| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:31:02 AM | I would not date someone who was on medication. It's a fact that this is an American drug phenomenon that does not happen anywhere in the world. 79% of mental drugs used in the WORLD are taken in the U.S.
Out good economy of the past made people some good money; kids were and are very spoiled and most parents control their every move. If they fail, it's not their fault; take a pill or mommy and daddy will bail you out. They then become adults that have never had to handle much disappointment and when they are older, they go on meds because they cant' deal with life.
I have one friend who says he has ADD and depression. He can't concentrate at work he says. But he sure can do a marathon 15 hour sessions on Playstation games. See how many kids on ADD meds cant' concentrate for 20 minutes at school, but can do marathon video game sessions. Funny how his focus isnt' affected when he is doing something fun.
I have 4 psychiatrist friends. 3 from other countries and 1 from the U.S. I asked them all how many patients of theirs were on depression medication. I got a range of 1-3% from the foreign doctors, and an unreal 99% from the U.S. doctor. In other countries they counsel and talk to people in getting them to deal with life. In the U.S. the doctors drug them from it.
So, no I wouldn't date someone on depression meds. Danger and high maintenance. No thanks. IMHO. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 2:47:50 AM | that may be true chocolatebrowne. but it also can kill. that is fact. if ur trying to tell me it does not killl well i got a dead ex to prove different. it nefver amazes me how u people can tell me how wrong i am when I have a dead ex to proove Im right. so dont anyone tell me it dont kill becuase u are full of shit. some people do well on it and others do not. you want fact here it is. I burried my ex this past christmas eve all due to a damn anti depressant. so no one needs to me a damn thing. anit depresants do not always work..sometimes they backfire. my answer remains the same..if a persons brain cannot function normally on its own withut use of pill ..hell no i aint dating them.
yes mthomjmark. your right. the US doctors give that shit out like its candy. i can see why ..they all want money. doctors dont give a shit about people they just wnat their money. making them come back each month to get refills for anti depressants the doctor makes the money and so does the pharmacist. doc and pharmacist work together. I would bet anything that 90 percent of the people popping those pills do not need them.
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 3:17:47 AM | short answer no
Life's crap enough sometimes without someone else whingeing and whining all the time. And then you'd be worried that if you said something wrong they might go home and top themselves ... well I wouldnt worry .. that'd be one less man to worry about as far as I'm concerned  | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:19:25 AM | Would I date someone on antidepressants?
Yes, they'd be much more fun than if they weren't on them.
People get depressed. I read a quote once and I like it
Marilyn Munro said.. if you can't take me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best. I agree with that. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 4:30:29 AM | | I prefer somene who is at their best without the use of a controlled substance. anti depressants contrls the brain. therefore you have no idea who ur dating. who would they be if they were not on depressants? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 8:26:37 AM | ... And she keeps posting.
You realize you're coming off as a crazy person, right? Like the insanos who work downtown and make irrational claims and have an affinity for non sequitors like, "I trick-or-treat with a colostomy bag!"
Pharmacists and physicians have an evil cabal to extort money?
The fact is that the pharmacy makes < US$1.00 per script it fills.
The fact is that in most US health plans, your doc is capitated, which means (s)he gets paid the same amount each month regardless of whether you're in 10 times or not at all.
We understand you won't date someone one AD meds. You've made that abundantly clear and you shouldn't have anymore to say on the subject.
We're all entitled to make up our own opinion; we are NOT entitled to make up our own facts. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:09:59 AM | | voodoo i have the right to my opinion just as you do. so excuse me if i dont agree with ya. some agree with me and some agree with you. Atleast i aint lowering myself to your level by calling names... such as crazy. I think alot of answers are crazy but did i call them crazy......no. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:22:05 AM | Working in the health care field I have known many people on antidepressants. There are so many factors to consider. Some antidepressants leave you feeling rather flat, no highs or lows, some of them leave you more messed up then you were in the first place. My best friend is on them and she has her issues but shes still fun to be around. My son and daughter take them occasionally if they feel a panic attack coming on, they have there issues as well. I wish there father would have taken them, we may have been able to work things out. This is sounding scary here, looks like I'm the common denominator! Peri | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 9:23:07 AM | | It is best for those who demand whoever they be in a relationship with to always be at their best to never get into a relationship ever. If you demand that someone always be at their best then you are not properly prepared for what life in general has to offer you. Relationships like anything else have ups and downs so if you are only willing to accept the ups then you are a child who has no business ever getting into a serious relationship. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:11:42 PM | It's a very interesting topic worthy of consideration given the site. If the person you're dating is good about remembering to take their meds, don't resist them as many do and have realized through therapy that whatever ailment is due to the disease and not their character, they should be fine. OK, so from time to time there may be a little problem here and there, but come on! How many perfect, even-mooded people does any of us know? There aren't any! If the person can function normally I don't see why not date them, and I will agree with the people who said better on meds than refusing to take them. Besides, patients are often told they should view anti-depressants as a brain vitamin of sorts. It's a chemical imbalance like the imbalance people's electrolytes sometimes have. It's a condition no different than others and we're lucky we have such effective meds in this our modern world.
