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pazoozoo

Joined: 8/28/2006
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Inviting self over night Posted: 5/16/2008 5:40:26 PM
I had already been on a meet and greet with this guy. He seemed interesting and we agreed to go out to dinner at another time. When we met for the date, he made a point to tell me his Mother was watching the dog so he didn't have to go home, and oh, by the way, he had his clothes in his car. I cut that date down to a short two hours, and he was flabbergasted when I not only wouldn't agree to a second date, but told him I just didn't think it was working for me. Every new person is an adventure.

WaywardSeeker

Joined: 7/12/2007
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Inviting self over night Posted: 5/16/2008 7:03:28 PM
My take on OP's original presentation is a bit different. What I have come to believe about internet dating is to make no assumptions, take nothing for granted, and be completely honest even when it feels awkward. It is so easy to get out of synch and the only way to present that is to be up front about everything until you get to know this unknown person. Just today a lady I have not yet met pointed out that I had done something in our first phone call that was one of her pet peeves. How refreshing not to be guessing what went wrong! So my two cents worth is that instead of being insulted that a man would ever suggest such a thing before you are ready to consider it, just say no and tell him why. That is what I do and it is so much easier to speak freely than it is to be circumspect. Maybe he is what previous posters think, maybe he is just stupid. Most ladies I have met that have lost interest rather quickly have said a lot of nice things and beat a quick exit. It seems to me more appropriate to take the time to be clear in my own mind about why I am leaving and to have the courage to put it into words. It is the grownup thing to do, is it not?

fixitfred

Joined: 11/10/2007
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Inviting self over night Posted: 5/16/2008 8:13:19 PM
The guys job is to push both for sex and during sex and it takes extra pushing to get greek and to finish it. It's the womans job to resist and say when, where and sometimes how much.

JulietJuliet

Joined: 6/7/2007
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Inviting self over night Posted: 5/17/2008 8:11:55 AM
It seems to me like he's gone without for too long and needs a fix with the first warm bod? .....It seems to me that he has gotten his way in the past and it is just 'routine' for him to have a sleep over. He will soon learn that there will come a day when he should never make assumptions. In fact I think that day has come!

Heavenscent1

Joined: 3/31/2007
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Inviting self over night Posted: 5/17/2008 5:32:01 PM
Good Grief....and you have to ask us for advice? Trust your instincts!!! I wouldn't appreciate ANY man inviting himself over..that is a very intimate thing as far as I am concerned, and to me, sleeping with someone means I am stimulated intellectually, spiritually, emotionally, and physically..AND there is a commitment to monogamy while we are together...that is a mutual decision....after several dates, phone chats..heart to hearts, etc.

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