| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 5/14/2008 12:17:23 PM |
let's see if you were in it really for the friendship or there was a reasoning behind you befriending this woman the way you did. EXACTLY! This is why a smart man should never really trust his SO's guy "friends". | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:35:03 PM | If your best friend wanted to be your lover...you would know without having to ask or bring up the subject.
My SO was my best friend for over 3 years. We learned a lot about each other, the problems and previous loves we each had been through and been there for each other. This all leads to a greater understanding. | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:16:57 PM | Second Earth Found
Scientists have discovered a warm and rocky "second Earth" circling a star,
a find they believe dramatically boosts the prospects that we are not alone.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2007/apr/25/starsgalaxiesandplanets.spaceexploration
Perhaps our soulmates reside on another planet ...
I know some folk already think I live on another planet
JR | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 5/14/2008 3:19:27 PM |
If your best friend wanted to be your lover...you would know
without having to ask or bring up the subject.
so true 
LITTLE ROSE
I would rather have a little rose
from the garden of a friend,
Than to have the choicest flowers
when my stay on earth must end.
I would rather have a pleasant word
in kindness said to me,
Than flattery when my heart is still
and this life has ceased to be.
I would rather have a loving smile
from friends I know are true,
Than tears shed around my casket
when this world I bid adieu.
I would rather have one special friend
than a lover untrue,
She would be with me to the end
I bless the day that I found YOU!
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 5/14/2008 4:29:28 PM | Usually, all you end up doing is screwing up a great friendship.
This is why I promote dating before friendship rather than the other way around. It works out a lot better. | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 5/14/2008 9:55:58 PM | | after reading several posts it still amazes me, stepping over the line from best friends to relationship or lovers,, first off, what i see most ladies seeking is friendship first,, thats what i always thought, you should be best friends first, then move onto a relationship,.and knows too much about you,, thats a statement that needs to be stricken from the language, when in a relationship, its almost a given that your partner will know alot about you,, if there is something they dont, in time they will, if you need to hide something,, other than( how many before and types of things like that,, ) then the relationship is based on misleading a person, they should know the good and the bad,, after all they are going to be partners with you. mislead them now and you will mislead them later,, plain fact, , there are those friends even best friends who do not feel the same and never will in that way,, and thats ok as well, but to say, i couldnt because he or she knows to much about me, is absurd,, | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 5/15/2008 9:24:27 AM | HI there and hear speeks the voice of experience.
I have a very close friend and yes he is all male. I have had a few over the years, if they change from friends to lovers it NEVER works you loos a really good friend.
Would I allow this one to step over the line????? NO way. we are fare to good friends for that. he values my friendship and I value his. We know every thing about each other all the little secretts too. No Way should you cross the line.  | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 8/27/2008 1:18:14 PM | Wait....it is okay for her to "....make the move if she wanted...." but not the male? Oh please.....that is certainly an unbalanced attitude in this world of political correctness!! | |
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Posted: 8/27/2008 1:47:17 PM | | If you sleep with your friend, then you will usually end up losing the friend. It's just not worth the fallout. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2008 3:09:49 PM | | Well, have you asked her how she feels? I suggest doing so; then you'll know where you stand, and either you'll need to respect her platonic feelings for you, or you'll find out she's interested in more as well and you can proceed from there. Either way, if you just ask you won't have to worry anymore about where you stand with her. | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 8/27/2008 3:33:18 PM | | I guess it's a good thing I don't have the negative feelings most people in here do since all the relationships I've had so far start out as very good friendships then progress to very good relationships as I get to know the person. They have all been successful and it's the only way I would ever have it. It makes the most sense to me. All this "sleeping with someone will ruin the friendship" talk is garbage. It's very easy to remain good friends if things don't work out as long as you're mature about it. | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 9/19/2008 7:37:08 AM | | Have been there and done that ...and would advise you not to cross the boundary if you value the friendship. It's never the same after at best, and if it doesn't work you lose a friend! | |
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| Stepping over the line?
Posted: 9/19/2008 7:53:00 AM |
Even if you would shag her 7 ways from Sunday.
Seven? There are 7 ways. On that day! I'm outta my league. Could you 'splain that? | |
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Posted: 9/19/2008 8:00:55 AM | | every Lover I have ever had has been my friend first .....I dont have best friends ..all my friends are equal...if i know you and you have not showed me that you dont want to be my friend then you are my friend ....whenever i have a relationship that person will be chosen from my friends ...i dont have friends with benefits...just being my friend is all the benefit i need from you ...unless we embark on a relationship ... if we have a relationship and it dont work and we move on ..i see no reason we cant still be friends ...I would give any friend of the opposite sex a chance in a relationship if i were not already in a relationship...you cannot be so good a friend as to be eliminated as a potential relationship...my wife is a very good friend ...not my best friend just a special kind of friend ...our relationship is in no danger from my other friends some of which have been lovers in the past ..past is past .now is now ...my EX's are all still friends >>>I refuse to go to sleep with hate in my heart ... i will let no one force me to hate them ...people that you would hate are not worth the pain hate causes you...I love all my friends ..all you need to have my Love is want to be my friend ...the love i have for my relationship is reserved for one at a time | |
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Posted: 9/19/2008 8:00:55 AM | | I had a male best friend. We hung out all the time (often with other people). I loved talking with him. One night he showed up alone and said "Wanna go get a coke?" (You have to understand this was during our teens in the 70s.) So we did then drove to one of our favorite spots to hide out and smoke a doobie. Next thing I know he slides across the seat and kisses me. And... wow!... what a kiss! A few moments later he whispered "Make love with me," and that was the beginning of The Great Love of My Life spanning 30 years. | |
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