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:21:38 PM |
voodoo i have the right to my opinion just as you do. so excuse me if i dont agree with ya. some agree with me and some agree with you. Atleast i aint lowering myself to your level by calling names... such as crazy. I think alot of answers are crazy but did i call them crazy......no.
What'd I just say? You've a right to your opinion. You do NOT have a right to make shyt up and present it as fact. That's unethical, irresponsible, and wrong. Leave that behaviour to the professionals, like fundie churches. And Fox News. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:30:46 PM | | NO. Relationships are difficult enough even without complicating circumstances. he/she may be perfectly OK when on their meds, but if they decide to get off of their meds.. who knows. Been there done that, who needs to live in a world of unpredictability.. when you don't know whether you are going to walk into hugs and kisses, or an unprovoked anger rage? | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:34:02 PM |
You've a right to your opinion. You do NOT have a right to make shyt up and present it as fact
Cheers to that! Simple statement, yet some people just don't get it..... | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:50:51 PM | If they needed anti-depressants or other types of drugs to be normal, and without them, would be otherwise erratic, the answer would be no. If they were popping pills because they couldn't deal with life's issues, I wouldn't want to be with someone who runs from their problems.
I've taken these before though only briefly and I didn't like how they affected me. I also didn't want to be financially dependent on the drug companies. It took some deep thinking, but I eventually figured out what was causing my depression, though the steps to fixing it in no way relied on drugs.
Society is quick to medicate itself. It's clearly in the best interests of the drug companies to fund research to discover and name new illnesses.
Depression could very well be an imbalance of chemicals in the brain, but I wonder if many of these imbalances are caused by outside influences that couldn't otherwise be solved by the brain itself. The brain can adapt and adjust itself when parts of it becomes damaged. We just prefer to take the easy way out and only hide the problems. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 12:54:51 PM | | wondering, maybe they were on the wrong med. Look at Jane Pauley or Mike Wallace. As far as killing oneself because of meds, you have to look at each situation. It is not clear cut. It is a proven fact that adolescents have because they need to give the meds time to work... Also, I have read that if you have had about 3 bouts of depression, chances are that you will have to take meds for the rest of your life. Also, there are different levels of depression, like grieving which, when it extends for a long period of time and affects functioning is not a normal phase of life and becomes depression and needs to be treated. There is also hearth wrenching depression that is chemically or hormonally based that affects sleeping, eating, etc. and needs to be treated with hormones like estrogen or a combination of estrogen and antidepressants. I think you can not generalize about antidepressants being bad because of the times that they did not work for some because they have saved the lives of many. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:06:05 PM | For me, this might actually be something of a positive. I suffer from depression, and I'm on antidepressants. Even so, I still have my bad days at times. It's helpful to have friends who understand what it is that you're battling and know how to support you. It's also refreshing to have people who can relate and who don't judge you because of your depression. Most of all, it's a wonderful feeling knowing that they will never say "Snap out of it." or "Get over it." (Which is about the most insensitive thing you could say.)
Looking back, I think one of the significant issues that contributed to the decline in my marriage was that, as supportive as she tried to be, my ex never understood what I was going through. Despite my attempts to reassure her, she often took it personally. Also, she was unable to comprehend how depression can change your entire view of the world. What I felt made no sense to her.
There are positives and negatives to this, but for me at this point in my life, I think I'd gladly take the roller coaster that can come with it in order to have the compassion and understanding. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:12:10 PM | I think the better question should be, would a person on anti-depressants date YOU?!
In our society, depression afects over 20% of the population. Taking medication because you realize you need help in that manner, shows a level of responisibility about your own health and a want to improve yourself. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:19:17 PM | kittenshere41,
I'm sorry to hear about your ex. You are right that antidepressants do not always work. Before we found something that worked for me, we tried a few different medications. One actually caused anxiety attacks for me, yet worked absolute wonders for a few other people I know. Unfortunately, there's no magic answer.
I notice a lot of misconceptions in this thread. Antidepressants do not control the brain, nor do the change who the person is. What they do (when properly functioning) is allow the person to better process reality. Without my meds, I have a tendency to over-inflate problems and view them as never-ending. On my meds, I am better able to put events into perspective. The meds don't change my thinking, they simply allow me to think without overwhelming myself.
