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Posted: 5/11/2008 10:47:35 AM | | Well personally I know I would never do that unless the girl practically begged me to do it and even then I'd feel bad about doing it. But hey, you did what was wanted of you, so you shouldn't feel bad. | |
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| Do you think it's degrading...
Posted: 5/11/2008 11:53:27 AM | It comes down to this. Some people have mixed feelings about the realities of sex. It is a sharing of body fluids. It is hopefully a sharing of emotions and many other things as well. Either you embrace the physical reality of sex or you don't. If you do, there is nothing degrading about anything sexual that either partner wants to do when the other partner is willing. If you don't, then you may have certain boundaries that you need to get clear about and communicate. Either way, it's all good! 
Personally I have my likes and dislikes but I do not consider my dislikes degrading. If my partner likes it and I can do it, that notion never answers my mind. A long time ago I thought that oral sex by a woman was degrading until a lady pointed out to to me that I did not seem to mind being covered with her fluids, so why was I concerned about what she did with mine? She told me she was not doing it for me, she actually liked it. 
So I say set aside such notions unless they come from deep inside of you and they are something you cannot change. Know your limits and be ready to share them without apology or justification. This can be an interesting and stimulating converstation, especially if it involves demonstration as well as discussion.  | |
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| Do you think it's degrading...
Posted: 5/11/2008 2:11:40 PM | | Pearl necklaces are fine for me. But they have to be over 10mm and from the South Seas to be worth anything. | |
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| Do you think it's degrading...
Posted: 5/11/2008 2:27:08 PM | I don't believe it degrading unless, as mentioned earlier, they specifically state they hate it.
Bukake movies? Yes... nasty
One on one with a partner? Cool
I bet a lot of ladies prefer a pearl necklace to an eye or mouthful of cum, so it's perhaps a soft option for some  | |
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| Do you think it's degrading...
Posted: 5/11/2008 2:51:12 PM | PretaPorter
Pearl necklaces are fine for me. But they have to be over 10mm and from the South Seas to be worth anything.
It might be considered degrading and part of the turn on. As long as both parties are consenting it's all good. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 3:09:55 PM | Pearl necklaces are fine for me. But they have to be over 10mm and from the South Seas to be worth anything.
I have the strand of Mikimotos that my father gave my mother for her 21st birthday in 1940. They are worth quite a bit.
As to the kind that the OP is referring to. I have never found it to be in the least bit degrading. In fact, my lovers have always been pleased. 
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Posted: 5/11/2008 3:15:28 PM | | I have never thought anyone would think sharing something as this degrading , I am shocked to see those who do . never once occurred to me | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 3:57:46 PM | | If she offered, she probably wanted it. You broadening it to women in general is probably more degrading... no? | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 4:15:05 PM | | I have no interest in doing that, but the majority of girls I have been with have wanted some form of it. Some even get pissy if I refuse. One even dumped me and said normal sex doesn't do it for her, she needs it. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 4:21:39 PM | | I don't know if it's offensive, but it's completely cheesy and laughable. I would think someone watched way too much porn if they wanted to do that. Same with facials. It's way too corny. I'd start laughing before it even happened. Let's not forget the horrible things that can happen if it gets in the eyes. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 5:51:12 PM | | Man, I wish you were with me, you'd get the cum in all places, at least 5-7 times. I love you. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 5:56:44 PM | | who cares if its degrading, i love to see my cum all over her face,if she is lucky i will wash it off with piss. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 6:36:30 PM | | Sexual exploration, is fundamental in a healthy sex life. Some things you may care for and others you may want to avoid after the first time. Simply let go of your inhibitions and discover yourself anew, please her and please yourself in the process. However, never force, let everything flow naturally and have fun. | |
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| Do you think it's degrading...
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:14:46 PM | At first I thought it was extremely gross. I mean, come on, it's obviously nasty, but then I thought about people who have loved me with that limitless passion and desire that real love provides...
When I think of the idea that she would really want some of me on her... or in her...
It makes me feel obligated to fulfill her wishes, even though they are no fetish of mine.
So all I can say is, you probably just didn't feel real love for her, and so your inhibitions were not something you wanted to let go of with her. I'd feel the same way, OP, so I don't blame you in the slightest.
But hopefully you meet someone who will want that because it's you, and not because it's cum. Then you should realize that it's special, and not degrading, and I hope you fulfill her wishes.
Hopefully that made sense. I just kinda wrote from a deeper place than the brain, so if it's incoherent I claim no responsibility.
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| Do you think it's degrading...
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:26:49 AM | Actually, the part that I find sad is that the OP missed a chance to explore something that she *might* have been turned on by. By stating that you felt it degrading to her rather than asking her if it was something that turned her on, you totally blew what could have been a great experience for both of you... (Providing you watched your aim and kept it out of her eyes.)
I'd say next time don't state your opinions first, ask "Why". Why else would she have offered? Curiousity maybe? It turns her on? You ruined the moment???
Gez, it's nature's body lotion... Have a blast (literally) and go shower fer god sake...
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Posted: 5/18/2008 12:37:47 AM | I'm curious to know if the OP would find it degrading to have a female squirter cum on his face. Or is it just that women are supposed to be treated as fragile creatures who don't know how to use soap and water.
I hope the OP never meets a woman who wants him to slap her in the face rather than just cum on it. | |
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Posted: 5/22/2008 12:11:47 PM | If she takes pleasure in getting the necklace, and it is not really his thing, who cares, give her the pleasure she is looking for! You don't have to do it every time, maybe next time he wants her to swallow and it's not really her thing, but she does it for him.
It's all about not being selfish! | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 4:58:53 PM |
What's the opinion here on that sort of thing? Facials, necklaces, back sprays...anything that has to do with releasing your load on her body.
With my ex-wife, she didn't care where it went, as long as I was coming. With my last LTR, she specifically said the first time "You can come IN me, but not ON me". So it just depends on the woman. I don't do it to the woman with the intent to be degrading, but some people do. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 5:13:42 PM | | i only think its degrading when its something one person doesnt want and the person does it anyways. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 5:18:07 PM |  Ok I was reading this all wrong . I'm thinking a real necklace !
If she is into this little kink .. why not
If you are not comfortable with it than don't | |
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Posted: 9/7/2008 6:14:33 PM | | It's not inherently degrading. It would be if she didn't want it, but as long as she's consenting and willing to try, I see no problem. | |
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