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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/23/2008 8:04:34 PM | Mr. Hopeful_73...
I think you asked a good question, and I think you received some really good answers as well. It just takes a little time to weed through the opinions of people you were not asking.
Glad you found some insights you were looking for!
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/23/2008 9:36:36 PM | | hopeful 73, If this is such a problem to you, just pass their profiles by or does it bother you so much that these women do not find YOU to their liking and you feel defensive. Not every woman is for every man nor every man for every woman. I just know that I would rather find someone that shares my belief on the more important things in my life and not live with arguing and defensiveness for life. Any one that I should date could be a potential life partner. (Example)...I am a heavy set woman and so many men state right up front that this not a woman for them. I do not jump and fuss because they are discriminating against large people because they are stating what is important in their life and what they are looking for in a possible mate. That is their right and I would not be happy with someone that was looking for something other than myself. That is another topic but I was using it to make a point. If these women have a specification for a possible partner in their profile and it does not fit you, just find someone else to your liking. There are plenty others that do not require it. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/25/2008 10:39:24 PM | If you are talking religion, I understand your question but if you are mixing man made religion and our Father's creation; I can respond.
First, you do not be to be religious to beleive, you just need to seek direction from above and follow it. Women are looking for Godly men because God represents protection. Since 1968, human beings have started the reconstruction of Sodom and Gomorrah. Today, these cities of lust have expand to the point of non return. Women need respect; the woman has been formed from the man who acepted her as the bone s of his bones, the flesh of his flesh. He was not forced to accept her, he just did. the woman was not formed from the feet of the man, otherwise she would be under the man; she was not formed from the back of the man otherwise she would be behind the man, she was not formed from the head of the man otherwise she would only be a thought but she was formed from his side. That means that she is at the same level of man as a companion of equal values. She is the complementary of the man.
Today women need for men to remember that; they are not objects of property but men are treating them as such, they are not objects of satisfaction but it is what men are looking for, she is not a thing to be rejected or trashed after use but men are acting that way. Consequently, women are reminding men who they are; the want a godly man because God has respect and love for her; as a matter of facts, it is through a woman that men heard of the resurrection fo Christ.
So brother, keep in your heart that a woman wants repsect because she deserves it. Just think for a minute if you were a woman and that men were running after you for intimate moments only? How would you feel? Love between a man and a woman is the most beautiful thing that can happen to someone. Why? Because it is through love that God created us, in the image of God because God is love. Something to meditate on Brother. Just use your right to beleive as it is not a matter of religion but a matter of living, breathing and walking relationship with Him. Trust me, it is beautiful.
By grace
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/31/2008 11:46:44 AM | It's been my experience, (here and elsewhere) that any one who OVERstresses the fact That God, kids, dogs, or anything first, is merely paving the road for an easy cop-out if the need arises.
They do not understand the teachings of Christ, who did not hang out with "religious people" He often hung out with the lowest of society, teaching them what he believed in, tring to lift them up. he never excluded anyone. I do not go to church anymore, because it's been distorted to a "I'm more holy (and somewhat better)that you" sort of thing. They missed the point by a country mile!
We all know that kids need to come first. However, things seldom is what they seem, especially today.
This point is not God. The point is that these people are less than honest, For Example: Instead of having the honesty to say, "I'm sorry but I am simply not attracted to you," They are so afraid of conflict, they will simply point to religious differences, (or child) whatever they stress. It's simply a mental escape route in their mind, If they feel the need to take it. 99% of the time, they do exactly that.
To be frank, it's just another silly game people play, because they have not the balls to be honest about their own feelings. Actually, a lack of moral programming, that reeks of dishonesty.
Conversely, as the original poster indicated they are typically anything but angelic in nature. That is a sure indication that it is, in fact.............just another game people play.
It's easy to "hide behind god" or anything else to avoid a conflict. That tells me that these people, besides having very poor coping skills, are somewhat dishonest. That alone is a instant dismissal in my mind for considering them for a life-long mate.
Anytime, anyone over-stresses something on a profile, should be a cause for pause, Be it God, children, dogs, or excessive negative statements .
Take Care
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/31/2008 12:51:02 PM | I don't know what kinda women the OP hangs out with. Maybe he should stay away from churches?
I would never get along with a religious person.. Religion is a huge bullshit story. People who believe in bullshit are usually not smart to begin with. hehe | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:32:12 PM | | You think you got it bad. I'm smack in the middle of the bible belt here in NC....more like the buckle of the belt. I've been here a little over a year and I couldn't tell you how many times I've been told I'm going to burn in hell because I'm not saved. LOL The hypocracy here is unbelievable. My first month here I was in a bar with a co worker. He was talking to this girl at the bar and she went on and on about her faith and how important it is to her. Forty minutes later she was giving this guy head in the back seat of his car. LOL But she'll go to heaven because she's saved. LOL | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/31/2008 2:57:08 PM | Interesting thread. Maybe it comes down to "who owns the copyright on the term 'Christian'. Some will hold to it being almost anyone who claims some belief in Christ, and some will say it is only those who have and a certain 'born again' experience, or speak in tongues, or maybe even belong to certain denominations (or non-dnominations). If I see Christian in a profile, is it a fundamentalist Bible thumper or a mainstream denominational Christian. To settle down with, yes, I want someone who shares my faith (I'm definately the non-fundamentalist variety, but find my faith important).
