| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/9/2008 2:36:19 PM | Well they don;t want you to worship god they want you to worship their god so they can Khali-Maa! You to death like Indanna jones and the temple of doom! Seriously too amny jebus freaks out there! I am not drinking the Koolaid.
1. You cannot define morality or ethics through religion. being holy does not make you mroe ethically sound. It does not give you the moral high road over others.
2. Many of these women who are "Of God" Usually are or were wild childs as you put it ebfore they got into Jebus! and salty Cheeses! They did heavy drugs and hit rock bottom, met someoen at a clinic or support group and got obsessed with religion instead of drugs. they had premarital sex without protection probably to score the drugs and often have unwanted children. there is this girl in my area on POF who says in her profile. that they must share the same faith in god. She is lsited as Chritian-other. Which cold be anything even a cult and her baby has a weird egg-shaped head.
it elly ou these people are crazy and you should stay away they do things that are stupid and ethically unsound and they judge you by thinking they ahve some moral authority now thatt ehy are religious. They don;t even say that they are religious and thik their religion is the only valid one and better than all the others and want to convert the world. I stay away form these people. And In addition Ia m nto affraid to state which religion I am unlike these people who are not too quick to divulge as they cna be the "Door Knocking and/or Kool-Aid Drinking type"
As for myself I am a non religious jew who dates women based on whether I like them or not. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/9/2008 2:37:32 PM | Wow, I popped on over to this thread because I happen to see it's still going and getting a lot of responces which kind of suprised me sinse to me it's a simple thing as another poster said. "If you don't like a profile, why not just skip over it, why complain so much" I read through the responces and I see that a few were aimed at me and made me chuckle so I figure what the heck, I'll respond.
This one is a riot expecially considering the source. I'll explain in a moment and I usually don't even bother responding to nonsense like these posts but I thought I'll have a little fun here.
Roses, your profile is a huge turn-off. It consists entirely of requirements for your date, and nothing about you other than the fact that you're Christian- which makes you look amazingly shallow.
Why on earth would any woman be interested?
Ok, first you didn't even read my profile sinse it does share info about me. Opps wow imagine a guy (me) on here who actually lays it out there so people can skip my profile if they are not a match and no game playing here. I'm not here for a popularity contest, I'm here to find the one woman that fits what I seek. Oh gosh, here it goes with that famous "shallow" word again. Ok, so I read your profile and considering this comes from someone who has nothing even in your profile except your headline which reads 'Dangerous curves ahead' LOL I'll be thankful that your someone who is not at all interested in me and if you consider me "shallow" well then thanks! at least that means we don't have to get to know eachother. 
rosesforyou YOU ARE SERIOUSLY DERANGED. GOD HIMSELF COULDNT LIVE UP TO YOUR PSYCHOTIC REQUIREMENTS. I HOPE YOU HAVE A FUN TIME LOOKING FOR "THE ONE" BECAUSE YOUR GONNA BE DAMN OLD BEFORE YOU FIND HER
 Just  Ok, this comment I'll take as someone just having fun with me and thats cool. With that said, deranged? nah! As to the rest of what you said, even if I didn't meet that special someone, just as you may not yourself  I would rather be single for life then end up with someone who I know I would not truly be happy with, in my opinion to many peope don't get specific enough or they end up settling for that wrong person and end up unhappy, bitter and usually divorced. I would rather stay true to myself and search for that special gem then to settle.
Rosesforyou, have you tried looking for a lady in a church since a church lady is what your looking for?
Actually I'm not looking for a "church lady" but your question is fair enough. I want someone who has a love for Christ in her heart and is not wrapped up in a building. In my opinion, people get to involved with the pastor and the who’s who of the church rather then preaching the heart of the matter in being a Christian which is about salvation through Jesus. I can understand why some people get put off by Christianity because of the stuff that goes on in many of the "Christian" religions. I find the most churches to be to focused on the prosperity gospel and are just to luke warm on main issues. The point though is don't throw the baby out with the bath water so to speak.
Just wanted to respond to those comments. Not to get off the thread topic though and back on it, I feel that it really is simple. There are profiles I see and I don't care for them but the bottom line is, I just move on. After all, this is is what it's all about, looking for that one person that IS right for us. If someone wishes to avoid me because I say how important God is in my life, then thats fine, no problem. They are not the person then for me and I know I'm not for them.
Happy fishing.
Roses
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/9/2008 3:09:20 PM | It is just a time saver.
