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Posted: 5/16/2008 3:28:58 PM | C'mon down to GA...I'll be happy to buy ya a cup o' java and shoot the breeze... <<--not coffee, but hey! good for breeze-shootin'...
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Posted: 5/16/2008 4:23:07 PM | You write with an impassioned and rather broad brush, Mind Freak – and I admire your attempt to try to make people realize that change is necessary. But when you describe the fictitious Mr. and Mrs. Generality with such a dismal and gloomy portrait, you give increased attention to those aspects of humanity and, basically, become part of the problem yourself. Perhaps if you gave your head a shake and tomorrow, when you ventured out into the world, you made a point to look for the good aspects of people, the things that are working ‘as they should’, the things that have improved to being better today than they were yesterday – these things do exist and last time I counted, they still outnumbered the ‘not so good’ things – you might see that writing statements like: “We all need to get real and knock of the BS ...” – which although good in intent, are also very generalized, incorrect in that generalization, and really don’t help to accomplish what you appear to be trying to accomplish.
With respect to this particular topic, there are thousands and thousands of successful dating stories and experiences, from even this site alone – I know of dozens of them, personally. And with very few exceptions, these people are all gone – left the site. They came to POF, initiated the dating ‘routine’ (in their own ways), did it successfully, found what they came to find, and left. Those people and their stories are not part of the forum environment because they are no longer here. And a Mr. and Mrs. Generality that doesn’t include this rather large group of people is inherently, incorrect.
That broad brush is to get those who generally don't think.. to maybe do so. And perhaps give the good people a few reminders. Sometimes we all become a bit complacent in life.. And as for those who see the good, try to do the good.. and tip the scales in the world... Well... God bless them  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:36:27 PM |
op:get those who generally don't think.. to maybe do so. And perhaps give the good people a few reminders. Sometimes we all become a bit complacent in life.
Everybody thinks, OP, not just the "good people". If you're looking to cure complacency, maybe leave behind the pulpit and get behind the plow? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 7:52:34 PM | | When you write a note or post to a forum it takes a few minutes of your life and you could be lounging in your underwear. If you actually went out and the woman starts in like she's talking to her girlfriend there's no polite way to say ENOUGH take a breath. Men are also expected to pay for everything or else be thought of as a cheapskate, yea I know you pay your own half and go dutch, yada, yada. Women enjoy getting dressed men don't. Women also like to judge on how a man's dressed. "So you decided to meet me and you picked that to wear?". Women get all upset when men follow their urges and want sex. So when the decks stacked against them is it so surprising that men are hesitant to date and may want to explore more before they take that step? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 11:04:19 PM | Seeker you make me smile..
I have not run into this either.. well let me qualify that.. I have plenty of men I chat with a little.. then I don't hear anything from.. I have yet to meet one who said they wanted to go out who did not follow through.
I am talking to some men right now who might be interested in meeting.. but time will tell.. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 6:42:14 AM | Everybody thinks, OP, not just the "good people". If you're looking to cure complacency, maybe leave behind the pulpit and get behind the plow?
Bend over and I will....LOL 
And I'm not the OP ding bat... Just goes to show, some people may think.. But they don't think right...LOL | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 7:01:30 AM | Forgive me MacKevinized, thank you for thinking me intelligent. Now please look the other way while I address FixitFred
Fred, post #54...OMG, if you are just trying to get a rise, I'm sure it will work. After reading your post, it appears you don't even like women so I have to wonder why you are een on a dating site at all. What a waste of your time. You don't want to hve a conversation with them, don't want to open your wallet for them for even a date, it's obvious you don't want to get dressed to meet them, and only want sex.
That's all good, I bet there's sex stores in every city, a person wouldn't have to dress up... can stay home in the ole boxers, it'd be quiet...no conversation, save money...no dates with her, and all the sex you want! Just think, a person could even not waste time on here, instead watch sports all they wanted! No women involved...woohoo, a great concept if women are that distasteful
Just a suggestion, want to make your life a little better and improve that sour pickle attitude of yours | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 8:12:27 AM |
Actually I am DATING a very sweet guy I met in here, but what I hear there's alot of talking & little action
It sounds like you have got your "action". | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 8:30:46 AM |
Everybody thinks, OP, not just the "good people". If you're looking to cure complacency, maybe leave behind the pulpit and get behind the plow?
Bend over and I will....LOL
And I'm not the OP ding bat... Just goes to show, some people may think.. But they don't think right...LOL
Just a matter of time before those behind the pulpit start calling names......
Forgive me MacKevinized, thank you for thinking me intelligent. Now please look the other way while I address FixitFred
I only accept apologies from those that have actually offended me, so none were necessary. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 8:37:33 AM | It sounds like you have got your "action".
