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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 7:51:06 PM | I think that a man, at least in my age catagory pretty well knows that a lot of women wear heels. Or then again, maybe I spoke too soon. Anyway, it's best to state your actual height. Then field the occasional email bashing you for not wanting to date a man shorter than you and with heels. ~grins~
Some men don't have an issue with dating taller women. However, when I have my 3 inch heels on, I would rather not have the man staring me square in the breast area. Although, I'm fully aware that this _could_ come in handy at some time. ~chuckling to herself~
How about a "cares about height"/"does not care about height" option? I _really_ like this idea, hmmmm. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:25:03 PM | No, Jonathan, at 5'11 I would expect you to have the full confidance of any average heighth man. But I didn't necessarily mean it that way. Just that size has a subliminal effect on people. I've had more than my share of advancements and other attention given to me based solely on my size. Studies have proven that two men of equal qualifications but differing heights, will show the taller man getting the advantage.
Same goes for good looking people. Two strikes in my favor. hehe | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/10/2008 8:41:57 PM | Being 6' I've never really had a problem with that stuff. I won't date a girl taller than 5'11, but I doubt I'd care if one was taller than me in heels. Course I've never dated a girl that I've had that issue with.
Weird huh? I have to be slightly taller barefoot, that's my only hard and fast rule. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 4:48:09 AM | People can say fragile or whatever but I think that's unfair. This may be wrapped up in ego but so are a lot of the things we do. Most of the guys I've dated in the past were over 6' and it was a non-issue.
If height was never an issue, I probably wouldn't have ended up usually with guys over 6'. I have dated shorter guys but sometimes it kind of felt like an ego thing there too where this time though, dating someone taller than them was kind of a status symbol or something. Physical attraction is great and necessary, but you want to feel the person sees you for who you are on the inside instead of how they can use you to feed their ego.
I wish I could say we are all enlightened enough to just like a person for who they are without taking physical preferences into consideration, but we really aren't for the most part.
Just for the record, I don't mean lying about height so much as guiding the mental picture that people have of you. For some reason, despite telling them my height and even warning about wearing heels, its often a suprise. I'm wondering if the whole protective trait often running in males might make a woman smaller height wise in the development of his mental picture of a woman.
If fantasy does warp a person's interpretation of fact, maybe adjusting the fact can help the person actually gain a more realistic view.
Ok, maybe this is too philosophical. It was just something that popped in my head before shoe shopping. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 10:03:18 AM | LBP, I think you're just playing into the frivolousness of the women and men that use this site. People on this site make a big deal about issues such as height, weight etc. Why are you asking men on here how tall you think you should represent yourself as? The last time I checked you didn't have a choice...Our bodies are finite and inflexible.
However, I guess it is different for women who like to wear heels 85-100% of the time, I guess it makes youreally feel like you are actually that height de facto.. So show yourself as 6 feet or 6'2 or whatever. It's your profile so say whatever you want...some guys might be disappointed, others might not care. :)
Allen Iverson is always listed as 6feet but he's like 5'9 tops without his shoes on. Athletes in pro sports are usually listed as their height with their shoes on which adds an inch or so I guess...So maybe you should list your height in the median between barefoot and your tallest high heel...Than it gives a good balance...but that is only if you wear high heels half the time I guess....
hopefully that helps.
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 10:32:26 AM | Even in 3" heels, assuming she is the same height as you, she wouldn't be taller than I am in stocking feet.
I *used* to be all about the sub-5'5" women. And don't get me wrong, I still really dig petite women. But at the same time, as I've gotten older, I've learned to appreciate alot of different things in regards to women. Some curves, maybe a little chubby, taller than average (and let's face it, if you're female and taller than 5'7", you're considered TALL), it's all good. And since tall equals long long long legs usually, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 10:32:45 AM | No, Jonathan, at 5'11 I would expect you to have the full confidance of any average heighth man. But I didn't necessarily mean it that way. Just that size has a subliminal effect on people. I've had more than my share of advancements and other attention given to me based solely on my size. Studies have proven that two men of equal qualifications but differing heights, will show the taller man getting the advantage.
I've read many of these studies, and they all prove that height bigotry/prejudice is alive and well. But that has nothing to do with your comment. Just because some groups of people are discriminated against, doesn't mean that "it makes sense" that a woman must be shorter than a man to respect him.
Frankly, I'm not sure a woman who thinks that way deserves much respect anyway. Just my opinion.
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 10:33:08 AM | "I once knew a tall girl in high school, we were friends. I think she thought more of it, and I think her mother did, too. Back to the story...her mother once told me that in order to respect a man, the girl needs to be able to look up to her man, physically. "
Her mother is an idiot. Respect is earned Having more repect for a person soleoly because they are taller then you is the equivilant of a black man respecting a white man more because he's white.
"She was a little old school, but it makes sense. A girl that is taller than her guy has the dominant position. Doesn't always square well with psyches."
My ex is taller then me. She never had any dominant position over me.
"Frankly, I'm not sure a woman who thinks that way deserves much respect anyway. Just my opinion."
Amen to that.
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:03:10 AM | | I usually ask a guy before we go out how tall he is, and then explain i love my heels. If he is the same height or just a little taller than me, I usually tone down my heel height. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:40:52 AM |
I usually ask a guy before we go out how tall he is, and then explain i love my heels. If he is the same height or just a little taller than me, I usually tone down my heel height.
You're only 5'6". Stop dating midgets.  And for the love of all that is sacred and holy, DON'T stop wearing the heels. Meow. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 9:03:19 PM |
No, Jonathan, at 5'11 I would expect you to have the full confidance of any average heighth man. But I didn't necessarily mean it that way. Just that size has a subliminal effect on people. I've had more than my share of advancements and other attention given to me based solely on my size. Studies have proven that two men of equal qualifications but differing heights, will show the taller man getting the advantage.
