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| HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL??
Posted: 5/10/2008 6:50:07 PM | | I have been dumped a few times that way. But what really hurt was one of the women did it to me, i went to school with her. From grammar school all the way thru highschool. We never dated back then. Just recently last year. We had 2 dates, everything seemed to me to be going well. Even made a 3rd date. Which she accepted. Then i got the dear John e-mail from her. I never replied back. | |
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| HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL??
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:10:47 PM | Hello,
Owaaaa yes I was dumped via email about 2 days ago buy a guy I met on plenty of fish about a year ago. Very interesting topic.
I lost my cousin recently AND my job, so when he came over, he gave me a massage, and.... because I was still crying when he left..... he got the shits and went home and emailed me with the explanation....
sick of all the "crap" and" shit". bla bla dumped.
Sometimes I think men have got their own problems. You just have to remember that if he is seeing a therapist, he is making efforts to improve them. That is a good sign.
I do think that you should read a book by John Gray. It is very helpful... nothing wrong with self help books ! Especially if they help!
"Men, women and relationships by John Gray"
You never know, if you keep your wits about you, and don't get all angry and upset about HIS issue... then he might come back.
Be thankful that he is in therapy.
I'll keep you posted about weather my internet silly boy comes back! | |
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| HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL??
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:11:05 PM | Hello,
Owaaaa yes I was dumped via email about 2 days ago buy a guy I met on plenty of fish about a year ago. Very interesting topic.
I lost my cousin recently AND my job, so when he came over, he gave me a massage, and.... because I was still crying when he left..... he got the shits and went home and emailed me with the explanation....
sick of all the "crap" and" shit". bla bla dumped.
Sometimes I think men have got their own problems. You just have to remember that if he is seeing a therapist, he is making efforts to improve them. That is a good sign.
I do think that you should read a book by John Gray. It is very helpful... nothing wrong with self help books ! Especially if they help!
"Men, women and relationships by John Gray"
You never know, if you keep your wits about you, and don't get all angry and upset about HIS issue... then he might come back.
Be thankful that he is in therapy.
I'll keep you posted about weather my internet silly boy comes back! | |
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| HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL??
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:12:12 PM | | I was dumped via MSN suddenly after a relationship of three months. I had treated her like gold to the best of my ability, and made her (in her words) the "happiest she's ever been". Within a week she was with another guy, and is "happy" again. She knows how upset I am, yet will never meet in person to discuss it. I felt like I was tossed aside like dirt. A cowardly way to end it. I'm prevailing, but I would like some proper closure. | |
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| HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL??
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:19:50 PM | | Got dumped on msn once. I never thought a lot of the practice. Truthfully I lost a lot of respect for her. It's the easy way out. An easy way that gives absolutely no regard to the other person. It's selfish and cowardly. How you do such a thoughtless thing to somebody you claim to care about is beyond me. Either that or you've lied about how you feel about them and wasted their time. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 7:28:51 PM | Never had an actual relationship that dumped me by e mail... One of someone I had dated a little while and they did that... However I have quite a few that just disappeared...
I don't know how old you are, but if you are young, then I guess you will realize that the "I love You" in a week, will be pretty meaningless.
AND YES, You should have been the scared one... However you wanted to be loved badly enough by this guy that you were willing to believe anything.
Some people can seeem like they are sharing a lot, but not saying anything at all...
He's cold hearted because he can be... Shug there are cold hearted gutless people out there, but that isn't the only type of people out there. Be thankful that you found this out before you married him, you wouldn't have anything more, and the hurt would feel that much more personal.
When you get past the grief and are workign on heal, try and remember this is just a harsh lesson in life... You can't let it change into a hurt bitter person, or you can learn to not trust quite as easily, and always be weary of someone that says they love you within a week of knowing you...
Remember reality, and fantasies for these people sometimes come together, and when the reality hits, the fear of the fantasy that was created becomes very real... What do you do with a fantasy, you pretend it never existed... | |
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| HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL??
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:35:10 PM | OOH I was too.. email me & lets see if it is the same guy. lol.. April 2008
Mine was the day after spending 3-4 days in a suite after continuous conversations & it was for "HE really liked me but the differences that would cause issues later. So better to end it sooner than later."
IF he re-reads my profile ever, I will be thought of (again) as childish & do not deserve this behavior since all he did was treat me good while we were together (um.. mostly phone calls) No offense, I think I'd rather had a one night stand & not got to like the guy then this.. easier to deal with. Sad thing, I'd rather have had this guy stay friends then to have had done the sex deed & the txt thing later. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 7:41:44 PM | [He wrote "I can't take your clingy neediness."]
This is a classic sign of co-dependence, selfishness and immaturity (and I am sure more) on HIS part. When he was in a position to be helpful and actually GIVE of himself, he bailed.
You were blessed to have seen that huge part of his being so early on!
