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| Is it okay to ask if he loves you back?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:16:45 PM | only if you too are a gay boi! otherwise? never! ~;^)" orrr, unless, of course, you have a very nice backside~
BY THE WAY, if his familty has more than yours, ignore all previous advise~ Where there's a way, there's a will! | |
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| “Love is shown in your deeds, not in your words.”
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:47:22 PM | I must ask you this -
When you posted a profile on this site, were you specifically searching for someone who was emotionally available? If that is what you wanted, then you have met your match. If you were specifically searching for someone with unresolved issues from his past which would prevent him from having an unguarded heart, then once again, you have found your match. Whether or not your significant other chooses to verbalize his love, you know whether or not your emotional needs are being met.
Life begins when you allow yourself to see the truth. | |
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| Is it okay to ask if he loves you back?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:57:37 PM | | I don't think you'll appreciate it as much if you tell him first. The high from the assurance comes from him --not from you probing him. | |
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| Is it okay to ask if he loves you back?
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:00:36 PM | "eazk (Msg 15)" ~ asked you if you were drawing a line in the sand... so let me share with you a story...
SAND and STONE
Two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey, they had an argument and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, he wrote it in the sand, "TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE"
They kept on walking until they came across an oasis where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in a patch of quicksand and started sinking, however his friend saved him. After he recovered from the near sinking/drowning experience, he wrote upon a stone: "TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE"
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote it in the sand and now you write it on a stone, why?"
His best friend replied, "When someone hurts us, we should write it down in the sand, where the winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone, where no wind can ever erase it."
So learn to write your hurts in the sand & to carve your benefits in stone. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, and an entire life to forget them.
So too with LOVE, there are many forms of love just as their are many ways of showing it. Learn how to read & speak the 5 Love Languages (google it) and find which one your boyfriend is using with you, and write your hurts down in the sand.
Look for the value in all things... My heart goes out to you...
**~Remington55~** 
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| “Love is shown in your deeds, not in your words.”
Posted: 5/21/2008 2:32:57 AM | **OP**
I must revert back to basics, since you are a woman, and he is man. I see nothing wrong with asking your mate about their feelings...But when Love is involved; Be it the word or emotion, I truly believe it should be evident, and therefore, faith in that love should be given.
If you find that you are missing something, to the point of straying, then he at least deserves the respect of knowing it.
You'll find all answer needed from there.
Best Wishes, and God Bless,
Scott | |
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| Is it okay to ask if he loves you back?
Posted: 5/21/2008 7:59:34 AM | | wow you have been with him for a year and he hasnt said it wow.its because he doesnt.so many poeple say he or she was in a bad realationship what does that have to do with you get to steppen fast. | |
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| Is it okay to ask if he loves you back?
Posted: 5/21/2008 8:15:37 AM | You know sometimes that depends on the other person. It's nice to hear that he loves you back, but as some poster said, actions are better than words.
However, there are some guys who are not very demonstrative and deep within, one way or the other, he makes you feel that he loves you more than he shows. It is so easy to feel insecure when a guy is not affectionate in public or seldom say I love you. And depending on timing, making him reinforce the feeling that he loves you as you love him is sometimes worth it! If he hesitates, it does not mean he was not feeling it. He could actually be a better SO than the one who blurts out I love you at the blink of an eye. Maybe that is just his nature. Men are very complicating creatures. But once you know one, you know if he loves you and no words will express that better.
He has never said he loves you? Well, I have not had that experience. But who knows? Maybe he is just one of those who are not capable of saying those magic words. Why don't you explain to him how important those words are to you? | |
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| Is it okay to ask if he loves you back?
Posted: 5/22/2008 12:01:47 AM | | A lot of men are unable to say I love you. Shocks me every now and then when my BF says it first (and he's not the most emotionally available guy). I think it's a guy thing in general. After losing close family members, I tend to use the L word more lately, even with close friends. Yup, I agree with others, time to ask. If he says no, then time to move on. | |
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