I am a very spiritual person but am not a christian (gave catholicism up for lent many years ago). I would have no problem with dating someone who is a christian but someone who was knee deep in the thick of it, it really would not work out.
I state very clearly in my profile, if you mention Jesus anywhere in your profile, we are probably not a good match!
I need someone who thinks, not someone who buys the story line hook-line- and sinker. Apparently those women need the opposite. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/9/2008 3:37:45 PM | | I really enjoyed my religion classes in college. I believe there is something to gain in ALL religions. I wont bash your beliefs and dont bash mine. Some are too far fetched for a realist as myself but I am open minded unlike some of my friends and family. They have shed actual tears about me not being in heaven with them but Son of Sam is going to be there and that guy gives me the f-ing creeps!! | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:14:20 PM |
I really enjoyed my religion classes in college. I believe there is something to gain in ALL religions. I wont bash your beliefs and dont bash mine. Some are too far fetched for a realist as myself but I am open minded unlike some of my friends and family. They have shed actual tears about me not being in heaven with them but Son of Sam is going to be there and that guy gives me the f-ing creeps!!
I couldnt agree more. I think like all things, religeon is best taken in moderation. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:16:37 AM |
I really enjoyed my religion classes in college.
I really enjoyed looking at your legs in college .......... in fact.... I am experiencing a visual about them at this very moment ......................... | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:15:58 PM | I would guess that the reason someone's states their mate "must love God" has more to do with a previous relationship problem... where morals and ethics differ, it is an impossible obstacle.
But, just because someone says that, does not mean they actually practice it.
How many say "I'm funny, I'm smart, easy-going" blah, blah.
If you've met a few, gone back and looked at their profiles and what they advertise as being -- no doubt you will find many things in direct contrast to how you see them. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:33:49 PM | The visual hypocrisy is amazing isn't it?
I, like you, are also non-religious ...let me be clear I am technically a scientific agnostic but we are atheists to Zeus and Thor , so why not go one (.. of Abraham) God more? The only question that I can directly address is 3) Any one that goes out of their way to mention their belief in a god saves me the effort of having to waste any more time on the profile. The road to agnosticism/atheism is one that takes time and education to achieve, some people never get there and I'd just rather deal with people that have the same level of enlightenment as I do. Especially if in considering a long term prospect the idea of raising kids come into the mix, imagine the fights that would result...you telling your child that all Gods are fictitious human comfort creations and your wife telling them that the they will burn in hell for being gay. What a recipe for a confused child that would be! | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:35:37 PM | "World view" is something that was defined for me when I took a class entitled, "Religion in American Society." Each of us comes from a basic world view... it is like the "glasses through which we view" the world. If our mate looks at things so totally different from ourselves, the relationship is destined to fail.
Keeping that in mind, why would I leave something out of my profile that is such an important prerequisite for a workable long term relationship (WITH ME)? Some people are turned off by the mention of God or Jesus... and THAT'S OKAY! If my profile were so neutral that everyone liked to read it and responded to it, then I wouldn't really be being true to myself. To me, there is no point of discussing a potential relationship (which I hope moves toward a LTR), if God is not a part of it!
As far as those profiles that send mixed messages... I can't really speak for them... I just know that even though I am a fallible and imperfect human being, I love God, and that "relationship" with God is a priority with me. After all, God knows full well how imperfect I am! The guy who I consider for a LTR must also view that relationship (with God) as important ...then we can live our imperfect lives loving God together, and THAT is what being a believer is all about.
Why would I waste someone's time who does not believe the same way I do? That would be unfair and inconsiderate. I don't need every guy chasing after me... ...just the ONE who feels the same way I do about the important things in life! 
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:47:56 PM | rosesforyou
I have to say I admire your opinion. I dont' meet your criteria (age, kids, etc) but it is refreshing to find someone on this site that doesn't believe in using women, jumping into bed,etc. I have removed my pictures from this site because I have found nothing but players on here.
Why is everyone so against God? With all the horrible things in the world we need more God and less self-worship. A man who truly loves God is a true man of integrity.
I love cats and horror movies too. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:55:13 PM | I freely admit not to being a theological expert, but I see a red flag, when a woman is religious.
