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Posted: 5/14/2008 12:11:49 PM |
maybe it has to do something with my age
Well I don't think your age is a bad thing. But you have to admit there are different trends between different ages. I see more 20-somethings in my office setting wearing these large hoop earrings, but women in their 30's and 40's don't and think they are "weird" or "stupid." But the 20-somethings think they are cool and wear them a lot. Just wondering if this might be another one of those "trends" is all  | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 12:23:29 PM | Some people think it's popular.
Some people think it's ok.
Some people think it's kinky.
Some people think it's a trick.
Some people think it's stupid.
Some people think it's a trend.
Some people think it's weird.
Some people can't believe
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Posted: 5/14/2008 1:21:36 PM |
But is this you that likes it ... or is this some sort of a 20-something trend? I saw from your profile you're about her age - hence why I'm asking. I'd just never heard of women my age or there abouts being turned on by this sort of thing.
No, I'm quite sure it's neither an age thing nor a new trend. One of the first bits of erotica I read as a teenager (more than 30 years ago) was a compilation of sexual fantasies by women of all ages, and it included several exhibitionism fantasies just like you described.
I've got to add that I'm pretty sure the woman didn't mean to insult you, but it does sound kind of inappropriate and inconsiderate to ask such a thing of a relative stranger, especially someone she was bound to have continued casual contact with. It's risking offending someone who might have religious or personal objections and making them feel uncomfortable.
If she had any sense, she'd have attempted to meet someone in a more direct sexual way (either on the Internet or in a bar pickup type thing). | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 1:47:26 PM | i would do it. hell, i used to put a glass on the wall to see if i hear anything from neighbors he he he :))) something like that is a dream come true. i would masturbate in the closet, feelin all kinky and dirty, u know, like i was some REAL dirty pervert, would be fun.
but thats just me.
plus, thats an invitation... she wont say u can join in, but its like when u go on a date and she says she wants to take it slow, most times hormones break those rules for instant gratification  . so u dont know, she might just be trying to lure u in bit by bit.
i wouldn't do it without a written agreement from her first, to make sure u don't end up in jail or beaten up, am paranoid on 'too good to be true' stuff
but i say do it. it will be a valuable life experience that u dont know what it might lead to, and u got nothing to lose, worst case scenario, u have a good party story ... or u could end up a swinger | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 1:56:26 PM | You must be putting off some kind of vibe, OP, cause I seriously doubt she picked someone she thought would be offended or uninterested.  It's the fact that she responded with "maybe you need time to think about it first", vs. apologizing and cutting a trail outta there lickity split, that leds me to believe she really thought you were game.
I'd be so pissed, lol. Shoot, that's just no way to talk to your neighbor!
I dunno, maybe they've been reading a lil too much erotica and probably either had no other options, or just aren't too picky about their adventures and just wanna get this stuff rolling. I don't mean that as a slam to you, OP, I mean in that they would stage it in such a way as the stranger isn't really a stranger, and would not be participating in the mutual pleasures exchanged. Who does that?!
Most exhibitionists stage it to the degree that they place themselves where they might be viewed by whomever strolls along, or to get caught, but they don't ask someone to catch them! Hmm...the more I think about it, the more I'm starting to wonder if this was a vanilla, lame way of determining your interest in a 3some? Yanno...fool you into thinking they just wanna be watched, but hoping you'll get hot and bothered and participate to some extent?
Dang...how sex gets to be this important just blows my mind. I mean...to solicit your neighbor, someone you have to live near...wow! What would follow? Neighborhood circle jerks...what?  | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 3:04:07 PM | | I see this as a step away from watching porn. It seems like it's a natural extension. You might not be interested in that extension but it doesn't seem that strange to me. Now, I can't imagine approaching my neighbor that way but the actual request doesn't seem that strange to me. | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 5:36:52 PM | My neighbors are in their 80's so I hope I am not asked to do that.
But, if age appropriate, I'd be camping out in that closet! You're lucky! | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 7:06:16 PM | Wow, nice, you lucky dog.. and like a poster above me mentioned, are you saying you don't watch porn? This is the next best thing.. as long as the BF doesn't find out you're in there and drag you out and smash your face in.
