| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:05:22 PM | Well OF COURSE IT IS CHEATING!!
There is emotional cheating as well as physical cheating...but I would consider this definitely physically cheating! They took place in a sexual act, whether his penis ever entered her in any way, makes no difference!
(This reminds me of how todays teens don't think that oral sex is sex!!)
Yes, they cheated on their spouses. To me sex is an act that involves two people, with at least one of them reaching a climax. They both did, and as a result they cheated.
OH MY GAWD!! Climax is NOT required to consider an act, sex!!! Gee...if everyone that does not climax was considered not having sex, we would have a LOT of virgins still out there! LMAO LMAO | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:06:33 PM |
Cheating is in the HEAD. You dont have to have physical contact to cheat.
Yep.
Im monogamous. And frankly...that story (assuming its true) would make me sick if I found out my SO did something like that.
Emotional purity in a relationship is just as important to me as physical.
Ive never been in a relationship and even remotely lusted after another man. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:07:11 PM |
They both go back to working and soon finish up their work and each leave both simply saying a professional good night and see ya tomorrow with no acknowledgement of what transpired.
Would YOU consider this cheating ?
Yes. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:12:37 PM | I don't know about it being cheating, but I think I have a new fantasy... 
That interview one was getting old.  | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:13:23 PM | | its simple, masterbating in front of another person behind ur hubby or wifes back is cheating. Dave woud u wnat your wife to go masterbating in front of another man at work? | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:13:47 PM | Cheating????? Depends on the relationship with the spouses.
Have to tell you I have never watched porn (no comments, just never had the need) but I have a real visual here.
Do these two people happen to work in an office of a towel factory and maybe were doing quality control when these wonderful acts occured? Would have been nice to have something handy. Or maybe they were the office maintenance.
Lends new meaning to the word CO-WORKERS..........................
Dave......couldnt you sleep last night???????????lol | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:17:51 PM | | It's only cheating if you're doing something you wouldn't be able to get away with if your SO is watching you. Whether or not the people in question were cheating, depends on the understanding they have with their relevant SOs | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:22:55 PM | Yes.
And it would be the end of it for me... Cheating is a big no in my book.
*shrugs*
Would phone sex be cheating? Cybering?
For me: yes.... guess I am a bit old fashioned that way...
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:23:02 PM | So...Jack & Jill went up the hill & reached the summit together even though they weren't holding hands?...
...when they're supposed to be climbing only with their spouses?...
Yep...lustful thoughts brought to a climax (pun fully-intended) in view of the lavacious target qualifies as "cheating" in my book...
Save the juicy bits for your partner...
Annudder | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:24:06 PM | Well.. The question should be , WOULD THEIR respected spouses consider it cheating?
I would say that this is something they would not of done with their significant other's in the same room..
Now if they would of been masturbating alone while looking at a sexy porn, in their home or hotel room , that would be different.. My hubby has caught me doing this, and he does not consider it cheating..
But I'm sure if he came home and found me masturbating in-front of another man and another man masturbating in-front of me , he would definately consider it cheating no matter if their ARE NO WORDS BEING EXCHANGED.. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:25:32 PM | | In the basic sense, yes, this is cheating, just as much so as if you had blown your cork inside of her. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:26:23 PM | Re the Opost
I think Dr. Phil's definition of cheating is spot on, thus the event in the OPost is def cheating!
But what a fun thing to do at work, when two are not married or committed to others! Wow! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:31:59 PM |
Dave woud u wnat your wife to go masterbating in front of another man at work?
Kitten..... this is not my question per say. As I originally noted it is something that I heard on a radio talk show. I left my feelings out on the question and simply put it out there for discussion and others views.
But yes, It is cheating to me. The act, although not physical with the two in question, was an act that emotionally ( and to some degree physically) violated the boundries of commitment, be it marriage or a LTR. It was an intimate act between two people other than their spouses.
Needless to say..... if my SO told me she was involved with something like this in work....... it would be over pronto. All trust would be gone as well my feeling that our intimacy was violated.
Peace | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:35:19 PM | Is it cheating i don't know... but its HOT!!
