| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:49:53 PM | | Well this is a timely topic for me, as I'm now one and a half week into unemployment. I've always had a job, so it will be interesting to see how girls will respond to a guy who is unemployed and doesn't want to work. Don't get me wrong, I will be using my free time to better myself by learning new things. It's just that I won't see a paycheck for some time and I'll have to start living a more frugal lifestyle, which is all good I think. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:16:15 AM |
Most women only care about money and status. It's not enough to be working, but what is your job, exactly. That is important to them. If you don't make over $30K a year, they'll turn their head and walk away
That's right, we women are all about money - what a crappy statement.
I have to have a man who makes the amount of money I do or more. $30k is a joke now a days that isn't good money. If I make more money then the man does, it creates problems with the man feeling like a "man" in the relationship.
If you are in customer service there is no reason you shouldn't have a job unless you are out of work because of medical problems. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:12:10 AM | | i cant understand why this thread keeps going without this answer.why cant you find a job dude? | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:16:18 AM |
That's right, we women are all about money - what a crappy statement.
How is it a crappy statement? It's a TRUE statement. You just illustrated and supported the claim in your post! Wow. I guess when you get as shallow and superficial as some girls are, you develop brain cramps. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:36:06 AM | | I'm going to have to agree with a lot of people in this thread who say: Forget about the dating for the time being, get a job first. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:50:11 AM | | Well as long as your honest about being unemployed.. I cant speak for other women here but my outlook on dating is this.. I am what I am looking for... I want somone who takes care of themself / so I take care of myself I want someone who is a non-smoker / I am a non smoker I want someone who has a good sense of humor / I have a good sense of humor I want someone who is employed / I am employed ... Its simply the rules of attraction like attracts like be what you are looking for | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:31:43 AM | OP what the women really want is a guy who can sit at home all day with beer bottles piled up on a stand playing online mooching off of them while they go out and work all day and then come home and arrange his beer bottle pyramid so it is asthetically pleasing to the eye while he plays video games and smokes blunts with his buds as he calls her names intermittently grabbing her ass demanding more beers for him and his buds so they can continue to build the pyramid to a higher level than guiness has ever recorded in their books previously as she struts around in boy shorts displaying her nipple rings while making out with the 14 year old boy at the party before sleeping with her friend next to the kitchen sink so she can simultaneously do dishes as she dreams of how bad her last boyfriend was knowing full well that at least this guy is conducting his cheating in the house even if he can't take the time to e-mail her that she has to sleep in the bathroom tonight since he has a date with his transsexual best friend that he would never date before he catches up with his transgender ex-wife who loves to see him wearing green speedo's so that hesh can play with his belly button ring as you wreck your current girlfriends car into a cop car as you try to pee in the swimming pool driving 80 mph down the interstate drinking 2-4 and a 40 ounce during your background check which will include a complete frisk by your new roommate Cheech at the county hotel that you need to get money wired to you or you'll be stranded in Nigeria because you can't come up with 361 Euros for the plane ticket to Alaska to partake in the Klondike race infamously known for causing brain frostbite which is what it appears "YOU ARE SUFFERING FROM IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THIS QUESTION!!!!!"
GET YOUR PRIORITIES IN ORDER
1. GET SOBER
2. LOSE THE BEER BOTTLES PIC
3. GET A JOB
4. GET A PAYCHECK
5. MOVE OUT OF YOUR ROOMIES PLACE, YOU DON'T PAY RENT, SO IT'S NOT YOURS.
6. GET A BANK ACCOUNT
7. GET YOUR OWN FLAT
8. THEN THINK ABOUT GETTING A DATE!!!! | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:17:26 AM | What about the sceanario about a female who is unemployed?
Should SHE build up her self-esteem, not get depressed, get out there and socialize, go and date and feel good about herself.
Let her date treat her well and take care of all her needs.
No rush to just find any old job... don't settle for less....take your time and discover what you really want.
seems like a lot of pple ready to jump on the OP..and to assume that somehow a guy is a bum if he is unemployed. Somehow they are not a worthy member of society.
so some Bimbette who is a casual on-call Barista at the local coffee shop is a more stable and productive member of society?... is due more respect than a single unemployed guy?
