| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:12:34 PM | I think the OP should throw her to the curb! I'll be by later to pick her up and give her some support. 
I thought this thread was just attention seeking, and still feel that way. But if you have to lie about it, it's cheating. Even if there is no sex involved and you have to lie to cover your tracks, it's still cheating. The gender and the method are just details that don't change the fact she cheated.
As far as bisexual women... Just because someone is bi does not mean they can't be faithful or monogamous. If you want to pursue other people outside of the relationships, that's cool if everyone knows about it. It's playing with fire, but most have to get burned anyway to learn to not do so. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:27:13 PM |
i see the concept of female condoms and latex dental dams has not gotten thru at church, which reinforces my previous post
I saw some birth control at Walmart today I had never seen before. I had to pick up the box and read to find out how it was even used. Looked like little wipes and basically they appeared to be used just like the sponge. I just never knew they had developed something that small and... strange (to me anyway). Apparently it desolves and that's the extent of the mess. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 2:29:26 PM |
they appeared to be used...
I'm sorry but I must've imagined a period after that statement because I was going to scream at you to drop them and go wash your hands. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:05:42 PM | Cheating regardless of if the other partner is male or female. Yes it's a big deal. No, most women don't do this.
OTOH, certainly not freaky by any means if the circumstances (ie if she wasn't married or if the relationship was open) were different. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:21:31 PM | | Yes if they are bisexual or maybe even lesbians! Not normal behavior among friends! She could be using it on a male! | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:53:07 PM | He confronted her and she admitted using it on a girlfriend of hers and having it used on her by the same girlfriend. My buddy freaked out and said he was out due to her infidelity. She is admanent that it is not really infidelity since it was only with another woman and it was not a real penis that was used on her. She went on the explain to him that it is really common for women to do this with other woman.
She is cheating....regardless if any sex apparatus was used at all.....sexual activity with either gender when in a relationship with someone is cheating..
Her excuse was crap and your friend should dump her ass....
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:54:46 PM | "Last time I looked, lesbians can't use condoms...."
Sure they can. You just slide it on the strap on and there you go.
OT yes it's cheating because she hid it from hubby and he was not ok with it. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:19:22 PM | is it normal well id have to say that alot of women have thoughts about the idea of this we all have a currious side but the fact she didnt or felt she couldnt means there are deeper routed problems with sex in their marriage it sure does raise the idea of if she couldnt tell him about this then what else is being hid from eachother it sounds like she is hiding other things from him but im sure he has his secrets too so comunication is the first thing that needs to be worked on here but hell if he thinks this is odd or sharing with another woman is odd then why is there so many posts on craigs list i mean come on the fact she didnt tell him or ask his opinon is what hurts communication is what hurts would he have told her if she found something in his car the fact is there is no oppeness in this relationship but my personal gut fealing would be to leave there are more deeply routed issues here     | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:48:54 PM | | His wife is definetly a FREAK! REAL women do not use/need a strap on; and you would have to be interested in having sex w/the same gender to even consider something like that. His better off; or the next step she will come out of the closet and be a lesbian. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:27:11 PM | I'm seeing the OP's post as a troll post, AND as three separtate issues. Cheating, and bi-sexuality. Did she cheat? Oh yeah. Is she straight? Nope. She's bi.
Thirdly, yes. It is quite common for us women to purchase strap ons and a wide variety of toys to use on our female friends. We just bang, bang away, all day long. We do ourselves, we do each other, meh. No big deal. (unless of course, you're cheating on your S.O. ...)
And we avoid the whole 'S.T.D.' issue by being smart. We purchase 2 of everything, annnnd we use sanitizer, specially made for our toys. Duh!
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 9:58:36 PM | oh bump the damn strap on-- I have a friend that has to have a threesome with himself/a woman and his pet monkey while a midget video tapes it . Does that sound normal to you? i'd take the strap on anyday-- the monkey and the midget were a little to creepy | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:13:30 PM | There is a huge gulf between something being common and something being freakish.
Having, using, or the desire for strap on play is not freakish, and can be common. That is why a company makes them. The wife didn't have to make their own. So there is enough of a demand for them to make production worthwhile.
