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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:55:54 PM | Make him pay your money back... he can at least do that... hes a PIG!!!
then i would fly out there and kick that girls ass | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:56:49 PM | I have no advice for you that is different than what has already been given.
I just wanted to say I think your subject title is cool...very catchy. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 3:58:36 PM | Put the ticket on E-Bay or get a refund, sod the idiot, let him mess with himself for 17 days, oh and for effect, dont cancel the trip with him (just forget to tell him). Like he forgot to tell you. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:09:52 PM | | I did that to a girl once and felt terrible about it, although I let her down well in advance of her plans to come a long way to visit me so she wasn't out any money. I owned up to the fact that I acted like a cad...had to face my own stupid selfishness, and I remember the whole event like it was yesterday (it's been over 20 years). We do things not because we're smart or because we care deeply for each other...we do things because they're expedient or out of pure unadulterated self-absorption. You need to let this guy go because there are better people out there for you. You should advertise the plane ticket on Ebay. Lots of folks go to Omaha, although I can't think of a good reason, and I be you'd have no trouble selling the ticket. Best of luck to you from a reformed cad. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:17:35 PM | | You are only 19 so it would be hard for you to see that it would happen. Once you start an open relationship you might as well say goodbye right then. It couldhave been the other way around and you could of met someone else. Next time you go to buy a ticket be sure to investigate every little thing. He obviously was not the one for you - just be glad you found this out as soon as you did. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:22:52 PM |
I'm out 330 dollars, I'm heartbroken, and I have a coward of an ex boyfriend. I just need someone's thoughts that aren't my own, I guess.
You ought to ask the guy to reimburse you for half the ticket. Obviously, you have no way to collect it if he refuses to pay up, but you ought to ask. He wasn't upfront with you while you were making the decision to buy the ticket. You can probably have your ticket put on hold and use it on another flight somewhere else, too. It's not a complete loss.
That's the risk you take with long-distance relationships. Don't beat yourself up too bad. Just be aware that it's always going to be a risk. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:40:43 PM |
We were together, but we were able to date other people so long as it was casual. We decided on it because we were so far away from eachother.
^^^^^^^^ Huh? A long distance relationship and an open relationship..
Something tell tells me that this kind of arrangement would be prone to be disasterous in the first place...
What's wrong with having a normal relationship with someone who lives closer to you? | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:48:25 PM | The guy is a total jerk.
He owes you for what you spent.
That is a LOT of money to waste. And I know that students do not have a lot of money.
When was in college in the mid 70's. I would never had that much money to be in a long distance relationship and I would never have though about having one. Maybe if someone was from out of state and went home now and then would have been ok. But that still causes problems.
And being a student if you are at a two or four year school is a much better way of meeting you significant other.
I have not read your profile but a lot of marriages happen because of going to school. It is a good, safe way to meet people to date in a more controlled enviroment-unlike the 'real world'.
Forget about long distance relationships, join clubs at school and try to meet that way. And stick to local guys only.
Long distance relationsh rarely work out and in the end, if they do, one of you has to move and leave their world behind. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 4:49:16 PM |
We were together, but we were able to date other people so long as it was casual. We decided on it because we were so far away from eachother.
So, you're in an open relationship where you can date other people, and you're pissed because he's dating someone else.
If you don't want to be with someone who dates other people, DON'T be in "open relationships". This isn't HIS fault, he's just doing what the two of you agreed to do. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:01:18 PM | | Been there done that! It sucks I know, but I think of it as at least I found out what he was really like now and not years from now. It is hard to loose that kind of money for any of us...but sometimes there is a silver lining...he has shown his true colors and you deserve better, and it will come. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:08:38 PM | Im Sorry sweetie.
to many people "play" with people's hearts here. but hey, it's best you found out NOW than later.
pick yourself up. dust yourself off and get back in there tiger! I seen your profile...you are GORGEIOUS! you wont have any trouble at all.
Tom | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:37:06 PM | Write this one off, you'll be better off in the long run. Don't let this experience hinder any future possibilities that may come your way because of it tho.
