| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:30:31 PM | Yeah, I love this subject. You reply to them like she's the Girl-Next-Door-of-The-Year,
just cause you took a chance. Little do they know, Penthouse Babe-of-the-Month is salivating for the info you've given "local-girl". Hi-self-esteem is great. And delusional
self-importance is another. Karma equalizes things.
No-Few questions means, I'm insecure, I don't believe you, you're too cool, I'm testing you, if you answer you failed the test. WTF? You don't even know me Bit*h! You have NO idea how many times I can make you C*m. & you're testing Me? Who the F**k are you?!
LOL, not angry, just sharing some truths. | |
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/15/2008 2:56:22 PM | | Do you really think I would be stupid enough to waste my time even sending a further message after I discovered hearted replies? But as I have said, many of the women today are like this even if they are interested, but I wouldn't even waste my time with such boring individuals. But I ask you this, how is it possible to tell if they aren't interested in this instance, or they are just boring and lazy people? | |
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:05:27 PM | ck1time, please remove the alcohol or recreational drugs from the computer area.
I don't know how many e-mails you have exchanged with this man but they are really no different than those you share with anyone. Sometimes my girlfriends and I are writing a book back and forth, sometimes it is pretty much a one-liner or a few sentences. If he wrote back I would write back and if it trickles to nearly nothing he will eventually not return an e-mail.
Even then, people get busy so before you write him off I would say hello and then move on if he doesn't reply or barely bothers to. | |
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:10:07 PM | Ooh, Janet!
"I'm so done with this typing crap... let's meet and get the disappointment over with".
Now THERE'S an approach!
OP, I find that with most correspondence, whether dating sites or elsewhere, there's an ebb and flow. People's lives get busy, and maybe they have to choose whether you'd rather hear something, anything, or wait till (maybe much) later when there's time to compose a thoughtful message. Some days you're just not in as good a mood, or the witty banter doesn't come as easily. Sometimes there are other folks taking up time... If the exchanges dwindle to nothing or nearly so, then you decide whether you want to just accept the decline and fall or try to do something to reverse it.
But I think anyone who is still interested will generally make some effort to let you know, whether by asking for a phone number, explaining why he/she is suddenly more closed-mouthed ("sorry--life just got frantic!") or maybe even returning to the previous more communicative mode. Not knowing all the circumstances that go into why the "vibe" changes, a good gauge might be whether YOU are still interested--and interesting.
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/15/2008 4:55:48 PM | If someone doesn't bother replying fairly promptly to my emails, then I'd take the hint. Emails are normally short, interesting and to the point, not long drawn out letters about what I've been doing since the last time I sent a message. If you want to meet in person, then hurry it up already and get it over with and take it from there, or not. 
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/15/2008 9:24:05 PM | ck1time, please remove the alcohol or recreational drugs from the computer area.
Now THAT, ladies & germs, is funny.
No rec drugs, babe, just a couple of highballs responsibly consumed in a private bachelor pad, that's it. But thanks for the thought.
But, you know, I can see everyone's occasional frustration with e-mails. You go round 5-6x, building interest, think you want to meet & ZAP! Sure, sometimes they're just passing the time. Other times they just need a little ego boost (no crime). Other times they really do have a life they tend to & you were just the passing-time thing. It can get mildly frustrating when they're local & asked & have your # & you might feel a little disappointed or betrayed, but that's the posturing game. We either take it, or go back to board games (like Monopoly or Scrabble, not as in Broad Games or Bored Games, although when you think about it, they're somewhat interchangeable). | |
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:42:40 AM | they seem a bit less descriptive and the most recent one closed with a phrase that didn't specifically invite a reply.
It could be true that he is losing interest, however, after so many emails back and forth, why do you need an invitation to reply?
After that much communication, it seems that there is a standing invite to correspond. I'm pretty good at the email/conversation bit but sometimes it becomes a chore continually directing the conversation, etc. Sometimes, I purposely end the email without a question to see if they will pick it up from there. The email bits are a give and take. Not a take, take, take and most certainly not a bloodletting of ones own time and effort.
If I were in your shoes, I would reply to him (if interested) without a further worry about it. If the convo is in the doldrums, take it to the next level. Niceties can get a bit boring at times.
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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:14:55 AM | Hmm I just came back to this thread to see what others thought. I guess I will stand by what I posted on page 1 of this thread.
But some of you mentioned about like those short one line replies. I also dont think that shows much iniative on thier (the senders) behalf. I would get letters all the time that saying just one or two lines like "HI HOW ARE YOU DOING" or "WHAT YOU BEEN UP TO". And I would at least take the time to answer them.
Then when I ask them in the same reply email the same questions. They just respond back with one word "FINE" or "NOT MUCH".
I have to agree that is very annoying. Though, I dont believe having to force someone to write a specific amount of words in thier emails to you, I still think they could at least write something more interesting. I guess that shows they are not that interesting. And yes i said INTERESTING.. not "interested" cause if they write that little back to you, then I CAN forsee going on a date with them, would have VERY LITTLE or NO conversation going at all!! (*Yawn Yawn*)
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/16/2008 4:57:08 PM | To answer the question truthfully; someone is totally bored with your replies when he/she doesnt answer you back anymore.
But to bring something more to this topic than a smart-ass reply, I would say that any email-exchange that goes on for more than a couple of months without even a promise or chance for a meet, is bound to get boring.
To write to a person without really knowing whats behind the nick doesnt make you put your best effort to it and second of all; doesnt make you feel comfortable to tell those interesting little things about yourself that you dont want just anybody to know.
So meet up and let the boredom come after you have 20 years of marriage, 3 kids, non-existing sex life, fat ass and no future. But this requires already a new topic... | |
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:45:57 PM | | It's not boredom, I have found there is a direct correlation between verbal communication styles and electronic styles. People that are outgoing and extroverted will write and write while those that are less so, will not UNLESS they are rules girls or game players. The latter category do this to cause you to chase them, makes them appear more mysterious, it invariably makes you want to get to know them more. What does it take to open them up, it makes it more interesting. I could care less about the game players, I just assume they are shy and I stay away from them. If they are playing games to try and pique my interest, then it's their loss. | |
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| How to know when someone is bored with your replies
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:52:04 AM | Some people simply don't have a lot to talk about.Some are slow typers and only type with their index fingers and it takes them 2 or 3 minutes to type out what I just typed out in about 30 seconds.
Pixeleen?If a guy was single an wasn't interested in talking to you then he could possibly be gay. 
I prefer getting a decent sized email within reason. A few sentences to a paragraph is great. | |
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