| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:50:39 AM | I thought I could have no strings sex last year...and I did try it. The fellow was upfront, said 'no relationship' will come of it. I grew attached! He did not.
I wont try this again, it did hurt too much!
I do have females friends that can handle it, it just depends on the person. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:17:35 AM | i cant believe what some men are saying here but to each his own right?
i mean i can have passion without strings attached thats just how much passionate i am about the act of having sex. when i go down on that woman i want too please her and thats all im thinking of.. and let them do what they want as well.. if they are having fun and they are turned on in what they are doing i get more aroused. i dont have to think about love and all that its just sex and i enjoy it especially if my partner enjoys it...
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:45:04 AM |
Protection was invented for a reason. What consequences?
Now, I am sorry, but if this isn't an irresponsible answer, I don't know what is. That is what I am talking about, people just don't care. "STD's, what STD's? Never got them before, I will never get them!"
That is just plain irresponsible. Talk to all the other people who used protection and still got diseases. People need to take things more seriously about sex. There are plenty of men and women out there who would love nothing more than to infect the population with the disease they caught. Its no wonder why you keep hearing certain places have epidemics of STD's with thinking like that. Like one poster said, protection will help with some, but not prevent all. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:56:40 AM | but I do want to mention that condoms greatly reduce, but do not eliminate the risk of getting an STD.
The odds of getting a STD with a condom is very low. There is some risk ( even if the risk is very low ) in almost anything people do. When I drive a car, there is always a chance that I could get seriously injured in an accident. When I eat food at a restaurant, there is always a chance that I could get sick due to food poisioning. When I'm at a bank, there is always a chance that a robber could kill everybody inside the bank.
To answer, it is possible for some women to have a NSA relationship. Right after my divorce, I was looking for sex, but I wasn't interested in a serious relationship at the time. If both people are upfront with their intentions, then it could work out. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 9:09:42 AM | i use to be able to do this but not anymore...i need it to be more than a 1 time thing
lots of men and women do this and no problem with it as long as both ppl have a clear understanding of situation...
but i do feel after a surtan time period things should be discussed before feelings come into play or when others start assuming there something there not | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:12:44 PM |
I've Never had a Lady say that she needed to -Finish the job, herself- before..!!
-{Usually . . the debate is whether or not to have Another session..!!}
Ohhh, baby! See, here's a man who really knows how to "Git 'er dun!" LOL | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:36:36 PM |
The odds of getting a STD with a condom is very low.
That is exactly what I said. I was responding to a poster who said "What consequences? That's what protection was invented for" Actually, condoms were never intended to prevent STD's, they were invented to prevent pregnancy. It's just a lucky coincidence that they also greatly reduce STD transmission. Some people also use lambskin condoms. They are much less effective in preventing STD's than latex because they are, in fact, permeable, just not permeable enough for sperm to pass through.
The more partners you have, the more you risk adding a careless person into your play group.
I had a friend once who never told any of his partners he had herpes, because he believed it "didn't count". Trojan up, but you have to know there are always potential consequences..........including good old fashioned pregnancy. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:02:07 PM | | i DONT think so - its just a part of a womens 'human' makeup. Men are the same, its just that testosterone that gets in the way - but thereinlies the secret dear because all women can stir that pot around in allllllllllll kinds of different ways.....................lol lol lol | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:27:33 PM | | I think women and guys alike it is possible to have a physical get together with no emotional attatchement if you set your mind to it. I think what leads into problems on both sides with feelings after sex is that was mixed messages before or during the act. If you talk to someone about future together or later plans as couple on the date, or during sex especially the words I love you which shouldn't be believed so soon but by some nieve people it is. There is a big difference between just ****ing someone no strings attatched and love making. Is the way your going about it giving mixed messages? possibly. Looking long into persons eyes, slowly carressing, long slow kisses. Also I believe some people are just more emotional minded than rational and can't seperate the two. Saying most women associate sex with love just because of thrush inside her body is personal. While guys parts are external may allow more rational thinking. Either way it goes is possible for no strings attatched, personally not worth it. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:49:35 PM | | I've not had much experience here but I'm sure that, for me, if there is chemistry and attraction and want for more before the sex, there will be more after. If there is only a friendly feeling, then not so much! Also, to reflect other's words here - it depends on each person individually. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/14/2008 9:19:02 PM | I KNOW SOMEONE WHO SEEMS TO HAVE THAT DOWN PAT SHES GOT 1 BOY FRIEND AND 4 MORE LOVERS,HER BOY FRIENDS FIXED AND SHES PREGENT TO BOOT
GETTING ATTACHED AFTER SEX YEA BY THE TIME I'M READY FOR SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP IM ALREADY ATTACHED BUT THEN IM IN IT FOR A LIFE MATE NOT A ONE ONE STAND | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 1:15:55 AM | | Personally, for me in the past it's 100% the guys who get attached and start confessing their love for me. It goes both ways, and the ladies crying and getting all upset while the men walk off feeling like studs is stigmatized BS. :P | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:10:15 AM | | i think that instant emotional attachment is just a rumour to scare us. sex alone wouldn't make me attached to someone. i think that would only come if i was silly enough to try to hold on to them by giving it up. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:55:08 AM |
Actually ... Women give sex to get love; men give love to get sex. (A psychiatrist told me that even though I didn't want to hear it.
