
I think that taking medication is healthy versus being off balance and not even being able to see it. I definately would date a man on meds! 100%
Everybody has issues. We should face them and try to be healthy. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:21:40 AM | This question may as well be "Would you date someone who has a common cold"
True clinical depression that requires medical assistance is an illness caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. There are two forms of depression Unipolar and Bipolar.
Unipolar disorder involves a constant state of mood this can be both constant low mood or constant high mood.
Bipolar disorder involves fluctuations between low and high mood. This is commonly but incorrectly known as manic depression, but manic only describes the high mood periods and so is wrong.
Too often people confuse depression with a form of psychosis.
A true depressive be it unipolar or bipolar that does not have the condition under full control by medication and correct support is only a danger to themselves , The nature of the low mood means that you often feel worthless and honestly believe that the world would be better without you and therefore contemplate suicide.
Someone displaying a form of phychosis believes that other people are a threat to them and therefore can be a threat to others.
Both of these conditions are controllable through medication and support. Contrary to popular belief the rate of depression worldwide has not escallated it is simply more recognised.
I am unfortunate enough to have intimate knowledge of this condition because I was diagnosed as bipolar around 10 years ago. Before being diagnosed I made several attempts at ending my own life. After diagnosis I went through a couple of years of finding a medication that worked for me before finding the right one.
I have now been medication free for 3 years thanks to support from psychiatrists and Psychologists and recently completed and passed a Masters Degree in psychology. I am now able to use my experience of this illness to help others to overcome this. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:30:29 AM | Wolfy,
Congratulations! On being medication free and well regulated, on graduating, and on turning your pain and suffering around into a positive force. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/14/2008 12:59:47 AM | Interesting thread...I can't believe I missed it this long...lol!
As for the question?
Yes, I would, have, and will.
Antidepressants are temporary. Not only would I be with someone on antidepressants, I would help make sure that the full timeline prescription wasn't needed.
I am an antidepressant for many, and many for me. I was on some of the strongest antidepressants known, when losing my children. I remember what I needed to get through it, but it wasn't an option.
I have grown, and will NEVER be on medication for sadness, worry, or stress again, for I no longer allow such stress, sorrow, sadness, and depression to enter my world.
The devil has no power here!!!!
Keep in mind, I am about to lose my home, and be living in a tent. Do I care or worry??
NOPE!! I breathe, and I live...And God is thine will.
Back to basics, and I like basics.
God Bless us,
Scott. | |
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