| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:05:29 AM |
Oh really now? You mean we're not just a bunch of sex crazed guys looking for a piece of action? That some of us actually want more? And that we can be hurt?
Whoever's trying to sell this propaganda, cut it out!  | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:11:15 AM |
Hope that doesnt...umm...lets see...hurt your feelings?
No, I'm used to it.
But go ahead with the pic anyway.  | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:33:06 AM | The "favorites" thing is so ridiculous. Why can't you guys see that there are so many silly women on here who are just "collecting" favorites? By adding you, they are betting you'll add them back. And for a bunch of them, it probably works. These women (the ones who use POF as a popularity contest) aren't interested in you personally, they just want to be on your favorites list.
I read in the forums all the time about people who email someone who added them to their favorites, and got either a read/delete or an unread/delete. "Why did she add me to her favorites if she isn't interested in me??" Because she's trying to increase her own numbers, that's why! There are men who do this too.
I had an old account on here, but I deleted it. Then I made one that was just for the forums, with a screen name that made that clear. Now I've got this one. All three of those accounts had this one guy who lives a long way away from here add them to his favorites list. He's one of those "top 500" people and all he's doing is collecting favorites and votes on his picture ratings. I am pretty sure that if I emailed this guy, I'd get either a "read/delete" or even an "unread/delete." On my first profile, I removed myself from his faves, and he added me right back about a week later. He's not even paying attention to who he's already added, he's just adding people at random.
I wish everyone would stop taking the "favorites" thing so seriously, because just like everything else, one certain group of idiots has turned it into something that it's not intended for. That's the drawback of being able to see how many favorites lists someone is on, there are people who use that for some kind of juvenile contest, like "look at me, see how popular I am? don't you wish YOU could have me?"
There are actually people like me who forget to even look at my favorites list for weeks on end. If someone adds me I don't even know about it for a while because I don't get the email notificaitons. Not everyone is obsessed with the favorites...it would serve everyone better not to take them seriously at all, because they are meaningless. | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:46:10 AM | | I think it should be pretty obvious to anyone who paid attention, superlizard. What always gets me is these guys who say "I can't email her, she doesn't have time to talk to me, she's talking to 357 other guys right now." Truth is, she probably hasn't talked to 10 of them. LOL | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:55:32 AM | I have been here a long time and I would say my faith in you guys comes and goes
Sometimes I will start communicating with a fella who sparks my interest for a while and then he is a dud.....I read a few books and start again.
The forums rock. The friends are great and the dates are well something to start threads about.
(can some more people add me to favorites I just dont feel loved today ) | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 8:56:49 AM |
But it is now becoming clear that a lot of women do not seem to be the way the describe on their profile (I realise men do this too). There
Op, I found the ladies to represent themselves in their profiles quite
accurately.
Could it be you fail to understand that women respond to different people
DIFFERENTLY?
[much as MEN do?]
Should you make the mistake you are 'owed 'attention, it will show, most likely
putting people off.
Bear in mind, most of us have a 'narrow' window to work with, all the more
difficult for gals to respond over-aggressively.
Just left a thread about 'controlling' guys, where the guys have a 'script', albeit
subconsciously, for the ladies to follow. [instant downfall]
Are YOU choosey over whom YOU respond?
This is indicative of that 'narrow' ledge we work with.
