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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:50:25 PM | | You should leave or have a serious talk. Your clearly using him, and while it may be unintentional but circumstantial your stacking up some nasty karma for your future. You may find yourself on the other end of a similar relationship someday. Come clean and free both of you. | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:17:39 PM | | You already know the answer. The problem is you're not ready to do anything about it. Being on a dating site in hopes of Prince Charming to come and whisk you away isn't a great strategy but I've had worse. Having him catch you cheating is less desirable than being honest and you'll wind up in the same place if he does and hurt him more. Trust me, I'm not being critical but you need a better plan. One word of free advise (always worth the price paid) don't have any kids - he/she or they will wind paying all the dues. | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 4:44:09 PM | | ok i appreciate everyonses advice on this topic. and to claer things up i'm not cheating, he knows how i feel about it, and i've been in his shoes with a relationship like this. | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 5:37:39 PM | | Go back to school and get your education and find you a good job. Move on with your life and in the mean time sit down and have this discussion with him and let him know how you feel. Good luck. | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:33:14 PM | | The reason why he loves you to death, is because you are not attracted to him. You challenge him mentally. If you were really into him, he would leave you. You are in a cat and mouse situation. | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:42:12 PM | | ugh, that's HORRIFYING!! not just for YOU having to fake it with this person, but for the DUDE! He deserves to have someone love him and want him and no one needs your pity-love --- he'll survive! Dump him and let him move on and find someone who'll think he's yummy | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:42:52 PM | | It it wrong to stay in a relationship if u don't love them and they love u. U can't worry about how he will feel u have to put yourself first and think about how u feel. If u have no attraction then u are using him. They do not grow on you! Trust me I tryed that. If u have no job or anywhere to live your only there for the benefits. U either stay and deal with it or find a way to move. | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 8:52:03 PM | i agree with "christi66"......
To the OP if you are over him and you seriously have NO feelings for this guy than let him be FREE cut all ties and move on to somebody who you acturally DO feel things for and let this guy, have an life and be able to go out and meet people and MAYBE find somebody who is not about games and who will be into him as much as he is into her.
Its time to let him go if you dont want anything to do w/him than you need to get out of the picture who says women can't make it on our own? its not fair to him for you still be pulling him around and lurching off him.
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 9:47:08 PM | | hvn...They do MOST of the time grow on you and what you thought you'd never feel for the person you end up feeling it more strongly than ever but every case is different so, have to do the RIGHT thing and some will look at this as you just "using him" wich is not right/fare to him. | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 10:24:59 PM | ~OP~ I think it's admirable that you admit the truth in post #1. All too often we read how he's an azz and abusive when the truth very well may just as you state. Kudos for that.
You know what you need to do. It's not working, you feel guilty. Sadly, we can't make love happen in our heart, it does or it doesn't. It might stick around, it might disappear. No one but you will know when the love faded or why and maybe there was no real reason. I've been in your shoes. No where to go, no one to understand why I had stayed ~ it sucks. I had to put on my big-girl-pants and go anyway. Prolonging the inevitible only prolongs the guilt you feel because of the "using him" factor. Take any job you can find and get on with your life ~ figure things out from there. It doesn't all have to be ideal when you leave, you can work up from where you start out! I've done it, it really can happen. Good luck OP!! | |
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| staying with him/her even though your not in-love?
Posted: 7/1/2008 11:09:17 PM | | No way should you stay,It's not any better for him to be in a reationship with someone who is just there for the sake of being there then it would be to be alone, If you have any feeling for him at all you should give him the opportunity to find someone he actually connects with :) | |
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