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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:37:21 AM | One has to find out if they are smart enough to HOLD a conversation first...if one is reading a lot of Typoese, one is probably going to meet a moron.
Then again, a lot of guys do look for airhead bleach-blonde dipsticks...Jessica Simpson, anyone?
I fail to see what the joy of dating airheads actually IS. Do they just want to control them, abuse them, or is there something psychologically wrong with guys who seek women with abnormally low amounts of brain power and great bodies?
I'm happy with a woman that's more intelligent than I...and has a wicked body to boot!!
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:23:39 PM |  I've gotten emails like that with only like a few conversations going. It amazes me how quickly some men are to ask you out for 'coffee' when you have no idea who they are and they don't know you. I'd say ignore em and be very cautious. If you meet someone off of here, be sure it's in an open public place.  | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:41:08 PM | I get it sometimes, especially when my profile was new. It's annoying and I always decline the invite.
Part of me thinks ... Go with your first impression, it's always correct. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:57:52 PM | | I have but I generally like to get to know the person before I meet them face to face. Some guys don't like this or they think that I am chicken. Hey, what's the rush? I like to talk on chat or on the phone to get to know the person. Call me a slow poke but that's the way I am. I've rushed things but ended up looking like an ass. I like to take things slow. I am not talking about forever. As they say, Rome and The Great Wall Of China were not built in a day. If a guy rushes then it's probably not meant to be. Just my 2 cents! | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:58:01 PM | | Well each do it for a reason. I met a man on pof the other day and we met next day becuae he siad he cant chat he has computer troubles alot. plus he works 12 hr days 6 days a week. so he dont have much time to type esp when his computer is not working so good. we met next day and he has turned out to be a great guy so far. Met him for second time today and he is a true gentleman. so that was his reason to meet soon. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:06:12 PM | Stay away from guys who want to meet right away !
They are up to something and probably want you as a notch on their bedpost.
If you are ok with being another notch on a guys belt .. that's a different story.
Didn't your parents ever teach you that something worth having is well worth waiting for ?
Believe me ... if you set your dial to "speed date" the guy won't say no.... but he won't respect you either.
Don't tell any guys that I said this.... but those things we don't have to work for we don't appreciate.
Make us work for it.... | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:24:04 PM | | There are a lots of distrust going on between female and male species here on this site..lol.. i have suggestion for the guys: don't try to appease and entertain these women here like a shameless jerk. Advice to the girls : don't blame guys because of their nature. god has created them just like them..there are created to be aggressive and shameless ( and that shamelessness makes u pregnant and give u cute little babies that u adore so much). pls go and study little bit about the brain functin of both male and females and then u will understand why men/women act the way they do. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:26:57 PM | I have had this problem lately. If you don't agree to meet right away, they are not interested in further communication. I even have my preference to email a little stated clearly in my profile, and was contacted by those who wished to expedite matters any way.
I am glad to see that I am not the only female by far that finds this uncomfortable.
I really am curious as to why they even bother to email when I don't even post a picture. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:34:24 PM | | just wonder what brings u to this site anyway? isn't the attraction of opposite gender? what so uncomfortable about it? why don't u simple say on ur profile that u don't want to meet guys? but then the whole purpose of coming to the website is meaningless. isn't it? lets just face it: guys are doing what they are exactly supposed to do. just deal with it. there is nothing to be uncomfortable here. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/18/2008 8:59:32 PM | well i know where your coming from you wouldnt beleive some of the emails i have gotten i joined this site to get to know people and seems all men here are interested in is having a good time what happened to 2 people taking the time to get to know someone i mean talking through email for a while then moving to instant messages and phone then if everything still feels right then would be a good time to meet and go from there wouldnt it? seems to me everyone is in such a hurry i mean come on in this day and time a woman has to be careful what she does and if she does eventually decide to meet the man shouldnt it be with someone she feels she can trust? one spur of the moment mistake could ruin the rest of her life !!! isnt that reason enough for a guy that seems interested in her to take things slow?
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Posted: 6/18/2008 9:51:17 PM | Women tend to be warped in ways which boggle the minds of men...
Example: Trailer-Trash Girls...there are more & more of this variety, and most of them don't live in trailers anymore...but you can sure tell one when you meet one....the bad blonde dye job and lousy makeup job is usually the first thing you spot...but the attitude is Obvious. Just because a gal is wearing short-shorts and putting her cleavage out for display at the bar doesn't mean that she's a hottie...just a sluttie. Goodbye Anna Nicole, we don't miss ya.
Example: Women who like the Abuse. For some odd reason some women feel that to be abused (physically or mentally) means that the guy cares enough to bash them about and he Really Loves Them. Most men wonder if the beatings didn't give those women a lobotomy...cause it sure seems that way. If a guy's raising his hand to you, GET OUT! (or shoot him) There are other fish in the sea, and most of them won't beat the crap out of you. 