Emails are quite telling - often, not always - and can be read over and over. And the words can't just be taken back ( or argued /denied at a later time)! | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 7:48:43 PM | | I guess it must have been a fantasy for him.Things moved way to quick,I'll admit.He bought us promise rings only one month after we started dating.He wanted to be committed n for me to know he wasn't playing games.He even wanted me to move in with him,but he lives with his mom n the place is very tiny.I didn't move in of course,plus his mom didn't want me to anyway.What I don't understand,is his sudden fear of commitment!! Or his commitment issue could mean,he had doubts about how I felt.We didn't see alot of each other n he brought that up as well.But besides all that,why couldn't he just talk to me instead of just ending it so suddenly if our relationship was as important as he said it was?? N why thetotal shut ff even as a friend?? It just doesn't make sense.I was very good to him n did nothig to hurt him or disrespect him.H obviously was never taught how to respect anyone.N what cracks me up is that he uses that word alot in his volcabulary.But never to me!!! | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:14:56 PM | My ex and I dated for over 5 years, with 4 break-ups spread throughout the last year of the relationship. The first and third break-ups were done by email. I'd gotten a promise ring from him for my 17th birthday, and the Christmas before we broke up for good, we were looking at engagement rings. Yes, it is cowardly, but it doesn't say anything about your character. It just means that for one reason or another, he couldn't handle telling you to your face that he didn't want to see you anymore. My ex did it to avoid confrontation and making a scene. Chances are thats what your guy was trying to do as well. I felt the same way regarding talking to me about it, but he just wasn't mature enough to do so. I'm sorry that this happened to you, but at least it happened early on and not way later when you'd actually gotten engaged or something. Best wishes.
Rachel | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:38:17 PM | | All I really need is closure n to try n understand is sudden loss of interest in me when he supposedly loved me.Why the hell would he buy me a promise ring if I didn't mean anything to him n if he couldn't handle a solid thing? Yes,he has some mental issues,but I have nothing to do with it!! | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:43:03 PM | My experience ROL, is that if you had treated him like crap, ignored him and dissed him, he would be doing anything to be with you.
Guys say that girls want the 'bad boys', no argument there, but I see tons of guys who want bad girls/drama queens too. A lot more than they will ever admit.
No this does not create solid relationships, but it does seem to be common practice these days. And includes bad manners. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 8:44:09 PM | Wow.........you didn't tell us you were gay. I checked your profile to see how old you are and low and behold......you are a guy yourself.
I see that mogrl42 caught your gender real early in post #2, I just missed it. Like she said......troll.
I still like California though. | |
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| HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL??
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:47:54 PM | No but I did break up over a text message. I gave him an out because it just wasn't working.
I told him "are you breaking up with me" and that was his out. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2008 11:41:35 PM | Read message 6...
Oh,n just so u all know,I'm a woan.not a man.Don't click on profile.It's not me.I don't know what happened.Computer mistake,I guess.Not my fault!
OK shug, sometimes the closure you get has to come from within.
I did a whirlwind romance when I was 20...First week I love you, next week lets get married...Gee guy of my dream... This was everything I could ask for...
It gets worse from there....
Needless to say he disappeared, and left me for someone 11 yrs older than me...I was 21 at the time...
Learned then and there it isn't about love, and romance, and being committed for some people.
The guys sounds like a total flake, and you bought into his fantasy, just as I had 20 some years back...I didn't let that happen again...
Yes it hurts, and it is frustrating, but as I said before, closure sometimes has to come from directly with in... | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 8:40:29 AM | I have been on both sides of this. And I honestly prefer it. When you're being dumped I like having the privacy of dealing with it howeever I choose. If he was in person, I would feel it necessary to be "gracious" or "sensitive" or whatever. When I get it via email, I can blow it off, rant or rave or whatever I feel like.
When I have done the "dumping" I have chosen it because we lived further apart and it seemed rather heartless to arrange a date that I knew would involve time and expense on his point just to dump him! I try to be honest and give a reason and hopefully not hurt too much. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 10:08:27 AM | | If you went out with a person 1 or 2 times, then an email stating that "you aren't interested" is okay. However if you were dating a person for a while and you break up with them by text message or email, then I think that would be rude im most cases although they could be some exceptions. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 12:32:13 PM | Yeah,since he supposedly cared about me n our relationship as he onced claimed,he could've atleast told me the reason for his sudden fears.We were very close n shared alot of the same desires.There was no warning that he would suddenly disappear n I just can't understand why we can't even be friends!!
AND FOR THE LAST TIME-I'M OT A GUY,I'M NOT GAY N THE PROFILE LINK TO THIS POST IS NOT MINE!! I DON'T KNOW HOW THE MIX UP OCCURED!! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 12:41:45 PM | ^^^ its ok bro..... coming out of the closet on POF is cool cuz all of us here on the forums are very understanding and compassionate people.....  | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:25:52 PM | I know a guy who was dating a woman for 3 years and he got a fax to his work that he was dumped. It wasn't even his personal fax machine, it was the whole work's fax machine.
As for being dumped via email, yep I've been dumped via email, myspace status change and text message.
I dated a girl 3 months, I saw her 6 days a week, her choice, not mine. Then at around 90 days... I counted! She dumped me via email and is the one and only ex I have never talked to since. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:26:16 PM | | Bro??? I'm female!! The profile truly doesn't belong to me.I honestly don't know what's up with that.My profile name is harleygurl4u-Check it out! | |
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