| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:35:20 AM | | i have known a few people to use them, run, and run fast, they are just high priced used car sales people, they take your money and give you a used pinto with no rocker panels..someone should sue their butts off | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:56:27 AM | I know a woman who dates guys just for free meals and moves on to the next guy. She has no intention of getting to know someone.
yeah and i know a lot of men who date just to have sex with a woman or at least try to on the first date, then move on to the next woman. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/26/2008 11:58:23 AM | My self-confidence is in tact, NitroJunkie.
My confidence with online dating is not.
I just can't grasp the idea of determing chemistry via email.
How we describe ourselves in writing is not the same in person.
I read her profile. It says "Don't send winks. Write me."
So I do. Then I get "Viewed" in return. No email.
Online dating is a woman's market. She determines the next step. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:40:31 PM | | I don't know if it is necessarily a woman's market... if you are a woman like me who gets zilch serious messages initiated and only 1/10th return messages for every one I initiate. Perhaps it is a market for easily recognizable 'meat' instead. The difficulty speaks to our uniqueness. The best idea on this forum was to attend events where several people attend an activity that you enjoy. I agree that it is a better way to get to know someone. Hang in there. This 'net' dating isn't for me either. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 5/28/2008 10:11:07 AM | Why pay for a bunch of jerky guys and shallow women, when you can come here on POF and talk to them for free?  | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:29:37 PM | I haven’t laughed so hard in months until I read this:
Kamaboko - Message # 48:
I was thinking of starting a dating agency called: "It's just F'd up". I'd charge $20 a member to meet their lunch date at a street side burrito stand. They'd each get a burrito and a Coke. They could rant for 3o minutes about all their other dates then go back to work.
This is definitely a Top 10, POF Forum classic !!
Even if you never write another word I will consider you a comic genius.
Thanks, by the way, Springboard for the apology back in message 28 – I appreciate it.
Your comment
Online dating is a woman's market. She determines the next step. couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Your experience is a equal opportunity one , and it’s happening to all of us in here, so buckle up and accept that it’s going to be a bumpy ride, you might happen to meet some interesting people along the way but if you don’t think you are going to make it, you have to have the presence of mind to get out. No one will think less of you.
I have said in a few “hello – how are you “ sorts of emails that POF can be “brutal”.
I think until you realize that fact, your confidence does take a hit.
Meeting people, whether in here or not , can be tough. I personally would not pay anything for the chance to meet someone for dating. I would spend the money on a trip or hunting for a piece of art, or getting involved in a charity you feel passionate about.
I think our interactions have become so focused on “ Could we be a couple? Is he/she interested?” that we have lost the art of just getting to know someone through conversation, just because we are in the same place at the same time.
Ok….I’ll stop now …. btw ...I have had little success in here but keep coming back for more! | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 4:57:09 PM | LOL... NURSE...
DONT SETTLE FOR SECOND... AND MAYBE YOU GAVE HIM TOO MUCH CREDIT FOR CHANGING HIS UNDERWEAR... MAYBE THATS WHY THERE WERE NOT ANY "2ND" DATES... LOL
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 9/4/2008 5:03:31 PM | | Yep, we just don't find our perfect cup of tea. Unless it goes bad and you can jump up and say NO WAY, I think we should all give each other a second date to be more relaxed and more open. Just me. Or we get busy, find someone else, have second thoughts. Who knows. It just didn't happen. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 9/4/2008 5:06:44 PM | I love lunch dates at the winery and that is where I usually go to see if we are on the same page and lunch is cheaper $$$$$$ than dinner.
After lunch we take the tour and usually have a good time even if we just become great friends and no love interest, as one cannot have too many friends or be too skinny??? | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 5:11:16 PM | | Hey Springboard: I had similar experience on EHarmony, all that money and nothing. I have had more luck here on POF. My suggestion to you would be to come out to the social events in your area. Great way to meet people here on POF. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 9/4/2008 6:20:48 PM | So if they are that grand, savannah, why do you bother with the po folks on pof ?
Plus prior to you ,folks were saying $1400 , now you say $1500. Dam are these people in the oil business too ? They say you get what you pay for ! I should say in this case it surely is true. Looks like a lot of people are going to get screwed. (out of thier ($) .
think I'll just keep  on here. Lots of fun, if nothing else. !!! | |
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Posted: 9/4/2008 8:02:58 PM | Responding to Springboard, yes, it's impossible to determine chemistry via email. That's all going to come down to the meet-and-greet. I don't agree with your suggestion that how we describe ourselves in writing isn't the same as we are in person. I represent myself in writing just as I am in person. I see no point for there being any deviation between the two.
About It's Just Lunch, no, I've never tried it but have heard of it. People might have success there because both sides are paying and might try harder because it's an investment of sorts. If I'm understanding the setup of that service, you don't get to see what the other person looks like until the meetup. There's just no way I'd ever take a chance without knowing what the other side is going to look like. It's hard enough when you've already seen pictures of people and won't really know what they look like until the meetup.
About this site, yes, there's tons of window shopping and a lot of people out to see what they can get to bite. Since it's free, I think less people take this site seriously than the pay sites. Anyone can jump on here for free for a couple days and then bolt. Many do.
I've tried a few of the online pay sites, and I wouldn't recommend them because you're playing a guessing game of who's paid (many apparently don't) such that they can view emails and respond. How people who've worked at those sites as well as IJL haven't gone online and anonymously blogged about how those sites are inherently deceptive because of the unpaid members situation I don't know. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 9/4/2008 8:36:25 PM | OP
I found it to be window shopping.
I understand your point. If I go on a date with a guy that I met offline then I expect a dinner date and I do not go on the date unless I think there is a good chance I will like him. Of course I already know this guy somewhat because I met him in person whereever ....work, the book store, a club.
Now, if I meet a guy online then it is coffee or lunch and it is window shopping/verifying. I want to see if the guy really is the guy on his profile. I want to see if he is as funny as he says or as smart as he says. I want to see if he matches his picture.
I do not think you can blame women (or men) for the window shopping with a guy they meet online. Too many fakes. This goes for guys and girls . I can understand a guy wanting to meet me just to see if I look like my picture and to see if I really am into the hobbies I claim. Sometimes I just send the guy to you-tube for verification. I wish all POF people were on you-tube. I already had some POF musicians send me their videos on you-tube. It does make things easier when choosing a guy to date.
I do not think the lady should lie to you about a follow up meeting but some women are afraid of angering a stranger so I understand somewhat. | |
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| Has anyone tried It's Just Lunch?
Posted: 9/4/2008 9:49:17 PM | | I think what people mean by window shopping is that they surf profiles but don't message people or meet up with them. That's all. So it's a lot of viewing (window shopping) but nothing else. | |
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