Do I detect a note of jealousy????
It's good that Bianca has found someone. I was here on POF about a year ago. And I met someone nice too.. And she is very sweet and very beautiful.. I couldn't believe it when she told me she was actually stood up by men on this dating site!!! Oh well, their loss, my gain.. We're still together and I am just here for the good ole' forums..
But the funny thing was, after her and I got together.. angry men started emailing her and saying she was with the wrong guy.. And that she should dump me and go with them.. They all cried how beautiful she was and how they wanted her.. Where were all these guys before.. She was on POF long before me.. And her dating experiences were either kind of nill or a nightmare...
I think some people actually hate to see others succeed at dating.. So good for you BD.. If you found a nice guy then your entitled to all the action you want...lol... But i'm sure that makes some people mad as hell...LOL  ....LOL
Just a matter of time before those behind the pulpit start calling names......
Well actually, I'm not behind a pulpit.. I'm more of a cult leader.. And you know what us crazy sons a guns are capable of??? LOL
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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:32:24 AM | Hahahahaha...
Given the problems with pontiffs promulgating politics from the pulpit (say five times fast), I might be inclined to join the MF cult.
Oh, wait...maybe we should change those first two letters...
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Posted: 5/17/2008 10:47:20 AM | I've seen a lot of the same thing, and that is why I am one of the few who DON'T like to exchange a gazillion emails before meeting. I keep reading statements such as, "we should already know each other pretty well by the time we have our first date", and the like; and these people don't understand how it is that I can assume we'd just want to spend our first "date" someplace quiet, where we can talk and get to know one another. It's simply because in my case, we probably WON'T know much about one another, at least not if things go my way. I don't like to spend a lot of time trying to figure someone out before meeting, preferring to just meet and get to know them.
So, all that said, I'm with you...I want to DATE! That's why I'm on this site, as well as the others. I'm really just looking for some fun times...but they seem to be really hard to come by...ESPECIALLY on POF. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 11:54:00 AM | I _Took_ action..in March..!!
Flew to S.C., .. !!
...where I found in only 2 of 16 planned days .. that she had emotional issues
..as well as some Serious control problems..!!
A Pity, too...She never even got to see the Ring..!! | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 1:05:44 PM |
After reading your post, it appears you don't even like women so I have to wonder why you are een on a dating site at all. Why are you making incorrect assumptions. I simply want to get to know someone before dating if at all possible. I don't like all women. I'm looking for a special one. A special one doesn't mean anyone that would go out with me.
What a waste of your time. I waste MY own time, I just don't like it to be wasted by others.
You don't want to hve a conversation with them Who said I don't want to have a conversation. This is an example of a non-conversation where you talk at me and don't listen to what I have to say. I am constantly telling people to carefully read what I said not what they think I said. A conversation is two way, what I don't like is what I described as one way like your post. Many woman like to go on and on and do a lot of complaining. If you don't think this is true you are in denial or don't talk to many woman. A lot of women understand and accept this from women that's why they enjoy talking to men so much. There's a time and place for everything.
don't want to open your wallet for them for even a date My funds are limited and am I not inclined to spend money doing things that I may not enjoy. Going on a date just to see what happens is an example. Dates to me are like interviews to find out about the other person. I am not going to attempt to explore every possibility blindly without first doing some pre-screening as it can get very expensive in time and energy and yes money. She either has to be very good looking so I can at least enjoy the view or I already know we may enjoy each others company.
it's obvious you don't want to get dressed to meet them, and only want sex. Putting words in my mouth assuming I am only wanting to put things in your mouth. I dress for events and dress for work. I am wearing sweat pants right now and will change into jeans and t-shirt so I can go work on my boat. How's that for a dating idea come over and we can talk. How many guys, straight guys, have you known that like to get dressed up. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 3:30:55 PM | This is "Clayton's Dating".....the date you have when you don't have a date
methinks most here are living in fantasyland . Have enough trouble just getting a reply .. much less a date ...
Seems to be just a place to air the wishes | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 3:05:49 AM |
Well actually, I'm not behind a pulpit.. I'm more of a cult leader.. And you know what us crazy sons a guns are capable of??? LOL
Veiled, empty threats, creating multiple profiles when booted, positioning oneself as the only judgment maker, multiple sex partners, lies, getting busted.
Yep, I know what they're capable of and I helped break up a cult in the 70's. The leader actually had a bible that he carried around in a holster and would whip it out and use it as a weapon on anyone that didn't follow his line of thinking.
