| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:36:07 AM | | Well I guess it all depends on who is looking at the person......Granted Meg Ryan doesn't have the same looks that Angelina does, but some guys are appealed by the wholesome girl next door looking types as apposed to the sultry sex goddess types. But me thinks there is a huge difference from having "the slut factor" as you call it and just being sexy. I can walk in a room one night and not feel sexy, so I don't look sexy. But I can walk in a room another night feeling sexy and look it too. So, I bet Meg Ryan may not look like a sex goddess, but maybe in bed she is more than a kitten, looks can be deceiving. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:43:57 AM | The topic of this thread is very deceiving. Possessing a sex appeal vs. a "girl next door" has nothing to do with being or not being a "slut".
Keep in mind sex appeal can be in many "flavors"; i.e. how a woman carries herself, dresses, how she looks at a man, etc...........
Ideally, the woman that you want to take home and meet the family will also have some sex appeal (in your eyes) and the "star" of your fantasies............... | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:06:44 AM | First of all there is no formula; everyone is different.
I'm attracted to a very sweet person. Meg Ryan is not for me but I like a sweet person. Kind of like a Mira Sorvigno or Sandra Bullock. It's a turn on for me to be with a very sweet girl. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:14:41 AM | | The word "slut" in and of itself has only a negative, judgmental connotation to it. Everyone here has a history - what is the cut off for being a slut? 5 partners, 10 partners, 20 partners or 100 partners. To me the word has more to say about the user of it than whom it is directed towards. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:32:54 AM | | Being Good looking, sexy, and so forth is always in the beholders eyes. There is a lot to being attractive and some isn't even looks.... I've seen some pretty homely girls - ladies that when they would smile it would be as if the whole world would brighten and be just so beautiful.... | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 11:02:06 AM | Hmmmm...Sexy Vs Slutty. Some people got it, some people don't.
I agree with many of the previous postings that Sexy is a state of mind, confidence, comfort with ones sexuality, the way one carrys themself...all those things (IMO) define the allusive "IT" factor.
Sexy is dressy well, being suggestive with the way you dress but not giving it all away. Slutty is having more skin showing than fabric.
I agree it is important to be a Lady on the Streets and a Slut in the sheets - for the right man. If you are a confident individual (which usually exudes sexy) you will be presentable in any arena of life and still be able to tell your partner to meet you in the public restroom!!!
And Slut doesn't always have negative connotations...depending on which circles your in...i'm just saying...some people are proud to be 'cum sluts'....i'm just saying...
As always just my opinion... | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 11:11:56 AM | Personally, Why are you using the word "SLUT"???? Maybe you should try using
a better definition of what your trying to say!  | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 4:14:03 PM | Ok, one more time, for everyone unable to get past the word, "slut." Using the words "Slut Factor" implies that there may be an element of more salacious behavior to turning a man on than the wholesome All American girl. My post was merely questioning whether men are turned on by someone who might have an element of slut in their demeanor. It doesn't mean that a woman has to be a hooker to turn a man on. As one poster stated, some get it some don't. For those who don't, let me simplify it:
Is it not as much of a turn on to be with a woman who appears to be, on the surface, a "good" girl, ie. my Meg Ryan example. OR is it more of a turn on when a woman has some trait associated with wildness? Think of a continuum as follows:
Slutty ________________________________Wholesome
Which end will a woman be who turns you on? Or will they be in the middle? | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:25:11 PM | I'm still waiting for the men who say they want both.
As the popular saying goes that has been debated in these forums before:
A lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets is what a lot of men would like.
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:29:51 PM |
I'm still waiting for the men who say they want both.
I thought that was a given...
As the popular saying goes that has been debated in these forums before:
A lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets is what a lot of men would like.
The definite ideal.
...at the same time, not quite so defined and even that, is limiting.
Sometimes a freak in the streets and a lady in bed...is where the situation takes you. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 4:35:08 PM | I view a majority of 'Exceptionally Attractive' women more as 'Conceited' than 'Slutty'
A Gorgeous Lady would have to show a certain amount of acceptance to an ordinary guy like myself , as opposed to the Buff-type of guy...to regain the conceit points.. initially lost .
The 'Slut Factor' can only be truly determined in a 1-on-1 meeting.
I don't Mind a slut . . as long as she can display it in private . . in a generally meaningful relationship.
- 10 - 12 partners in a week is a bit TOO Slutty..!! -
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Posted: 5/12/2008 4:55:04 PM | meg ryan vs porn  porn stars are meant to be mens desires, meg ryan is an attractive actress, perhaps your friends views would change if she was pictured upside down with a speculum opening her rectum with a pained look on her face. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:24:07 PM | | i think men want the "slut" woman, and i'm not saying someone who is promiscuous but who they want to do it with them. for most men, a woman who is cute, pretty, attractive is not good enough for alot of men. she has to have a factor of showing skin or something in her clothing style etc. to make men want to do it with her. hence, women who look nice, pretty, wear frilly clothes, etc. dont turn men on. men get turned on by the leather, showing skin, etc. and it seems that most men have to have that shown to them or else they will not consider dating the woman. my opinion on the reason for this is the influence of tv and the internet. men see this and so are sensitized for this and when a regular woman looks nice but not like that, the man will not date her. i know there are exceptions, but this is what i think is most prevalent. mostly based on my offline experiences. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:36:07 PM |
A lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets is what a lot of men would like. Unless it's Mardi Gras. Then you can let loose. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 5:58:52 PM | Hmmmm Provocative, Seductive, erotic, alluring, tantalizing......OK...Slutty? Oh hell naw.....
