| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:13:09 AM | ^^^^ Sorry about that !
Clearly using the quotes features is a challenge for some of us ...ok maybe just for me!! | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:12:30 AM |
I agree that the up-front cost for 12dates is over the top.
Way over the top. You could have gotten 5-6 It's Just Sex dates for that. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:50:38 AM | Thanks for the support fab_mom.
I don't feel what I did was foolish nor desperate and yet prior to buying into IJL
I teetered on the Yes/No line for quite some time. My ultimate decision
rested on being in the same place at the same time with someone, off line.
I translate better in person so I paid for what others would not. So be it.
I truly am busy balancing my day job with outside consulting. So a paid-for
dating service made sense to me. I can't afford another round of dates, however.
Regarding the nurse-line ... it was not intended as an insult.
See how me-in-print can get skewed? My daughter is in nursing school.
My brother was a psych nurse. I am an advocate of the helping-professions.
I'm in one myself. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:12:17 PM | Springboard:
Wow. I just returned from a lunch date arranged by IJL. I mean literally just walked in the door to my house! I have some observations about IJL that I'd prefer not to post publicly, but you aren't accepting e-mail messages from people as distant geographically as I am.
In a nutshell, I've been signed up with IJL for about 6 months. Yes, it's expensive. But, absolutely every man I've met with from there is professional, intelligent, handsome, communicative, and seriously seeking a long-term relationship. I'm not wealthy, but to me the $1500 was a worthwhile investment. Like you, I don't think that I translate well online. In person, it's quite a different story. I always, always, ALWAYS engage in spirited conversations with people in real life and I can tell that they're happy to have made my acquaintance. It's just another way, I think, to put myself out there and it's working for me.
To the naysayers, just because a service seems expensive to you doesn't mean that it is valueless to somebody else. The way I see it, it's a matter of priorities. I could easily have blown the $1500 on Starbucks coffee or some other variety of incidentals. But, I'm willing to invest $1500 to regularly come into contact with men who are of the same mind as I am about dating. I respect that others may not be so inclined, but that doesn't make it "stupid," or "crazy," or any of the other descriptors I've seen tossed about here. I wouldn't call someone else "stupid" for NOT investing that kind of money, because I respect another person's decision to spend as he/she sees fit. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 12:19:24 PM | Wow, 1400 bucks for a few dates is crazy! Sorry to hear you paid all that and didn't get anything out of it.
Another thing, I wouldn't necessarily believe that using the IJL service automatically means you can "afford" it. There could be members who will max out their credit cards and put themselves in debt without thinking. So don't think IJL automatically means all members have money. There are losers everywhere. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:21:44 PM | I've inquired about it, but found it's just too damn rich for my blood!!!!
1400 dollars for a few dates seems a little excessive to me. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:09:18 PM | The name of the business is "It's Just Lunch".....sounds like they told the truth anyway...
Somebody has $1400 to pay for just meeting 12 people for lunch....lives on a different planet than I do....sorry...just doesn't make sense to me | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 1:51:08 PM | Thats a lot of money for lunch dates.
You are on here why not spend the money on going to the functions/meet and greets in your area you would have much more success and it wouldnt cost you so much.
If nothing else you would have a least a fun night out with other singles. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:59:35 PM | | I really can't fathom spending $1400 when there are free online dating sites like this. I know some people have more trouble getting dates than others, but if you have such trouble setting up dates for yourself, then how much better are you going to be on the date itself, once someone else sets up the lunch? If you're doing IJL and are on POF, why wouldn't the single women that are also desperate enough to pay $1400 also be on POF (and similar sites)? My thinking is that they are all on these sites, and you could have an opportunity with them for free, and it would just take a little tweaking of your approach to be successful in setting up dates. I really think I should just start offering classes on how to woo a woman, and make loads of money. It would be money better spent then getting lunch dates that don't lead anywhere. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 3:25:38 PM | I haven't heard of this service, but it sounds like the old dating services that were popular before the internet came along. One of the famous ones was High Expectations, or something like that. You paid your money, which could easily be hundreds of dollars, and either you watched videos of the potential dates, or back in the really old days, you looked through a notebook of pictures and profiles.(Maybe they're still around, who knows?)