As for voyeurism, think about it.. we're a VERY voyeuristic species. The most popular medium of entertainment we have is TV and film.. and what is that at it's base? It's watching other people. We watch people in fictional sitcoms, to see how they live their life and what they'd do in wacky situations.. we watch them to make us laugh, we watch them to make us cry and feel powerful emotions. And with reality TV, we skipped over the fictional stuff to just straight WATCHING people put in situations and see how they react and form relationships with each other. We watch them do challenges, get drunk, have sex, form romantic relationships, etc etc.. even in books, we're reading and imagining the characters in our mind. We go to sporting events to watch people play a game, we read the internet on forums like this to see people talk and hear their opinions and give our own. Kings had jesters, Shakespeare had plays, we go to concerts to hear and watch our favorite band play music, etc etc etc.. it's just human instinct to WATCH, and then decide if we want to become involved.. watching is how children learn and grow, how they evolve and expand their world perception. Voyeurism doesn't correlate directly to sex only, although the massive porn industry that exists in the world is certainly another facet of this.
And being as you're a male, this is our kind of thing.. a large majority of woman would be totally disgusted at such an offer, but a large majority of men would jump at the opportunity. But hey, maybe this sort of thing just doesn't appeal to you, and that's just how you are.. no worries, if you're not interested, she'll definitely find plenty of guys who are. And YOU have no reason to be embarassed or speechless about this, SHE'S the one putting herself out on the line, just throwing this wierd random shit out there, let HER worry about what she's going to say or think next she sees you.. you're a man, doing your own thing and taking on the world, you don't have time to worry about what some wierd chick thinks about you.. but on a sidenote, if you happen to accept her offer, do be a pal and sneak in a videocamera or something ;) | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 7:34:31 PM |
Then the answer back threw me for an even bigger loop ... "Well I was hoping maybe you were interested because I'd love to have you in my closet watching me and my BF together."
Voyeurism can be quite interesting to say the least, but this scenario just seems to weird. I would think if you made a noise and the BF heard you, the woman might claim she did not know you were in there. I wouldn't do it just for that reason alone.
Now if she just wanted you in the room and everyone was cool with it... that makes it a harder decision, among other things. lol | |
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Posted: 5/14/2008 7:56:29 PM | | I wouldnt say its a 'new trend'...doesnt sound like into it,so I guess she will jsut find someone else thats into it....I am sure there are many men that would take her up on her offer!! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 1:47:16 PM |
I've got to add that I'm pretty sure the woman didn't mean to insult you, but it does sound kind of inappropriate and inconsiderate to ask such a thing of a relative stranger, especially someone she was bound to have continued casual contact with. It's risking offending someone who might have religious or personal objections and making them feel uncomfortable.
From my experience this sort of fantasy or behavior is usually expressed to a relative stranger -- some one harmless -- and not someone with much risk of follow-up consequence or entanglements.... .
Many women have expressed exhibitionist fantasies and desires to me over the years -- I wouldn't say this is especially odd at all. Given that estimates of Internet porn traffic range for 20% to 50% in various its various forms as reviewed since 1995 (which is sort of voyeurism by proxy or perhaps proxy server) this sort of request isn't what I would call especially aberrant.
I would suspect it really has NOTHING do with you per se and is not intended as the precursor to a MFM 3-some. In the evolutionary environment most copulation would have been very public matter of fact --- and not a private affair -- and this is suspiciously like a psychological vestigial remnant of this factor. There are many other aspects the expression of human sexuality which fall into obvious alignment with this primary vector. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:08:30 PM | OP: If your into it go for it! If not, just be polite and say "hey it's not my thing".
Just think about this: Maybe she is hoping it will lead into more later on with you and her along ... after all once you have seen her naked and in the throws of passion maybe you might be more inclined to experience it for yourself!
OR maybe she's looking for a cute boy toy for her boyfriend and her to use a strap on toy on and you might find yourself all tied up and getting more then you expected! | |
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Posted: 6/18/2008 3:17:14 PM |
So is this some kind of "new trend" in sexuality - to have a friend or someone you like come over and watch you have sex with someone else? Or has voyeurism now taken some kind of a new twist from it being a "peeping Tom" thing to an "invited Tom" turn-on?
there are no trends in sexuality its all been done before. when i was in the military a guy asked me to have sex with his wife while he watched from the closet. whatever floats your boat bro. if you're closet shy then just have her hook up a webcam. | |
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Posted: 6/19/2008 1:16:00 PM |
I LOVE TO HAVE A BUNCH OF PEOPLE WATCH ME GETTING FU CKED OVER THE HOOD OF MY SPORTS CAR..........
As a point of relevant technical interest the third generation Corvette Stingray was particularly suited to this task specifically -- since it was made of fiberglass and therefore very strong and undentable --- and cast on gentle slope for ideal genital contact.  | |
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