| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 6/7/2008 11:37:17 AM | Alienware Adam wrote:
****** why get involced with someone witha fialed life? Divorced 35, 3 kids old enough to be your younger brothers but too old to be your kids. He is sterile so you would not know motherhood. he has his own problems. ******
Are you implying that anyone who is divorced, has kids, and dating someone in a different age range has a failed life?
I wouldn't call any life a failed one. There is always hope that people's lives will improve. Just because someone is divorced does not mean they've failed. It only means they've failed at one particular thing. Just because you lose a baseball game doesn't mean you're a failure because you have many more ahead of you, or you just might decide you don't like playing that game and woodworking is more your style. No matter what, life takes many twists and turns and I don't know one person alive who hasn't failed at one thing or another. That still doesn't make it a failed life... unless you're at the end of it and you've majorly screwed up every single thing you've done.
You said you have had many failed relationships... does that mean you have failed at life?
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:05:03 PM | lucky his boy was there cause he would have been all over me!! 
And this ^^^^^^^^ is what you're looking for???? A guy you just met says something like that to you and you're all for it??? Man, no wonder I don't have a girlfriend, I show women too much respect I guess....sigh | |
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| RE : A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:15:03 PM | Maybe youve never been in this kind of situation before, but my guess would be that regardless of whether or not he was into you, things hadnt completely fizzled between him and his ex. Anyone that is taking the time to text someone and have an ongoing conversation (especially in the prescence of a present partner!) is either not over the previous relationship, really inconsiderate or fairly immature and looking for the wrong kind of attention. My guess would likely be all 3 in this case.
Its a ashame that you ended up going with the flow and letting your guard down only to find that it didnt work out. But just leave it as a lesson learned to wait a bit longer next time I suppose , as real relationships can stand the test of time, so may as well wait a bit for the physical part if you feel it effects you to 'give it up' so to speak.
It sucks that in this day in age it seems we either give all or nothing due to liars , cheats and fakes. But just stay true to yourself...the right one will come knocking one day :) | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:37:10 PM | badkitty718 you are so right on.It's happened to all of us at one time or another.
She did what most of us would do. I met a guy on line and we got together for drinks seemed to be a nice beginning . alot in common and saw each other again and then nothing but emails and an occassional accidental meeting. He always seemed glad to see me . Danced with me acted interested and then ..... a great date . He was very affectionit and flattering we slept together and he seemed pleased as well as I was. 1st time sex isn't always very great....but it was promising. The next day he sent me a junior high type email " so and so said that I said such and such" Bull----!
Wasn't interested in hearing my side. It was bogus! And I told him not to bother to call.
What in the world was that about? He just wanted to get laid? I guess ! But his demeanor was totally different than someone who just wanted to get laid. so who can figure...I guess I'm lucky I didn't waste anymore time on him. | |
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| RE : A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:40:19 PM | ((play nice nice markie poo.)) the "nice guy looking 4 a nice lady" wasn't sincere. some of us really do 100% mean it when we say that we are looking for a long term relationship and we don't talk marriage, sex, divorces, God, family and all of those private things we don't say them just to hurt another person's feelings and to give them a hardened heart. we don't secretly have other relationships of a sexual private nature with other people. when we meet somebody that we are interested in we actually work with that person towards a committment together not more friends on the POF page, brownie point on the scoreboard, notches in the belt. Some men and woman actually only want one person.
Markie poo stop being so negative.......or you will never be happy, get married," find the faith" have a happy life or find a soulmate.............and take it from a woman who most definately has been burned by some pretty cruel men.......put some faith in God. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:54:03 PM | So many times men do this. It is so easy to say whatever gets them what they want. So many men say they think woman lie and yet this story is done over and over again. I am sure he also... well, I will not go there. But, buyer beware is always a good thing.
Remember, I am so sacared I might love you...........blaaaaaaa blaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
He is playing you. We are not 20 yrs old. I am not playing. I want a real man in a real relationship..... hard to find.
Everything is in the actions. Show me... Show me .... Show me..... | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:31:04 PM | From a male perspective, I would say he probably is not over the ex wife yet. He wasn't ready for a real relationship, and was just testing the waters to see how far he could go, to prove something to himself about his manhood. I know, cuz I've been down that road.