I think there is more expected from a male on the dating scene, despite all the liberated and alpha-females these days... there is still the traditional roles expected...the men having the earning ability to take care of the woman.
POSTNOTE: Yabba Dabba... all the best to you my dear.. I too live frugally... I have to...and I know the difference between my Needs and my Wants...we should all think about that one.
I find time down away from work is a great opportunity to do some volunteer work btw.. .not necessarily something longterm...but something as simple as helping out with a fundraiser fun run or volunteer for a cause that is close to you.
Just a suggestion to anyone with time to give. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 3:19:02 PM | I don't judge people based on whether they have a job or not. There could be a very good reason they're not working. Also, I don't think it's fair to judge based on which job or what the income for that job is. Some people hate their jobs. Some people love their job even if it's one that isn't bringing a large income to the table. It's all relative and it can all come crashing down at any time from layoffs, bad luck, collapsing economy and so forth.
If a woman says, 'oh, as long as he's working...' and then turns around when she finds out the guy's job isn't secure or he isn't bringing home over $50, 000, I think that shows a lot about her character. Not only is she a hypocrite but also she's materialistic and superficial.
The only exceptions I make regarding type of job or occupation would probably be lawyers/bankers or even more damaging, politicians. I already don't think too highly of people (only being realistic) without having to consider what type of people become politicians! (That should be somewhat amusing as it is a joke and hopefully you recognized that!). | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:25:50 PM |
What about the scenario about a female who is unemployed?
yep very few men are attracted by the status of a female , not politically correct but women are from what iv observed in life judged on how pleasant their personality is ,age , and physical attractiveness .
men ...well mostly status ,but status is a strange thing ,you can have status by being the funniest guy in a group ,small time drug dealers get status by being the badest guy on the block ,from what I have observed in life ,status can be obtained in all strands and sub section of society ,having lots of friends and acquaintances can be a easy way to obtain status for example .
or being the most discussed on P O F perhaps , who knows ,yep thats it become a P O F Moderator  | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:32:44 PM | It sounds like you're not very goal oriented right now but want to be?
It seems like your priorities arent in the right place right now, I would work on yourself and figure out what you want to do( job wise) then worry about finding a girlfriend, this sounds bad but honestly no woman wants a man that doesnt have a job it just doesnt look good | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:35:56 PM | What about the sceanario about a female who is unemployed?
I don't know from "status," as referred to in message 35. I know from making a living and paying bills and taking care of business.
If a woman had been unemployed for six months already, like the OP, and she could not afford to pay for herself if she went out and her roommate was becoming annoyed by her joblessness, my advice would be EXACTLY THE SAME as it was here.
Sort out your job situation. Use all your energies toward that. Then you can feel less stressed about money, and think about going out with someone to have a good time.
Priorities. Simple as that. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:46:22 PM | yep to answer above .
women are seldom expected to pick up the bill on a first date ,so that would not matter and when on the date I would be surprised if a man judged her for not having a job .
so Priorities. Simple as that. if your female don,t worry about it ,if your a guy better get off your fat .... and find a job ,that's just the way it is !
I really find it annoying these days that we have to pretend men and women play by the same rules ,they obviously don't | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:49:39 PM | | I somewhat disagree with the post above, I think males and females should be employed, everyone needs to be a little independent, what do they do live off their parents or welfare? | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:32:37 PM | I have a problem with the comments of expecting another adult to be responsible enough to find and keep a job, being called close-minded!
I'm sorry, but I busted my ass working two (horrible) jobs to pay my own way through school. I take great pride in knowing that i've always had a job, and always been able to provide for myself. This will never change. I am not looking for a man who makes a lot of money to look after me, and I really don't think that many women are.
I will agree that sometimes circumstances beyond our control bring us to be unemployed. I myself am unemployed right now. This is because I am not physically able to, due to cancer. This is the first time in my adult life i've been unemployed, and frankly it's embarassing for me, even though I have a very good reason to be. I worked until two days before I was admitted to the hospital, and fell into a coma. Why? Because I was not willing to be irresponsible enough to let my bills go. That being said, I also have two full-time jobs awaiting me when the time comes to return to work.