The question does not really relate all that much to your whole post unless you are also asking if we (the forum readers) believe the wife to be a cheat.
I would ask if her husband knew she was having sex with other women, and if so if it was just the idea of penetration that freaked him out, if he wasn't invited to the show that freaked him out, or that she had been doing this for a while and not sharing with him.
If he did not know anything until he confronted her then yes, it is infidelity, as she sought and obtained physical, and possibly emotional, gratification from another person without his knowledge or even consideration of his feelings. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:40:36 PM | | She cheated. Period. Any encounter of a sexual nature while you are in a monogamous relationship is cheating. If she was curious, she should have talked to him first. Instead, she didn't talk to him and just went ahead and did it. Thats pretty much the definition of cheating. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:16:18 AM | it was cheating when she did it behind his back ...the next time after he joined in it was his dream come true ....why not just invite him on the first time and save all this typing  | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:22:21 AM |
i see the concept of female condoms and latex dental dams has not gotten thru at church, which reinforces my previous post
Actually the concept has gotten through to me. However, the availablility and use thereof, seems to be a lot less likely than with the male condom.
As a curiosity, I looked yesterday at the same counter that sells condoms.... No such animal...
Now, as another curiosity.... In the Mens rooms of bars, restaurants, they often have vending machines selling condoms.... Do they have the equivalent in Ladies rooms...?
I mean either selling male and/or female condoms....
By the way, vending machines in Mens's rooms they don't sell latex dental dams either. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:05:46 AM | | Isn't the real tragedy here one of repressed sexuality and a total breakdown in communication? Yes it is cheating, no she isn't a "freak", and if this is only one reason he is leaving her, perhaps it isn't the biggest. I wonder if "he" feels her infidelity with a woman is worse than any infidelity with another man? All idle speculation. Furthermore, I rather doubt that someone admitting to "sexploration" is going to try and cover it by saying "it's okay, everyones doing it..." but then again his "confrontation as opposed to communication" attitude is not going to be conducent to serious discussion...... I think this is probably a troll post but it does flush out the prudishness in some.... | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 10:14:05 AM | | typical, but funny lol we could watch together. only messin...this is really serious stuff, he should tell her to get out of his life 4eva and eva! | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 10:32:33 AM | Your buddy's wife is not a freak and quite possibly not a liar either...was she referring to straight women or bi-sexual/gay women? I'm not bi or gay but I'd venture to say that strap ons could be common with bi/gay women.
Your buddy's wife is a cheater and he should leave her. Cheating is cheating whether it be with the opposite sex or the same sex. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:18:51 AM | I'm surprised if she did not want him to know about it or find it that she left it in her lingerie drawer. However, this is odd. She has a strap on and did not share with her husband that she had interest in dabbling with this/a woman????
IMO, this is cheating and totally inappropriate from a spouse. Oh, and NO this is not common. I don't have one much less would use on a girl friend!! YUCK!
She's definitely a closet freak................ | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:23:23 AM |
Essentially, she made it sound like a huge percentage of women have strap-ons for this purpose and that it is no big deal.
That's a laugh! Dildos yes - vibrators yes - but not strap-ons! The woman is a cheater plain and simple. Just because a piece of plastic or rubber was used is about as ridiculous as saying that Bill Clinton's oral fun in the White House was not sex. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/14/2008 11:24:46 AM | | Using toys doesnt make you a freak, but she definitely cheated on him. i don't know any girl with a strap on. Just the odd vibrator. | |
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| Friend Found Wife's Strap-On
Posted: 5/15/2008 4:48:13 AM | | there is definately something wrong in the relationship if she feels the need to lie about this .....most guys would be happy for his wife to play with another woman ..if he could join in ...or even watch ...but bottom line ...having sex with another beside your spouse is not cheating /infidelity /adultery/being untrue.....but lying about it /doing it behind their back is .....look up these words its all in the lying you dont have to have sex ...kissing ,flirting,gambling, playing checkers ...its all cheating if you have to lie to cover it up..if its accepted and condoned by your spouse then you can have sex with a heard of buffalo ....its would be sick but not cheating | |
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