EB, you're a beautiful woman, any man would be thrilled to be beside you, (or anywhere else around you!). Never be ashamed of your sexuality, we all need that aspect in our lives, and good sex is great, but good sex with a growing love behind it is just mind blowingly great. When two people connect and all they want to do is take the other to new heights....OMG. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:45:18 PM | Am I the only one who realizes that either the original poster is possibly a troll...she is using the pic of the prostitute "Kristen" who was caught with the governor as the pic on her profile......... (google kristen,governor spitzer) unless it actually is her, in which case I would say that she has way bigger problems she should be worried about.... | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:12:21 PM | | I met someone like this on here too. He was just looking for a bed buddy. My "guy" said that me having a son at home was not convenient for him at this time because I could not leave and meet him or him just show up for sex (which by the way was not that great). What kind of MAN says that when he has kids himself. COMPLETE JERK!!!! | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 6:51:35 PM | seriously he has enough baggage it sounds like to have his own bellhop- he obviously has boundaries and gave no consideration to you when he was texting hsi ex. Moreover, you probably had to go around his schedule etc. But in all fairness he jsut got out of a relationship and jsut wanted to have som fun- nothing serious.
Regardless of his ratioanle or reasoning- you did nothing wrong it seems. As for the sex- you are both grown adults.
Actions speak louder than words and looks like he made hsi decision- be thankful for he let you be free for the one who is meant for you. :) | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:31:02 PM |
So many times men do this. It is so easy to say whatever gets them what they want. So many men say they think woman lie and yet this story is done over and over again.
You got a definite problem with male bashing and generalizing. You report no citations or studies to back up these ludicrous statements of fantasy. These kinds of statements are vitriolic and serve no purpose other than perpetuating anecdotal nonsense.
Once, again your delusions are choking the life out of reality. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:36:30 PM | OP, you answered your own question in the fifth sentence of your original post:
<div class="quote">He had gotten out of a bad breakup a few months earlier and wasnt ready for anything serious...
There's your answer. It got serious, he got scared, and ran to someone who was more familiar to him.
People need to find out how long someone was in their last relationship, and how long its been since the breakup. The shorter the time since the breakup, the greater the chance that he or she is going to disappear quickly. You've got to take some responsibility yourself in learning what signs to look for that tell you if someone is likely to stick around or not. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 7:39:51 PM | There is an old theory on men and sex.
Once that a man has sex with a woman, the relationship stops growing from that point.
So, you had sex with him before there was and established relationship.
If you establish a relation ship before you have sex, then there can actually be a relationship.
I thought that women would have figured this out by now. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:04:36 PM | Wow. On the first date you went over the guy's house and on the second date you slept with him. You're a guy's dream! hahaha... he doesnt have to take you out, drive anywhere (gas prices are a pain, these days)....
LOL
I'm joking, of course, but kinda.... not too! | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:21:34 PM | My Dear your first red flag should have been...."if my son wasnt there I would have been all over you." You were being used. For one thing only. This one was slick and kept u on a stringer with other fish, dont put him back in the pond, instead invite all ur friends over for a fish fry!
RUN! | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/9/2008 9:30:27 PM | * I figure if you like someone well enough you will make time for them!!!!*
So True. You hit the nail on the head.
Don't get into any of his games...you deserve better then that. If you just can't...Let him pursue you from this point on, no matter how hard it is. Just drop any more communication originating from you and maybe he'll see it doesn't feel so great? And just get in the mindframe that it's ended and look at other opportunities. Time helps heal when you are busy.
I have been there before and more often then not it leads to nothing but more heartache...unfortunately.
Wish you better luck in the future...truly. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/18/2008 12:03:39 PM | | He is a jerk. At first he had gone without, and met you, and was excited to get some from you. Then, other things opened up, and he now has 3, or 4, women he gets some from, and you have to wait in line. He is playing the field, to make up for all the playing he didn't do while married. You can wait your turn, and hope he gets burned out enough to settle for just one woman again...and hope that it is you, and that he has not gotten some incureable STD by then or you can dump him. If he wanted just you he would have just you, and would make time for you. Now he is tripping over himself to make time for you, and for the others. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/18/2008 8:25:59 PM | | Hey Everybody, I was just passing by and saw this thread. A friend of mine on here told me that the original poster got reported and thrown off of POF. Fake profile and a fake picture,Troll. Just thought i would let you folks know. | |
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| A guy i had met on here.....Please Help me Understand :)
Posted: 7/19/2008 1:33:29 AM | this ones a bit tricky....
2 posibilities here
the guys a a-hole
or the guy has deep seated feelings of guilt for have sex with you whe he still loves his ex(he wasnt ready)
boy and trying to figure out which can be tough at best | |
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