Example: the Stand-By-Your-Man types...he might be cheating with your best friend, but who really cares? Right? C'mon ladies, have some self-condfidence...go get a boyfriend too...or like Hillary Clinton, a new girlfriend. Whatever makes you smile. What is good for the Gander is good for the Goose. But here again, there are other fish in the sea...if you don't want to be cheated upon, MOVE ON!!
on the other hand, does it look like Hillary has given a BJ in the last 30 years?? Look at those lips and KNOW that she ain't. No wonder Bill had Monica under the Presidential Desk...remember, if you ain't Putting Out, then he'll be Stepping Out!! 
Yeah, I know, i'm a weisenheimer....but at least I'm telling you the Truth that nobody else will.  | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/19/2008 11:22:05 AM | your just ranting and raving and making no sense, whatsoever. verbal diarrhea.
in one sentence your going on about trash, not liking sluts, then in another about women liking abuse from guys, then tell them they have "put out" or he will "step out". In whose little world is this the truth that no one but you will tell? The truth according to bigshrek?
Believe it or not, your personality comes through loud and clear. These are the kind of things I like to find out in the initial chats, to determine if the guy is datable. My way of culling out the losers, users, and controllers. If a guy cannot respect anyone's right to decide whether to date soon or not, and get all twisted about it, if it doesnt agree with his, I just say "next" and hit the block button. Too many weirdos out there to even contemplate meeting everyone who sends me a message. I have on my profile that I will not date immediately, but I still get the emails, pushy guys trying to change my mind. That red flags a personality disorder to me. Nor respecting my thoughts. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:44:31 PM | | I would prefer to talk for a few weeks first. I know that talking on the phone or MSN isnt quite the same - but there have been quite a few ppl I've been asked to meet with right away and then ended up talking to them on MSN instead and they turned out to be someone I would never want to meet... to each their own though... | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:53:56 PM | | I never ask to meet. I inform the person that I am ready to meet when they are. When they are ready to meet they may say so. After a suffienct length of time, I get the picture. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:07:46 PM | | I believe that an exchange of a few messages, while a good start, may lack the necessary effort that is required of one who is really interested in dating. If you are on a dating website and after many message are still interested, the next logical step is, yes, a date. If you do not have time for that, then why waste your time on here chatting and looking at profiles, unless you are able to fill the void that way, somehow??? I guess I am done my venting on that issue, and you now know my point of view. I would like to know your point of view on this, I mean, am I out to lunch or what? | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:55:15 PM | Having a conversation via email or chat is tedious... I'd rather talk on the phone or better yet in person. I wouldn't equate them wanting to meet you for coffee with wanting to take you to bed (although I am sure there is a fair amount of that... :)
If you feel like meeting them go, otherwise just delete the message and move on (or reply with a no if you want to be courteous.) | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:04:59 PM | Personally, I ignore any emails that have given the phone number straight away. I also personally detest emails that say "Hi, how are you" and nothing else.
I would like an introductory email first, then it is reasonable if they send a phone number after you have replied.
I did this with one guy and we have met and it's been pretty good. Getting to know each other. However, we spoke on the phone a few times before we did meet. But right now, I'm happy to keep my profile hidden while I see what happens with dating this guy.
I am not going to just call some stranger because he sent his phone number. I do find that kind of behaviour, 1) presumptuous, 2) scary. I want to know a bit about a person first.
Some guys I've IM a few times before meeting, it does depend on the person etc.
Each person is different and I guess it does come down to finding someone whose preferences match your own... perhaps... dating is soo complicated these days. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:29:13 PM | | oh gosh i cant stand this. for me i would rather get to know them more like a few weeks or so get a good feeling of who they are first! | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/20/2008 5:50:09 PM | If they're asking to meet you in public for coffee , it's a sign they're intereseted.
I'd say it's a lot better then them trying to meet you at your house or theirs on the first few rounds of contact. That pretty much means sex.
With a coffee shop that implies there will be conversation and a chance to get to know each other before the clothes start coming off, you can always decline to go somewhere else with them.
If you like them, go for it. If not, then move on. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:02:48 PM | Yeah....I've noticed that, too. My level of comfort dictates in this regard. The plan involves exchanging a few emails on POF, move on to instant messaging, exchange phone numbers, and if we're both feeling comfortable and still interested we plan to meet and see what happens. There have been times when I've gone with my gut and abandoned this routine. Sometimes it's just hit and miss.
Every man I've met on here has been kinda quick to give me his phone number and indicate his willingness to move things along. I tend to respond by being honest and saying I normally prefer to email/instant message for a bit before talking on the phone. To date, only ONE man has accepted that. Just when I was getting ready to cave and call him, he stopped me. I believe his exact words were "I don't want you to call me if you're going to feel uncomfortable" so we waited a couple more days. The disclaimer is that he lives several states away so an immediate meeting/date is not a realistic possibility. Nonetheless, he won brownie points with me for behaving like a true gentleman. | |
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| Guys asking to meet with you immediately
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:16:34 PM | yes I get these messages and I hate to tell guys but its not going to happen,I dont meet anyone until i know i can trust them, And its funny cause they just dont understand
I am not going to meet a guy just because i have talked to them on the computer or phone right away.. Guys its a safety thing. I dont know who you are, You could be the greatest guy ever, or a crazy stalker. Untill I feel safe and I make the choice to meet you then it will happen Thanks | |
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