Do we really know the whole story...maybe they work in Quality Assurance for an Adult Toy company and were just conducting product testing or something? LOL
...of course its cheating...but again I stand firm in my belief that its HOT!! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:35:35 PM | Dave......couldnt you sleep last night???????????lol
LOL......... slept like a baby last night...... I did the same act only I was alone and am single and therefore cheated on no one............... my conscience is clear :) 
Peace | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:42:47 PM | **** THE PLOT THICKENS ****
As this torrid event was happening between the two co workers..... the company janitor was walking by. An older gent. He happened to glance inside and seen what was goin on. He hid behind the doorway and was peeking inside watching the events as they unfolded.
He was dumbfounded and aghast at what he was witnessing. He also became very aroused. He could not control himself and he started to masturbate watching the other two masturbate....... and he himself eventually popped his proverbial cork.
So.... did the janitor ALSO cheat on his wife ?????
LOL
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:47:35 PM | See I knew there was a maintenance worker involved somewhere in this scenario..The Janitor is just a diry old man who hasnt had it awhile.
Dave........stand away from that radio!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 1:49:49 PM | "So.... did the janitor also also cheat on his wife ?????"
Let's apply Dr. Phil's rule: YES!
lol lol lol
America is a very zanny place!!!! Luv it!
PS. Is that a "menage a trois" (3some) or not, technically? lol lol lol (IMO, 2.5)! | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 1:51:45 PM | "Cheating" is not really the thing to focus on, in my opinion.
The question to ask is: "Would my partner feel betrayed by me doing this?".
If the answer is "yes", then to do this would be betraying them.
That part is simple.
The less simple but quite essential part is talking to your partner, taking care to get to know them -- so that you know what they would feel was a betrayal. And it doesn't matter how rational or irrational their definition of betrayal is -- you only need to know what is is and decide whether or not you can be with them and not betray them. And if you feel that their idea of fidelity would be an unnatural imposition that you cannot live by, then you let them go -- before you betray them. You don't try to talk them out of their feelings, because it is their feeling of betrayal that matters, not whether 50 other people feel the same way or not.
Some people have open relationships. Others have cultures where a man cannot look upon a woman's face unless she is a relative or to be married to him. There are many ways of looking at the world and the one that matters, as far as betrayal is concerned, is the one your partner has. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 2:07:14 PM | Why do people tie themselves up in one-size-fits-all definitions? This is like asking "is an open-faced sandwich really a sandwich?" I mean, what is the point of this question? Are we all supposed to agree on a single definition of "cheating?" Then what? Will we enforce that one definition on everyone who really doesn't give a rat's ass? It's pointless to try to nail down a black and white definition of a complex subject.
Jimmy Carter, for example, famously told Playboy that he had committed adultery in his heart, that it was as grave a sin as the sticky variety. Are you going to make him change his mind, or are you going to make us all agree to that as well?
I'm sorry, but I pity the fool who plays gotcha with arbitrary definitions like this. The story OPie heard on the radio was of two married people venting a powerful attraction without starting an affair. Not only didn't they even touch, they didn't put their spouses at risk for STDs, and they made their gratification each about himself and herself, rather than about romance. Would their spouses prefer otherwise? Sure, maybe so. Probably so. But what would they suggest as an alternative? Suffer? Quit your job? Kill yourself? Double up the therapy appointments?
But let's not bother the spouses, especially because they're fictional. You tell us. How do these two people manage an intense attraction to each other that in no way compromises their commitment to their spouses? If you can't offer any better a course to them than to suffer in silence, then, you know, shut up. We're supposed to avoid suffering and seek pleasure. That's how every animal survives. To choose suffering is perverse!
Cheers!
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/11/2008 2:15:32 PM | ask there partners I'm sure they would feel Ill about the whole thing.
basicly it's cheating because there hearts and attention was not on there partner they love so much.. if they did they would have gotten out of there instead of playing with fire. they cheated in there hearts for sure. | |
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Posted: 5/11/2008 2:30:39 PM | Ive never been in a relationship and even remotely lusted after another man.
And a big 'ol high five to you Kyn! When I love a man, other men do not even exist to me ~ not in a sexual way at least. Period. Cheating cannot happen unless one is open to it. Keep your door closed and your legs crossed, and you have no problem. | |
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