| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:18:50 PM | | I want to know how you would even know? I don't tend to talk about my medical treatment with people I am dating. I don't actively hide it but I never say "hey, I'm on this and that" so unless someone was snooping through my medicine cabinet, it would be unlikely they would even know. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:41:45 PM | I had started seeing this guy that I was crazy about.. we were driving around in his car.. and all of the sudden he pulls out this bottle.. pops the top off.. and pours some pills into his mouth. I didn't know what they were.. he looked at me and said "anti anxiety meds"... sheesh.. I mean pull the lid off and just down the pills??? What the ????
Anyway we are no longer seeing each other.. but I just wondered if that was a sympton of something worse or if I caused his anxiety??? weird..
I don't know much about anti anxiety meds. I think he said it was Inderal.. He said he had been taking them for years.. I guess he was high strung.. and I did notice that he did seem on edge some times.. never was short with me or anything like that.. but.. a little bit of a hair trigger.. Anyway, you never know about people..
But I didn't notice him taking them the next couple of dates that we had.. and he seemed relaxed.
I don't even take as much as an asprin most of the time.. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:50:11 PM | | OP, why not? I know several people who have been/are on them. It doesn't phase me one way or the other. All I care about is how they treat me and treat others around them. I could not care less if they were on a legit, doctor-prescribed drug. Some people need to avoid milk; some people need to take anti-depressants. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:53:47 PM | The idea of anti depressents is they get rid of the depression !
I think a lot depends on why the person has become depressed.
Divorce, health problems , relationship problems, can all cause it, or even it just happens due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 3:54:13 PM | I'd be more inclined to date someone who's on an anti-depressant versus the one who should be on them but refuses to seek help.
I personally think that it is noble for a person to acknowledge that they do have a problem and making the effort to do the work to fix it and if meds are part of the process, then fine. There are people who have genetic predispositions to depression and anxiety, and if the medications help them to have a happier life, then more power to them. There is nothing more miserable than to be around a person who is a walking train wreck who refuses help.  | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:03:07 PM | I might, depending on how stable they were.
The sheer number of people I've known on an anti-depressant of some sort makes me kind of edgy about them, though. It suggests they're being prescribed to a lot of people who probably don't need them. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:46:29 PM | as for someone who was on them for a few years, they really helped me, I was able to
be weaned off them and haven't had them since July 06, I was on them for anxiety
as they prescribe anti depressants for that also, my behavior was fine, sure beats what
some people do, drink alcohol to deal with depression etc, the only negative side effect
I had off them was, it just killed the sex drive, though I heard now, many docs prescribe anti
depressants for male Premature Ejaculation, cause when your on these drugs, it makes it
very hard to pop , I know from experience, but for me, I'm not going to miss these drugs
and feel 100 times better off them,. than on them..... | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:51:56 PM | Sometimes me thinks the BEST date is.....
a DEAD GUY!
He's well groomed!
Dressed to the NINES!
Awfully ATTENTIVE!
STIFF!!!!!!!
[often accompanied by flowers]
( ORGAN music too) | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:06:05 PM | | We are talking about antidepressants here for depression not drugs for paranoid psychophrenia. Depression is something everyone of us has dealt with at one time and if you never have then you can count on it happening at least once in your life. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:12:29 PM | | thanks valla maldoran , I was on them for 4 years or so, some people can't grasp the idea of them, lots of people are on them, and there is nothing wrong with being on them, it's the same as taking meds for heart problems whatever, they are there to help and when not needed then off them ya go, like in my case, ( also the 4 years i was on them , not one person who knew me , could even tell I took them) my demeanor and happy personality were untouched on them... since I took them for anxiety etc not depression itself, | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:29:24 PM | In short: No.
In long: I understand that this is a complex issue and that there are many ways of looking at it. Depression, like ADD, is not a single disorder. It is a spectrum of symptoms of which the individual can display one or many in varying degrees of severity. I would not date someone who had depression because I'm in it for the LTR, and I'm not going to date someone I don't think will make the grade. Severe depression can be incapacitating, and I would like to be able to depend on my friend (and potential mate) to take on any situation regardless of how challenging, untimely or inconvenient it might be.
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 5:52:56 PM |
I would like to be able to depend on my friend (and potential mate) to take on any situation regardless of how challenging, untimely or inconvenient it might be.
Ahh the old pull yourself up by your bootstraps mentality.  That didn't work way back in the day and it doesn't work now. I would hate to get involved with someone who has this kind of mentality because God forbid something in life should come alone and give you a good hard kick. You'll be devastated and your partner will be sneering at you saying "just pull yourself up by your bootstraps you baby".