I never signed up for these, but had friends who did. The nice thing about it is that someone had interviewed the potential daters before you had to meet with them, and once you chose someone who interested you, they would be notified of that, and would have to agree that they were interested too. Then you could also ask for more info about them from the "counselor", etc. Finally, you'd go on your first date, maybe after a first phone call, and get to see how you got along. It always seemed very civilized, with everyone on the same page, etc.
Hey, haven't you all seen the "Millionaire Matchmaker" on tv, as well as the other matchmaker show that's been on? It's all the same thing; people who perhaps have more money than time, or no luck with the internet, or who want that personal introduction.
I don't think it's a terrible idea, but you have to take it for what it is - there's no more of a guarantee of success with that, than there is on a personals website, or a personal ad in the paper, or sitting on a barstool! And it's the American way to have a business that fills a need, provides a service, and charges whatever the market will bear!
I always wished I had the old matchmaker-type family member, like we've seen in the movies, that would go out and find that perfect person for me! Maybe if I had the money (rather than the time to hang out on POF) I'd pay for this type of service - I might get lucky!
Debbie
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Posted: 5/18/2008 8:20:44 PM | DebbieC1953:
You got it! It's Just Lunch is just another dating option. I approach it much the same way as I do online personals sites. No expectations = no disappointments. I'm a huge fan of actually meeting people. You know, real people ... in person! I've gone to many, many PoF social events and there just aren't many men in my age bracket who interest me there. On the other hand, every single date that's been arranged through IJL is with someone who's at least compatible on the major issues.
A couple of posters have suggested that a person must be desperate to pay the kind of fee that It's Just Lunch charges. Au contraire; I'm definitely not desperate. Just resourceful. I don't have trouble getting dates. I have trouble getting dates with the type of men I'm attracted to for the long-term.
Although I don't reduce dating to a numbers game, among the men I've met through IJL, there is a much higher percentage of second dates than with PoF or other online personals sites. I've met six men for lunch/dinner through IJL. Five of them were men who I'd have gone out with a second (or more) time. Of those five, I've been out numerous times with four of them. Pretty good odds, I'd say. Compare these results to the typical online personals site, where I've found that I exchange e-mails and/or IMs with (at least) dozens of men before one strikes me as compatible.
I'm not saying that there's a perfect system for meeting people. And, I think that a combination of venues is the best effort. I'm sticking with what works!
Also, Debbie ... I've explored dating coaches online. There are several apparently well-respected ones around. I'm not sure I'm suiting up for that option, but it's available if anyone's interested. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 12:53:24 AM | IJL is the biggest farce ever to be conceived..the consultants are obliged to introduce you to 12 dates within a period of one year, with the hopes that you will connect over lunch. But they will not allow you to VIEW the dates picture, so even though you tell them Im looking for someone this tall, this fit, etc etc, they disregard it and set you up with whoever they can find in the system that is not set up on a date yet....i told them i want to meet someone who was a minimum of 5'10 i even said it twice with a big PLEASE..and they still set me up with someone 5'8, thier excuse was that they TRY to meet the requirements but dont gurantee them.
I think chemistry is essential, and if there is no attraction then its a waste of time for both parties, IJL do not allow you the option to view your date, therefore they are wasting your time, i mean yeah its great to have someone who enjoys the museum or arts as much as you do but if you dont want to wake up next to them in bed then really...give me a break..IJL sucks | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:52:23 AM | told them i want to meet someone who was a minimum of 5'10 i even said it twice with a big PLEASE..and they still set me up with someone 5'8, thier excuse was that they TRY to meet the requirements but dont gurantee them.
Superchick
 Sorry, I have to laugh.
Serves you right...you're only 5'5", and even the dating service realized how unrealistic your expectations were when it comes to your criteria.
Perhaps they figured "Eh, she's being shallow, she's only 5'5" and this guy is 5'8", he's taller than her, that's enough."
