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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:01:23 AM | Well you made some mistakes you have no standards and low self esteem. You should not be dating single moms who are obese and unemployed. jeez! Its ok to date a girl who;s got some mear on her bones but if she;s got as much meat as a cow then moo-oove on! And you know something iw on;t even date someone with children. They should ahve used protection and/or ahd an abortion. It sure beats being poor and uneducated for tyour whole life. Jsut like int he south park epsiode abortion is a way we cheat! So we cna go to college. I just had baby back ribs for dinner last night so Ia m contributing to society!  I think someone should only have chuildren if they are able to provide for them otherwise its cruel. And people should have to have a license and take classes to have children. I'm only 27 years old when I see a girl who is 21 and has kids that are 7 or 2-3 kids it really freaks me out. I love children don;t get me wrong. I just won;t have any until I am financially ready and in a stabel relationship. POF is not a cruel place. Some people ahve too many problems be they emotional or financial or have a bad living situation at home. I tend to avoid these people as I am problem free and don;t need their problems to become my own. My advice is to never give up. And to raise your standards. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:05:33 AM | 
I think the people who have so kindly disapproved of his post have really missed his point!
I have not met anyone from here as yet, in fact ive only been a member for aprox 1 week - However I have never had the honour of writing to so many ignorant, vile and self centered women in all my life. I dont hate women I adore women! However being here is just really degrading at times. I send a person lovely messages, they simply read and delete, make absolutely no attempt to even say "i'm sorry your not really my type. I wish you luck" nothing! They have led me on and post some of the most obviously catalogue model shots I have ever seen. They photoshop past their faces onto bikini clad women because they have not got the decency to be honest with themselves never mind others
Im not ugly, in fact I would consider myself attractive and many others have commented men and women alike. I'm devoted to whoever I fall in love with, I have never ever cheated on a woman in my life. So maybe some of you ladies could please explain to me what i'm doing wrong aswell?!
I totally see his point. The fact this site is free simply invites MEN AND WOMEN to come here and play stupid adolescent games.
OP, if your still about monitoring your thread I enjoyed your post. It made some very valid points and showed us that most people on here are shallow and attention seeking hypocrites  | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:10:34 AM | I agree! I have met some very Lovely Ladies on this site! ... of course, I'm not looking for fashion models, Ladies w/kids hold a certain attraction... I read the profiles... and can see past the Pics! ... a few extra pounds... with a good heart is not unnatractive! But Edwin Markham probably "hit it" with his "Right Kind of People" !
The Right Kind of People
Gone is the city, gone the day,
Yet still the story and the meaning stay:
Once where a prophet in the palm shade basked
A traveler chanced at noon to rest his miles;
"What sort of people may they be," he asked,
"In this proud city on the plains o'erspread?"
"Well, friend, what sort of people whence you came?"
"What sort?" the packman scowled; "why, knaves and fools."
"You'll find the people here the same,"
The wise man said,.
Another stranger in the dusk drew near,
And pausing, cried, "What sort of people here
In your bright city where yon towers arise?"
"Well, friend, what sort of people whence you came?"
"What sort?" the pilgrim smiled,"Good, true and wise."
"You'll find the people here the same,"
The wise man said.
- Edwin Markham
Good Luck! Where ever you go... you'll find the people there... the same! | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:12:32 AM | For a few moments I was feeling sorry for you..tho, if reactions are as bad and as many as you say then I think you need to look at yourself and wonder if maybe your approach is what is the problem.
I for one take offence to the *desparate cougar* term. I am older then many people I associate with but it doesn't mean I am interested in a relationship with them other then a social one. You also mentioned lowering your standards..and again a term *obese unemployed single moms*....wow..you label people, sound like a snob...too bad..your building your own walls. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:18:00 AM | Stephen, by your own admission you've only been on here a week. If the women you've been contacting have "the most obviously catalogue(d) model shots I have ever seen", then why write them in the first place? If you can tell they're phony at the get-go, why indulge? Could it be that you're blindly looking for that sexpot of your dreams while ignoring perfectly reasonable choices all around you?
This is what I meant by people having unrealistic expectations and not separating their fantasies with reality. I see it goes to both genders. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:35:27 AM | No mate on occasion they have contacted me. Not all women are using catalogue shots I think I may have led you to interpret that wrong. I meant some that do make it so obvious - In their case I steer clear and dont bother, if they want to play the come chase me game thats upto them I dont have any time for that now!
I'm not after a helena christianson or kirsty gallagher. However I do have to be honest and say I am attracted to the prettier woman, who isnt? Weight is not that important to me as long as its not a threat to health. However ignorance does upset me greatly. In my profile I have stated I will reply to all messages recieved. I have....every single one of them... all 4!!