All that being said, if a person (woman or man) is unemployed for the better part of a year, for any reason aside from a phyiscal disability, it speaks volume about the type of person they are. I would be forced to assess them as lazy, irresponsible, unmotivated, and immature, if they weren't able to quickly pick up SOMETHING to pay their bills with. I don't want to get involved with a person who isn't able to take care of their self. If I can, and have taken care of myself, even when I was in a great deal of pain, and on death's door,why can't they do the same, as an able bodied person?
There is nothing shallow or close-minded about this. It's about being an adult. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:27:24 PM | Thanks! 
Though I just realized I didn't really answer the question. To answer the question, I think it's your own prerogative if you want to get a girlfriend, but it will be very hard to find a good woman, for the reasons I mentioned in my former response. hehe. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:43:51 PM |
I really find it annoying these days that we have to pretend men and women play by the same rules ,they obviously don't
That's probably true in your country -- in mine, we don't give just women money to live on and housing and free childcare for getting pregnant, as you do in yours.
In my world, women have to work just as hard as men to support themselves (and often their children) -- and as Lucretia21 pointed out, sometimes even harder.
So there's no pretending here, there's only facts. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 10:59:23 PM |
I don't know from "status," as referred to in message 35. I know from making a living and paying bills and taking care of business.
If a woman had been unemployed for six months already, like the OP, and she could not afford to pay for herself if she went out and her roommate was becoming annoyed by her joblessness, my advice would be EXACTLY THE SAME as it was here.
Sort out your job situation. Use all your energies toward that. Then you can feel less stressed about money, and think about going out with someone to have a good time.
Priorities. Simple as that.
Thank you Ursula - my sentiments exactly. If you're out of work, and you're not totally fixated on getting another job, your priorities are out of whack - unless you're retired, self employed, or otherwise against working for someone else and/or being part of the system.
I couldn't even begin to pay attention to whether or not I had a date if I was worried about paying my rent and my bills. Dating goes to the bottom of the list when it comes to making sure you're survival system is in place. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/10/2008 11:01:28 PM | Scottie, i have what could be considered a fairly decent job, and your having better luck than me.
So i'd have to say they'll like you, if they like you, or won't if they don't. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/11/2008 8:22:56 AM | Personally, I would say it depends on what your priorities are in life. I would never put off something as
important as the search for "the One", over something that may be important to some, but not to me. I
am a very loving & romantic person, so to me it would show that this person had good priorities, not bad
ones. But it depends on the individual. Someone very materialistic would think very differently, I suppose.
My viewpoint is different than most, because I have been a mother & housewife, plus disabled, for most
of my adult life. I also grew up in a fairly low-income family, so I grew up with the idea that money didn't
matter. I have dated many unemployed or diabled men, it never made any difference to me, at all. Self-
esteem & self confidence should be about your inner qualities, not your job.
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<div class='quote'>i cant understand why this thread keeps going without this answer.why cant you find a job dude? - passionandsong
It's well known that the unemployment rate in Newcastle, is very high. And I know lots of people are finding
it difficult to find jobs. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/11/2008 8:31:49 AM |
I somewhat disagree with the post above, I think males and females should be employed, everyone needs to be a little independent, what do they do live off their parents or welfare?
didn't say women should not work ,just saying its unlikely to effect a women's dating chances ,as women are seldom judged on such criteria.
anyways no one is going to be honest on here ,its a dating site . | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:24:31 PM | | A subject that's timely for me too, since I lost my job this past week. If I had already been dating someone and we had been out several times, then I would continue to date her and make the most of the situation. However, since I haven't been dating anyone recently, its easy enough for me to focus my attention on what is my number 1 priority, which is to get back to work. And factored into that is the strong potential for me to relocate for a new job; it would be unfair to get involved with someone here since I might be leaving soon anyway. | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:28:25 PM | i'm jobless an have been for a long time for personal reasons...has it effected my dating? i think it has but oh well there loss not mine...
i don't really care about money situation cause i myself don't really have money to spend either | |
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| Looking for love without a job?
Posted: 5/11/2008 12:35:09 PM | "It was bad enough not having the money to treat (my now ex) girlfriend the way I really wanted"
You don't need money to treat a gal good. Go for a walk or to the beach.
Or just 'cuddle' (cringes while he says it).. cmon I'm only having a laugh | |
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