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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 1:13:01 AM | I don't see how this is much different then picking up someone at a bar. Which I am sure almost everyone has done at least once.
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 7:59:46 AM | Re the Opost
"Knowing" another person is a relative term. It usually takes very long time and usually sex takes place before that.
Thus IMO, know or not, "casual" or "serious", protection must ALWAYS be used. | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 11:53:52 AM |
Anytime you have sex with someone, there is a risk regardless if that person is a stranger or not. Even if you had known someone for 5 yrs before having sex with them, would you know their sexual history prior to meeting them? Probably not. The only way you would be completely safe is abstinence. BTW most people do have some type of herpes ( usually oral / HSV-1 ). Oral herpes can be spread by kissing.
That in no way nullifies the fact that having "casual sex" with strangers amps up the likelihood of one contracting a sexually transmitted disease... Quite obviously a person in a monogamous relationship can contract an STD from a partner who has been unfaithful.. And you can know a person 10 yrs and not be sure unless you both are tested.....But that's not the topic - The topic is "Casual sex with Strangers"..... Obviously abstinence is the way to be safe blah blah ....but that's not the reality for most so the best one can do is protect oneself as much as possible.. BTW obviously I was referring to type 2 (HSV-2)/genital herpes... which is why I mentioned condom use | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 12:24:45 PM | oooh.. I am so confused.. must me an age thing...
we are not talking about sleeping... because, I remember when / while I was part of uncle's defense machine.. had lot's of other people sharing my same accommodations.. of, course the best the Army could offer...
as for sex.. ditto on most replies, at least two dates.. and then I still don't like to sleep over.. grin..  | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 2:30:32 PM | Re the Opost
Maybe serious sex with enemies (as opposed to any type of sex with strangers and friends) is the best!!! lol lol After all, they do that one should keep one's friend close and one's enemies even closer!! lol
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 2:38:31 PM | | The free love experiment of the 60's was largely a failure. The repercussions of sexual exploration have left people scattered in opinion and many times confused. Know yourself. Protect yourself. For me, there will be no casual sex with strangers, or even with someone I know. Emotions are involved and vulnerable. I have no interest in being hurt or hurting anyone else. If emotions are NOT involved, I may as well resort to electronics... | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 2:56:55 PM | The free love wasn't a failure, just newer and more dangerous diseases came about. People still swing, still fool around and still have casual sex.
I don't need to love someone, quite the opposite. I prefer to the know the person enough to hold a conversation with them but beyond that, all is fair in love and war (sex can be considered both). | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 5:08:26 PM | | Back in the day I sure would......but now....not so much......to many crazy people out there.....and to many diseases..... | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 5:10:26 PM | | MSG 153......so how's that guy you were talking about in your post lately...the nice one that picked you up when your car broke down? Any news on him? | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 5:32:35 PM | | I have never had sex with a complete stranger and don't believe I ever could for several reasons. The first being that in this day and age you don't know how many ppl that person has had sex with and how likely it is that they have some form of an STD, its easy enough for some random person to tell a stranger hey its okay I'm clean when they aren't and now you have the STD also. Second condoms brake, shit happens and no matter how careful you are its always possible for one little sperm to get through all the barriers and oops nine months later one baby no father. Third the act of sex its self is very intense and emotional if your doing it right and there is absolutely no way that a complete stranger is gonna know what does it for you and personally I don't wanna spend all night saying nope thats not it cause that just wreks it for everyone. Sex is always better with ppl that you know and who are somewhat close to you they know how to judge your responses better and please you better...and vice versa for them also. | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 7:26:59 PM | That in no way nullifies the fact that having "casual sex" with strangers amps up the likelihood of one contracting a sexually transmitted disease... Quite obviously a person in a monogamous relationship can contract an STD from a partner who has been unfaithful.. And you can know a person 10 yrs and not be sure unless you both are tested.....But that's not the topic - The topic is "Casual sex with Strangers".....
I know what the topic of thread is. My point is there is a risk for STDs anytime you have "casual sex" whether it's hooking up with a random stranger at a bar or having a FWB relationship with someone that you have known for several years. | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 7:31:16 PM | | I have a person that works for me that had casual sex and got the woman pregnant the first time. He was 18 and the dolt married her and had another kid. Needless to say, the loud arguments over the phone that ensue about support payments and all the other BS is enough for me to say no thanks. | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 7:50:47 PM | Seems pointless to me. Sex without emotion just feels hollow, leaving you feel empty inside. First time, and only time I had sex someone I had just met that night (in my teens) was just weird. Sure it was good sex, but once it was over we were both just lying there with nothing to say, and feeling awkward about the whole thing. There was no booze or anything involved, just lust, but once the dust settled we both realized that it was something that shouldn't have happened.
Lucky for me we turned out to be really good friends after awhile, and even dated. At that point the sex was amazing because there was an emotional connection. We were sharing something with each other, rather than doing something that is just slightly above masturbation. | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 11:49:22 PM | "Knowing" another person is a relative term. It usually takes very long time and usually sex takes place before that. "
I second that.
Also, I would like to point out to those of you talking about "meaningless sex" or "sex without emotion"... I don't think sex is ever either of those things. It might just not have the same emotions as it would with people you know better.
Me personally? I think I'm more comfortable having sex with people I don't know than with people I'm friends with... I'm less afraid of them finding out something about me that would cause them to no longer like me, so I feel freer. I think some term this "intimacy issues" | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 11:56:57 PM | Any woman who get sex with stranger she has to insist on using condom. If you are desperate to have sex with some one you don't know buy a condom. In my own personal opinion having a sex with stranger is just like hiring a hooker. It is just mechanical, there is no love feeling. Not my style. | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/18/2008 1:11:51 AM | im stih at it so sleep with strangers all the time !! its less imbarassing that way !  | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/18/2008 7:00:19 AM | Are you people serious?
If you're worried about unwanted pregnancy, use protection, better yet get fixed. It's awesome. Almost as awesome as never having to listen to another woman lie about being pregnant to see if you "really" love her.
If you're worried about STD's, use protection, better yet get tested regularly. Better yet, try not to sleep with trolls and ditch-pigs. Not infallible, but at least as effective as marriage or dating sites.
If you're worried about never having decent sex again, just follow the advice of some of these helpful, apparently saintly and probably chudly posters. Pretty much garaunteed to never get laid. Unless it's with some other doddering fool that waited until they were one step into the grave from the old folks home to decide to take a crack at life and live with the consequences. | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/18/2008 8:00:22 AM | Better yet, try not to sleep with trolls and ditch-pigs.
OMG.......ditch- pig
that was freakin hilarious...... ty for that comment.... | |
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| Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/18/2008 8:03:14 AM | yes i could do it ,it wouldnt worry me as long as i liked and fancied the person. yes please. | |
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