| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:34:30 AM | | um yes, this is cheating, would you want or approve your otherhalf to partake in this kind of activity herself with someone she knows without your knowing or approval? | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:22:09 AM | Simply put...yes!
Relationships are all about intention and attention.
When someone makes a mistake of the heart, it's understandable and can be forgiven. Intent of the mind is wholly different and I dare say this was an intentional act.
It's not uncommon for an attraction between two people who work closely together. We all have choices and are held accountable for our choices.
I wonder how the man, who participated in this scenario, would feel if his wife had done the same...hm? | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:44:55 AM | | I did not read all the posts because I thought right off the bat yes...msg 3 thought the same thing as me...it would be the same thing as cyber sex, going to one of those peep shows etc etc...if you feel guilty then you are guilty...what would your SO think if he/she knew that you let another person of the opposite watch you masterbate and you watched that person....I dam well know I would feel that my SO would feel I cheated and vice versa...........wondering and fantasizing about someone, a coworker is one thing but when you step over that line and have some form of intimacy then yes it is cheating | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:49:34 AM | | To me, any sexual 'contact' between 2 people is cheating. So to me, no, this is not cheating. Would i approve if my SO told me he did that? Not only no but HELL no! Only a matter of time before those 2 ppl DO have sexual contact. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:56:08 AM | | Well... first of all... you just told on yourself! Second of all... YES! IT IS CHEATING!!! ...and the worst of it is, you know it! | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:57:17 AM | | If this act is something that either spouse of these two would be upset over...then it is cheating. If it is something that must remain secret, it is cheating. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:16:59 AM | | yes without a doubt and i nkow your talking about yourself i hope your wifes not watching this site. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:24:22 AM | My opinion on the subject is this:
In ANY scenario pertaining to cheating it goes like this. If you find yourself in one and are questioning the "is this right or wrong" "is this cheating" angle than most likely you've answered your own question. Also, if you find yourself questioning your actions the next appropriate thought process is thinking about your mate and if THEY would be hurt knowing what has just happened / will happen. No one knows your situation better than the two of you. No one knows your mate's reation to this sort of thing better than you.
It's really that simple! | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 8:36:55 AM | I think you a;ready know the answer, but just looking for some type of justification. Ask yourself this question...How would you feel if the shoe was on the ther foot? | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:36:58 AM | | Yes it is cheating and what is worse they are trying to fool themselves. If they don't think this will lead to more they are nuts. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:44:16 AM | | I wouldn't call it cheating per say, but its definatly unacceptable behaviour , and i'd be rethinking my relationship. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:14:11 AM | This is a dumb scenario; of course it is. If you are not willing to do something in front of your wife when you are with another woman, then yes you are cheating. If its not then they sh0uld have no problem doing this in front of their spouses.
It amazes me how bad character is these days. I'm attracted to a ton of women but I also have self control. Trying to find ways to have sexual experiences with the opposite sex that arent' considered cheating is ridiculous. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:25:15 AM | Eh....I guess by default it is not cheating. But, I think my SO would have a rather hard time justifying that to me. I do believe that I would remind him where the front door was...
~Welder's Girl~
EDIT: mthom ^^^^ I'm blocked from messaging you, but I'm adding you to my faves b/c I enjoy reading your posts. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:33:54 AM | WOW....
what you just posted was HOT!!
would you consider it cheating if you were fantasizing about a celebrity while having intimacy with your partner?
What the two had done was basically in my opinion materialized a fantasy. i dont know if i would consider this cheating. if i was the spouse, i wouldnt like the idea that it has happened, arghhh so difficult to answer. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:44:21 AM | | Yeah it's cheating. If you have to go someone else for "satisfaction" of that sort, you're cheating. You should be able to to that with your SO. At the very least discuss doing it with them. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:44:25 AM | The woman leans back in her chair and while looking at her coworker she put her hand under her skirt and starts to masturbate while gazing at him. He then unzips his pants and starts to masturbate while gazing at her....
Not a word is spoken and no physical contact is made between them during this act...
She gets her jillies off and he pops his cork.
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That is just so silly. Of course not. In my town at least, people do that a lot, and no one thinks about it. It's a common event. Good question! | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 11:05:45 AM | | Informal survey has the yes winning this one by about 85-15%. Now would the 4 women that didn't consider this cheating please give me a call! | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:29:53 PM | I keep coming back to this thread. The opinions are extremely enlightening to their posters. Has anyone else noticed that almost no one has said "well, it's really only cheating if the people involved believe it to be..."(the participants and their spouses), yet so many of the posted opinions are a simple, blatant cry of "yes, they're cheaters!" or assume the OP is seeking possible justification for his own cheating.
I wonder how many of those that posted that this scenario inherently represents cheating actually believe themselves to be non-judgmental? How many think they are secure in their selves and identity?
I love the forums. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:34:05 PM | Would the two co-workers have done this act of masturbation in front of their spouses?
Most likely answer: no
Perhaps we can then classify(cause society LOVES to label)...their "hidden" behaviors as inappropriate. And "potentially" harmful, as it could lead to more serious hurtful behaviors for all parties involved. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 12:59:18 PM | I wonder how many of those that posted that this scenario inherently represents cheating actually believe themselves to be non-judgmental? Hmm is it wrong for me to assume that married people should be respectful of their marriage vows to their spouse??  I don't think so. If you polled married men, what sort of percentage do you think would state "sure I think it's great for my wife to diddle herself at work after business hours while she's watching her hunky colleague yank his crank". Probably none. If you polled married women, how many would state "I like it when my man jacks off late nights at work when he's watching a female colleague play with herself". | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:26:58 PM | | Well put it this way...if a guy unzipped in front of me....i'd have him arrested...unless I was comfortable with him...really liked him...and was happy to see his body........and theres your answer. Feelings came into play here, so you can't call it innocent. There is a line...and they both crossed it. In my book, it's cheating. | |
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| Is This Considered Cheating ???
Posted: 5/12/2008 1:43:05 PM | If you have to ask, then you already have the answer.
And, hell yes it's cheating, in case I wasn't clear with the first line. | |
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