One of the first things one needs to do to get a bunch of followers is to convince them making personal judgments is wrong so they have to seek advise of the cult and it's leader. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 7:07:14 AM | LOLOL Fred...don't like your words thrown back at 'cha? I only commented on what you said, now you seem to have gone into attack mode, although not until now It's okay, my shoulders are broad, I can take it, chuckle chuckle.
I hope it wasn't my emails back to you
A word of advice from a woman? Dn't make a date an interview, blahhh! Know her enough to think you might enjoy her company before you go out and open that wallet and then just have a good time.
Life's too short for you to be so cynical, sheeesh! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 9:34:31 AM |
Veiled, empty threats, creating multiple profiles when booted, positioning oneself as the only judgment maker, multiple sex partners, lies, getting busted.
Yep, I know what they're capable of and I helped break up a cult in the 70's. The leader actually had a bible that he carried around in a holster and would whip it out and use it as a weapon on anyone that didn't follow his line of thinking.
One of the first things one needs to do to get a bunch of followers is to convince them making personal judgments is wrong so they have to seek advise of the cult and it's leader.
Wow Mac, I have read some of your posts and some of the things you have been through. And I have to say it's quite impressive that you made it through sane and with intelligents intact.. But you did. Seriously man, I tip my hat to you. 
It is refreshing to see some sense on these threads... | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 2:18:23 PM |
LOLOL Fred...don't like your words thrown back at 'cha? I only commented on what you said, now you seem to have gone into attack mode I don't mind MY words being used against me but you misunderstood and used your twisted version of what you thought I said. ATTACK MODE? I can see you are not used to people using logical rebuttals to your statements. They may seem like attacks to you only because I don't go along and nod my head while you dribble nonsense which is what you may be accustomed to. This is what I referred to when I said some woman, now I can include you, like to go on and on mindlessly like they're talking to their girlfriends making little sense. Any dislike towards your particular brand of small talk and you think I don't like conversation. The fact is you don't listen, or in this case, read well. This is what I referred to as a one way conversation that I don't like to engage in.
although not until now It's okay, my shoulders are broad, I can take it, chuckle chuckle.
I hope it wasn't my emails back to you This is your attempt to make my statements personal. I refer to the facts of the case, any disagreements with you and you think it's for personal reasons. It also doesn't appear that you can take it as well as you think. I would not describe it as passive-aggressive behavior but I have seen the type many times before. You make these snide remarks when you disagree. You think you're being nice and maybe cute when you do it but I find it annoying. If you find a man that doesn't mind it I'm glad for you.
A word of advice from a woman? Please excuse me if I don't think you have anything to say that would be of use to me.
Dn't make a date an interview Every date to me is an interview. I observe and categorize. I would not go out with someone like you because you don't listen to what is said and you come out with another version or repeat things and claim them to be your's. This seriously drives me nuts. This is what I look for before I decide to meet someone. Just because I don't like some women doesn't mean I hate all women.
Know her enough to think you might enjoy her company before you go out and open that wallet and then just have a good time. I don't know if this was an example of what I just said or your attempt at sarcasm.
Life's too short for you to be so cynical, sheeesh! It is indeed too short and I deal with all kinds of people on a daily basis that I must get along with and do. I do not surround myself on my personal time with people I don't get along with such as yourself. No it is not a personal attack just statements of fact to illustrate a point. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 2:22:47 PM | to "aliensecret"..right on!!...it definitley seems that way too many people are on here to just play games or waste others time...isnt "meeting and actually dating" what these sites are SUPPOSED to be about??..:)..not that ive been inclined to meet any of the ones who have contacted me!!..lol...BUT anyone decent normal and nice enough..:)..well,thats what at least SOME of us are here for..:) | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 2:31:41 PM | whoa!...
dang, annudder woman too far away...
drat, drat, double-drat...
'course, I might get lumped into the "not that" group...
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Posted: 5/18/2008 3:57:42 PM | If a man finds a woman he fancies on here then he is very likely to ask to date her.
I personally fancy very few on here and those i do usually live 200-300 miles away ! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2008 6:05:51 PM |
... ...it definitley seems that way too many people are on here to just play games or waste others time...isnt "meeting and actually dating" what these sites are SUPPOSED to be about??..:)..not that ive been inclined to meet any of the ones who have contacted me!!..lol...BUT anyone decent normal and nice enough..:)..well,thats what at least SOME of us are here for..:)
Here's the deadly double standard. I'm sure she gets lot's of offers and yet she implies there aren't enough men serious about dating her. She even makes a statement that she's not inclined to give the time of day to many that contact her. Why can females screen and reject with impunity and men are cheap, unreasonable or just unfit or unwilling to date? | |
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