It's dispicable that some people can honestly come into a site like this and I mean men and women and play around with emotions like the do. It saddens me a great deal and all that do it should be deleted and banned. I hope a moderator is reading this. Because you know it happens! Take responsibilty and do something about it because the more it happens people like me will become more disheartened and leave. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:43:56 AM | | I submit after a little experience on here you'll be able to spot the phonies and high-maintenance types rather quickly. I've gotten to the point where I can tell pretty early on if someone isn't for me, and when it happens I move on. No sense wasting time and effort on a lot of drama and false interest. I strongly encourage others to do the same. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 5:55:07 AM | | Wow that is my story..except I am a woman. I am ready to give up too. Wish we were closer.... | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 7:16:44 AM | | My problems with POF is they don't reply to any questions you ask them. When theres a problem they shoot the messenger. Forum abuse is awful...But its free....and I am tired like you of going out on dates in the past, only to find out they were still married...they shouldn't even have the separated label as an option. I think they create more problems than they can handle. Don't hate all women...we are not all the same...I pray you find that special someone! I am sorry its been a rough road for you. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 7:49:42 AM | Virgogirl....",,men and women throw themselves at gorgeous people... dont we all...."Good looking people..its nature's work"
..No, we dont all "throw ourselves" at gorgeous people..Those with maturity and integrity and high self esteem look for other important traits besides looks...Its not "natural" to do that , its more the "work" of the US media and brainwashing and its pretty shallow and superficial....The idea of someone whos considered beautiful is a narrow definition in this country....Younger people so obsessed with their peer group tend to fall for it more....I noticed men from others countries as well as women arent so obsessed with someones looks...We have plastic surgery and cosmetic dental crap for every non medical procedure here.... | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 8:24:37 AM | | ALL WOMEN , HAVE THE RIGHT TO PICK AND CHOOSE WHO THEY WANT TO SEE , JUST LIKE WE DO !! QUIT YOUR COMPLAINING!! IF YOU DONT LIKE IT HERE ,!!! AND JUST LEAVE , ALREADY ! | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:27:33 AM | I don't think many ppl that have responded have a problem w/ what the OP is saying, in essence...it's the labels he's decided to use that have most of the responders miffed. there's a million different ways he could have said the same thing. he has set the precedent for the rejoinder.
as I said earlier, he's already back | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:33:26 AM | Jeez gary54, I need to send you a check. That's the best advice I've read in a long time.
But actually, with his handle, he should have more pictures of his dungeon and whips collection and talk about his flagellation skills. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:33:39 AM | I hear the complaining... I wonder why anyone would complain on a site that is FREE...What do you expect?...These sites are full of all kinds of folks...Most of my friends would not be caught dead on a internet dating site...They lead happy lives , date, are realistic and have no complaints...My point, "This is free"...What the heck do you expect...
I appreciate the forums, "There are some real cool folks that seem to have left the dating end of POF out of frustration"...
The point, "Get a life, quit expecting something for nothing"...
I still believe if you meet one cool person, "Your ahead of the game"...I dont depend on a dating site anyhow...Its too hilarious...I could create such a funny reality show based off my experiences on dating sites..   | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:39:33 AM | That's a very sad post you wrote. It sounds like you haven't had much luck so far.
Maybe you could have a break from this and come back later.
Take care. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 9:53:59 AM |  LOL LOL LMAO ROTF LMAO
This is the best post yet!!!!
What have we learned from this post?
A hillbilly with a computer is still a hillbilly. His/Her essence precedes his/her existence.
The possession of basic computer computer skills and an electronic interface used as a means of social interaction will not change anyone's personal character. Neither will it serve as a forum in which you will be fairly evaluated or treated as the wonderful human being you truly are. Hence, the games we play.
Try this for fun. I'm a guy. I create an account as a girl. Put up a pic of some half-naked bimbo. Fill my profile with pages of erotic fantasies and tantrick sex practices. Then sit back and watch while all these LOSERS try to seduce me with their dull cliche's.
You'll appreciate what these women go through.
I'm working on a novel in which one of the main characters is female. So it is good practice for writing in a female voice. After I stop laughing.
My advice. Don't turn to The Dark Side just yet. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:04:21 AM | Hey Piscescoda!
I can't message you, but I am looking forward to your next post.
Your new fan.
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:05:12 AM | Mysogynist defined:
Excerpt From Wikipedia:
There are many different forms of misogyny. In its most overt expression, a misogynist will openly hate all women simply because they are female. Other forms of misogyny may be less overt. Some misogynists may simply be prejudiced against all women, or may hate women who do not fall into one or more acceptable categories. Entire cultures may be said to be misogynist if they treat women in ways that can be seen as harmful. Examples include forcing women to tend to all domestic responsibilities, not giving pregnant women jobs, or beating a woman.
Now...who is being cruel? | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:18:57 AM | | I think you can put the dictionery away... in this case I believe it is simply defined as a frustrated horney dude who can't get a date. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:22:21 AM | Ok, I have a number of thoughts on this.
First off, I've heard a lot of people say that you need to adjust your attitude. This is all too true. You have to approach these things with an open mind and be prepared to get turned down more often than not. That's just how it works. But bear in mind that you have standards, so it's not unreasonable to find that others do too! Losing your naivety is one thing...that just comes from experience, but allowing yourself to become jaded is another altogether. Patience and persistence is key. If at first you don't succeed...
Secondly, if you stop trying altogether it'll never happen for you. That's a guarantee. Slow down or take a break for a while if the rejection is getting you down. At the very least, keep your profile up. Maybe that someone special will actually contact you!
Last but not least, if you are putting up a false profile (even for experimental purposes) then you are actually being quite deceitful. Yes, there are some very shallow and insensitive people out there (men and women alike). What you need to keep in mind is that those kinds of folks likely aren't worth your time and effort in the first place. Still, approach every situation with your "best foot forward", write those thoughtful emails, be real. Sooner or later you will hit upon someone who will actually appreciate it.
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Posted: 5/9/2008 10:46:09 AM | It seems like the people that stood you up just weren't ready or did not feel like they were in the best situation to meet up with you. If she has kids, she might not have been able to arrange for a baby sitter.
You said this site made you "feel like an undatable loser". Well, it might be that you would do better with another type. Are you the serious type? Just keep in mind that your date may not be as serious. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 11:42:16 AM | | I have a few words.Grow up and get get help.Counseling! Life is what you make it.Negative only attracts negative,Look into meditation,be happy life is too short. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2008 12:00:58 PM | I don't get why so many are caustic and callous to people expressing how frustrated they are with online dating here and other places, who obtain closure by getting it off their chest, and leaving.
Where's the empathy and understanding? This online experience is not easy!!!! | |
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