| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:43:14 AM | I had originally thought that these threads were started as a joke- seeing as how I was on several threads about :
1. favorite list number bugging people
2. read/delete
3. unread/delete
4. reply to every email sent
5. send the nasty second retaliatory email after being rejected the first time.
6. power tripping women/men who don't return emails
7. power tripping women/men who block people
8. unresponsive women.
9. The kindness crew: It's just kindness to say "thanks but no thanks"
AKA the ARC -anti-rudeness crew & the MRMRC- Mommaraisedmeright crew
I prefer Mr.Mrc crew for no real reason.
10. the men's response is to write back how ugly/fat/repulsive you are and he was just doing you a pity favor as no one would want you anyway
11. Block- why do people block an d what can we do about it?
12. why don't these people like me?
Then all of a sudden there seemed to be an influx of these threads about the same sort of thing.
It reminded me of what another person posted " you are beating the ground where a dead horse once lay!"
Some of the threads get deleted immediately, some get deleted 6-8 pages in while others are never deleted.
I have since changed mymind to allow for only 20% fakery threads with the remainder being legit by well meaning but 'search button handicapped " SBH people who may believe that their situation is unique and thus qualifies for an entirely new thread.
I apologize in advance to anyone who is offended by my use of" handicap". If anyone is truly afflicted with SBH , I mean no offense.
Seeing as how many of the people only read the first or the last post- and very little in between- not much is ever accomplished.
Someone - for some reason it is usually a woman- jumps in to report how 2 guys are 'really going at it tooth and nail " when nothing could be further from the truth. Just two people jawing, sipping coffee or rum and coke ( not diet- if anyone else brings me a diet coke- i'll pour it on their feet !) eating doritoes ( creamy ranch mmmm creamy ranch ) .
HOw about :
do what you want.
don't expect other people to do what you want ALL of the time.
Don't whine and complain about it when it doesn't happen the way you want it.
With only one or two exceptions -you know who you are... , the people who write in to say " I will do as I please!" are not trying to convert the other people. HOwever, the other people...whoa...
People who can't handle rejection, posting their comments on the threads are pointing out their mindset, giving almost complete credence to those people's actions who didn't bother with them in any fashion.
it's the same mindset in all of these things, that prompt these people to complain in this manner about these things. It ain't pretty as E**** once wrote.
and yes, to your question R. e*t*^e$$ mind, you are expecting too much to believe that people will act the same way in here as they do IRL. Some people adopt a different set of rules that optmize their chance of success. Itonly makes sense to do so.
I suspect that this thread- or my post will be deleted in about 3 hours . So until next we meet , in the next D2D thread about the same old topics with a new twist ( make mine a lime ! ) - unless something more is added to this one- ..
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:01:51 AM | I wish there was a button to send a polite "not interested"
If you consider how many sociopaths and convicts are patrolling the internet, and how screwed up "normal" people are these days, you wouldn't want to answer all of your messages.
On top of that, people have such a sense of entitlement these days, when you try to politely deflect someone's attention, they often go into attack mode.
I have found it is just better to show no interest (read&delete) and concentrate on someone you might have a chance to develop something good with. Meanwhile, enjoy the ego trip. | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 9:18:26 AM | i left out the MORAL faBRIC OF SOCIETY people... the MFS crew.
or the unravelling of fabric crew.. UFC.. i think that is taken.
the
Just about every thread on any topic has someone post about the moral fabric of society unravelling, being torn or whatever.
I don't want to leave those people out.. they may be offended and start a thread...
now.. I' predict that the thread du jour will be on either the favorite lists or read/delete no response..
in 10, 9, 8...... | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:13:45 AM | No there is no need. no reply is a reply.
It is nice if there is thoughtful message but only tell people "no not interested", expecting people to get the "hint" is not nice IMO. | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 12:25:08 PM | | Jump into a dumpster cover youself with gabage and have your pic taken like that. Post that pic and you'll get fewer e-mails. The good guys love garbage - we're like flies. So you won't be missin' out on any of the good ones. Trust me. | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:34:43 PM |
I had originally thought that these threads were started as a joke- seeing as how I was on several threads about
as a joke...? how about... real life issue tagged with humor?
Well, read/delete is pretty much not the same as unread/delete  (okay, okay... I take that back)
btw... isn't that funny? PoF claims to be a WEB2.0 site but struggles to get the user generated content under control like nowhere else. (imho)
A single general purpose thread might help...