I have had two long distance relationships...in one, neither of us 'drifted' . It was a wonderful relationship that will always have fond memories for me. The other one, well, he liked to charm the pants off (literally) every woman he crossed paths with. The first one lasted four years and we took the time and effort to see each other whenever our schedules would allow.
A guy who lives two blocks away from you can be just of a cad as somebody 3,000 miles away...Hidden amongst all the 'driftwood' is the one gem who will be the one to treasure! | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:43:37 PM | | Go and do the zombie thing at his place and freak out his so called "girlfriend" no, don't do that.....just let it go. I visited your profile and you won't have a problem finding a new sweetheart.....let it go, there, there. | |
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| the fact that he was from Omaha
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:46:03 PM | should have been a huge warning signal. Cornhuskers always marry the girl from the next quarter section over...
Tried the Long distance relationship myself three years ago. its the long flight into nowhere... | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:54:40 PM | Hes a total rat hun. Words fail me on here i'll get banned but what a total shit.
Hes made his decisions and you dont need a lyin cheating scumbag, look at you your lovely. I cant say anythin sadly to ease your pain but it does ease in time. Feel sad, feel angry and eventually it will start to mend it just takes time.
As for the present DO NOT GO. What is he gonna do? Introduce you to his latest squeeze? Dont hurt yourself by goin there. Get the ticket rip it up and post it to him with a letter tellin him wat a prat he is. God I'd so revenge him Im afraid men like him make me so cross! lol
Horrible man hun and you dont feel it now but your best off withoug a spineless runt x | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 5:58:46 PM | I would go and relish in the joy of ruining his life for a week (or however long) with guilt, shame and horror. Invade his personal space, don't let him have a moment of peace with the new girl and if you can, key his car before you go.
Then leave and never think of it again... | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 6:06:18 PM | Op, my thoughts turn to how you could have been calling him your boyfriend after only meeting him in September and visiting him in December only. That's two meets and now a third one that was planned soon I guess......so say if it's May when you would have seen him a third time, so three meets in total in 8 months.....hmmm, you do see that is hardly any time together to get to know each other, don't you?
On top of that, you said you were in an open relationship so you each could meet others, but you justified it only if it was casual connections with others....which I don't understand what that means at all.....what, sex but no emotional connection? Or you could make friendships with no sex? And who can ever guarantee either of these conditions won't lead to a deeper connection?
I also wonder in the 8 months, it sounds like you were the only one making the effort to go and see him with no talk or action of him coming to see you?
These are just the obvious issues I see from your post that makes me almost wonder - how could you not see this coming?
I'm sorry for your loss financially and also emotionally. It is a relatively small price to pay I guess to see that he had no plans of exclusivity with you and I honestly wonder if he really thought of you two as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Again, it seems way too few meets and too little time together to really have forged such commitment as you imagined you both had. I'm sorry you had to learn the truth just after paying for the ticket - isn't that always the way??!! Well, at least you didn't buy a house together or anything like that!
One last question - at any point during this 'relationship' did your guts tell you something might not be completely 'kosher' with him? I would suggest maybe you should start listening within more and maybe consider and communicate what's really going on and perhaps not so much wishful thinking in the future. And if he led you to believe all was totally as you thought it was, again I'm sorry he didn't have the courage to tell you the truth. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:15:31 PM | | Expensive lesson to learn, but I would not go, and do everything in my power to move on. He should have split the ticket with you to begin with if he really wanted to see you. Long distance relationships are just hard, and when they become open, the risks are so great. You were okay with the open relationship status, so you hold some responsibility in what happened, and maybe somewhere deep down you knew this and wanted it to end. He obviously is not the right man for you. Looking at your profile and pictures, you will have no problem meeting other guys. Maybe look more locally. | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 7:57:32 PM | | This should say it all, you just got rid of a loser for only 330 dollars, sounds like you got off cheap to me. I know it may not sound great now, but one day you'll be glad you got off that easy. :) | |
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| A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward.
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:29:47 PM | Fly there, live in his house, eat his food, make him take you out places and fvck him like a passion driven demon.
Then go on with your life leaving him to wonder how he could have been so stupid as to have passed you by.
Or you could wimp out and be a victem like so many others here giving you advice.
Your choice.  | |
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