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Posted: 5/16/2008 6:35:06 PM | Thank you for the intelligent, thoughtful and clearly expressed posts, kathareeene. Since you did bring up a valid point, I've never contacted a woman under 42, and most have been 47 or older.
I'm sure other people won't need this clarification, but for you, let me remind you that I'm not saying no one talks to me. And I'm not crying around, I'm grateful for the many women who have contacted me.
But, I may, indeed, be "nutz"!  | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:20:59 PM | Naaaaaa Dude, You're not "Nutz" ...... this here internet dating thing is as "real" as it gets .... there's all kinds of different folks out there & we're ALL in the "real world" .... People are Different, just like apples on the tree ... ya' don't just reach out & pick the first apple you see, do ya' ? ... No, you look around & pick out the one that best suites your "tastes" ... same with a "girl-friend / boy-friend" --- some are rotten, some are too green, some are too ripe & there's always the chance you'll find one that's "Just Rite" !!! .... Real Life / Internet, it's all the same .... everyone on these internet dating thingies is looking for the same thing ... "Someone Who Is Their Ideal Mate"
So Dude, just chill out, If You Find "HER", Great !!!! & if not, just think about how much fun you had during your "search" .....  | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:30:59 AM | | I kinda have to agree with OP....been on here for a good while and barely get replays. I write to people i'm interested in just to not get a response. So I don't really write to anyone anymore. I know some people think this site is good, but from my experience I beg to differ. I just come on when i'm bored. Don't think i'll find anyone on here..... | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:15:38 AM | | no need to feel bad the majority of us are in the same boat. everyone has set their standards so high few will ever be reached.reaching for stars and what they have never had. seeking steak as to hamburger.. but remember hamburger is more afordable and easier to reach and can be made into so many different dishes..lol | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:23:26 AM | Yes I find the same re woman not being civial or polite to reply.
I have also had woman deleting without reading the message and when I send a message telling them they are shallow, they seem to reply with weak excuses.
I feel all messages deserve a response, even if to say not interested!!
I feel about 80% do not reply!!
Nice to see some women have had over 100 or more contacts, but not yet found someone!! I wonder why they have not found someone???
What goes around comes around!! | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:37:13 AM | Perhaps your problem is that you are trying very hard to meet the "ONE". Why not approach it from the point of making friends,and if something else happens,that's great,and ,if it doesn't,you've still got a friend.
Lovers come and go,but real friends last forever. | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:54:23 AM | You have told it exactly how it is ...... Well spoken - Well written & I couldn't agree more with your opinions!
I have no doubt that one day you will meet someone who will relish your talking - they say silence is golden but give me conversation any day!
Good luck - I enjoyed your post!
Jordia | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:13:45 AM | Hi there-well it seems the ones that appeal DO live some distance away often = but my thinking is ,that something has to start SOMEWHERE-which leads me on to another issue indirectly-you chooose someone or they 'choose' you - you message,seem to have a rapport, bit of a spark,talk on the phone and they ask you to meet up-or even myself-not averse to asking a guy if the vibes seem good.Agreement is reached-and then-nothing!!!!!!Or at the eleventh hour change mind-bt don't inform one lol!!One is meant to guess-so therefor distance does not necessarily mean a thing.So is the answer dive in quickly(no we aren't talking sex) or let something build and still be let down.
Initially,I was not desperately seeking bt if something nice happens then so bt it bt all I can comment on is to say that I am glad I have lots of friends and colleagues around me-could a lesser woman take the rejection and no tunderstand.
In this day and age can not one send a typed message,text(don't forget one fhas spoken on the phone etc.)or even an email!!!!!
Whether at a distance or on the doorstep it does not seem to make any difference.......perhaps a guy could enlighten lol!!
Well,thanks for 'listening' anyone ha!ha! | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:17:12 AM | Just had to respond to 'what goes around comes around' most people individually are lovely - bt that does not follow that they meet the right person.Everything shared is nicer-bt should one 'settle' for just anyone of the opposite sex?Sure we could all do that-and no,not asking for perfection-I am far from perfect!
Would be good to get off the 'starting blocks' and if I could just fancy the ones that fancy me - well sorted ha!ha!. | |
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| Is my experience typical?
Posted: 5/17/2008 3:47:07 AM | I'd like to respond to the comment about the women who choose not to respond to messages not being very 'nice'.
I am nice and I have had many messages I dont choose to respond to, some because they are ,intrusive, some because they are over familiar, some because they are just plain silly and uninspiring.
Many from guys who I do not find attractive and know if we were out in the real world in the same room he would never dream of approaching me and if he did I would'nt be interested.
I don't consider myself a charity and I have not come on POF to stroke ego's and feel sorry for and patronise all the men that contact me. I have experienced men that are very witty and charming when they write, but its a different story when you meet them. I think im old enough to decide who i wish to respond to and i dont feel less of a person for making that choice.
The first thing that attracts us all to someone is their physical appearance and on a dating site that reality is amplified 10 fold. I have never encouraged men when I have no interest, so I wont do it on here either. But if what your suggesting is that it would be 'nicer' for me to message back and say ' i'm sorry but i dont want to exchange emails with you because i dont find you attractive' then i will do that. But i had thought that not responding kind of said that already. | |
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