I my meager life experience, such women are bad news, to be ditched as soon as possible. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:29:07 PM | I would have to take on this question per each woman, because I'm certain there's a variety of motivations for each to assert this requirement. I've seen women who hide behind God and need to be able to pelt you when you deviate from how she sees her life needing to be. I do mean "hide". There's lots of people that think they're Gods best buddy and wear thick chains with bars on their windows. Their radios tuned only to Christian stations because something evil might slip in. If you bring up something about God they become very opinionated with a high degree of rigidity and verge argumentative, because they fight for God! ...in the quiet recesses of their hearts lurks fear and shame; is it there? No! That would be wrong!
I look up at the evening sky and I say WOW! It's always beyond me to understand what it takes for everything to be as it is...I will never get it.
There's a terrorist with no sense of humor (because he's not important feeling) going to blow me up for God. Ask him how he really feels...he forgot a long time ago.
Did I say I'm a Christian? But I'm free.
Romans 14:22 The faith which you have, have as your own conviction before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves.
Is it that you want a man to follow God, or to follow you? | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 2:36:01 PM | I do understand a person wanting to be on the same level with their partner in as many ways as possible. And when youre talking about morals and values, of course there has to be some kind of common thread. I guess I just believed that, as a society, we had moved beyond the judging of people based on what they religiously believe or dont believe. At least here in the US, anyways.
Maybe I just live in more progressive/liberal area than most? I still think that if someone has a strong Christian belief...or any other belief, for that matter...it should be something personal to them. Why the need to be with someone who is also "saved"? I guess as someone who never has understood the thinking of a hardcore Christian, this is why I have such a hard time with this.
To me, Im very open to many things in a partner...I dont smoke but Ive dated several ladies who do. I dont drink much but have dated a few who can pound the beer as well as any man. Religion, to me, is just another one of those things that I personally think is no biggie...you do your thing and Ill do mine. I wont make you try to believe in my ideals if you dont try to ram yours down my throat. (Same as I wont make you quit smoking for me...if you want to do so for yourself one day, thats great). There isnt a "right" or "wrong" answer in matters of religion, because if there were then there wouldnt be so many different faiths (including the various Christian ones).
I do pass by the people who make a big deal out of this, obviously. That wasnt my original point. What I was asking was why I had to? Why so much close-mindedness? Again, I guess I must just surround myself with more liberals & intellects than I realized, because among the people Ive known in life this is just a hypocritical & downright dumb issue to filter a potential mate with. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/11/2008 3:25:49 PM |
Religion, to me, is just another one of those things that I personally think is no biggie...you do your thing and Ill do mine
Hopeful73 - smoking and drinking are physical things. Religion is a spiritual and somewhat emotional thing, so is no way comparable in what you would put up with and what you wont, when in a relationship. That is probably why many women who love god, also require it in a man. I find personally that a lot of men who are non religious are a bit like loose cannons, who maybe dont see the bigger picture. If you are a christian (or other religion) you do see the bigger picture, and dont live day to day drifting along doing the superficial, you have a lot more thought about things on a deeper level. Its hard to explain, and I'm not the best but I think people who love god are definitely on a different plane to those that dont, or dont believe, and it is better when two people are on the same level and share that religious connection than having to debate about it. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 3:46:31 PM | I'm a Christian woman who accepted the Lord Jesus Christ when I was 28 (30 years now as a Christian) and through reading the Bible have come to know Him personally and His ways and what He asks of His children. I would, therefore, not want to date a man that doesn't know the Lord and is also not "born again." Does this mean that you gentleman that don't know the Lord, are not decent, good man. No it doesn't mean that. But the Bible is very clear about Christians not dating non-Christian men, as that would mean we are "unequally yoked." Our thinking and directions in life are different and it just won't work.
Besides, a man that loves the Lord with all his heart, mind and soul, would also love his woman that way, and that means it's a deeper, less controlling, more loving relationship, for the whole of the Bible is about knowing God and God is love. Learning God's ways means learning to love His way -- and sadly in the past 30 years, relationships aren't what they used to be and it's not for the better. So many men speak of not wanting a "drama queen." Drama queens are women that have been used, rejected and abandoned. If men understand the true meaning of love and decided to really care about his woman, there would be a whole lot more love and a whole lot less drama.
The sad part is that many of you on this site just don't understand what it means to know the Lord. It can only truly begin when you have invited Him into your heart -- this is the Salvation message that changes lives and makes sinners into saints in the Lord's eyes. Are we perfect, NO, but our desire is to please our Lord, and incidcently a woman's desire to please her Lord is also her desire to please her man -- for all the right reasons.
