| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/14/2008 9:59:14 AM | | I do not know what medications my friends or family take. If they do not tell you they are taking it, how would you know? Unless their behavior is so bizaar, then why would you be dating them in the first place? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/14/2008 11:21:39 AM | | This is a fascinating post, so I'm gonna throw in my two cents. Put it this way, if I was dating someone on anti-depressants, my initial reaction would be to find out which one, because there's a good chance I've taken it and could probably be a helpful source of information. I'm not ashamed to say that, because being open and honest about my mental health history is beneficial to me, and rather unhealthy for me to be afraid of other people being afraid of my own problems . In my opinion, the efficacy of psych. medication is completely hit or miss being that it takes a long time to simply find one that works. Which is in complete contrast to medications to treat physical ailments that are almost guaranteed to work immediately. Yet people are taught by mental health experts no less that anti-depressants and beta blockers perform the same function just for different diseases. A total crock! Mental illnesses are conditions that afflict the whole person. The hallmark being the individual's concept of self and to what degree it's been distorted, damaged, or falsified for numerous reasons. Severe and incurable mentall illness occurs when that concept has been fractured beyond repair. The field of Pyschology has always understood that, but now the whole research is focused on a purely medical model of M.I. that pioneers the concept of mental disease as the result of neuro-transmitter imbalances in the brain. So, yeah the drugs are better, but the patient still has to deal many other issues that the head doctors treating you think they fixed because it's a lot easier to treat a brain when you pretend it's a foot. Bottom line, search for your own answers. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/14/2008 3:49:29 PM | | Anti-depressants treat illness or chemical imbalances. About 1 in 5 people experience serious depression or mental illness at some point in their lives. Both are unchosen medical conditions requiring treatment. I have friends and family members with both, who are wonderful human beings, who deserve to be treated as thoughtfully and kindly as anyone else on the planet. I'd never reject a diabetic because they took their insulin, or an asthmatic for using their inhaler. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2008 3:39:49 PM | You are all over the various tread topics...you must work from home for a living or get very little work done in the office....lol!
Your responses are delightful to read. I especially like the response about older women giving better oral and dating someone on antidepressants...clever but true. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/24/2008 8:05:38 PM |
people with issues: NON dateable
Well that would be boring, eh? I think the best part of finding a great guy is finding someone who's issues compliment mine. lol | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2008 9:04:23 AM |
F NO..................
NO! NO NO!
people with issues: NON dateable
NO.
You're 21? I dunno....but anyway, I give it...maybe 6 months, before you're eating the words that I quoted....betcha 10 bucks... | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2008 3:03:16 PM |
...a side effect of the medication is that I have zero sex drive...
I'm on antidepressants, too, for the second time in my life. The first time I took Zoloft from 1995 until1999 and stopped taking them, in part because they greatly dampened the nerves in my genital area and I had a very hard time reaching orgasm, and when I did, they weren't very good. Now I'm on Celexa, since February or March, and it's the same thing again. I was very reluctant to go back on antidepressants, but had no other choice, since I couldn't get along without them anymore. Why do they all seem to kill your nerves in your genitals? 
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2008 4:57:19 PM |
I'm on antidepressants, too, for the second time in my life. The first time I took Zoloft from 1995 until1999 and stopped taking them, in part because they greatly dampened the nerves in my genital area and I had a very hard time reaching orgasm, and when I did, they weren't very good. Now I'm on Celexa, since February or March, and it's the same thing again. I was very reluctant to go back on antidepressants, but had no other choice, since I couldn't get along without them anymore. Why do they all seem to kill your nerves in your genitals?
The "hypothesis" is serotonin....
First things...don't stop taking them, and see your Doctor, regarding my suggestion below....
I've been on A/D's for years...my best suggestion, is to get the dosage as low as possible, while still being effective. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2008 12:34:49 AM | Ninki,
I had similar problems when I was on Zoloft. It's miserable. However, remember, less sex drive and/or less feeling from sex is still a small price to pay if you're free from crippling depression.
I'm no longer on Zoloft; they moved me to Welbutrin. I'm happy to say that it doesn't share those same annoying side effects. (However, what works for one person may not work for another. Work with your doctor... You know all the standard disclaimers.) | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:12:07 AM | | Im a psychiatric nurse and surprisingly ,very anti medication so I struggled for months before giving in and accepting I needed help.I was on antidepressants for a year and I dont think anyone except my ex would have noticed the difference.Im now off them and coping with my life normally again.No one should be on them for 20 years .They are like any other medication ,once you feel better you dont need them but you should come off them gradually and with your doctors advice..Depression is not a psychotic illness there shouldnt be any drastic consequences if you forget one or stop before you are better. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2008 2:42:21 AM | | cause and effect...what one has gone through in their life, I believe to be a determining factor......good things bring happiness and a whole host of other pleasant results.....bad things bring depression and a whole host of other unpleasant results....." in mankind's stupidity did they deem themselves wise" | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:15:41 AM | I took Prozac for 6 months about 14 years ago when my fiance of a year & a half went back to his ex wife. It's not fun when you don't want to be at work and you don't want to be at home. It was pretty amazing when my kids commented that I was laughing and singing in the car. That 6 months was all it took for me to get past the worst of the pain.
I did try Zyban to stop smoking-did NOT work at all.
I think if someone is taking meds to help them cope, it's much better than trying to deal with extreme mood swings.