A very sweeping over generalization made by someone who read it somewhere but never questioned it. Or, based upon her clientele who may have done exactly what she described, the psychiatrist assumed that EVERYONE did that.
It has always been wrong in the sense that it may not even apply to half the intended audience.
You may need a second opinion- a less extreme one .
it makes for a good soundbite and people who have been like that feel all fuzzy and warm or validated by that comment. much like Men are from mars and women are from venus sort of drivel.
We - ( men and women ) do have different view points and ways of processing information- someone always posts the recent study to show how our neural connections are different when shown the same information or given the same description of events.
But we do have a few things in common.
People who refuse to admit/believe/accept that some women have a free will in their sexual and secular lives are beholden to a time long past. Many women have always enjoyed sex- even when they were told.. usually by men ( as a group en masse years ago ) that such feelings were not 'correct'. or ladylike.... lol...
And we masturbate, why?
great answer! lol...
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 6:19:02 AM | | I want a woman for life . first we love one an other . THEN , if SHE wants it's want she wants . NO NSA . FWByes . bUT just remmeber . You have sex with me . I am yours . | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 7:37:45 AM | | I can do it...I have done it...I had a f*ck buddy...wasn't someone I would've been seen in public with but damn he knew how to ring my bell! I was young and selfish but it was fun while it lasted! | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 7:55:15 AM |  ^^^^ any one that imsleeping with i would DEF be able to be seen in public with! LOL Having a fuk buddy or friends with benefits does NOT mean that we have slept we ALOT of people or that we have many partners at once.... ...... a fuk buddy is kind of to prevent that in my eyes....... you fuk the same person until a great guy comes along that wants a relationship....... and when you start TALKING to the new guy the fuk buddy shrinks back into the woods until you are single again... and NOT before! ...JMO :) | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 8:59:51 AM | | I'm sure it can be done by some women and men out there. Personally I like to have the intimacy factor which to me means a level of comfort and closeness. For me that can't be acheived when finished you roll over and whisper " God that was great..and what was your name again?" | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 9:14:46 AM | NSA? I think it is a crock, I've yet to see a clear definition of what NSA means.
In one situation I found myself in, the guy advertised NSA, I asked what the letters stood for and he told me No Strings Attached.... seriously I said, how is that defined? He said, well, you go your way, I go mine and *if* we decide to get together again then we will. He even went so far as to say, that if it we decided it was good, then *he* would have no reason to look elsewhere. I bailed, said it wasn't for me, he sent me flowers (hello, I smell a string!), then it was a game of cat and mouse. A great game albeit, but full of statements like "If I was with a woman, I'd be monogamous" Back out word in that statement "If". Lots of deep sharing (more strings), plenty of good couple stories ..... hook, hook, hook. Hey, I could see myself in all the scenarios that were painted, then snap, he says, I'm outa here, you are just to possesive!
Sure, there are a great deal more to it, but it would take a book to recount 45 days of endless emails and MSN chat.... how that can be NSA, I simply don't know, there was maybe 3 days out of all those days that we didn't spend at least 3 hours in contact of some kind. Oh, we met twice in person, never did do the sexual thing in the physical.
Show me a guy who has his sh1t together, really nice to look at, good body (including his tools), fun to be with (good sense of humour), I will tape his mouth, fvck his brains out and leave him tide to the bed post, NSA!
Based on my past experience with this so called NSA, that is the only way I'd do it!
That is *if* I chose to do it.
Ya right NSA!
I am not bitter, I just don't understand how *some* men project that they want NSA, when in reality, they want more, but are using NSA for their selection process.
That is a feminine point of view, based on my experience. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:23:55 PM | Well... sounds to me to be more about getting a "freebie sex ride" with the license to walk any time ... basically its a non-paid exchange short of prostitution but that claims to offer "some depth and significance because we arent getting paid" LMAO.
I dont know- not one to judge-- I'm not opposed to one night stands - but a recurring and ongoing no-strings situation seems abusive and exploitive to me unless its COMPLETELY emotionally balanced between the two. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 5/15/2008 4:00:36 PM | | I did this once or twice when I was younger. It was fun, but after a while you want to be with someone who you know is waiting for you and ONLY you. I prefer being in a serious relationship now before sex occurs. | |
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