Kyoki
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Msg: 76 | |
| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:07:54 AM |
alot of people taking anitdepressants end up comitting suicide. it has happend over and over and over. it also happend to my ex husband 4 months ago. so no i would not.
This is an irresponsible and uneducated statement. I understand there has been research showing an increase in suicidal thoughts among young adults who take certain antidepressants, but I wouldn't call the numbers 'A Lot'. A quick google search reveals a Washington Post article citing the figure increasing from 3 in 1000 to 7 in 1000. That's less than 1 percent. I'm not sure I'd call that a lot. I'm not even sure I'd call that statistically valid without looking into the issue more.
Antidepressants are becoming increasingly common. There's nothing sinister about them, they don't make someone a different person. They increase their ability to cope.
I'm not on them. I know many who are. | |
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Kyoki
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Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 78 | |
| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:10:38 AM |
No. I dated a woman who took lithium and she used it as an excuse to do anything she wanted.
Good lord, man! Taking lithium is a whole lot different than taking an antidepressant. Dare I ask what the reason for taking the lithium was? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:11:54 AM | | tell that to my dead ex. he changed in many many ways before he killed himself. and the police are the ones who told me this happens alot. this was by far not the first or gonna be the last case of suicide due to antidepressants. You have your belief and i have mine. I watched my ex change but i had no idea he was on anti depressants until a week before he died. so dont tell me they dont do harm....they do. as far as common yes they are becuase the idiot doctors give them out like candy. that does not make it right. doctors do alot of things that are not right. Giving antidepressants out so easily is not right and does casue death. my ex is proof of that. | |
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Kyoki
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Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 80 | |
| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:14:42 AM |
So in answer to the OP's question. I think you may realise that for me, continued depression is due to a lifestyle choice so no I wouldn't
I believe that antidepressants are handed out too readily. I think that a lot of the time eating right, avoiding alcohol, sleeping, etc. is the answer, not drugs.
The drugs do have their place though, and it's naive to think that they don't. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:18:31 AM | unfortunately, that is not how it alsways works. they are deadly. you wanna play with ur brain go ahead but also be aware that the consequences could be disasterous, which for many it is.
Not to mention a man who gets on depression pills means he cannot handle life. which means he could end up back on them at a later time..therefore i not only would not date somene who is on them but i also would not date someone who has taken them. I prefer a man who can handle life the right way and without a pill. honestly no offense to anyone who takes them. im simply answering the question and telling why i answer the way i do. | |
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Kyoki
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Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 83 | |
| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:27:06 AM |
tell that to my dead ex. he changed in many many ways before he killed himself. and the police are the ones who told me this happens alot.
I'm truly sorry about your ex. The police are wrong.
Your ex is one person amongst thousands that take antidepressants. The behavior change in your ex and the resulting suicide could have been from any number of things that don't involve the antidepressants he was taking.
People, unfortunately, commit suicide every day who aren't on antidepressants. My cousin did. It's easy to want to pick something and place blame there, but I think often there are a large number of factors.
Feel free to contact me if you need someone to talk to. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:33:20 AM |
unfortunately, that is not how it alsways works. they are deadly. you wanna play with ur brain go ahead but also be aware that the consequences could be disasterous, which for many it is.
Not to mention a man who gets on depression pills means he cannot handle life. which means he could end up back on them at a later time..therefore i not only would not date somene who is on them but i also would not date someone who has taken them. I prefer a man who can handle life the right way and without a pill.
Probably the quickest way to end up on anti-depressants to admit that you've had suicidal thoughts so to me its not surprising that people on anti-depressants have a higher likely hood of having suicidal thoughts. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:33:38 AM | | thank you kyoki. thats very kind of you. I know peolpe kill themself for many reasons. but my ex was literally losing his memeory once he got on them. by the time he killed himself he couldnt even remember his own kids b-day.. when i talked to him it was like talking to somene i didnt even know anymore and i was married to him for 17 yrs. them pills had him all messed up. this is a man who would have never took his life from his kids. he left behind a 6 yr old son, 10 and 12 yr old daughters. his kids were everyting to him. without the use of a pill he wjould still be here...just unhappy. | |
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Kyoki
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Joined: 5/4/2008
Msg: 86 | |
| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 10:39:21 AM | Kittenshere41,
I'm not a doctor, but you have to know that if the antidepressants did indeed cause these problems in your ex, it's a rare problem - and still doesn't answer if there may have been other hidden problems that lead to this as well.
My cousin wasn't on antidepressants. He was a cop. Frustration, depression, and a moment of weakness. Maybe an antidepressant would have given him the extra leverage he needed to cope. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 11:44:24 AM | How to put this politly......
From past issues in my life......I am a sukr for punishment......Love pain....
and at times totally off the wall...actually all teh time...very inmature ...
That said...I juust was kinda seeing a grl with Post pardom..prob spelled wrong...
WOW what a wyld ride that was....had a great time with her....she just had a way of turning shit i would say around....even if i meant it in a nice way... ( I am a person who loves to compliment ppl)....flip im an azzzhole..
But to me medication is medication ...many reasons 4 them.....For me dont care...
Will not stop me in anyway....Unless they r like a few ppl i know get the script eat them all ina day or 2...then no.....but in genral i will date someone if i like them dont give to HOOTS about what they take or do...ppl remember its the person ....not what they need to get threw this sespool we call life.....after all im sure like myself we all have more flaws then we want to admit......so OP i would never stop from dating you or anyone who takes anything..... all I would care is how they treat me and my kids...
