| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/14/2008 6:12:09 PM |
LOL...I saw that episode of "the pick-up artist" also!
lol you caught me, mystery is the man! Hey, believe it or not it works. You just have to be sure that you always ask if she has seen that show or not first, or else it can't be used ;)
I'm not really one for "lines" anyway, that one just seemed pretty good. You will know when the time is right for a kiss anyway. A certain look, gesture, body language, etc., they are all key, just don't ask. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:09:29 PM | The longer you spend trying to figure out if you should or shouldn't will likely end up to be one of your worst kisses.
When you look into her eyes and feel her gentle touch, you will know she wants it as bad as you do.
Don't wait two or three dates because if you don't kiss her she will think there is something wrong and there may be only one date.
If she doesn't like the way you kiss it is possible there will only be one anyway.
Don't plan it. the spur of the moment thing is one she will remember. or easily forget.
If there not a good kisser I usually don't keep them around too long. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/14/2008 7:30:40 PM | if you have the eye contact.... the wanting to touch........your bodies have moved closer.....
then just smile and say kiss me.......
worked on me recently...
smiles/peace | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/14/2008 8:01:12 PM | There was the guy who said "So, are you gonna kiss me?"
What could I do but go for it? Worked for him....and me!
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/15/2008 12:53:20 PM | Couldn't help but notice that those 'first kisses' always
seemed to take on a life all their own.
Wish everything in life worked their magic like a first kiss! | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/15/2008 4:37:27 PM | When in doubt, always look to the legendary Bruce Campbell for guidance. Look her deep in the eyes and say....
"gimmie some sugar, baby"
LOL
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/15/2008 6:41:26 PM | | When you say "initiate" the first kiss it seems almost as you are asking their permission as though you are their kid. Don't ask permission, but don't be grabby with the hands, just lean over and kiss the...lips only. They will either accept it or they won't. If they don't reciprocate then you apologize...after recovering from the stun gun or mace. Kissing is an individual behavior with reciprocating synergistic results. Do it or don't but don't ask for permission to want to. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/15/2008 8:33:13 PM | Don't be a wuss and listen to any of this silly advice. If it's a first date, build up some sexual tension and go in for a kiss but don't kiss her, just softly tell her you had a good time and that you'd like to see her again.
Second date, do something fun that doesn't necessarily get you all that close but perhaps hold hands or something but lure her in a bit more, be sexy and then act distracted like you've got something else on your mind but tell her you'd like to see her again.
Build up to it dude until she can hardly take it. Then kiss her softly after the end of the third date but no tongue just passionate expressive lip on lip kisses. If she follows your lead, she's a fantastic kisser and understands the dance. If she goes for tongue, dump her, she's a lousy kisser and not worth pursuing.
Next time take it deep and passionate and then mix it up afterwards. You're probably only a beginners level kisser so you need to communicate through your kisses and merge that into you total communication to her.
good luck, seduction is an art, kissing is nothing without it. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/15/2008 8:55:44 PM | | Thats some really good advice pepperidge. Setting it up like that is real smooth. I'm definitely not a beginner's level kisser though. All my ex-girlfriends initated the first kiss, after that, I'd initiate it or they would. Kissing went on just like a normal couple because the ice was broken. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:50:54 AM | I stand corrected, I usually initiate my kisses at the most unexpected times, try to take advantage of humorous situations or unusual situations, makes the women really remember them more than the usual end-of-date thing. I don't go for it when they are exchanging looks, I like more drama but it depends on the woman, I try to feel them out. Some like a guy who just takes control in a totally erotic and unexpected why, like swinging them around after a longish first date under a lamp post out in public. The shock factor really gets both your hearts racing. I like that, I like being bad. But I have the kissing ability to melt them so I am confident they will give in when I do go for it. Sometimes they avert, oh, well. That's their loss, I brush it off. I know by then they want it even more but are trying to get the upper hand. I have to admit I don't like that because it's a let down, it usually spells doom for the relationship. But I definitely feel them out. I usually avoid kissing those that are really straight laced acting. So my advice, never pop a kiss on those most lady-like. They expect more of a dance, more dates to go by, then for those I won't even attempt a hug or anything. Later I hear them say, wow, he didn't even attempt a kiss on the first date. Builds up anticipation...
Good luck,
pepperidge farm boy remembers...