No matter how similar threads are, mostly I am curious what's coming up... it's entertaining, sometimes funny, even thoughtful and often versatile and sudden. Did you never think of an own thread like "Help, my neighbor lives right next to me, am I stalked?" just to know if this happened to someone else as well and how to deal with it?
Can't help... somehow I like that... it's so........ unexpected!
People who can't handle rejection, posting their comments on the threads are pointing out their mindset
...yup...as almost every statement does and I am grateful for that. It gives me orientation and it's the way I find the people I like to surround myself with.
Otherwise... maybe some people handled rejection better than it appeared and they only felt hurt for some reasons... maybe some only had a bad day that day. I stopped counting the times I'd liked to take back what I said 
I suspect that this thread- or my post will be deleted in about 3 hours
haha... you are not making a good prophet (if so I will stop eating until it is recovered @pof stuff)
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:47:01 PM | | My policy is that unless he has made some effort with his message i.e. more than a simple 'hi, how are you?' then I am not going to make the effort to respond. So come on guys put some thought into it! | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:07:21 PM | | I don`t answer every email I receive and I am surprised how many people get mad when you don`t. Its pretty self explanitory... no answer means , No interest!! I don`t consider it ruse at all. | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:13:31 PM | as a joke...? how about... real life issue tagged with humor?
yeah.. we both seem to be in agreement here. i really thought that some of the threads were completely fictional, a reaction to some of the threads that had been started. There were at least 2 that I had read that turned out to be works of art.... that oddly enough rang true ... one about the spouse going to a sex vacation. and another that had the man complaining about his wife/gf almost point by point in the same manner that the girl often complains about the guy..
and there was another one the was just the opposite but the same.
The ones that are unintentionally funny are almost pathetically sad as the person posting is completely oblivious to her actions' effects. The control freaks who 'complain' that their slave no longer does what she tells him to do..
The guy who admits to not giving a rat's a$s about anyone's feelings/concerns yet is hurt beyond belief that someone forgot something.
"People who can't handle rejection, posting their comments on the threads are pointing out their mindset"
...yup...as almost every statement does
of course they do. Some people come across as extreme people who are very concrete in their belief and opinions. They dictate their belief to other people and demand that these others follow. They are tyrants and despot wannabe's for the most part.
Others come across as being more into free will and choice people who don't want to be subject to the relentless propaganda machine that is attempting to drive over them.
The propaganda people scream and yell and do so over and over until many people begin to believe that their rants are true.
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:31:24 PM | I think that a better question would be :
How many times per day should I check to see who has viewed me?
What is the proper etiquette involved in this ?
Should I immediately send an email to those women ( and that one guy...man he won't give up . i told you *******, I am not interested !) who viewed me in the hopes that they did so to entice me to contact them?
How long should I want before I contact a person who has viewed me so I don't come across as overly needy.. When I actually am only being polite- as my momma brought me up right!
Is it 2 days or 3?
Am I a view a holic if I check every hour ? or every day?
What is the procedures involved in this function?
Some more possible threads that haven't come up yet. although I am seriously SBH.
Some of you may be asking if I am serious or being sarcastic: it works both ways.
night all. | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/14/2008 9:10:27 PM | | I respond to every message except for the occasional rude one. I tell those who obviously haven't read my profile that I'm not looking and that I'm here for the forums. I then go on to wish them luck in their search. Usually, that's the end of things unless they are truthfully just looking for a friendly exchange of ideas. | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:31:42 AM | I reply to everyone. Usually i just say"sorry but i have a wonderfull boyfriend already"
they either dont reply after that, or they say "thats cool i hope your happy" so i do like to reply... its juts polite.. :) | |
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| Should I reply to EVERY message I get?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:59:19 AM | | I have to agree with most on here...if you read an email from someone and you arent interested, dont reply. If you do reply, all your doing is possibly stringing someone along, which always sucks. So yeah...you look at their profile, read the message and if you arent interested...dont respond. If someone gets the wrong idea and writes you back mad or upset thats what the block option is for...anyone who reacts like that isnt worth talking to in the first place and obviously has issue that you definitely dont need to deal with. As for being a view-ah0lic...what is that? LOL i view alot on here...how else are you going to find someone? And as for checking on who viewed you...thats what the option is there for...if someoen doesnt want you to know they viewed you they could have disabled that! However it doesnt necessarily mean they are interested...but if you dont message them, you wont know will you? | |
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