| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 6:30:25 AM | No. I dated a woman who took lithium and she used it as an excuse to do anything she wanted.
It's my opinion that drugs used to treat mental health issues usually cause more problems than they solve. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:02:46 AM | I'm probably going to get slated for this but here goes.
Being depressed after a traumatic episode in life is very natural has it helps us to come to terms with it.
This depression should progress through it's natural course because it helps us grow and learn.
The trouble with modern living is that people don't exercise, they eat and ingest crap so it only follows that they are going to feel crap.
So what do people do?...They go along to their doctor say "I feel crap" and he yields his mighty pen and writes out a prescription for thoses easy fixes which simply mask the underlaying problem. With clinical depression there might be good reason for using antidepressants but only for a short while and only while hospitalised.
Continued depression is due to mental ill health and the only real long term solution is to realise they you NEED to exercise, you NEED to eat well, you NEED to sleep more than 6 hrs a day, you NEED to stay hydrated, you NEED to poo every day and you NEED to avoid drinking alcohol/drugs to excess.
So in answer to the OP's question. I think you may realise that for me, continued depression is due to a lifestyle choice so no I wouldn't | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:11:50 AM | Iron
I do agree with most of what you say,but to better quantify,
one needs to factor in that some people encounter events beyond
their control, where they have NO CHOICE, health crisis,
traumatic brain injury.
Tragedy knows no season, choice knows one, when the person HAS a choice.
There are those who truly believe that they control every aspect in their lives,
I assure you, not every move one makes will virtually guarantee happiness.
Not everything in life is completely under ones control. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:22:47 AM | I agree with IronmanUK.
If someone is being treated for a temporary bout of depression, then by all means use anti-depressants / anti-anxiety as a supplement to therapy and get healthy. Once you are healthy, then date.
If someone is on anti-depressants / anti-anxiety as a lifestyle drug, then no, I would consider them undatable. I have dated several women on these pills in the past and experience has taught me not to do so again.
Not all, but most people I have met who are on meds do so to avoid dealing with the larger issues in their life. Of course, these issues never really go away, and these people never really make any progress on dealing with them, so they are dependent on these meds permanently.
So, in short, if you can't make it through your day without reliance on alcohol or drugs, illicit or prescription, then I don't want you as part of my life. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:25:17 AM | It's sad to read so many posts where people are knocking others for having an illness.
Depression is that 'hidden' illness that nobody wants to know about. Most of us have suffered it from time to time, and some of us have managed to overcome it. If a person requires medication to assist them to be able to deal with life then so be it.
Too many people associate antidepressants with madness.....These are the ignorant people.
Sure depression IS a mental illness, but it doesn't mean a person is crazy.
Perhaps a little understanding of this condition may have saved a lot of marriages referred to in this thread.
Would I date someone taking this medication? Sure if I was keen on that person.
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:28:12 AM | | Being Bi polar myself, I'd like to say anyone who says they wouldn't date a man on/with anti dep/chemical imbalance are bigots. There is no other way around it. The only justice for a mind set like that is your future children, or yourself develops a mental disorder so you can understand it and realize that there are varying degrees of imbalance. Mine is a low degree, I can function very well in society, make great money, and I'm extremely creative and intelligent. Oh, but I'm on mood levelers so you'd better avoid me at all costs. You're a moron and I put you on the same level as racists, do you see why? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:36:27 AM | >
Wow, and I thought people on here were intelligent.
He without sin cast the first stone.
Have you heard of a brain synapse at all? Or are you too busy following your own mental health advice you feel qualified to dish out to people with real problems? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:49:57 AM | Richard:
I'd like you ask you a question.
Have you ever lived in such a way that your body was is tip-top condition?
Doing all the things I listed above to ensure that your brain chemistry was just right?
If not then you can never be 100% sure that your health issues aren't simply a matter of bad living......Oh and please don't tell me your doctor is sure because most doctors actually live by the mighty pen and prescribe whatever drug is in fashion. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:55:48 AM | it shouldd actually be considered a good thing if someone is going to therapy, taking antidepressants, or just trying to improve themselves. i think that it depends on the person, and it depends on why they are taking them... for instance if they are going to therapy, they may have been prescribed as a part of the therapy.
i would be a little worried if they were on lithium or something, but if they were on antidepressants, i would ask a few more questions... because i have been on them for a short while during a few hard times in my life to help me to get thru them...
for instance, right after my divorce when i was trying to just get thru the day and when my grandmother died. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 7:57:22 AM | | yeah, when I was bottoming out before I took medication I had been getting between 1-2 hours of cardio a day, plus the gym every other day. Endorphins are all it is that make you feel better, and it's short term, exercise isn't the be all and end all of health. Physical and mental health are completely different. To take it a step further when all the exercise wasn't helping me feel better I started Yoga, and daily mediation. Trust me on this. You are wrong. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:01:45 AM | | Also, the only vibe I'm getting form you Ironman UK, is that you're a happy active healthy person yourself. Congratulations! This shouldn't come as a shock to a physical adonis such as yourself but people are different. What might be right for you, may not be right for some. You take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have. My opening statement. Sit ubu sit, good dog. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:07:05 AM | Antidepressants are now the most commonly prescribed drugs in the U.S and Canada
Depression is a major problem, however some doctors are now medicating unhappiness.
when they really need to be making changes in their lives.
In other words antidepressants should only be prescribe for a short time, or for the severely depressed,  | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:11:21 AM |
Continued depression is due to mental ill health and the only real long term solution is to realise they you NEED to exercise, you NEED to eat well, you NEED to sleep more than 6 hrs a day, you NEED to stay hydrated, you NEED to poo every day and you NEED to avoid drinking alcohol/drugs to excess. .....See what I mean? IGNORANCE! Depression is NOT a physical thing so get back on your treadmill and carry on your get fit diet.
