| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 1:50:13 AM | | I'd say Yes.... Ok its not everyones cup of tea but then again what is? After being in a 14year relationship I have to admit i'm finding this whole ' No Strings ' thing fun. Live for the moment ' What will be will be.' | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 5:36:16 AM | i think that depneds on what one means by "strings"
personally, i am fortunate to have someone in my life that provides the intimacy i need and crave, without the expectation of anything beyond that from either side. i would never have thought i would enjoy such an arrangement, but it is perfect for me at this juncture in my life
that does NOT mean there is absolutely no emotional connection (if that is the string?)..........we are friends, we can talk about what else is going on, i would miss him if he was no longer in my life..........BUT, i do not wish to make a commitment to him, and we discuss regularly that if either of us starts to get too invested, or finds someone more compatible in the longer term, that we would respectfully step away and be happy that the other has found a great mate
so i'm not sure if what i describe is NSA in the OP opinion, it is to me, and it works for me | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:25:52 PM | | What I don't understand is, most girls want to be treated like ladies, and I do treat them very respectfully... then the NSA issue is discussed and pretty clear in the open, why do girls get or want to get attached after a couple of times together?? | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:38:09 PM | | ^^^^^ This has happened to me with guys as well. I'm always upfront and respectful but I find that some people (both men and women) just don't have what it takes even when they think they do. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/7/2008 11:40:57 PM |
The best sex I have had in the last 5 years was a one night stand. The worst was in a 4 yr committed relationship.
. . . and this from a woman. Good for you.
Speaking for myself, I've been much more attached after supposed NSA sex with a woman than I let on, the same with most of my male friends. We need to maintain the illusion that we don't care, so that women can feel good about asserting that all men want is sex. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 1:59:04 AM | | I didn't know the term FWB until I started Internet dating. I realise now that's what I was to my last long term ex, and there is no way I am going to be used like that again. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 6:56:29 AM | | I can't do it. I tried with one guy. For me, emotions get involved automatically. I have to have emotions before sex and sex itself floods my brain with oxytocin and I get even more emotional. I always feel "Love, love, love" even when I know the guy isn't feeling the same way. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:17:23 AM | If I had ONE guy that knows what he is doing in bed, and I can please him sexually as much as he can me...than HELL YESSS!!!! That is exactly what I am looking for! One guy who is great in bed and I don't have to baby-sit him the rest of the time when we are not together...I am a busy lady, and I hope he has a life outside of our sex life...-That is the problem a lot of times with guys, THEY get attached...not me
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 7:34:52 AM | I congratulate the ones who can have no strings sex..
But, I NEVER could, I just can Not divorce Sex and my Feelings..
I am just too square, too boring for Meaningless Squelch Sessions..
Cheers to all from Madame Buterfly.. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:17:37 AM |
If I had ONE guy that knows what he is doing in bed, and I can please him sexually as much as he can me...than HELL YESSS!!!! That is exactly what I am looking for! One guy who is great in bed and I don't have to baby-sit him the rest of the time when we are not together...I am a busy lady, and I hope he has a life outside of our sex life...-
i realize how fortunate i am to have found someone like this and have him in my life
i also recognize this is NOT for everyone, and i totally get and respect that
as with most things, i believe that if both parties are on the same page it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks
it works for us. and we talk openly about the signs to look out for that too many "strings" might be forming. at this point in my life, it is perfect for me. i also recognize that at some point it may no longer be enough. but i try to live in the present and not worry too much about that..........enjoy what i have while i am fortunate to have it
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:38:50 AM | ^^^^Beadonna
I totally agree. Each person knows what they need and want. The manfriend and I are in that kind of situation-though we do care deeply for each other-but he has his life and I have mine, but when we need -want or desire the other we are there for each other. Our relationship is NOT exclusive, but I choose to just see him, but we both have the understanding that should either one of us decide to be with another that we use safe sex practices. Is this an ideal situation for everyone-hardly-but I have a lot on my plate which doesn't afford me the trappings of a LTR-but I do desire companionship from a person who I know and trust-being him.
We both have been seeing each other for the past few yrs and it's worked out well-do we have bumps in the road-sure-because we do have a relationship, which just like any other has it's ups and downs. The thing is we are friends first and foremost, but we also are lovers. He's very much a supportive friend-so we don't just get together for sexual trysts-which is different, in my opinion of having NSA fun. Have I had a NSA fling-yep-didn't bother me because the sole purpose of the encounter was to have some physical pleasure only.