And, yes, when it comes to premarital sex...guess I can say, if we both agree, why not?
Well, now I'm going to Hell... | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/5/2008 7:32:07 AM |
And, yes, when it comes to premarital sex...guess I can say, if we both agree, why not?
Well, now I'm going to Hell...
I have read the bible cover to cover, and I have yet to discover anything that prohibits premarital sex, or co-habitation.
There are many "tradition's" that some people take as fact,
as a matter of fact, I cant cite several errors in the Bible.
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/5/2008 8:44:37 PM |
Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Because it's something that is important to that person , and when something is important to you , you want to have it in common with someone you love. We all have things that we want and need to be able to share and have in common with the person we love. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/5/2008 9:32:41 PM | (Quote) I do not want to be with any man who would put a religion over his relationship and when I read, "I put God first in my life ... ", then I have to question how true that person would be to me in a relationship.
** ...If I fell ill and needed that person, would they be able to give up "Church night" to stay home and help me ... or would their so-called "God" come first
Religion is not God! Jesus hated religion and He blasted the Pharisies because of it. If someone is putting God first then they can be more loving and true towards their spouse ...Going to church is not all there is to serving God...Taking care of a sick loved one is has much a part of it as anything...There would be nothing more spiritual to me then sitting beside my loved one's bedside, holding their hand and letting them feel not only my love but God's love also...You guys are missing the whole point..GOD IS LOVE and he shines through us..It is spirituality, the Holy Spirit!...Religion could be pulling on your socks every morning , at the same time in the exact same place, the exact same way....Religion is nothing!.......... | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/11/2008 9:27:20 AM | My requirement is that they accept everyone as equals and if they come up to me with some kind of spiritual 'yoke' that's meant to elevate one belief system over another I'll bust it in half. If you are so shallow as to think your beliefs are better than everyone else's, you're definately not for me.
In short, we all have our requirements. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:56:57 PM | > I want a man who loves the Lord, puts their family second after the Lord, ...
Is there anyone SO religious that they would actually give their family and loved ones a back seat to a religious fantasy??? That, my friends, is just plain WEIRD!
You are interpreting through the eyes of an non-believer otherwise you would know "God is Love" and loving God teaches us to be "other-centered" rather than "self-centered". Loving the family next in terms of importance ensures "self" doesn't get inserted into the equation next. In my mind, loving one's family more than ones' self is to their benefit by ensuring they get the attention and effort first. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:02:04 PM | If you think about it, imagine a marriage, how two people need to really come together to work towards a common goal and ideas more so then just even people who know eachother has friends. Look at the threads how much the non believers will fight with the believers, now imagine trying to bring the two together and trying to have a marriage work? lol.
The Christian/biblical ideal is one of "putting the other person first" and is required of both partners in marriage. If both marriage partners do this, they each become "first" in someone's life, just not their own. It is given and reciprocated. If one partner practices this but not the other, then one person is "first" in both partner's lives and one is "first" in neither.
See . . . unequally yoked. Doesn't work. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:47:47 PM | Religion is just yet anoter complicating factor in the relationship game. Some religions state that you cannot date or marry outside that religion and that must be respected.
Whenever I see a mention of G-d I take it as a yellow light, like don't tell a christian who's open to dating other religions that Yeshu ben Yosef AKA "Jesus Christ" isn't the real messiah and may have never even existed. Proof is in the Torah and the Talmud that the real Messiah will build the third temple, bring in world peace, and give everyone 2,800 slaves (which will probably be so far into the future that they will be robots).
And BTW "G-d" is just a false name for YHWH/Adonai, G-d is actually the English way of saying Elokiym. There are many god's but only ONE creator and that is something christians don't realise. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/11/2008 6:32:23 PM | Msg. 1
In any circumstance if one has to "believe in" anything, I've found that it's pure drivel. Including the mandatory belief in a "diety x" on a clearly secular website.
If their interested is in "the Christian god" but still interested in sex without marrage, odds are its a well trodden path of sin and sexual repression. A repression of their obviously all too human responses to a lack of acceptable pairings from those serving their "same god".
So what now? Convert or no sex?
How sad...for you "Christians", as historically many "Christian" organisations were disavowed because of their "sex and salvation" schemings.
I think, that the prescence of supposedly "Christian" peoples on a secular dating site, speaks louder than any biblical belief or loudly spoken convictions could. Especially when it comes to "all soo important" maters of having to posess a common faith. A faith I note, that in regaurds to sex, is without exception as to when thats acceptable, and rest assured out of wedlock it is not. But this is conviently and cunningly overlooked when dating abroad, because matters of faith, or lack thereof, are "all so important".
