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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:13:36 AM | It might be the part of the country you're in. I've found people act/react differently in various parts of the country. Oregonians are the nicest/least defensive people I've found.
It might be that we're socializing our society to be that way. After all, don't we raise our children to "not talk to strangers?" Be suspicious if a stranger approaches them? Maybe what we're seeing is those children all grown up taking it with them to adulthood.
It might be all about your gestalt.
Or it might be... (Consider this true story) I'm in a department store. I smile and say hello to a man passing me by in an aisle. He seems to be shopping the same aisles as me. Uh oh, he's standing behind me in the checkout. Oh, geeze he's following me to my car. Holy cow, I make a beeline back into the store to get security. Security walks me to my car and as security walks away his car rolls up behind mine and stops. I call to security and his car rolls slowly away heading up the next parking aisle. And start up my car and head out of the parking lot as fast as I can out the "back way" all the while watching my rearview mirror and zig zagging all the way back to my home. --and it was all my fault because I smiled and said hello. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:30:41 AM | This thread is too funny. On countless nice guy/lonely guy threads, men are scolded by women for not smiling, not being friendly, not being confident, not "putting themselves out there." On this thread they're being scolded for smiling, being friendly, being confident and "putting themselves out there." Very confusing.
I tend to believe it's a culture thing, though. I live is a small city where most people seem open to smiling/chatting with strangers without it being a particular expression of interest or leading to the creepy/stalkerish type thing described in some posts.
In my entire life I can only think of a couple of times when a smile or chit-chat with anyone went slightly wrong, and even then it wasn't scary bad or annoying bad, just a little awkward.
When I go to visit my family in Toronto, however, hardly anyone (female or male) makes eye contact or chats in store lineups and such. Maybe there are so many people around it would become stupid and impossible to get anything done on a day-to-day basis if you paid too much attention to the people around you. Just a theory. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:13:50 AM | I always smile back at someone who smiles me at me. So I guess you have been smiling at some mean women.  | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:39:36 AM | | mistressdolly, never thought I would meet someone here who knew Karen Horney. Since you do not receive communication the normal way (only from those over 79) I had to resort to this place. I am not sure why anyone would spend time psychoanalyzing someone on the street; close to a total waste of time. Even Freud would agree with that one. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:44:39 AM | It's their defense mechanism. If I was wandering around the big city & every weirdo under the sun was grinning at me like a crazed loon I would certainly blank them.
The trick is do to it back to them....
If you make eye contact with a girl & smile, & all she does is put her nose in the air & look away like some kind of stuck up snob. Wait until she looks back to check you out. If you're a good looking guy she will look back. When she does this. The instant just before she makes eye contact, put your nose in the air, flick your hair & look away. Even exaggerate your movements - just to show that you are way out of her league & that she would not even be worth speaking to even if she did smile back in the first place.
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:35:27 PM |
I have a question. If women did smile back at you would you take it as polite and refreshing and then go on with your day? Or would you approach the ones who smiled that you had interest in? If you honestly can say you'd never approach women who smiled at you regardless - great. If a smile for you would be any invitation to go a step further and want to approach her, then THAT's why some women don't smile.
As a matter of fact I do smile when someone smiles at me. And generally no I don't approach women in public for the very reasons stated in the above posts. It's not only a waste of time but as everyone stated, who knows what the women is up to at the time.
On countless nice guy/lonely guy threads, men are scolded by women for not smiling, not being friendly, not being confident, not "putting themselves out there." On this thread they're being scolded for smiling, being friendly, being confident and "putting themselves out there." Very confusing.
Can't agree more dawn1114. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:59:12 PM | [ If you make eye contact with a girl & smile, & all she does is put her nose in the air & look away like some kind of stuck up snob. Wait until she looks back to check you out. If you're a good looking guy she will look back. When she does this. The instant just before she makes eye contact, put your nose in the air, flick your hair & look away. Even exaggerate your movements - just to show that you are way out of her league & that she would not even be worth speaking to even if she did smile back in the first place.]
Spiraldive, this is your advice to the OP? What? No No No. Don't do it!
The girl may be shy or insecure. Not necessarily a snob.
I've been on both sides of the fence. I've smiled at guys. Sometimes they smile back. But sometimes they dont. And than you feel like an idiot.
I've been smiled at by guys too. I don't always smile back. I'm a little on the shy side. The funny thing is I tend to smile back at the guys who I'm not attracted to.
The hot guys can be intimidating. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/17/2008 9:27:43 PM | Maybe its because I live in Iowa,, but I smile and say hi to just about everyone. I don't live in an exclusively small town, we have a diverse population. I have found that those people who come from different cultures, or ethnic groups, tend to be friendlier to others.
If you're having a problem with women not smiling back at you perhaps it might help if you add a little "hi", and leave it at that. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:10:22 PM | It is a cultural thing. In New Orleans people are very friendly, European style, and visitors are caught off guard by it but soon join in. Of course, in a place where tourism is a money maker, everybody is friendly.LOL Seriously, some of us are sincere
and enjoy other peoples' company. Also, it takes 3 people to have a party and 7 to have a parade. | |
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| Why do women do this?
Posted: 6/7/2008 8:53:39 PM | Brutal honesty is alive and well.
A few weeks ago I had a guy follow me out of a coffee shop, get in his car and proceed to follow me further.....so after circling a parking lot I finally pulled over............and through the tiny crack in my window he whispered that I was beautiful and he wanted to take me out......he was sure that I wanted him to come after me? Why I asked?
Because I smiled at him.
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