I know that if something terrible were to happen in my partners life he could count on me to be there for him, cry with him and be his shoulder to cry on. I am not looking to only be around in the good happy times , but i also want to be there for him when his world is blue. Depression and anxiety is not a choice, but what is a choice is how you deal with it. In the bad stages of depression sometimes you need to have time alone to cry but seeing as a depressed person is not crazy they realize they need help so they go to their doctor.
I have known people who have been depressed i have been a person who was depressed and it has never lasted forever. Drugs as part of your therapy at least for the short term, are sometimes necessary. For myself i went the natural route and it worked for me , but i wont judge others for taking the drugs. So long as your medication is coupled with talk therapy then it's a good thing. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:24:11 PM | Antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications? Yes. Anti-psychotics? HELL NO! Sorry if that offends anyone, but I've known enough people on those puppies to not get involved with that situation. And, I agree with this:
I'd be more inclined to date someone who's on an anti-depressant versus the one who should be on them but refuses to seek help. There is nothing wrong with seeking help. Talk therapy is also important. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:39:03 PM | I would most definitely date someone who was on anti-depressants or an anti-anxiety med.
On the other hand, I sure as hell would not date anyone who was in need of medication and refused to seek help. I was married to a someone like that and it nearly killed both of us. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/6/2008 6:49:05 PM | | I have no trouble with those on antidepressents at all for just depression. My ex GF was bipolar though. I went through the cycles with her for over 5 years. Her manic cycle didn't last near as long as her depressive, maybe month and a half and she felt so good didn't take her meds, then when coming down from the manic she self medicated with alcohol, large doses and alcohol doesn't agree with her. Made for scary times. Was living with her still even though were broke up quite awhile last New Years, she had been coming down from manic. I was working, her 14 year old daughter was with friends and on break saw I had 2 voice mails. One said come home if I can, other said she wanted her daughter to live with her father and she wanted this to look like a suicide. I left work, hurried home, a friend of hers already there. Daughter calls asking me what's going on because she had wierd voicemails from her mom. I picked up daughter and we babysat her all night on New years eve. not a fun time, she had drunk a large amount. So maybe a bipolar if they continue taking even thru manic but not if they quit during that stage. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 1:04:40 AM | | Id much rather date someone who's trying to take control of their lives with meds and under a doctor's care than someone who drinks on a regular basis "just to get by". Or smokes weed, for that matter. It takes a lot of guts to fess up and admit you have an anxiety or depression problem, whether that be to yourself or a doctor. So, if anything, Id have more respect for someone who's on the pills and getting treated than someone who prefers to just assume a drink or two will get them through the day. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 4:49:39 AM | i'm not sure- i think it depends on the person and how the drugs affect them. it is not a situation of all those on anti-depressants are the same at all....so i'd have to consider it on an individual basis.
personally, i don't like the affects of them, so i'm really not sure i'd want to date someone who is on them....but then i'm projecting and it really is an individual's experience.
perhaps even more key is exposing one's true emotions, or deepest aspects of oneself is part of the trust and growth i think a close relationship can offer and i wonder if the person on antidepressants can do this if the drug is helping them numb out the pain.
a big issue for me is what caused their depression? are they taking responsibility for it or blaming others? (ex's usually)
maybe i am a little biased because i believe more in using alternative and wholistic medicine and good counselling to help with the things anti-depressants are prescribed for - and for years i worked with those recovering from anxiety and depression and other mental issues - so i would worry i'd naturally want to help them instead of fall in love with them! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 5:21:04 AM | | my ex and I were married 17 yrs. I watched him go down due to depression pills. course i didnt find out he was on them until a week before he committed suicide. the messed him up to the point he couildnt even be sure of his own kids b-day. he had to verify it with me. his whole way of thinking changed for the worst . those pills turned him into someone i didnt even know anymore. doctors give those damn things out like giving candy to a kid. doctors are not stupid, they know that a lot of peope who take them committ suicide. So why do they give out so freely? A person on antidepressants cannot ever be trusted. thats why i wouild not date somene who was taking them. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:26:46 AM | | Yea, if they were upfront and honest about it, sure. There are a LOT of depressed people who are too afraid to admit it and get help. So I think by being on anti-depressants it's a step into the right direction. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:28:31 AM | Sure, I would. However, within reason of course (depending on their condition/severity). There are probably MORE people on some type of med than not. lol
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:29:20 AM | | angel your statement is not always the case. sometimes it makes things worse. getting the help of a pill can cost a person their life and in many cases it does just that. you never know when somene taking a brain pill is gonna flip. | |
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