I had a traumatic experience 30 odd years ago. I never took antidepressants and to this day I never have.....however I do work with people that have this 'depressive' condition. Chucking a shit doesn't do it for them.
Living a healthy lifestyle does NOT mean your mind is healthy. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:19:35 AM | A couple of years ago I went through a time when I just couldn't stop crying. I went to the doctor, and she said, well what's happening in your life? I told her and she smiled and said I don't need anti-depressants, I am going through a normal process with all the things that were going on, and to just cry and wash away the sorrows. I came out of it.... I exercised, I looked after my bodily needs, I got out and about....
I have dated a man on anti-depressants.... and he ias one of the nicest men you could ever meet. He went through some trauma 5 years or so ago, and was diagnosed with clinical depression.... he takes the pills, he's fine. Zoloft. And one of the side effects of Zoloft for a man can be quite..... hmmm pleasurable for the woman! always a silver lining! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:36:30 AM | I will have to say that more people that commit suicide who are not on them. I served In Iraq in 03 and was injured , The things I did, seen, and went through was very depressing to think about. There are also about 10,000 other soldiers that went through the same thing, others are going through it now, and others will go through the same thing and will need it to get back to normal. I was so bad, I did not leave my house for 3 years. Now that I am on them and taking them the way I am suppose to, I am back to my normal self. You would never know I am on them.
Most people that are depressed usually end up drinking, turning to drugs. Those are the ones that usually end up committing suicide. Why? because they hear if you are on antidepressants you are nuts. So its to the drinking and drugs. This is just my opinion.
If this hurts my chances for finding someone on here, then so be it. I am just looking after my boys that are on them and will be on them | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:43:40 AM | | Has anyone ever though to themselves that if they are in such a depressed state, that they shouldn't be bringing that upon someone else? Maybe work on themselves before trying to get involved in a relationship and that includes getting off the medication. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:55:04 AM | | I am just about off them now, and your right about working on themselves. I have done a lot to get where I am today. I didnt date anyone until I knew that I was right in the mind, body and soul. I would never want to bring down someone that I am with. The whole idea of being in a relationship is to have someone that you can make happy not sad. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:57:13 AM |
I am just about off them now, and your right about working on themselves. I have done a lot to get where I am today. I didnt date anyone until I knew that I was right in the mind, body and soul. I would never want to bring down someone that I am with. The whole idea of being in a relationship is to have someone that you can make happy not sad
Good for you. That's something to be proud of. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:09:34 AM | i would not have a problem with dating someone on anti depressents... i do agree with the fact that eating healthy and taking care of your self makes a difference. i could not put it better ironhorse! i have dated someone that told me that he was on anti depressents at the start of the relationship and very upfront about taking his "happy pills" that is what he called them, i know that people will not agree with the term.
Sandbug
happy  to all! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:24:47 AM | Got a close friend.
She is bi-polar. She went through rough times, not many
go through where she has been.
I trust her far and wide more than most! Been there for her
bad times. Once she got on track, she is fine, in a relationship for years.
She walks a treadmill. I guarantee the males of our species......
You get a gander , an eyeful of her....You WILL ...yes you WILL.....
She is so finely honed, reads people better than me, must be SAN DIEGO!?
Streets of L.A.?
I would never survive the hard times she was dealt, I'm no where as strong as she is.
She takes those meds that docs like to 'shovel' at people.
You know, the ones that 'couch jumper' decries as bogus?
Oh yes! The world is filled with the disabled.
"There are those who are blind, and cannot see....there are those who CAN SEE...
......but WILL NOT!" | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:28:26 AM | | I started on an AD(Wellbutrin) about 1 1/2 years ago . .they assisted in me quitting a 35 year habit (read addiction) to cigarettes (about a pack and a half a day of W######) but in all of the trial to that I found a different me and they softened the blow of ending a 34 year marriage . .I like the different me . .and I am still on the DA . . So in reading some of the posts here I see too many assumptions . . My Dr shared that alot of people in today's world are like me . .they come across something that allows them to see the world in just a slightly different prospective and they stay with it . .for myself and the many others like me I would ask this . .what is the differeance between me taking a DA and a person taking an allergy drug . .both have added to the quality of our lifes and those around us and both appear non threatening . . . obviously I have little or no exposure to those on heavier medications so my comments are limited to what I have experience with . . . I am commited to not going back to either the smoker or the occassionally **** old me . . . | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 9:46:51 AM | First of Jimtash- lithium is generally not prescribed for depression or anxiety. It is generally prescribed to people who have Bi-polar disorder or schizophrenia.
Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitor is a fancy word for Prozac\fluoxetine. And to a lesser extent drugs like zoloft. Other anti anxiety meds generally have an SSRI component.
While you people may scof about the diet and exercise\lifestyle component it is clinically proven to be effective. Once a person is out of the acute phase of depression exercise alone three times a week for thirty minutes ( just walking will work) has been proven to be as effective as an anti-depressant. Many times, more effective as it lends itself towards a positive self image as well. But the posters statement previously that it is purely a lifestyle choice is uninformed or worse. When in a deep depression you need to see a professional and get some help with the acute issue at hand. Clinical depression is a whole different ballgame. Not sure about that one.
I was on prozac for 14 months and it was a god send for me. What most people don't realize is that prozac and the like are only meant to be taken for 9-18 months. It is sort of like rebooting a computer. Only it is your brain. The brain resets its neurons and you are good to go. Should another event occur later on you can go back to the drug and gain the same affect. Trouble these days is people want a pill for everything. And doctors would rather oblige than hear them **** or have to lay down the law. | |
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