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Posted: 5/10/2008 1:06:32 AM |
I don’t want to be 100 pounds bigger in 20 years so for me I try to take care of myself
Thank you! very well said. That's the key right there, I couldn't have said it better myself. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:22:46 AM |
to think about what could happen to a persons physical appearance over the years? .....What? Do you think your going to be in prime shape forever OP?. If you do then your kidding yourself.
How would you feel if your s/o became a victim of MS or for that matter YOU yourself became a victim of MS?
If your healthy and fit now it doesn't mean your going to be healthy and fit in years to come.
Sure it's good to feel good about yourself, BUT life is not always kind and through no fault of their own people fall.
Somehow I don't think you would be the type of person to stick with someone if their life deteriorated.....Sad but true. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:36:45 AM | I work my a$$ off in order to stay in shape and I'll be 50 in a few months. I have a friend whom is 54 and I would simply die to have her body...dang!!
There is nothing wrong with wanting to take care of yourself but do realize OP...as Juliet mentioned, MS or a variety of other illnesses can strike at any time in the future no matter how well you've taken care of yourself in the past. (I was tested for MS a few years back and the tests came up negative, thank god.)
I take good care of myself today but tomorrow I might be diagnosed with a terminal illness.
I guess the question is OP: Would you stay with someone that had a "killer body" when you met her and she was diagnosed with an illness 10 years down the line that would not only deteriorate her body but her mind as well? Dude, the same could happen to you even though you may look good now...well, actually you have a little "chipmunk jowel" thing going on when I look at your pics. I'm just sayin'
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Posted: 5/10/2008 9:29:39 AM | Once you start to think about what might happens to YOU within 20 yrs... maybe you get a different answer that the one you're looking now for validation of your own self and instant gratification.
If physical appearence is important to you, then live for today without thinking about tomorrow, or worry about to sound shallow, or being wrong. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 3:14:12 PM | What if YOU developed a medical condition and the medication made you gain weight, would you like to be dumped because of that?
Love is when you can imagine that person bald, fat, with wrinkles, flabby (childbirth does that to some of us), and then still caress their face and say "you are gorgeous, my sunshine". It's as simple as that.
Otherwise, you just want to look good, regardless of the swallowness of the person that is allowing you to look good.
By the way, this is not an endorsement to let go and let whatever happen. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 5:18:03 PM | | Everybody has a medical condition that robs us of our good-looks, agility,height even our reflexes and thinking processes. If you feel that the future could be ugly, you're right. Visit or volunteer in a residence or nursing home. See what the future has in store for all of us. Regardless of what kinds of medical procedures are available, we all age, some gracefully, others not so well. As you get older your priorities change and in a loving environment you don't care what the other person looks like. Maybe you are afraid of what you see in the mirror today? | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 6:31:46 PM | If you are into fitness and keeping healty, then find a woman with the same interests. You guys can work out together and try to grow old gracefully. When you start seeing the age process on you, I don´t think you´ll mind hers.
But do try and find someone you can share this active lifestyle with.
There are many women that do. And don´t settle for someone that is not 100% what you want. Rather be single than settle for less..............cause then you´ll just make her miserable and then she really will gain 100 lbs......... | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 6:36:28 PM |
If I'm the type of person that strives to keep himself in shape, is it wrong to want someone who believes in the same?
No, but remember that reality has a nasty habit of settling in. A woman might be slender today, but her hormones will change when she has a couple of youngins and it may make her put on quite a few pounds. Or she might get some sort of injury or disease that makes exercise difficult or impossible and ends up gaining weight as a result.
I really don't think I'm asking for too much to want someone who shares my interests but I get told all the time to lower my standards or else I will be alone for the rest of my life.
I don't think you should ever lower your standards, but remember that being alone for the rest of your life is always a possibility. You just need to be okay with that possibility, too.
If lowering your standards would result in a woman you're not happy with, then being alone may just be your best option.
So I should settle for a person who obviously does not care to keep fit just for companionship?
Only you know the answer to this question. | |
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medana
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Posted: 6/6/2008 6:37:38 PM | first of all, people change tremendously. ten years ago i was paranoid about having an extra inch of fat, today i eat junk food and dont care.
so yeah... u either love someone or u dont. | |
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Posted: 6/6/2008 9:42:52 PM | You have your preferences. You should look for what you want.
Don't be surprised though, if in 20 years... you are alone. | |
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