| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/14/2008 10:46:51 PM |
I will put myself out on a limb here and say I am visual and I very much do want to know her age and what she looks like. Go ahead, call me shallow, but I want to know if there is a chance for chemistry. Some few women have the look I go for but most do not. I do not wish to waste her time or mine or put either of us through another difficult and disappointing blind date.
...I think most of us in dating land are pretty much visual creatures. There isn't anything wrong with that, when a person buys a house or a car, it got to be appealing to the eye, otherwise whats the point?
Specific information, yes there are a number of things I would like to know about him before I agree to a first meet. Family is important to me and I tend to feel far more comfortable with someone who is involved with their family as well. Is there any community involvement, volunteering,....That kinda stuff indicates to me that they have strong values & beliefs and are caring individuals....at least thats what I hope.
Having a good sense of humour is right up there, for the most part I consider myself pretty positive and upbeat and I do not/will not tolerate arrogance or negativity. I've had enough of it over the years.
Hmmm...this may seem like a wish list of sorts, but thats ok, I own it.
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/15/2008 7:33:09 AM | I must see a recent picture of them
I don't ask for their phone number- because I won't give them mine unless I feel safe with them. ( It avoids stalkers or the why won't you go out with me again phone calls.)
If I did not feel any possible chemistry after the first date- I email and tell them that. Why waste their time or mine.
I will accept no drink from him or leave my drink around anyone. (My daughter left her drink at the table while she went to the rest room. Her date slipped her a date rape drug. THank God, she had the sense to call me from a bathroom and come get her. My drink is never unattended by me. IF I go out on the dance floor, I finish it. I do not let my date get the drink from the bar and bring it to me. (That is usually when the drug is put in the drink)
He doesn't know my address until I have slept with him. WHich has taken up to 3 months or more. Until I feel safe with him and have a pretty good measure of his mental status. | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/15/2008 1:35:20 PM |
...I think most of us in dating land are pretty much visual creatures. There isn't anything wrong with that, when a person buys a house or a car, it got to be appealing to the eye, otherwise whats the point?
So does this mean that you won't date a blind guy cause he can't see the visuals?
I'd want to now if the blind person has a sense of humor, were they blind from birth, an accident, or just can't see without their glasses/contacts. | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:15:22 AM | Blah...don't do blind dates here or anywhere! Need a picture first and foremost, and some info, lots ofinfo and then maybe we can do a group thing! I have to get to know someone for a couple weeks here so why would I change my rules outside of here?
Blind is not good in any sense of the word! | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:54:53 PM | Simple for me. I want to know the lady said yes to a time and place of her choosing.
The way I figure it, most ladies have some guidelines for their own safety and protection, and I applaud them for that. I find out everything I need to know in the process of following them. I see no need to add anything of my own, unless they ask me to send money in advance.
I have no truck with the notion that I am smart enough to weed out unpleasantness in advance. Some of the best were the ones for which I had little hope beforehand and vice versa. I cannot think of very many that I consider a waste of my time and hers. | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:02:06 PM | I like to know their full name. I like to find out about their family their parents who their parents are if they are local.. you know who knows who.. I think that is a southern thing. I also like to know where they work and many times will ask for their work number and extention number and I might just call them at work just to verify that they are there. Also I like to get their cell phone and I like to have them contact me by phone on a regular basis. I like to establish some kind of raport on the phone first so if we meet we will know enough about each other to make conversation.One of the last men I dated which was a very successful dating relationship he emailed me on POF.. told me he wanted to meet me for dinner.. he called on the phone once and gave me his work information and work number and extention.. I called him at work to verify he was there.. then we met for dinner and dated for about 4 months..
Another guy I recently dated.. we talked off and on for about a month and we met for dinner.. and started dating also.
So I think it depends on the raport.. I have had very good fortune with initial meetings and blind dates.
I also like to start verifying someone's identity as soon as I meet them. I do it a little bit before I meet them.. but fortunately I live in a smaller populated state.. and so you can usually find someone who knows the person you want to find out about pretty quickly. In one case I had a friend who had a friend who worked with the guy. In another case I had a friend who knew this other guy's supervisor.
Recently I have begun chatting with a guy who knows a guy I dated a little bit last year.. small world here in Northn Mississippi.. and I am glad for that.