So, are you then saying that at my height of 5'5", you wouldn't expect me to have the full confidence of any average man? | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 10:38:00 PM | this is why we should hate women:
HE: i would like to get to know you better, wanna go out some time this week?
SHE: well what day? cuz monday and thursday i wear sneakers, so i'm 5'2. however tuesdays i wear my boots, that makes me 5'3". friday i wear my tall sandals making me 5'4" and saturday my tall pumps are 5'6" and sunday i wear flats so i'm 5'1 and 1/2" if we go somewhere nice i want to wear my tall shoes, but if were going to the movies or bowling i want to wear comfortable shoes. if we go for dinner and coffee it depends on where were going. if were going dancing i want to be tall, but have to sit alot cuz my feet will hurt. if we drive alot i want to wear something i can slip off and on quickly. unless were going to walk in the sand -then i want to wear sneakers -unless the sand is hard, i guess i could go barefoot in the sand -if you dont look at my feet. -oh yeah do you like red shoes or black shoes better-is it going to be light or dark where were going?
HE: (click)  | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:22:40 PM | Women care about height, like men care about figure.
But, only one of those can be fixed.
And yes, I'm often "too short" at 5'10"  Who's unreasonable about body types now??
I don't care how tall a woman is. If she's too tall, I'll just stand back a little bit every once in a while.
Ok, "too tall" is if she needs to duck to get through the front door. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:01:05 AM | i must say, personally i DO care about height.
Being 5'11, i do prefer guys to be the same height or taller than me. If they're a little shorter its ok.
I dont wear heels often cos i already think im tall, and with heels i'm even taller. Hence why i prefer taller guys, means i can still wear heels when i want to and be a little shorter than them :)
unless i date a guy that's shorter than me, and he wears heels too? haha | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 3:42:20 AM | No, Aquaman. Just being 5'5 doesn't mean you have issues. Your question, trying to put words in my mouth, means you have issues. Perhaps even Napolean syndrome.
Take your attitude about your height somewhere else. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:28:08 AM |
No, Aquaman. Just being 5'5 doesn't mean you have issues. Your question, trying to put words in my mouth, means you have issues. Perhaps even Napolean syndrome.
Take your attitude about your height somewhere else.
Oh, good grief. 
Your initial statement implied that height was linked to confidence. But the evidence you gave was simply that people tend to be prejudice against shorter men. And you're proving that right now. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:44:35 AM | You're close, but I think you missed the point. I think that people are prejudiced TOWARD taller people, not AGAINST shorter.
It can be that way, you know. I like Mountain Dew, does that mean I have prejudices against colas? C'mon folks...be smarter than to fall into that trap.
And that's the end of this thread for me. It's gotten WAY off topic,and needlessly personal.
Good day. | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:10:38 AM |
this is why we should hate women:
HE: i would like to get to know you better, wanna go out some time this week?
SHE: well what day? cuz monday and thursday i wear sneakers, so i'm 5'2. however tuesdays i wear my boots, that makes me 5'3". friday i wear my tall sandals making me 5'4" and saturday my tall pumps are 5'6" and sunday i wear flats so i'm 5'1 and 1/2" if we go somewhere nice i want to wear my tall shoes, but if were going to the movies or bowling i want to wear comfortable shoes. if we go for dinner and coffee it depends on where were going. if were going dancing i want to be tall, but have to sit alot cuz my feet will hurt. if we drive alot i want to wear something i can slip off and on quickly. unless were going to walk in the sand -then i want to wear sneakers -unless the sand is hard, i guess i could go barefoot in the sand -if you dont look at my feet. -oh yeah do you like red shoes or black shoes better-is it going to be light or dark where were going?
HE: (click)
this is why you should love women:
She cares about what YOU think. She wants to look good for you. High heels are uncomfortable but make her legs shaplier. If you are going for long walks she will want to keep up without complaint. If she's in heels when dancing - you get a better look at her cleavage. (Do you like the red 'hooker' heels, or are they too much, should I just wear the sedate black.) She doesn't want you to be subjected to her ugly feet due to her insecurities. She is worried about being too tall to assauge your insecurities (to avoid the "Sonny and Cher" look).
There is method to this madness. It is the difference between 'giving a damn' and 'letting yourself go' - Otherwise, we'd all be in Berkenstalks or those awful rubber clogs and it would be an uglier world for it.
Vive la difference!
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:08:59 AM | I give my height wearing the old disco boots with four inch heels,
plus those little mail order wedges, and standing on a foot stool!
That takes me to six feet exactly!
If I didn't I wouldn't stand a chance! | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:29:54 PM |
No, Aquaman. Just being 5'5 doesn't mean you have issues. Your question, trying to put words in my mouth, means you have issues. Perhaps even Napolean syndrome.
Take your attitude about your height somewhere else.
Psychoanalyzed by a truck driver - I love the internet.
I think someone has tall man's syndrome. javascript:smilie('') | |
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| Giving your height with heels - Maybe a good idea?
Posted: 5/12/2008 2:27:25 PM | | I've never understood why women wear high heels. I know, supposedly it's to make the legs look artificially longer, but legs are either nice, or they're not, wearing heels won't really change that. And why in the world would an already tall woman (say, five eight and above) wear high heels????? Are you crazy??? Do you like sore feet and having trouble walking? I think that alone would make me question your sanity. I'm six four, and it would kind of be like me wearing lifts. Then again, I'm a crossdresser; she wants to wear heels, I'll wear 'em too. Then we can both look ridiculous. | |
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