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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:03:50 PM | | In the past when I've tried to have no strings attached sex it works for 2 or 3 times, but after that I began to feel an emotional bond. That was in my upper 30's when my hormones were raging and I thought I could control my emotions. I know better now and don't have sex unless a sense of attachment (or a real potential) is there and is mutual. While the casual sex seemed fun at the time, in retrospect it is a disservice to who I am because I am worthy of and longing for a real relationship. Casual sex was like going to the carnival - a distorted view of the world where the rides are too fast, you eat too much cotton candy, and while it seems fun, you end up wanting to puke. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/10/2008 3:27:11 PM | | Well that would depend on the type of relationship I have with the guy. If he was a FWB, for me that would just be impossible. I'd have to be attracted to the guy in order for me to want to sleep with him in the first place, so it is possible for me to become attached to him. Its easier for me to just say "oh I'll make sure I don't fall in love with him, shouldn't be too difficult". But that's not what usually happens is it? | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/10/2008 6:49:15 PM | I've been with a girl for just the sex. We both agreed to it and she loved it just as much as me. We didn't see each other any other time except for when we wanted some and she never complained. I can't be sure but maybe having a boyfriend at the time had something to do with it... | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/11/2008 6:17:51 AM | I have never attempted it. I can't just have sex for the sake of getting your rocks off. It has to mean something to me. I don't have sex, I make love. Call me old fashion, but in this day and age , you can never be too careful. Even if I would have done no attach sex in the past. I would never do it now. Too many nasy disease that can kill you or make you very sick, HIV,Aids,Hepatitis,Herpes,Syfilis- which is not on the rise again. No way, I have to have the attachement to that person. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/11/2008 7:16:06 AM | | ofcourse it is can say ive had a some of the best sext from nsf (**** buddys) resent one we would txt each other wen we wanted IT then we would meet up have a drink something to eat have sex and leave simple both of us had alot going on at the time so was just easier like that | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/11/2008 7:27:14 AM | I've known women who just wanted friends with bennefits. Some of them were more friends with some bennefits while others where less friends with more bennefits. I don't know how other guys are so much on this topic but if I find a woman who's good in bed then I usually keep cumming back for more. Meanwhile if a woman is lousey in bed, then I usually don't go out with her again unless I'm really desperate for some.
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/12/2008 6:59:47 PM | | I think woman can do it..though we are definetly more emotional beings...those of us who have noted how men have treated them for years can seperate the 2. I have had not just a husband who took advantage but a sufficient amount of dates that thought me nothing more than a piece, so when the tables are turned some men aren't so casual anymore. Shocking as it may sound, its pretty empowering to be the one to get up and leave afterwards as they beg for you to stay...just a thought but it can be down. Dont be confused the men that became NSA had started as what I assumed were more (shockingly they did not lol) then i detached and made it NSA for both sides...Sex is about passion most of the time you can have passion and hot steamy sex without emotion.. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/12/2008 7:01:17 PM | | cptmiagr, you're right, but the string is easily cut. i'm doing the no strings now and it has been nice. i have missed sex for a long time and it just is really nice having someone holding you. i am still looking for someone i want to make new memories with but for right now this will do. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/20/2008 2:31:16 PM | I am currently in a NSA relationship and I am enjoying very much. My friend and I see each other a few times a week and we have mind blowing sex. I have tried a few serious relationships and I have found them to be very hard and it is really not my thing at this time.
So for the time being I am getting what I want and need and he is as well. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/20/2008 2:34:43 PM | Yes women can.
Its just important for us to keep all emotions and anything that might incur emotions out of anything to do with them. No emails, no calling just to talk, no nicknames, no hanging out with them for anything other than sex. Completely getting rid of the idea that you two are anything other than just buddies, that's the only way I believe you can really do this without eventually getting attached. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/20/2008 2:45:50 PM | I know it's possible because I've done it more than once. I couldn't when I was younger. If I got physical with someone I became very attached. However, a few years ago I realized I might never find "Mr. Right" and decided that I didn't want to be celibate for the rest of my life. So, occasionally I've enjoyed the company of Mr. Right Now. I've tended to choose men who live far away or are passing through town so there won't be much chance for follow up. It's been fun and I've had some great experiences. While I'd love to find the love of my life, until I do I'll settle for getting laid well.
I asked a friend whose opinion I value whether she thinks it might make me less likely to find Mr. Right. She said that in my case, it put me in such a good mood that she thought it might make me more attractive and, in fact, this seems to have been the case.
I think a woman has to decide for herself whether this will work for her or not. At any point I may decide that this is no longer what I want to do. However, for the last couple of years it's worked pretty well for me. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/20/2008 5:41:54 PM | | Sure I feel something for chicks sometimes if I like their personality or ability but I can turn that attachment feeling off if the girl is lame or she doesn't like me. Women are different because they want to have children and they feel empathy easier than dudes. It is harder for a woman to break off a relationship with anybody so I can see how girls worry about attachment more than guys. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/22/2008 9:15:45 AM | Gotta say, I LOVE this question. In my early 20's I was very much about "me". I treated men, well the way most men treat woman...as sex objects. Don't get me wrong, I wasn't out having a new person every night, but when I did decide that I wanted sex, I had it. No regrets and no I didn't give my number out at the end of the night. I told them it was fun, put on my cloths and went home. I've had some casual relationships in the past also. Someone who you enjoy their company, can talk to, have great sex with, but you know they're not the one and they know you're not the one. I've never left with hard feelings. When I started to feel anything over just caring about the person, I knew it was time to walk away. There comes a point when it's time to move on and go out and look for what you really want. I think the casual sex topic between women will always be a highly controversial subject. Scientifically we do release saratonin and it creates the same sensation with sex as it does with love. That's why most women get attached. Maybe my saratonin is broken! | |
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