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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:14:49 PM |
.... all we can do is try to respect the other person and be honest enough to treat them with courtesy and the way we would want to be treated, in real life as well at the forums
I agree ronda. I don't really know too much about the etiquette of online dating but I do have rules of etiquette for real life and that is courtesy, respect and politeness and yes, treat others how you wish to be treated yourself.
If you can't make an appointment, whether it be a date, a job interview or a doctor's appointment, the decent thing to do is advise the person.
Regarding standing people up for dates, if somebody is going to do this without any notice to somebody, then that person is hardly going to be reliable or trustworthy if the relationship ever got going in the first place, so it's probably no great loss anyway. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:25:01 PM | Liveand yeah I think there's something "unreal" about chatting online and by extension meeting people from here in real life, it's almost like our values, manners and just plain common courtesy all go out the window, kind of reminds me of how some people drive in shopping centre car parks lol
ronda :) | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:29:37 PM | | I guess it's easier to avoid and stop contact with somebody online if you have never met them because there are not really any consequences as in you don't have to ever see them again (or even see them in the first place!) and if they don't know your address or telephone number you can easily avoid them and their subsequent anger or disappointment. But that's a cowardly and disrespectful way out and I wouldn't think much of a person for doing that. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:27:58 AM | Having studied formal logic, purely from a symbolic perspective, I can assure you that your statements are flawed.
Your generic male bashing and self righteousness is not really a war winner from a personal standpoint. Nevertheless, you can feel free to wallow in your male bashing self pity and insist it is everyone elses fault, does not really affect me.
I will not take advice from someone of your age, simply because you still do not have enough life experience to form such opinion on the matter, and life in general.
It was not my intention to male bash or to seek sympathy, nor did I indicate that this is gender specifc - in fact, I have reminded readers on my the original post not to flame me as I am aware that NOT only men do this. I was only sharing my own experience and observation lately with dating and was wondering if others have the same concern.
Heaven forbid, but maybe one day, you will get to experience this kind of frustration with women, then only you will understand me.
And in closing, the fact that you replied to my post meant that it somehow affected you.
To everyone who gave their invaluable advice, I thank you - it meant a lot to me.
MM | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 3:44:08 AM | mmnicky...you said:
men dont take this all that seriously... remember takes a woman a moment to fall in love.. men are a heck of a lot slower, as for respect.. they dont see the big deal the same as u..
My opinion is that is a huge generalisation. I have met a couple of guys who take it all very seriously - perhaps too much. I don't think it is a gender specific issue at all.
I think there have been some very valid points spoken about...I would advise you not to take it personally. If you have never met someone, how can they judge whether they have had a 'better offer'? Let it go....move forward. Change your MO, maybe? | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 9:02:01 PM |
I will not take advice from someone of your age, simply because you still do not have enough life experience to form such opinion on the matter, and life in general.
This is a cop-out, and an insult to everyone who is younger than you, including me. I'm only 5 years older than Crazytimes, after all.
While I wouldn't have called your OP "male bashing" per se it was still enough of a generalisation to imply some slur on all men. I know you didn't intend to have men respond saying that women do the same, but they do. And that IS relevant.
Male or female, internet dating is full of dead ends and false starts. Accepting and acknowledging that fact is a step towards the maturity that you seem to be attempting to claim exclusivity to. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2008 10:16:55 PM | This is a cop-out, and an insult to everyone who is younger than you.
They are your words, not mine.
Accepting and acknowledging that fact is a step towards the maturity that you seem to be attempting to claim exclusivity to.
I rest my case.
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Posted: 5/14/2008 6:48:14 AM |
I will not take advice from someone of your age, simply because you still do not have enough life experience to form such opinion on the matter, and life in general.
Gee! The last time I heard this line, I was in grade 7. This was told to me by the principal of the school, who was infact, a horrible old SPINSTER! I believe she still is.
But I never expected them come from you. | |
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Posted: 5/15/2008 11:35:42 AM | A true man would have told you the truth! Simple as!
There is no such thing as dating site ethics!!!
People are people; men are men women are women!
Dating sites breed invisibility and anonymity!
If you cannot hack dating sites then the only option left for you is the real world, where you can see into peoples eyes?
For only there will you find, the true answer to any question answered?
As for your question lol,,,, Who knows we are men pmsl! | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:27:44 AM | principal of the school, who was infact, a horrible old SPINSTER!
Teachers are like that So many children scarred for life...my work here is done.
I DO:
There is no such thing as dating site ethics!!!
I have to agree with you. I think this is right..as disappointing as it may be. Don't get involved, or take things too seriously until you've met the person...and lived together for 26.6 years without incident.
(George Negus recommends that - not me.)
(Actually, I made that up, it's a lie.)
(Apologies to George.) | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 1:41:07 AM | You know what I think? some people think that because it' s the internet then common decency and manners do not have any place here. bollocks to that. I agree with the poster of this thread. Just say.... not interested sorry. BEFORE the agreed date and time of meeting.
also would love to say.... I love this forum and the way people can say what they think... is very good therapy and all free... ! | |
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