Right now I'm taking 1/2 milligram of lorazapam at night to help me sleep. The reason for this isn't something I care to divulge in an open forum, but sometimes life throws you a zinger and you need something to help. I would be the last person to judge someone else for doing what it takes to get through the days and nights. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:32:19 AM | this thread is interesting and i've enjoyed reading the responses.
i absolutely wouldn't care if someone was on anti-depressants. i don't see what the big deal is. there tends to be this stereotype that people on antidepressants are of a particular disposition, but really, someone medication isn't necessarily a walking ball of anxiety. what pills a person pops into his/her mouth during the day says nothing about that individual's personality.
i also think it's really important to destigmatize mental illness. many people suffer from either depression or anxiety or other challenges such as bipolar disorder or schizophrenia; this doesn't make them "bad," or even dysfunctional, people. it just makes them people with an ongoing challenge that needs managing . | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:41:12 AM | People do not realize that Mental Illness is not to be in that black hole that everyone avoids. Many people in this thread have hit the nail on the head. There is STILL a stigma attached with people with mental ILLNESS.
Yes, it is an illness. Most if not all people do not choose to have a mental health condition. It is a medical condition just like diabetes, blindness, impaired hearing, or any other disability. The medical profession though is the ones that have the most stigma about it.
We need to make sure that the stigma goes away and that these people are treated just like any other person. If people are being monitored medically and are taking meds or doing therapy that they need to do, then why continue to shun them.
As for dating someone with a mental health concern, why not? As long as they are acknowledging their illness and treating it, then what is the problem. Should people not consider them just like any other human being?
Remember when you were a kid? Everyone was the same, accepted. It was not until you started to grow that there were people that did not make the line. Whether it was a racial bias, a disability bias, an appearance bias, or whatever. People need to change how they view others and return to the ways of the kids.
Dating someone on AD drugs should be the same as the question would you date someone of the gender you are attracted to? The answer SHOULD be yes.
So the short answer for me is, I would definately date or be involved with someone who takes AD drugs as long as they are stable on them. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/29/2008 11:21:04 AM | | Been there done that and would NEVER do it again! I work with mental illness daily and its challenging enough to deal with it all day let alone come home to it and feel like I was still at work. Now my specific situation was awful - this is not to say that its wrong etc to date someone with mental illness or who is on anti d's...to each their own. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 6/29/2008 12:07:34 PM | | I would date someone on antidepressants as long as they didn't just rely on the pills to get through the day. If they got help from a therapist or something in conjunction with the pills then I would be willing to stick around and help in any way I could. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:23:29 AM | | it seems this whole world is taking some form of mind altering substances just to get on with life..so i am sure i and many others have without even knowing it. there are many out there that really should be but are not. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:38:02 AM | Silly thought .... you have no idea how many out there are on them..... you wouldn't date someone that has a problem and has done something to get help for themselves? [Not that simply popping a pill is going to help]. Self evaluation, self awareness, the ability and desire to learn how to handle whatever issues you have are good traits to have. Now if you have schizophrenia or are bi-polar or have severe depression, that is more difficult to deal with than mild depression or anxiety. There are other threads discussing that topic [being with someone with a serious mental illness]. [I just went back and saw a post from a very overweight person saying NO they would not date someone on meds.......???? Overeating, heavy drinking, workaholics, shopaholics ... all these people would benefit from psychiatric help. Personally I prefer counseling and alternative choices over medications. I'm not too happy with our health care system right now!]
None of us are perfect, thinking you are is a big red flag!! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:07:14 AM | I was on anti-depressants once, though i don't need them now.
Its all depending on why you are on them, i was only on them because i had a major gum and tooth infection, since i broke a part of my tooth off and the pain took over my life, i couldn't play on my computer, couldn't sleep, when it got sorted, i got put on anti-depressents.
Now i am fine, when you lose complete control of your life and you couldn't do anything about it, i would like to see you not need to be put on them too.
So, take the time to find out why they are on them before judging. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:25:34 AM | | I think nowadays it's hard to find someone who isn't on or hasn't been on antidepressants or antianxiety meds at some point in their lives. People also use alcohol, caffeine, and sugar as coping mechanisms, and it doesn't stop them from dating. I think I would look at the person's overall energy and how they behave over time. Sometimes there are very good reasons for a person to be on medications, but sometimes it can cause a person to be spacey or use it as a crutch because they are not dealing with issues. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:33:50 AM | omg!
you kiddin me?? At one time or another in life, hasnt EVERYONE been depressed or down in the dumps or in a slump period in his life?? Whether or NOT that person chooses to stay there, or get help and GET UP, and sometimes YES it does take a pill to help, thats why we live in such a great world with great technologies and great advances on medical . We've come a long way, baby. Why not use it , if it helps!?? You can use and NOT abuse! Not everybody who takes a happy pill abuses it! Not everybody has to stay on it forever, SOME on the other hand, lack a serotonin which is the mood elevator/stabilizer in our bodies...the happy pill helps put it back on the right track
WOW. do we still live in the dark ages?
YES> we need to be aware that these can be abused, but that would be like saying (and this i never DID get, Peepz)! Dont take the epidural, SUFFER thru 40 hours to 5 days of labour etc. LOL...heck. Labour is the worse pain in the world and if theres a pill to ease it why NOT?? Same with chronic depression! If a pill can save their lives , why not!???
Thats just crazy! Maybe if they have been in a mental institute for many years, or something, whole different story, but just to take a happy pill.
Relax, OP, and enjoy your date!!! I would say this person in general is a great fantastic person! :) | |
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