So, to sum up my thoughts, women who understand the meaning of true love want a man who also understands the meaning of true love and that begins in a relationship with the God who created them and the rules He sets forth in His bible as to what issues in life bring joy and blessings and what issues bring sorrow and confusion. He says "what communion has darkness with light." And IF you don't know the Lord, you are in darkness. You can get as mad as you want at this last statement, but it's true according to the Bible. Knowing Him brings us to the Light Himself -- and it opens up a whole new vista in discovering an ever abiding deep relationship with the God who says He is light and Love. Believe me, it's true. I would not want to date a man who didn't know the joy and deep abidling relationship of such a precious, deep gift of knowing my God! | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/11/2008 3:47:23 PM |
So as a non-religious person my questions are these:
1) Whats up with the incresing number of females seeking "Godly" men lately?
2) Why are you looking for someone who's super religious but at the same time showing the world what a wildchild you are?
3) How many men see the mention of God in a profile and immediately move on, as I do?
4) Why is it so important to anyone of any faith that someone theyre dating believes along the same lines as you so strictly?
bob-o-link, I do agree with you!
op your statement "non-religious" sounds more like agnostic and uneducated.
I am someone that has been questioned about wearing whatever clothing I feel like, someone thinks that isn't being a Christian. Actually it is the opposite, God wants us to take care of his likeness and be happy. Clothing doesn't make a person good or evil.
I have looked for a Christian man as I am a Christian and do believe in God. But saying Godly, that is weird. I don't see a man being called Godly. I have seen God like men on here though...
What is super religious? Is that like someone with extra religion. You can't supersize being a Christian or have a side of another religion...
Is there something wrong with being wild? I like rock and love to have fun! It doesn't conflict at all with being a Christian. Of course there is a difference between being wild and being a sleeze etc. Jesus went wild when he saw the Jewish people exchanging unpure/unclean money for "clean" money. Yeah, he was a total wildman. The original long hair rocked the world!
Not a man, so can't say as I have ever moved on when I read God in a woman's profile. I do know that I wouldn't go out with a man that said he had an obligation to go to church. You attend church to share and be with others of like mind and spirit, not as an obligation. Same as a man telling me that children are born in sin...gah...children are born pure and Jesus said so! Of course those that say they are only looking for a good Christian woman and can't spell, can't use proper grammar, etc. really turn me off. How can they have actually read the Bible when they can't spell? (I am not talking about the typo etc., here or there, I am talking about profiles you really can't understand. I am so totally human and spell things wrong etc. I admit I am so not perfect.) I don't consider this being strict. Really, feel people need to read the Bible for themself and not have someone else tell them what they think it says or means.
If someone doesn't have similiar beliefs, it can cause arguments. The more similiarities, likes and dislikes, the more you have in common, the better the chances of your getting along and finding a good connection. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/11/2008 4:32:44 PM | | Don't know why there are women that require this and I don't care because I would run as fast as I could in the opposite direction since I don't wish to deal with zealots or unstable people. | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/11/2008 4:50:48 PM | | In a sense, hopeful, noone is really different from these women who are seeking a man of faith. As far as I can tell, we all would prefer to be with someone who shares our personal value system. As a non-religious man you would prefer not to be with a woman of faith, and vice versa, of course. When you immediately move on, you are contributing not only to your own happiness, but also to the happiness of the woman. Ain't life grand! | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/11/2008 5:08:54 PM | | Recently I met someone on another site. We had 9-10 lengtly emails and we seemed to have a great deal in common and in the 9th email she asked me when we could meet. In the same email she asked me what my thoughts were on GOD. I replied that I was looking forward to meeting her too, and asked her when she would be available and where she would like to meet. I also included that I believe in GOD and although I am not one for organized religion...I try to be the best person I can and believe GOD is more concerned that I keep him close to my heart and I often feel his hand guides me in making good decisions. I didn't hear back from her. I sent her a few emails and she didn't reply. I finally sent an email and said I would really appreciate knowing why see discontinued communication considering she asked when we could meet. She replied that she doesn't believe in GOD and because I did...it would have never worked out...I don't know if mentioning GOD is a positive or negative....but I do know I believe in GOD and always will! | |
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| Why Do So Many Women Require That I Must Love God?
Posted: 5/11/2008 5:16:18 PM | Their are two kinds of people who want tolerance but won't give it and you are one
of them.
Their is a God and he didn't make you a judge. We put our preferences on here because thats what we want.
I want a godley man and a non smoker. If thats not you move on.
By the way mister . .Christians have tits too! ! | |
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