I do find it offensive if a man who is interested in meeting me is not very cooperative about helping me verify who he is. Most are quite helpful and I have refused to meet men who were not helpful. To me that is a danger sign. Any good man would be more than happy to help a lady feel secure. | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/16/2008 11:15:14 PM |
I date to meet people that I’ve already developed some sort of a relationship with, not because I want to date. So to answer the question directly, I’d need to know a whole lot about that person, including that I’d like to also share their company in person.
cdn guy
Absolively positutely, lol! Before I took the section on "first date" out of my profile it said something like: No such thing as a date -- just spending time with someone you already know very well. My *only* disasters have been when I've disregarded this advice to myself. . . .
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:08:14 AM | If you know person very well...it is already relationship...not a date...
I think...every date can be wonderful...if you don't bring your daily stuff to feed your partner...
It is about motivation...why you want to meet somebody?
Every person has a huge potential of inner personality...talking to somebody...like for me...it is always great experience ...be creative...and let other person be the same...
You should know...words...are only words...but important...is not only information...but action...too...
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:03:09 AM |
The longer I am single the more information I want to know before going on yet another blind date.
Does anyone else feel the same?
No. When I was going on first dates, I expected a man to share only as much information about himself as I was prepared to share with him about myself.
Details about my offspring and parents, where I worked and who my work colleagues were, and the names and phone numbers of my friends was far too much personal information to disclose to someone I barely knew and had never met. That type of information can be very dangerous in the hands of someone who could turn out to be a loony tune or a con artist and I would have been highly suspicious of the motives of someone who insisted on knowing those things before they would even meet me. I have to wonder if those who do require this level of personal information upfront, are as equally forthcoming about their own.
As far as interests and character traits are concerned, a large part of the joy of building a relationship with someone is learning and revealing these things over time. In my experience, if one finds out most everything in the first few weeks or months, the intrigue and fascination of the journey of discovery ceases and the relationship stagnates and becomes very mundane and boring. This penchant many seem to have to know ALL, as quickly as possible, is just another example of the “instant gratification” mindset that is so prevalent today.
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:04:01 AM | What do you want to know about a potential date before you are willing to take the time to meet him or her?
I'd like to know whether she is single and not involved with anyone at the time we decide to date. Whether she is easy going or a stick in the mud. I do like the idea of background checks but moreso for marital status. But most important I'd like to know if she is fine with me and is fun enough to take it easy if we were to date. | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:23:30 AM | Do I need to find a blind person, just to get a date.
hmmmmmm, maybe I'm on to something here. My bait isn't working at all
If you find a blind person, do you look for the white cane or the seeing eye dog first. I love animals  | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:32:29 PM | Ageless I am thinking of starting the perfect meeting site and thought you might be interested. If you sign up, I will let you help me name it.
The rule is that if anyone offers you a first meeting, you must accept it if they live within 200 miles and are within 20 years in age. If either person offers a second meeting, the other must accept, make all the arrangements, and pay for everything. All emails and forum posts must contain only positive statements about the opposite sex. All profiles must indicate what you want to do for your second meeting; no other content is permitted. No mention of sex before the end of the second meeting is permitted; you must come prepared to talk about something else.
After each first or second meeting, you enter the time and place in the computer under your profile and describe what a wonderful time you had. If you haven't had at least one meeting in the last 60 days, the computer selects a person of the opposite sex who is also deprived and notifies you both of your blind meeting. The only reason a meeting can be cancelled is a life threatening illness, and you must provide a notarized statement of such from your doctor. As soon as you recover, you must schedule two meetings with the person you stood up, at your own expense.
Membership in this club is for life, or until you stay in a committed, monogamous relationship for one year. Any violation of the rules results in immediate termination (of you, not the contract) | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:18:20 PM | Wayward, how long have you been working on this plan?? It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into it.
Sign me up, I'm ready
It does get a little complicated but I'm sure you can put everything into the computer, and let it do all the work.
Another question. If you haven't had a date in years, can you make it all up? Just a thought. | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:50:54 PM | Message 40, pretty well sums it up for me. Disclosing details and personal information with someone I have never met doesn't work for me either.
I have to wonder, when the other requires numerous emails and phone calls to glean information, personal,physical, emotional or otherwise, before asking for a meeting, whether they're actually sincere in meeting at all. And, I'm usually right. They don't.They're either fantasizers or time-wasters.
Let's face it. On a dating site, all we have is a picture to see what the other person looks like and a profile. Other than that, every meeting with someone online is a blind date. | |
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| How much information do you need to accept a blind date?
Posted: 5/19/2008 4:11:52 PM | I want to talk on the phone before we meet. I don't care about his job, his pets, his ex, or his children. I want to know he can sustain a conversation through dinner, and that he will not be talking about what he'd like to do to me or Hillary Clinton, at least until desert.
I call this K.I.S.S.
~Peace | |
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