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Posted: 5/12/2008 10:35:47 PM | | I can't believe it, I had to come back!! Your arrogance is beyond belief!! First you edit your post now omiting the "implied apology" statement. Then you have the nerve to impend PIP, who you championed earlier for going into more detail about his situation with the players in this drama. You are worried about the sum and substance of statements reguarding people unrelated to this site except the poster. Next you construct a time line suited to your ego. Check the timeline and verify it with PIP, his response was correlated to mine yours was 9 hours earlier!! You are mortified???? Statements of far worse crisis are put up everyday on the forums for discussion. You sit on high in judgement of a situation between consenting adults and decide you are the arbitor of what is right to post? I know by now you are sething and wish to lash out. All I ask is that you take a stroll for ten minutes and then read all that has been written. I will take any rebuke you wish to give me, if after reading and reflecting on all this you can maintain your position. I say this because you maintain you have a fair and uncomprismising nature. Bob | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:41:22 PM | I don' t know about Kerri, Jane or Alison or that creepy Pip, but I think Bob2013 and Sphinx-fire should get it going on. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:54:24 PM | you are seething  YAWN
I think this is a great post, I genuinely laughed loudly when I read this. I didn't construct a timeline, it was a fact, Pip can verify that he wrote to me copying me on the emails he sent you, but that is a by and by, flaming me here was started by you.
And thank you so much for investing emotions into me in your mind, that are like mushy leaves trying to cling to the side of a boat, I kind of shrug them off because I am not clinging vicariously to PIP the way that you are here.
I have been consistent, I look at each individual aspect and then place it within the full picture, and told Pip in private as well that certain details weren't for the public domain vis a vis : his potential G/F's private life, whether she is a self-harmer etc unless he had changed some of those personal details, and I state it clearly again here for you.
The detail I meant of course is HIS story, his experience of specific events which may help to clarify the situation for those he looks to provide some reassurance, or direction.
Your approaches certainly can't be trusted I see you clearly now LOL a consummate drama-queen, changeable as the wind... fickle and possessive (over PIP), I needed a good belly-shaking laugh!
It is always delicious to have a helper whispering counsel in your ear and engaging you in even more bewildering Noel Coward-type theatre.
I must add that I was very surprised when Pip wrote to me, then even more surprised that he wrote to you Bob, then even more surprised when you became his press-agent, then even more surprised when you posted three times variations of a theme ... then even more surprised when you became upset and acted all girly (above), and I suppose now you will go and tell tales on me to PIP! 
BUT in the sum of this not surprised that PIP became like a peacemaker child between us writing to me being very sweet in defending your online behaviour, and stating that he had requesting you published for him, which was quite remarkable that you were unable to deploy any resistance and advise that (just because other forum postings are really outrageously in bad taste) the 'explanation' could be modified to protect the identities as it seemed very much a tabloid expose'.
What is clear is that PIP - bless him will invest energy in trying to be a mediator, as I can see he is a pleaser.
Of course missing the most fundamental aspect of this... keeping a sense of proprietary balance.
HUH!
At any rate, you win, you can have PIP, don't worry, I shan't take him from you, I know it is vital to your life-source to attach yourself to a host, and far be it for me to try to come between a Poster and his OP-host. 
Oh by the way, Bob, since we no longer worry about PIP and have this intense online dance being initiated by you towards me....
Your point about my re-editing my posts:
The reason I often edit, is because I am thoughtful and develop an idea and must apologise if you are sitting on the edge of your seat Bob sucking up every word I pencil, it is the classic style of those in Quality (implementing standards) and in artists such as draughtsmen working on blue-prints... or painters, standing back from the eeeezals... or journalists, looking for the most pertinent headliners....
I am always revisiting, re-reading and improving, or amending the language, as the thoughts crystallise in my mind, the nuance, the single word, a better meaning, a more precise phrase, the rhythm of the sentence. I had no idea that you were reading, and becoming exasperated that I kept revising... LOL I do the same if I am sketching... there will very soon be a pile of scribblings covering all the floor space and some hanging off the ceiling fan... I am even worse sometimes getting dressed, or if I choose to flower arrange, I pick tweak, twist, flower stems, take a leaf off here, turn to the light, move the entire vase... tip out a little water, no add a little more... tilt my head, step back... painting, re-apply - scrape off, darker here, lighter there...
DANG I think I changed and revised and erased, this post in between applying my lipstick, plaiting my hair, tying my heel buckles, sipping vanilla flavoured coffee, watching 'Bewitched (orginal series)'...
I think I am done...
No
Wait
Now I am done
I think
No
Wait.... One more change in the grammar... | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:09:36 AM | Bob and Sphinx............we know your not really done!!!!!!!!!! lol
Unless you decided to message privately.