So I say thus:
If a person wants to claim the title of "Christian" then claim your victory over sin completely. But please don't waste my time with a "Christan Mythology", which is as weakly valid as the human convictions that drive it, and create it. ;)
Rember of whom you serve dear "chistians". Whom is your "god" exactly?
Ohh..thats right, you were on a secular e-vacation and "forgot".
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/12/2008 7:47:40 AM | There is an increasing number of atheist out there and for some that's scary. It can definitely become a deal breaker as a relationship become more serious. To each his own.
To add, I don't care how religious/spiritual you are, sex sells. Today's world revolves around it. (My opinion) I guess it's up to the individual to how far they are willing to compromise their beliefs.
I think that spirituality is human nature. (I think I learned that in sociology) Being spiritual doesn't mean that you are religious.
Although misleading, these "women" you are speaking of are probably looking for something serious. You can catch more bee's with honey, right?
I know it sounds like I am for this, but I am not. I just think that it is sad that you have to compromise your morals in order to avoid being alone.
I think we all do it on some level. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/12/2008 8:35:53 AM | To someone who isn't religious at all, I'm sure that most people of faith seem "super-religious" to you. You stated that some of the women you've come across on here say how they love GOD, and yet have .....less than godly pics. Well, that's because loving GOD doesn't recluse you from being human . Also, women ( even women who beleive in GOD) like to have a good time and look,and feel sexy. Plenty of people see this as a contradiction. I see it as a matter of development. As they grow in their faith, certain things will be cast off and put away. I know a lot of people (myself too) who drank more,smoked more,had sex more,and partied more...way more than the average person, but because of maturing in Christ,and in general, put these things aside. Also, nomeclature might have things hung up a bit as well. There is a difference between spirituality,and being religious. Spirituality is an awareness,and a connection with GOD. You don't need a church, or a preacher,or a bible to be spiritual. The definition of religion is actually regimine. So religion is 'supposed' to be a pathway to sprituality. But all religions are intrinsically flawed for one reason...us people. Religious orders are run by people. Imperfect, sometimes confused,or conflicted(normal) people, not terribly unlike the women you saw with the godly words, and the sexy pics. Im sure you know some folks who are important, who seem to have everythng together, and have all the answers to everything, yet inside they struggle with serious issues. Some of these people are religious leadres. They don't love GOD any less, and GOD doesn't love them any less. However nothing perfect, can come from somethin imperfect. But I digress. I personally DO go to church every week, that's MY path that I need to take. Your's obviously is different. I can't judge you,mainly because I don;t have a heaven, or a hell to put you in. In addition the bible says clearly "Judge not lest YE be judged". However the bible does state for followers of Christ to "Be ye not unequally yoked with unbelivers". So that's no doubt a reason why a person of faith would not want to date a person w/out it. I'm faaaaar from perfect(as is everyone). There's a saying that comes to mind. "I may not be what I should be, but thank GOD I'm not what I used to be". Food for thought my man. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/12/2008 3:03:58 PM |
There is an increasing number of atheist out there and for some that's scary. It can definitely become a deal breaker as a relationship become more serious.
But Penn Gillette and Richard Dawkins are athiest and two of the smartest people in the history of the world, I try to emulate such men due to their confidence and logical abilities although I believe in YHWH.
I know it sounds like I am for this, but I am not. I just think that it is sad that you have to compromise your morals in order to avoid being alone.
These so-called "morals" are often warped and aren't real morals. Force, fraud, coercion, and theft are the only true things that are immoral. Sex isn't immoral (unless it's cheating on a spouse you could be regularly having sex with), foistering a concept of original sin onto people is immoral. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 6/14/2008 6:10:31 AM | i have seen a lot of this in the profiles of women past 40 and it is more noticeable in profiles of women 50 plus. so in those age brackets it does appear often.
a friend of mine who is one of the few true christians i know said to me one day,
you are from the woodstock generation, that is true even though i didn't attend woodstock my heart was there and i have met a lot of people who were at woodstock.
i guess the comment came from her knowing i lived with the hippies for a couple of months in atlanta in 1970 while i was attending school to get my FCC first class license in electronics to work in radio.
i learned a lot from the hippie generation. one thing that has always stood out in my mind since then is this, each person has a right to their own opinion whether its religious or political or whatever.
i have noticed that sometimes some profiles will have pictures in very provocative poses with a lot of boob, leg and butt in the pics and say they are looking for someone who puts god first and at the bottom of the profile it will say, must not be looking for sex or intimate encounter.
after all this is said my conclusion is that these women are looking for a man who thinks they are beautiful and sexy, a man who will go to church and pray with them,
and a man who has erectile disfunction and can't afford viagra so she doesn't have to sleep with him. just my thoughts.
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