About a year ago, I lost my job, and decided that I could manage without my meds (since my insurance was ending, I didn't see any alternative). The longer I went without my meds, the more I beat up on myself, the more I internalized everything, and the less I saw hope for things to improve. This darkening of my outlook caused a shift in my personality towards anger, moodiness, frustration, and hopelessness. Now that I'm back on meds, these feelings are still there, however they are no longer pushing my true personality aside.
If the antidepressants are causing a shift in personality, making the person numb to emotional stimulus, etc., this simply means that the dosage and/or medication needs to be changed. When properly administered, antidepressants don't convert the person into somebody new; they instead reveal the actual person. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:23:18 PM | | voodoo the only fact i have said is that my ex is dead due to anti depressants. now that is fact. I am in no way interested in how many people anti depressants kill. my point was that in some cases it does kill. when u sit there and you are looking at the dead person...well no more proof needed than that. He is not the first and he wont be the last. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:44:19 PM | kittenshere41,
Again, I'm sorry for your loss, but I have to disagree with your conclusion. Just because a person who is taking antidepressants commits suicide does not mean that the antidepressants are necessarily to blame. It is far more likely that the depression that the antidepressants were intended to treat was the problem, and not the antidepressants themselves.
One way in which antidepressants can be dangerous is in regards to energy levels. When people are depressed, it is common to have suicidal thoughts and exceedingly low energy. The lack of energy is often the only reason that they don't act on these suicidal impulses. When antidepressants start to work, they sometimes begin to restore energy levels before the suicidal impulses go away. Having the energy to act on these impulses can be very dangerous. A person starting or adjusting a medication needs to be monitored during the transition. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:46:53 PM | | no sir, he was losing his mind once he got on the anti depressants. he went from bad to wrose. this man had a mind like a damn computer. never forgot nothing. once he got on them pills everything went down hill..including his mind..which evidently lead to his death. the pills had his mind messed up so bad he couldnt even remember his own kids b day for sure. even his personatliy changed. i didnt even know him anymore after being married to him for 17 yrs. he was completley opposite of the man i knew. he stopped going to work which was big red flag. this man normallly woud not have missed a day for nothing in this world. he was a workaholic or use to be. his personatliy did not change for the worst , he was still a wonderful man but he was acting diffand saying things that was not like him. all those changes occured only after he got on those pills and he killed himself in the end. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 1:52:57 PM |
oodoo the only fact i have said is that my ex is dead. now that is fact. doesnt matter how many have died due to anti depression i could give a shit less. my point was that in some cases it does kill. my ex is proof. when u sit there and you are looking at the dead person...well no more proof needed than that.
Ted Bundy once during an interview said pornography lead him to murder all those women, as if to say if porn was illegal or unattainable, he'd have been just a regular guy. It is much easier to blame external influences when someone does something wrong than to say at least in part the problem was created within the person. I'm going to guess that your ex might have been to a therapist(maybe something the therapist said lead him to suicide), or went to a support group(maybe they did/said something), or maybe his friends said something. Bottom line is that unless he was delusional or totally detached from reality, most if not all of his final actions were of his own. | |
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| Would you date someone on antidepressants?
Posted: 5/8/2008 3:01:50 PM |
well im not here to argue with who thinks anti depressants kill and who dont. i answered the question ..would u date somene on antidepressants. my answer is no and i gave my reason why. doesnt matter who belives my reason is right or wrong. if u disagree thats your chioce. but my answer remains the same.......NO.
Then let it go. Dear ME..........argue your point and then let it go. My goodness....unless you've been there, you have no idea what it feels like to NOT want to go on. Kudos to you for being one of the few that lives life in the bliss. Most of us have had periods or long periods of anguish, heartache and the inability to cope with the mundane, routine, day-to-day drudgery of what lies beneath the surface of the facade. To sadly admit you've had those times means much more than the reality of pretend. As I previously stated, I've never been clinically depressed..............that doesn't, mean I haven't been or maybe are now ~ it means, no medical or mental health professional stated on papaer that I was/am. I find it exceptionally had to imagine that one's life is so stallar that you've never felt totally alone, exempt, lost, empty or profound sadness ~ ONE EXCEPTION:
You've never really, truly lived.
Otherwise, kudos to you ~ you beat the odds. Find someone much like yourself and you'll live eternal bliss......but it makes one ponder: Why are you on a free dating site if your life is lived so blissfully and uninhibited?????????
Nevertheless ~ to those who survived via meds: KUDOS.
Those who survived without: WOW! Even more kudos.
To those who live in denial and/or disregard: shame on you!!!!
Bless all of you who had the courage to be honest. Non of us life a sadness/depression filled life ~ if you are told so ... someone is pulling the "I'm so perfect" card....beware
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