[Don't push yourself OFF it!] | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:07:48 AM | | When my sister started dating, I told her to find a guy that was as into being committed as he is into having sex. Most guys have no problem rushing into sex, but they then freak out when commitment comes. Unless the woman just wants a good time, sex and commitment should be linked. | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:39:43 AM | | I will add you, Lot Lizard! Only you'll always be the trailer trashh girl to me. LOL!! | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:52:00 AM | | But the name changes help me keep count of how many times I sleep with my ex husband. (hanging head in shame) | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 9:57:30 AM | | mthomjmark, did she ever find one of those guys? If so, can you tell me where? LOL | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/16/2008 1:36:52 PM | | exactly!! i just said to do it in the bath as he had nice white carpet and it would be a shame to ruin them!! | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:26:48 AM |
The woman that loves you the most is not the one that makes it easiest...nor the one that makes you jump through ridiculous hoops...its the one that'll meet you halfway. Take heed to the above post by Kyn, it's right on the money with most women. You must meet halfway and too not just take, take take. | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/17/2008 11:47:55 PM | | Us gals would not even be registered here on this site if we had totally lost faith in men. Hope springs eternal... | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 9:03:36 AM | | On the occasions I have wavering faith in people (read: not just men), it has very little to do with things like this site. I may be cynical, but I'm hoping that my life experience has taught me enough to steer clear of damaging relationships, both romantic and otherwise. | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 11:46:09 AM | | i lost faith in men, until i met my current boyfriend. but im still a bit wary to say the least... im hoping he wont let me down either.. | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:09:39 PM | I have not lost faith in Men. They are not a group to look at as a whole they are each individuals. That is what is so interesting about them. Some are fun to talk to or date and others aren't. Some have given up on themselves. Some of my best friends are Men... that and I have a son. I will never give up on him.
~Charmed~ | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/18/2008 3:58:44 PM | KYN,
"Sadly...alot of men are so afraid of failing and scared in general...that they either become passive aggressive...or self sabotage situations so that they dont have to fail"
That statement is so true, hell I should know.... that describes how I enter act with women since my marrige ended. I have to wounder if it is something that effects older man only and how does one go about fixing it.
J | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 5/19/2008 3:35:02 AM | Counseling... get some counseling. I personally think everyone needs it at some point in their life. Give it a try. It is very hard to go through a divorce, I have watched my close friends go through it. It is not just cause you are older it is cause you have been through a difficult time in your life.
~Charmed~ | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 4:22:58 PM | | Never. I like men. If someone isn't giving you a proper response it's probably because they aren't interested or haven't been asked the right questions. My profile says I'm expressive, but I'm usually expressive about thoughts, not so much about feelings. Also someone may be shy at first and they need time to show you those parts of themselves. The only people that get something are the ones willing to take risks. That includes showing proper interest. I protect myself and I understand why others do it. I don't blame them, we are so much more alike than we think. I have met many men online and I cannot say one has really hurt me. If anything hurt me is was probably me being impulsive, but nothing too serious. Nothing worth dwelling about. I can probably tell you some funny pathetic stories, but they weren't that bad. Maybe it's just me, I like to see the good in people. I have spoken to some psychos, but I haven't met any. Talking to them isn't that dangerous, it's meeting them after hearing all the red flags, that is. | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 6/15/2008 5:17:35 PM | I haven't lost my faith in men. There have been times in my life where I have been hurt by men, but you have to get over it, forgive and move on.
Recently I started chatting with someone, who I really liked. However, I found out he wasn't being honest with me and more importantly with himself, and in the end, he just didn't like women. He had been hurt so many times and apparently it was all my fault. He was very bitter and very mean and I feel sorry for him, but it also taught me a good lesson. Often times the only one holding you back from a loving relationship is yourself because you can't put the past behind you.
I was feeling a bit depressed about the situation yesterday when a good friend called me. I told him what happened and he said "you know, we are all not like that and it sounds as if this guy was blaming you for someone else's crimes. That is the only explaination for such a short encounter." He told me, "let it go, don't do what he did, just say next and move on, because if you don't, you will become just like him and you are better than that." That is what I needed to hear, from a man, a good man. | |
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| Have you lost faith in men?
Posted: 6/16/2008 3:28:18 PM | | no not at all , there are ass holes out there met a few, jumped out faster then i jumped in dident get hurt. we all have to take ownership to the failed relationships. if your an enabler or the enablee, you had a part! remember this is for singles (yes?) starting fresh somebody new .you drag your old crap with you you might as well beg your ex to get back together. move on. | |
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