Too funny
Either way, it's too expensive to be signing up for a dating service such as that anyways, when you can do it for free yourself or elsewhere. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:18:13 AM | | hi dear i like you and i want to with you lunch pls contect me (ludhainaba55@yahoo.co.uk) 07980201344 bye | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/19/2008 12:19:52 PM | There is a definite difference between me-in-writing and me-in-person.
A couple weeks ago, I met face2face with a nice lady from POF.
Prior to our meeting, our emails were rather lengthy and detailed.
Not anymore. Now they are brief updates. No zest.
She felt no spark in our meeting. I did. She wants to remain friends.
I’m like “What happened?” It’s the chemistry-thing.
We had it in writing but not face2face. It’s unpredictable.
Compare this to IJL where two people are matched according to a written bio.
Then they meet face2face, and then what ….. pizzazz or no pizzazz?
That is the question. It’s a blind date, basically. Where, with POF,
There’s some written interaction prior to meeting, if you meet at all.
It took a paid service less than one week to line me up with someone compatible.
With POF (no cost), it took me forever (seems like) to actually meet a woman face2face. I like the idea of a paid service but I don't like the cost. I also like a free service but it's not getting me anywhere. So I took a chance, that's all.
Isn't it a matter of perception ... what works for me may not work for you?
I'd be curious to know how a free-service like POF is working for all of you.
How many dates have you arranged yourself over how long a period of time?
What were the results? Any 2nd, 3rd, 4th dates? | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:29:42 PM | I am a member of IJL and also Lifemates..IJL and Plenty of Fish I seem to meet gold diggers. With p.o.f. I meet ladies who want to chat/e-mail forever and not meet.
With IJL and Life-mates I have met a few women who went out on 2nd 3rd or 4th dates. I have met 2 women that dated for 2 or 3 months on this site. I find the free sites have women who like to "window shop" or "keep fishing" where as with the match-making services I meet women who at least seem willing to give me an honest chance to get to know me.
Just my 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:43:12 PM | I'm glad I kinda picked up on this trend....
I keep getting men wanting to do lunch, granted its a simple way to meet or spend time with someone...
But lately, I've been finding out they are married! So, no I won't be just having lunch.
Sheesh! | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 6:49:17 PM | | Had a fella contact me for a date from one of those sites and decided to not waste his money by meeting him... when he told me that he had" first dated " 150 women in the last 18mo...I dont even like placing second lol let alone 151st so him telling me that told me Id be about as special as his next change of underwear lol,,,,,,for the guy that stated women are "hoes" for dating someone just one time for a dinner?whats that make this guy? Idiot and glutton in my world...... | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 7:05:11 PM | I looked into them after seeing their ad's in my city, and they have locations in the States and Canada. When I spoke to the person on the phone, it was $1600.00 for annual membership and they would do all the arrangements for lunch or drinks after work. I found the price too high for something I wanted to try, and they don't have monthly due's or try it once for a fee. I wasn't interested after their quote, with my shifts at work, changes alot, that one month I might have 8 lunch dates, to none the next month.
It might be work for the serious dater and if they don't find someone, are they willing to return to the following year. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:22:46 PM | | I was thinking of starting a dating agency called: "It's just F'd up". I'd charge $20 a member to meet their lunch date at a street side burrito stand. They'd each get a burrito and a Coke. They could rant for 3o minutes about all their other dates then go back to work. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:34:56 PM | Yeah, think about it - you're paying around $1600.00 - just to date.
Last I checked, dating's free.
Whoever owns that service needs a foot in the ass for highway robbery.  | |
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Posted: 5/19/2008 8:59:07 PM | I tried a similar service- don't want to say the name in case I signed something, but it did have the word "lunch" in its name. The owner was all charm & bubbles when he signed me up, but after paying (through the nose), he and his staff became either indifferent or rude every time we spoke after that. I was matched with mostly homely or overweight men. We had nothing in common other than age. One that I did find attractive proceeded to have 7 glasses of wine & then confide to me that he smokes pot with his daughter!!! The only other attractive one shmoozed me into thinking he was ga-ga over me, then abruptly said goodbye at the end of dinner w/no request for another date. A true passive-aggressive type. At $100 a date, this experience has taught me to say "pass" on these rip-off services. I can find the same kind of disappointment for free.  | |
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