| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/13/2008 10:51:58 PM | No, do not term that as a plural - Not ALL guys from a past relationship eventually call and do the relationship waffle between new and old, cause they don't. There ARE some decent guys out there.
And as for your problem, well - now's the time to say "No". It will only lead to problems, he's with someone else. Done. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:21:09 AM | He does it because he doesn't really give a damn about being loyal to his girlfriend, and it's easier to get sex from an ex (generally speaking) than it is to hook up with someone new. You've already got that familiarity.
Also,
Here's a better question: "Why do you think he is your friend if he is saying he loves you and trying to have sex with you?"
Friends don't say, "I love you," to each other when they use the term love to mean romantic/intimate.
Instead of making it plan and clear to him, you just cut him out of your life?
-Blue
- that's a very good point. If he's REALLY just a friend, he wouldn't be trying to sleep with you at all | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 2:27:28 AM | | Did you happen to break up with him because he's an arsehole? A large percentage of the world's population is made up of arseholes (& ***holes). The trick to saving your own happiness and longevity is avoiding them. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 5:38:33 AM | no, I'm not still stuck on him... maybe guys should get over their damn ego trips. MEN ARE NOT god's gift to women. She why do they all think that? As far as I am concerned all men act the same, as long as they have a place to stick their****(real or fake) they're happy. Now go back to playing with your toys.
Remember, in my first response, when I told you it was annoying and just generally not cool to generalize an entire gender based upon your experiences with ONE member of said gender? Did you miss that part, or just deliberately ignore it in order to lash out at us?
It's funny how you choose to bypass every question I asked, all of them valid, in favor of making yet another generalization about men. I guess I struck a nerve when I said that maybe we weren't getting the full story, and that maybe you were still stuck on him, huh? So I'll do you a favor and ask them again.
Unless you have kids with this guy, why would you even be in contact with him? Because if everything you say in your first post is true, which I doubt now, you would have no other reason to even be speaking to him, right? I mean, he's an ex for a reason, right? And yet, rather than answer the very valid question, and maybe (big maybe, considering your obvious hate for all things male) allow us to actually help you a bit, you choose to spout off with the nonsense above.
What you should do is take that huge chip off your shoulder, pull the massive railroad tie sized stick out of your ass, and take the "angry bltch" hat off. Maybe you'll learn something, and be happier for it. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:26:27 AM | | He's doing it because he's a low-life, sounds like it was a good thing to move 0n. I'm dread to think about the future heartbreak of his new girlfriend. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:29:01 AM | Just An Average Guy
I think the OP pulled an Elvis and left the building. Couldn't take the cold hard reality. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:41:52 AM |
Just An Average Guy
I think the OP pulled an Elvis and left the building. Couldn't take the cold hard reality.
So we all win, then. We don't have to listen to yet another forum martyr, and she gets to keep living in her fantasy world.
Yay. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:50:04 AM | | I think OP that next time you should choose your men more wisely. He sounds like a piece of trash. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:35:23 PM | | Well there aren't any kids, but I'm friends with most of my exes. The breakup wasn't a bad one, so why hate him? It was a mutual breakup, and life was going in 2 different directions. It's not like I am the only one to ever stay friends with an ex. Yes I did mis-title my thread, and I'm sorry to all the decent men out there that find it offensive. I guess maybe he didn't get the memo about not trying to sleep with someone else when you have a gf. That chip is there for a reason, and it's not exactly easy to take it off, I don't have a stick up my ass, I just don't take kindly to people being arseholes to me for no reason as I imagine you would do the same. and I quite like the angry **** hat thanks. It's just says I won't tolerate yours or anyone elses crap. I am a very happy person in general, I guess I just don't get why SOME men act the way they do. and no, you guys didn't win anything. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:42:17 PM | "I won't tolerate yours or anyone elses crap."
That kind of sums up why some people may respond to you in a way you don't appreciate...just an educated guess. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:34:32 PM | "I won't tolerate yours or anyone elses crap."
But you will tolerate ex-boyfriends who hit on you and tell lurid stories about their current girlfriends. Hmm....so I wonder what intimate details about YOU that he has ALREADY SHARED with her....???
Cut the crap and toss his number away. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 1:37:48 AM | | I think he is lying about how great is new girlfriend is and is hoping to make you jealous. If he loved you, then he wouldn't be trying to have sex with you, he would be trying to win you back. And if he loves her, he wouldn't even be thinking about you xx | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:18:10 AM | hiya, im currently in the similar situation and also know of friends going through it too and i dont understand it all. why if a guy is so happy with their gf are they messing with us? we try and be mates coz once upon a time we got on well and would like their friendship and then constantly hint that they wanna sleep with us!
ALSO doesnt it make u think were they doing this when they were with us? and part of u might secretly like to sleep with them agen coz the sex was good but not when they are still with their gf but dont actually want them back because uv seen their true colours?
guys are stupid!!! | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 8:22:01 AM | "guys are stupid!!!"
Ah, quite the absolutely generalization, don't ya think?
"Stupid is as stupid does."...could I use that generalization on you??? Think about it before you start using absolutes and generalizations and negativities....I take it you do have brothers and a dad, huh? Guess they are stupid too? | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 9:47:22 AM | | It is called WHORE DOG. Just like a dog he is sniffing around. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 11:09:56 AM | | excuse me sue...take the stick out ur arse and take a chill pill. not all guys are stupid but u are!!! | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 11:47:04 AM | ... I'm friends with most of my exes. Why is this so important to some people? Is being able to be friends with an ex supposed to make a person more mature?
I have nothing against a woman or man that stays friends with her or his exes. I would, however, avoid a woman that felt some undeniable need to be friends after every breakup. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 12:14:06 PM | Guys do it because they can. It's pretty simple. If you can sleep with two people instead of one, get away with it, and your conscience doesn't bother you, what's the downside?
On the other hand, girls - if your ex is trying to get in your knickers, cut him out of your life. That's not friend behavior. The best you are going to achieve is being "the other girl". You're not going to win him back, earn his respect, or be able to move on with your life if you're sleeping with him, letting him confide in you, or both...
OP - he's not your friend. He's going to try until you get rid of him, which is probably the best advice people on here have given you. Go forth and prosper in new pastures  | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:14:23 PM | | Lilly,you are definitely entitled to your opinion about me...and that is fine. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:16:43 PM | [ promiscuous mena ren't sluts, we're players, playboys, casanovas....]
Youre also not men! | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:17:40 PM | | Thank you lilyj, youre right now all men are stupid. some of us actually know how to treat a lady. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:20:18 PM |
This is one of those threads that really needs to be renamed "Why do SOME guys do this?"
Yeah, I'd sign that petition. | |
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| Why do guys do this???
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:37:17 PM | Because he thinks he can... and suspects you will
he's a d!ck with no morals, and you listen to it.
crikey, as soon as I heard those words out of a guys mouth he'd be out my door, bye bye sayonara... with a few choice words to let him know he just lost all respect in my eyes.
YOU decide what kind of behavior you allow around you | |
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