More my kids...like i said i am a sukr for punishment....
PEACE ALL | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:01:37 PM | | What if the two of you were stranded somewhere, and his meds were lost? I wonder if having an opportunity to meet for the first time the person you 'loved' would give you deep and permanent emotional scars. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:09:23 PM | ^Great answer! ^ I'm starting to realize that  anti depressants combined with;  stop smoking 'scripts, (all the while still smoking;) stress, being a  "dry drunk" ~ mixed up with a  "crazy ex girlfriend" spell T R O U B L E . 
We need to be aware that certain drugs adversly interact with others causing mood swings, lack of proper judgement and downright WHACKED personalities!  | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:18:30 PM | | sorry about your ex kitten... but you are basing your opinion off of ONE experience(at least only one that you mentioned). I have been on anti depressants on and off for 13 years and most of my friends have been on them for 10+ years and not one of them has committed suicide. In fact, the only two people I know who have committed suicide are the ones who REFUSED to take anti depressants because they thought the meds were bad. So, I for one, will date someone on them... as well as someone on any med for health problems | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:45:14 PM | | 10 to 13 yrs wow thats a long long time to be on antidepressants. all the ones you know that committed suicide did not take them but what aobut the ones you dont know that committed suicide that did take them. the one person i know that was on them is dead. and yes it was due to the antidepressant. even the doctors when giving them to a person will tell them it will make u more depressed and more suicidal in the beginning thats why they are told they need to be watched. its not a drug to play iwth. I am not saying that some people cant take it cause they can but what i am saying is there has been many deaths due to the drug. my ex being only one of them. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:46:55 PM | yes, why not? as long as the person is looking after their health. I take a small dose of anti-depressants and it changed my life for the better.
a doctor will tell you to watch the symptoms as you start your medication regime, and they will consult with you regularly until the right med and right dosage has been worked through. I can't say I know of any doctors who will say a person will be more depressed or suicidal. They will tell a patient to expect some side effects.
Even as it vindicated some of what critics of drugs such as Prozac, Paxil and Zoloft have said for years, the earlier official warnings about the drugs appear to have led to a drop in their use -- and there are troubling signs that this can lead to an increase in suicides. This risk is statistically higher in the age 18 to 25 age group.
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 12:57:31 PM | Anti-depressants saved my life so there is contradictory proof
Yeah I would, why not? Better than untreated!
Couldn't agree more.
~OT~ I am always amazed at the closed minded responses of these types of threads. If you are able to live life completely as you wish, without the need for legally prescribed medication, kudos to you. Not all people are that lucky. For me personally, I only live my life and have never been clinically diagnosed with depression, but I live with panic disorder/generalized anxiety disorder and without my sanity in prescription bottle ~ I most likely wouldn't be someone anyone would like to know. The reality for me, a little pill allows me the ability to live, not just exist. As for dating someone on meds ~ I'd much rather date someone on prescription meds than a drunk who hides in a bottle or a stoner who that lives in a drug induced haze to avoid their personal realities. That's just my opinion, however. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 1:52:11 PM | kit, i can see you doing it again- expressing a very strong opinion based on your life experience.....so having heard all about your husband in another thread that you now claim killed himself due completely to anti-depressants - and your suggesting the loss for you was so great there's no way you would have anything to do with someone who was ever connected to anti-depressants in any way....um, is this the same husband who beat you repeatedly that you finally escaped from?
sorry to be blunt here, but i can't figure out which is truth now and which is twisted truth you possibly use to have something to say that definitely gets responses!
besides, your total belief that anti-depressants makes people kill themselves could result in a bunch of people reading this and believing you and taking themselves immediately off their drugs, which would be very bad....
so if anyone is even tempted to believe her, please consult your doctor before reducing your meds....for that is important, as far as i understand the nature of this 'beast'....
um, no, the nature of taming the beast i mean....
no, i mean follow the rules of antidepressants, like all prescribed drugs, please. 
by the way, for those who feel exercise, massage, relaxation and even meditation is not helpful when it comes to mental states of being - including depression and anxiety - i created and taught a class for many years that used all those aspects, as well as giving space for the participants to really talk about their lives and themselves with no judgement, and it really really made a difference. medications were reduced and many became much more able to cope with the responsibilities of their lives by the time i ended the class to move back to this country....so it took years, but the improvement was noticably significant to them, to me, the other participants, and to their doctors! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:25:40 PM | | I have been on meds for years and do very well. I would have no problem dating someone else that is also on meds. I think with the way the world is today that most people are on some sort of medication. I find it sad that our world has to be so fast paced that people even need to be on medication. I think our life styles were much better when we weren't moving so fast!!!! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:27:30 PM | Weare1 Thanks for pointing out the irony I was leaving it alone.
And I totally agree with you on the exercise, massage, relaxation approach. Of course as you state coupled with consulting a physician. The suicide rates discussed on here are generally associated with teens taking anti-depressants not adults. Everyone is entitled to their opinion even if it flies smack in the face of conventional wisdom or clinical research.
Or we could always try a poultice and a witch doctor that might work! | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/7/2008 2:55:13 PM | | for every one person who takes them and does fine there is one prson somewhere else who took them and didnt do fine. its kinda like drunks. for one drunk that never has a wreck there is another that did wreck somewhere. none of us know the real numbers but there are just as many who die from anti depressants than who dont. so no im not saying everyone who takes them will die of course not .. but not everyone who takes them lives either. | |
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