My weirdest first kiss was on a first date in front of a window display with pepto bismo (the pink stuff for indigestion), it was a retro display near enough Valentines day probably as a humorous thing by the store and I remarked in an over the top way, oh, look at all the pink stuff, how romantic, then bam, kiss, hard, deep, wet, luscious, then when it was over, took her hand, looked intently into her eyes and turned away and away we walked... loved it, so did she... | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 4:05:11 AM | MY GOD YOUR AN ARIES MAN....ACT LIKE ONE!!!!! I am almost always the initiator of kisses!!! ARIES are strong, courageous, playful , and willfull. If you don't start growing bigger kahoonahs, I'm going to personally throw you out of the club!!!!! | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 4:13:26 AM | I don't know if it's just me, but I really don't like the first kiss to involve tongue .... gentle lip pressure, soft lips, not tight ... lingering just for a little, then pulling apart .... hand squeeze perhaps ... and then build up to the next kiss, which may be a little more passionate.
The beauty of this is that if 'she's not that into you' the kiss could be construed as 'just a friendly kiss' - and noone has to feel awkward afterwards (or at least they can 'save face'). After the first 'chaste' but 'promising' kiss - you'll know where you stand if you weren't quite sure before. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:04:01 AM | | I guess it all depends on where you are, the timing etc...... been times where she initiated it, other times your sitting around arms around each other watching a movie, absently minded rubbing each other (shoulders etc, not sexually) but you are just comfortable with each other and it just happens.... other times you know things are going well, you have the feeling it's ok, I've done a simple "may I?" nothing else... and either she will tell me yes, or it's like a sign and she initiates it.... too many different senerios.... there is not one set way to approach it. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:40:50 AM | Thats pretty funny sanchezzz.
Two things tho: I'm a nerd (not socially but mentally). When you're a nerd, your mind is usually on something else and not always at the task at hand. I could be having a conversation with her like a normal guy but then I'm also thinking about plot details for a book I'm writing.
So it ain't really an issue of willpower because I have plenty of that. It's just a matter of focus.
And the second thing...supposedly I'm not really an Aries. http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts6784529.aspx
^^^I don't believe that mess but its just another reason why you shouldn't put too much stock in Astrology. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:45:00 AM | | Hey POF I've French-kissed as a first kiss on the first date before. It was really hot. Normal kisses are boring. If she likes normal kisses then I won't force my tongue in her or anything like that. I'll settle with Puritan kisses. And NO I'm not gonna to try to do my first kiss as a french kiss... | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:48:37 AM | | Yeah it really is about timing openmindedwi. My problem has been focus. There have been times where that first kiss moment has come and thats when I start getting distracted by everything else in the background. I guess I have to really want it. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 7:03:33 AM | | Did you do that when you were in your teens and early twenties? Only reason I ask is because I noticed that women older than me know what they want and go for it instead of waiting to see what happens. | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 10:13:57 AM | | In one case, when I was younger, the first kiss happened as we were getting dressed. I also found out her name just afterwards.... | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 2:54:45 PM | | I've always been this way...since my first boyfriend! I think I'm an alpha type personality.It's never mean, or commanding , and I hope to god I've never forced myself on anyone. It's just playful...but I'm not afraid of rejection, I never have been....I don't take it personally! | |
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| How Do You Initiate The First Kiss?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:20:44 PM | the same way you would get a drink of water -just get your lips ready and do it!
hugs, hand kisses or cheek kisses are always a nice way to gauge whether she is feeling frisky or not. -if you don't feel comfortable giving her a hug -you shouldn't be kissing her.
make sure she is giving you her unintentional "kiss me signals" -if you have to ask what are the signals -your not ready for dating. or just jump in and steal a fast kiss, (to see her reaction). - NEVER ASK FOR A KISS! women love a take charge guy who can read her emotions and feels confident enough to just lean in and kiss her -however he's not clueless enough to know shes not diggin his advances, and to back off.
if its a romantic setting, stare into her eyes with a captivating look, then move in and kiss her on the lips -no tongue -until you get her physical reaction on whether she liked it or not, if she turns her head away, keep going, however kiss her on the cheek instead and say something corny like you cant resist her charm or her perfumd drives you wild. -from then on, any more attempts will be futile, throw in the towel -til she gets to know you better. | |
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