This is now officially known as the Bob and Sphinx thread  | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 12:37:09 PM | Dear Lady Galontemt & Baronness Nolamichelle,
SOoooooOOooooo FUNNNY, I laughed so lough at your responses that I spilt coffee on my blue suede shoes, (well my leopard print ballet shoes anyway)
Bob sent me seventeen hundred and a half private messages - all saying, "Please Forgive me, I repent... you are the best..." It went on and on, I handled the entire experience with aplomb and brushed his advances off with a meticulous wave of my silk fan, like Madam Butterfly. I told him, "Bob, please get on with your life, I know it will be hard but try you must and try real hard... " I gave him a self-help book on hydrotherapy (that is waterworks) and hypnotherapy (that is when your mind goes blank)... It was all so gloomy and full of self despair, because he will bring Pip into every dialogue like they have some synchronicity between their twin-souls... It is quite unnerving.
So welcome to the Sphinx & Bob Posts (yeah yeah... if the heels fit we know who should come first)
Now you know that I have hickups whenever a man finds it a threat that a woman dares to confront his mammoth ego and laugh at it, did you notice that Bob didn't apologise to me once regarding his being wrong in his earlier mails, I mean I am not trying to rile him (okay - yup I am teasing him with an eyelash selotated on the end of a large stick... )
.... but lets face it he was quick to apologise to Pip who confused the hell out of everyone, by coming and going like a waiter... who isn't sure if he is serving Goulash or the dessert in the 3rd Act, and Bob just thought he would get away with a sly sidestep suggesting he realised he was harsh, but forgetting to admit he was shortsighted, lacked experience to see the root of the issues and finally that a woman had beaten him to it...
I was hoping he would keep the torrid affair here going but alas, he backpeddled out before the curtain fall.
Now those of you who think I am being provocative (and yes I am ) and unduly dueling with poor Bob, who appears to have rested his case, (which means he has gone off to sulk, and plot how he can upstage anyone left in the dramatic curtain close finale)... and maybe have a gentle cry on Pip's shoulder, and of course Pip is genuinely a sweet flower, who doesn't mind losing his pollen to the caterpillars that crawl over him as well as the heavy bees (Jane, etc).... so what I would like to say is alas Poor Bob-orick, I knew him well.... As I do a sweeping courtesy to the regal Ladies in the balcony (the bold and daring Galontemt and nonchalently elegant nolamichelle), and accept my bouquet... and pirouette off the stage rather demurely... with my head at any angelic angle suggesting tres innocence  
Mmmmmm I wonder who I can spar with next... lets check out the other forums... don't be silly I am not stalking BOB, well okay just a little bit ... LOL (This custard pie is vanilla flavoured he will simply love it!!!) | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 1:25:43 PM | | God is there no end!!! Yes yes I sent more than 2000 emails trying to entreat the lady, alas she has refused my advances, I am heart broken and crushed. I offered to do a private soliloquy to her in Buckingham Palce itself, unfortunately they told me they had no room large enough for her ego. Per chance I could elicit some advise on dining out from her? No no I'm sure she is far to busy helping run all England, ney, all of the ECM. Matter of fact I'm sure that is GWB on the phone seeking assistance to help with governing the colonies. Yes welcome to part 69 of "Taming of The Shrew", however as one of those greedy Americans, I will not sign the contract until Marcus has made me a proper offer. Me thinks the lady doth protest to much. One note that bouquet, was it black roses? I have my own rasberry something for her. Bob | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 2:12:24 PM | Bob,
Please I tried to pardon you several times in emails numbers 25~#, 746#~, and again in 852~#, the colonies struggle on, one of whom has a coup d'etait and
.... midst the 12 baskets of raspberries, the 8 hedonistic herculean heros harping, the 7 gayguysaleaping muscularly, the wisewenches x 5 with their gold-plated gucci rip-offs a cooeing...the 6 ex-members of CATS a-purring, and squawling, the black glass roses dipped in silver lead, and the partridge in a purple paints-sprayed pear tree, you insisted sending to my palace....
I threw up my mantle, and orb and declared a public holiday whilst trying to work out where to hang your self-painted full size nude painting done in the style of BERYL COOK... with Pip in the foreground kneeling looking into a beautiful lake serene and thoughtful... where he had drowned Jane... coolly and calmly.
Dang, I have to go, the flaming doves are caught in the alcoves again and keep crapping ambrosia on the velvet love seats! | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 6:30:00 PM | | My suggestion on the hanging of my nude is the boudoir. Then you will have easy access to your rabbit in times of stress or fantasy. I certanly hope there was not much damage from those pesky doves or were they pigeons from Trafalgar? One should always take care with untamed birds, they can be so unpredictable. When your done with the wise wenches please send them around as I could use a laugh. As for the coup d'etait remember old marie, it did not work out well for her. By the way what was that you said earlier about cake? Oh well time for bed, what time did you say your flight arrives? Bob | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 7:11:11 PM | This is one of the best forums I've read - this kind of thread is the reason I am a POF Addict. Here we find drama, heart and soul, humour, sarcasm, judgement, understanding, ego and humanity.