Confused here.... I dont believe that any woman would find being called slutty a good thing.
Melody | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 5:58:59 PM | A lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets is what a lot of men would like.
That idea is not limited to men. It's one of the properties of a monogamous relationship. There was an exchange in a movie that may help illustrate this.
"What's the difference between a b1tch and a ho?"
"A ho gives it up to everybody. A b1tch gives it up to everybody but YOU!"
Women, too, want a man who can throw some mean mojo on some poontang. But only hers.
I don't really get what the fuss is about Angelina Jolie (or her type). To me, she looks like Christopher Walken in drag (seriously! They have the same facial profile. Check it out!), and she couldn't sell me water in the desert. In terms of qualities, there is "sex"... and then there is "sexy." And there's more to being sexy than looking like you go around treating every penis for snakebite. I'd fare better by finding a Meg Ryan type and TURNING HER INTO an ultra-slut. Just for me, of course. And I would copyright everything I taught her so, if we broke up, she couldn't use that stuff on any other guy. Nope, no way. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:53:03 PM | i think men want the "slut" woman, and i'm not saying someone who is promiscuous but who they want to do it with them. for most men, a woman who is cute, pretty, attractive is not good enough for alot of men. she has to have a factor of showing skin or something in her clothing style etc. to make men want to do it with her. hence, women who look nice, pretty, wear frilly clothes, etc. dont turn men on. men get turned on by the leather, showing skin, etc.
I agree that men get turned on by their being more skin showing. The more skin that shows the better. It seems that the cute, pretty, attractive with nice beautiful eyes and a beautiful smile is not enough for most men anymore, it used to be, but not anymore. Now it just seems it's all about perfection, and if you are not perfect then you are "not good enough" to even be dating. Sad but it seems that way. Offcourse for men, being attractive, and pretty, feminine (having a broud, womanly, big well defined chest/breasts) is still a requirment and part of the "package", it seems there always needs to be more and something new on the scene to promote more sex appeal and hormone rockin for the guys. After all one of the things that they say influences a mans penis size, is how often and how much he gets turned on by the opposite sex and especially his own lady.
However....I still don't like the word "slut" as it is derogatory. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 6:59:53 PM | | i dont mind if u rate me please tell me wat u think am i sexy...haha...in the men view kind of way | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 7:35:20 PM | From the Opost
"...The type you'd marry, take home to meet your grandmother but not the type who might be the subject of a sexual fantasy. Agree, disagree: Thoughts?.."
IMO, this line of thinking, "sexual fantasy" vs "take home" is very 1800s!
And Meg rocks my boat! | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:20:32 PM | That is a little bit better of being clarified. Middle part for me!  | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 9:42:30 PM | | I think what is sexy to some people is not sexy to others. The answers will vary. Beauty and what is sexy really is in the eye of the beholder. Some people really find wholesome types like meg ryan very sexy. Others do need a little more edge and don't like wholesome types at all. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/12/2008 10:49:43 PM | I love the word "SLUT" It is blantant female sexuality that cant be ignored.
There is nothing more attractive than a woman who is sexual to the point of "slutty" and I can't think of much that is more appealing and gratifying than a "Slutty" woman who wants only you.
Guys dream of them and stick up the arse inhibited women hate them. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:50:49 AM | "Guys dream of them and stick up the arse inhibited women hate them."
IMO this statement carries much truth.
It is high time the Sl word becomes a positive one rather than one with negative connotations.
Long live the "s.l.u.t.s."!
PS. Men in 2008 do not take their GFs to their mother, or parents in general, for approval, btw!
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:05:22 AM | You make the mistake of not looking close enough. Meg may look 'wholesome' most of the time, but I'm guessing if she was interested in a fellow, her expression and attitude would have him all warm and tingly. Smart guys don't fall for the fake puffed-up lips and the massive false eyelashes; they look for the look in the eyes. They look past the blatant and seek the subtle.
You're also mistaking makeup for appearance. Have a boo at some beauties sans the several hours of work:
http://byrev.net/wp-content/uploads/angelina-jolie-without-makeup.jpg
http://l.yimg.com/img.omg.yahoo.com/omg/us/img/41/fb/2162749805.jpg?y=626&x=495&q=75&n=1&sig=kS_4VoQtduTTyel8Ya3Vng--
My brother-in-law was acknowledged by every woman I know to be hawt. They were all falling over themselves to chat him up at my wedding. I later got to know one of his girlfriends. She said he was a dud in the sack. Moral of the story; you can't tell what a person's like between the sheets just by looks. People who are sexually secure don't feel they have to advertise their wares blatantly. | |
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| The slut factor
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:13:00 AM | "..you can't tell what a person's like between the sheets just by looks..."
True, true and it applied to both genders, of course.
BUT, usually a person who possesses "passion for life" is also "good" in bed. If that passion for life has not been beaten out of him/her by worries, lousy wedding, burdens, messy divorce, sheity career or work situations, etc etc. And a man or woman who is very "anal" in everyday life may be hot in bed, but I do not think that the probability is high. There are correlations between a "slutty" attitude in daily life and passion is bed. There is too much anal-ness in the world today. So "hooray" for (female and male) "s.l.u.t.s." (= (new definition) "a person with passion for life". Sluttiness makes this gloomy-anal world go round!
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