| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:47:39 AM | I've done that on occasion. I work a lot and I live quite a ways from most of the women I meet on line. Free time is always an issue for me. So, If I'm going to be in an area close to someone I've exchanged emails with, I'll see if she wants to meet up. I'm not looking for anything from it. Just saying, "Hello" and seeing if I want to pursue her any further.
Don't read too much into it. Just be safe, meet somewhere public and under no circumstances do you go anywhere else with him. If he's really interested in you, he'll understand and respect you for that.
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:10:53 AM | | Personally I prefer to meet fairly early on to see how we hit it off. I'd only want protracted emailing if it was a long-distance situation where meeting was impractical. I think one email is a bit soon, but dragging it one for a long time I start to wonder if he's really interested. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/15/2008 6:49:58 AM | Many guys have probably discovered as I have that profiles here, and even emails, are a lot of advertising. When you meet someone in person, any fakery that might exists falls away.
I've seen a LOT of fakery by women since I've been on this site. Not that Calchick25 would have it, but it's amazed me the lengths people will go to, to try and fool you. I don't know how they think they're going to fool anyone in real life, but they try. Guys do it, too, from stories women have told me.
Even a phone call can tell you a lot. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/15/2008 2:52:08 PM | | HIya, yeh i have had this over the past few days i have been on this site, i have had 3 men email me their numbers on the first message they have sent lol!! However i think they are making themselves look desperate | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/16/2008 8:33:01 PM | we are all adults here and to me a person who just doesn't know if they want to meet is a red flag for issues. we are either ready to meet and date people or we have problems and should not be in the dating world.
Isnt coming online to meet people is what this is all about. I some times ponder whether meeting people from friends is better than this online date stuff. I mean half the time people take what you say online to the extream even if its a type-o. But in the real world you know where you stand.
this is just something to think about. But i would have to say id like to meet the girl early on from this online dating place. why its real simple, most women on here will e-mail you once and thats as far as it goes. what i have learned is if you tell her hey lets meet at a local star bucks or paneras they are all cool about it, but if i get a girl that says she needs to chat more, i pass them up. i figure hey if you have meeting issues then i dont need anymore probs as it is right now. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:12:42 PM | OP: you being young and beautiful has alot to do with it too
I find that guys do want to meet right away and to be fair, I can see where they are coming from.....most ppl women included, want to see if there is the chem or not get it over with.
Personally, I take a bit more time, to be safe as I have some INTERESTING experiences and communication on here...so it is a safety issue too.
The other thing is, you couldn't possibly go out with or even realistically be friends with every person that msg's you.
Be careful and go with your instincts is the best bet. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/16/2008 10:56:23 PM | | I don't think it's a bad thing. There are things my intuition can pick up on in person that can be shielded on the phone or online. And I always trust my gut. So an in-face after the preliminaries - if i'm truly interested - is fine by me. Plus, I have an active imagination. It's easy for me to imagine someone is better/different than they are in person. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:16:55 AM | All I can say to the picture thing ((and them being older)) or not looking like they said
((webcam)) invest in a webcam, they are fun for chat and that way you can ((see)) them
rather than see them later in person..
just a suggestion.. because to me they or anyone can post whatever pic's they like
get the webcam inexpensive and saves alot of time on the doubt and what if's
just my suggestion!
happy fishing  | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:23:51 AM | I am sorry to say I feel most men are not about what type of person you are, how intelligent or anything like that. The bottom line is - if you are not "hot" they are not interested. So, they want to meet you right away to see if you meet their physical criteria or not.
Frankly, if they are not willing to get to know me as a person or let me get to know them - they can keep walking. There is a lot more to a package than the exterior.
For the record - I do not now, nor have I ever, judged anyone by their looks. Their intelligence and the type of person they are score the points with me. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:35:47 AM | isnt what this site is pretty much about...
finding someone.. (you find intoxicating)..
give or get their nbr..
talk..(see what'sup)
meet up..(check out her feet)
and go out..
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 8:59:37 AM | Depends on the profile of the gal...but nobody should ever give out their digits on the first email...unless she posts that she's just looking for action... Those kinda gals usually find exactly the kinda man they want reel fast...and have the herpes to prove it 
If someone posted Dating, or LTR's, etc...you don't drop the digits until you email a few...and run a fast name check on the Sexual Predator/Felony hotsheet Websites to make sure they ain't a serious nutcase/gangbanger. Chat a little, pick their brains and see if they are worth a phone call first....then you get to hear a voice!
Here's the bad thing for gals on phone calls...if you sound like Squeaky Fromme...you might want to seek a voice coach. Other than the annoying voice thing (Fran Drescher types) phone is a good way to quickly find out if someone is interesting or a dud.
First meets should always be Public, Populated, & Safe. Metting at someone's home is dangerous as heck. Y'all should know that by now. Or wasn't that guy who was meeting chicks online, having them meet at his house, raping them, then killing them and burying them in barrels in his backyard warning enough??? Use some common sense...just because you might be a little desperate/horny ya don't wanna end up on a milk carton.
Safe, Sane, & Consentual...that's what it's all about! 
Guys, if you can make women feel safe with you, it's a serious turn-on for the gals...keep that in mind. A woman that feels comfortable with you is likely to be a good mate, or if you're not quite her type, she might know another gal she can pass you to. USE YOUR HEADS! | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:11:24 AM | Think meeting up quickly is good - no point in spending months messenging to find out you dont like eachother when you meet, get the meeting done, and then go on from there.