I haven't had time to fully read all of the posts here, nor check out some of the poster's profiles in order to see what other Forums they've posted on - but it will be well worth it, I'm sure, when I do have the time to make a cuppa and explore....
Pip, you sound pretty genuine and caring so I hope things work out with you and Alison in that you eventually have the chance to 'clear the air' and be trusted again. I don't have any advice for you, I just feel for you and think that I understand where you're coming from.
Not that I would presume to be 'reading' you correctly, nor anyone on this site. We're all so complex. I can hardly work myself, out let alone anyone else! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 12:15:18 AM | Bob,
Enough is enough, today the blasted 7 dukes a duking and 9 Passionate Philipinos's hoolahooping, arrived by bus, Pip called and he is on trial for murder and is trying to use me as an alibi, the cook has resigned and the butler is as I write already canvassing the Czar of Prussia citing irreconcialble differences in his current post here and the state of his nerves...
No more presents! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 1:01:48 PM | Now I can finally post again...I'd like to thank everyone who has bothered to read and advise me. Many, initially mis-understood me, but not one person seriously advised that I should send the letter, which was the whole point of my post in the first place....
I still feel that I want to try to explain to Alison that I never meant to hurt her feelings maybe I should just send her a link to this thread, what do you think? lol..
Over a week has passed and yesterday I sent her some flowers with a card that just said "Sorry.x" She texted me back later in the day, re-iterating that she wanted nothing to do with me and she'd have refused them if she'd been home..I didn't expect her to text me at all. I thought she'd ignore them..... but I havn't and I won't text her back... Life moves on and I'm just sad that this friend-ship has ended this way.
As far as divulging personal information about her...well there must be half a million Alisons in the United Kingdom, so if you know which one I'm talking about, then please keep it to yourself! lol. Especially as most of the posters are from overseas..She is not a member of POF and to my knowledge, dosen't know that the site exists. Hence I see nothing wrong in what I have written to explain the full story and don't believe that I have compromised her privacy in any way.
Thanks especially to both Sphinx and Bob. They both admitted that they may have mis-judged me based on my OP and have shown themselves to be compassionate and caring souls. I wish them well and look forward to an invite to their special day.:D
Pip.x | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 4:48:28 PM | | Sphinxy, oohhhh Sphinxy are you out there? Listen Sphinx....... I have to ask....(gulp) Ugh ....ugh...ughh.. would you.......(shuffles feet nervously).........would you...... (pats brow).........would you like to.........I can't do it now, I'll be back.....Bob | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 2:22:57 PM | ... spit it out man! but what the hell do I do with the gift(s) that never end!!!
.... 11 Geese agnawing goosepimply... the shop doubled up the order by mistake and we can't use the bathrooms due this..... | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:09:12 PM | | Sphinxy, be nice now, I'd never ask you to spit it out, in fact quite the opposite!! I'm sure between us we can come up with the answer. I guess we'll just have to keep going here till we work it out. Love, Bob | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 1:32:56 PM | Just an update....:)
Friday is Alisons birthday, and a few months ago I did get her a St Christopher pendant, as she has been rather unlucky when it comes to car accidents. I had got it engraved with the serenity prayer, so it was always meant to be a personal gift for her and I have decided to mail it still, with a few words just saying that she should just keep it in her car for luck.
We did exchange a few msn messages but no bridges have been repaired.
However, a month ago I met someone incredibly special on facebook. It made me realise how I had been tiptoeing around Alison on broken glass the whole time, trying not to say the wrong thing. I was never my true self with her either.
So as much as I now regret losing Alison as a friend, I cannot regret the events that have have allowed this other beautiful girl to enter my life, who seems to outshine every other girl I've ever met in any way. And this has been a huge learning exercise in both the way others perceieve me and my spontaneous actions, the way that others are very quick to jump to conclusions... but also how every cloud has a silver lining..:) | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 9:06:08 PM | | What is this? Deja Vu, please don't start this again!! It just got quiet and died, is this like Frankenstein? Will the "creature from the black lagoon" reemerge? Stay tuned we wil be rigt back.................................. bob | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 9:26:37 PM | WAAAY too long of a VERY weird E-mail. I got lost in it!
Don't contact a friend....
Send the girl you're interested in the flowers and a card... in the card stating...
(I don't understand why others try to sabatoge friends happiness... Not a hacker never been one and deep down you know I'm not)
Leave it at that... it's open honest and puts the ball in her court
Take coastergals advice, short honest and sweet.
cheers and good luck mate. You will need it. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2008 9:33:25 PM | Also, can you 2 posturing kiddies grow up!!!!!. This forum is to help someone, not grandstand how intelligent you think you are and how you are so much more educated, witty and popular than the other. Go start your own "Im a pompous ass" thread will you and leave the help to those who truly wish to
CHILDREN!!!!!. | |
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