When I was younger I couldn't be with a man without having some emotional connection to him, however, now it doesn't seem quite as important as it use to be. Yes, having sex with someone you love is certainly quite nice, but I've had great sex with someone I just wanted to have sex with. If I decide that the FWB thing isn't cutting it I'm wise enough to speak up-however, for now it fits my life and I'm going to enjoy the manfriend for as long as we both choose to. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 12:15:39 PM | | I don't see why not. If a man has straight sex in a one night stand or booty call scenario there must be some women indulging him. Women think the same way but society can't seem to see it. Women can be as free, freaky, raw, and sexual as men. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 1:10:10 PM | of course we can ....it's just a need like food and water , and to have the odd 'buddy' is a good thing for both .....as long as BOTH know that there's no romance involved , just a need fulfilled  | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 1:31:56 PM |
When I was younger I couldn't be with a man without having some emotional connection to him, however, now it doesn't seem quite as important as it use to be. Yes, having sex with someone you love is certainly quite nice, but I've had great sex with someone I just wanted to have sex with. If I decide that the FWB thing isn't cutting it I'm wise enough to speak up-however, for now it fits my life and I'm going to enjoy the manfriend for as long as we both choose to
wow, magicalmary, i couldn't have said it better myself; i also felt very differently about it in the past- was sure for a very long time that i couldn't and wouldn't sleep with someone whom i didn't love. i highly respect those who still feel that way, but am glad i now see it differently because it is a very special and enjoyable aspect of my life
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:22:29 PM | | I have recently come to the realisation that the world is too busy to strike up full relationships, so yes NSA is possible for women although I think us females find it harder to put emotions aside. Women tend to feel bad because they believe that by getting what they want then walking away they become labelled when in fact it is themselves they are labelling. Go for it girls.....why should the men have all the fun ! | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:41:09 PM | | nsa sex is the best sex i hav lol u can be as wild and adventurus as u like with out thinkin oh i cant say tht he might thinkk im strange u can jus do what ever and try what ever u want i think its the best and i dnt get attached cuz if i hav sex straight way its jus sex but its wen we date and thn a few dates dwn the line it happens thn i get attached well thts how it is for me luv all u guys xxx | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:51:29 PM | I am not wired that way but there sure are a lot of men that try and convience us to do so. Have one really hot man from here that is still trying.......... at times I do wish I could pull that one off. This man is hot. I just cannot do it without the emotions. Emotions and really being into each other just makes it so good that I cannot imagine taking that away.
When you are emotionally involved and know the certain, look, touch, what ever that turns your partner on instantly is just great. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:40:52 PM | | It must be clear communication between the parties involved in whatever type of relationship they want to be involved in. For some NSA works, however, is that necessarily the same as FWB? I have had both that worked for a time and that's what some single guys do when they know they are not emotionally ready to take on anything more than that. I had a NSA for 6 months....we didn't date, she would just come over when I called or she would call me and ask me if I wanted company. Yes, most definitely women can do it, she did and we are still friends to this day, but she found someone for a committed relationship, and we both moved on. I have also had a FWB that has been good which involves going out and being seen in public together, which in my book NSA doesn't work well for public appearances. Bottom line: Communication for the boundaries of your relationship when you are single, being open and honest is more important so the other person is not lied to or felt manipulated in some way. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/8/2008 4:55:38 PM |
OK... here's a question that has been burning in my brain the past few nights ... ladies (and men feel free to chime in) do any of you think its possible for women to have sex and not get attached -- i.e. meaning NOT feel bad after a man leaves and likely doesnt return because he was upfront that SEX was all it was about? Also MEN -- most of you I hear are infamous for getting sex and dissapearing, but are there any of you that find it hard to not get attached to a woman after having sex?
Also- what is all the "attachment" before hand... is that just a seduction game ... as the man leaves afterwards... curious to know people's thoughts and ideas on this.
sure women do it all the time,they're called prostitutes. | |
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| No Strings Attached Sex-- Ladies, can you do it?
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:32:48 AM | | women give sex for love? that would explain a lot. i must be loveable. imagine my supprise.
of course that groupie feel cant be shook, u got to think they would turn around and be on the next guy when they lose me.
btw most women i met here lie a lot so its sure a shock to see how many girls are or have been nasty gross..... | |
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