Just my thoughts, if a man is taking months asking to meet, maybe he is married or in a LTR and cant ask you out if he wanted to
CONFESSION TIME: did the web cam thing once with a guy, and am used to wondering off while chatting on the dreaded msn, did not have the picture on this end (turn it off for this very reason), when I got back from the kitchen, he writes well what do you think? Oopse caught out, think about what I said, he says, I did a w*nk for you - how did you miss it? By this time I am rolling round laughing my head off, well and truly caught out - boy was he angry he blocked me. Threw the camera in the bin | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:34:58 AM | ive just spent two weeks texting and emailing a lady (with twenty quids worth of texts) and to cut a long story short, we still havent met up
the main problem for me is that ive spent all this money, time and energy having a great laugh with this person but ultimately until ive met them i dont know if theres enough chemistry to be pals, let alone have a relationship
i mean people talk about chemistry and sparks with relationships but friendship also needs that spark and chemistry.
Which is why you dont go out and have a pint with absolutely everyone youve ever met in your life.
And being able to act like pals on emails and txts doesnt necessarily mean youre going to be able to have that kind of friendship when you actually meet
in a way its kind of running before you can walk.
Because no where else apart from the tinternet do you behave like pals before actually knowing you are pals
Also adding people to your facebook as well. These are all things that should be done after youve met and proved that there is room to become friends
Lets forget about relationships all together, because if there isnt enough spark to be pals then theres no point carrying on. And all that time, energy and money youve spent being "cyber pals" will have been wasted
because i for one dont want cyber pals, i want real pals and a real girlfriend
Its ok if people dont want to meet but they should be expicit about this from the outset, but the simple fact is its reasonably fair if someone wants to meet up after 2 weeks of talking.
Theyre not stalkers, psychos or wierdos. And the people who think this have far too high opinion of themselves
Theyre just people who dont want to become emotionally invested in a relationship/friendship that is either ultimately not going anywhere or doesnt have the capability to go anywhere
And you dont know if its going anywhere or has the capability to go anywhere until youve met. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 9:47:58 AM | A week of email should be sufficient...lol...don't wanna go overboard...LOL
twenty Quid worth of texts??
Either she's freeking HUGE fat or very shy. Close the deal for a meet or move on. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 10:48:35 AM | I really prefer this, this is a dating site?
I really start to lose interest if its just polite emails , of the "how are you type", on a daily basis and no mention of ever actually meeting up.
If I'm not interested just from the profile I will say, but if I like the profile and the photos then meeting up is the next stage , the sooner the better in my view.
Just had someone on the second email ask if I'd like to meet for a coffee...my kind of man. Confidant and upfront.
Ruby | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 5:50:07 PM | why not you both on here filling time trying to meet someone and it is not allways a booty call
can see why you cant allwas fly by the seat of you pants if you have young children bit other than that ?????
you got time your on here lol | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/17/2008 6:32:00 PM | | NO, I DONT MEET THEM JUST LIKE THAT, I TELL THEM THAT THEY CAN EMAIL ME OR SEND ME A MESSAGE CAUSE I GOTS AIM AND YAHOO AND ALL THAT. IF THEY SAY THEY GOTS TO MEET RIGHT NOW THEN I THINKS THAT THEY TOO PUSHY. ONE TIME I TALKED TO A GUY FOR WEEKS THEN I FINDS OUT THAT HE WAS WRITING ME FROM JAIL, GOOD THING I DIDNT MEETS HIM. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:34:43 AM | Women have it easier than men...although when a gal wants to meet immediately on the first IM, it does confer a certain "desperate" feel.
I'm currently in a relationship that started here on POF. I didn't know it at the time, but the girl in question had spotted me several times over the years but the timing had never been quite right. She saw I was available and made the first move. After a couple of POF emails we talked on the phone, and liking what I heard, I met her at an Irish Pub...
Now at first I didn't spot her because she used an 8yr-old pic...face was the same, but differnt hair & about 30 pounds heavier than the pic...in the pic she looked starved, so I didn't mind her being at a healthy level. But the deception was initially offputting. After talking with her for about 30 minutes, something clicked and I realized she would be a pretty good girlfriend...and we've been together since. She's been VERY kind & caring and pretty much makes me smile all the time...and we make our friends GAG still with the Smoochy stuff  we're just Too Cute 
But I damn sure had to kiss a lotta frawgs to get a good gal.  Be patient, don't rush, and listen to your gut instincts...oh yeah, run an NCIC check just to make sure they're not a triple-axe murderer too...you'd be SURPRISED at the things some gals do... | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:37:21 AM | One has to find out if they are smart enough to HOLD a conversation first...if one is reading a lot of Typoese, one is probably going to meet a moron.
Then again, a lot of guys do look for airhead bleach-blonde dipsticks...Jessica Simpson, anyone?
I fail to see what the joy of dating airheads actually IS. Do they just want to control them, abuse them, or is there something psychologically wrong with guys who seek women with abnormally low amounts of brain power and great bodies?
I'm happy with a woman that's more intelligent than I...and has a wicked body to boot!!
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:23:39 PM |  I've gotten emails like that with only like a few conversations going. It amazes me how quickly some men are to ask you out for 'coffee' when you have no idea who they are and they don't know you. I'd say ignore em and be very cautious. If you meet someone off of here, be sure it's in an open public place.  | |
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