xjer1l
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Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 10:58:13 AM | | why can't you have romance and some play on the "freak" side? to me it can enhance a romance. it's not for all but some enjoy it and others don't, it's really no big thing. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:24:04 AM | | Piercing someone's testicles or crushing them with your first aren't romantic, or sensual. They may be erotic and sexual to a select few but you could hardly lump these four terms together under one roof. And no one called you a freak. It was mentioned that your "freak" is your business, as in what you do is your call. It was not intended as a name. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 11:25:06 AM | I'm kind of sad that you removed that stuff from your profile now.
I don't think you're a "freak", tjer1l, I was just concerned by how your profile would be perceived by men who'd read it. My concern was that some guys wouldn't bother to read anything but your interests, and that they'd ignore your profile's non-sexual content. If you removed your interests to increase your chances of getting more messages from guys who aren't simply looking for an "intimate encounter," that's fine. If you removed them because you don't want to be perceived as a "freak," then I say put them right back up. You are who you are.
Why don't you at least add something to the body of your profile pertaining to your omitted interests? It's a compromise. A guy who sees "eroticism" or any S&M-related activity in your interests may not read the rest of your profile. If you throw those interests into the "about me" section, people will be more likely to see them in context. Being interested in S&M/B&D activities is only one aspect of your personality, right? It should be included if it's important to you, but it shouldn't be placed somewhere that encourages people to read no more than what excites them. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 1:21:00 PM | | In my defence- CBT was *not* in the interests when I did the first review. I thought she was just a nice little old lady. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 1:55:38 PM | Bit gutted i didn't read the original profile, means i have to be nice now and not feed off my self inflicted hate of the world and hand puppets.
Those bloody cotton things appear every corner i turn, haunting me with their desire to kill me.. I only slept with one of their kind..... ONCE!!!
Op - the profile is pretty good now gratz...
Sorry i have to go, there are some guys in white suits knocking at my door.... | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 2:07:08 PM | SubSonicBoom wrote:
I my case, there's a reason why I noticed the acronym. As freaks go, it generally takes one to know one. The thing is, I also know that this isn't the website to look for those who share my particular freak. Doing so here makes you less edgy and more troll-y.
For the record, I did call her a freak. I'm just surprised she took exception to the term. I bet she still knows the secret handshake and oath.
- T
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As of 1610 CDT, CBT is back in the interests section | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 2:08:02 PM |
The only CBT I know of is cognitive behavioural therapy.
This was what I had been finding too, then at the bottom of the google page, it had "CBT Eroticism"  I'll pass. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 2:12:05 PM |
if you can't grasp how romance and cbt don't mesh that's an issue that I cannot help you with.
maybe you like to eat a type of food I find disgusting, but I won't call you a freak because you enjoy it. live and let live.
I can see it to a point. There would have to be a huge element of trust involved that there will be no lasting damage. Still not something for me. | |
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xjer1l
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Joined: 3/26/2008
Msg: 34 | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 2:14:25 PM | | it's all about deep trust, and if you think about it what is true romance? | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 3:25:33 PM | Isn't "trust" a two-way street? So what are you willing to let him do to *you*, after you've satisfied your desire for "CBT"?
I'm genuinely curious. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 3:29:39 PM | ^^^Good point! Why didn't I think of that?! Well it could be a dom/sub relationship and if that's the case I say poor fellow. My junk hurts just thinking about all this. So OP, what does he get in return?
VVVV Maggie, what does it stand for? | |
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Posted: 5/12/2008 3:36:20 PM | ^^^^*ASWD*... I just made this one up, but I wouldn't be a bit surprised if it got a mention : )
Edit for deuce^^^ Think nasty, you'll figure it out, the *D* has been mentioned in prior posts. | |
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