| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:10:37 PM | one of my pet peeves is people who don't have kids judging how I'm raising mine!
My style is pretty laid back because that's my personality I'm not a screamer, etc
We laugh and tease each other and treat each other like real people but I have standards and certain things I just don't allow and they know what I expect from them.
I was seeing someone for a while who constantly compared me to his sister who controled everything and her kids can't wait to leave home and get away from her.
everyone needs to find their own style of parenting and every family is different. our family is what we've made it and I'm not looking for someone to 'fix' us our family is not 'broken' | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:14:11 PM | I've been thru the step parent thing with my second ex. He came from a very bad family and wanted to bring it with him....no way! It was a big sore spot in our marriage, considering he never had any children and mine were already 11 and 14 and doing great.
I think the big thing is to keep your kids close...some one posted something like that...know where your kids are, who they are with, what are they doing and I don't mean just by what they say. My house was and is the place kids come to play or hang out. Being close is the key, it's always been and will forever be the answer.
Amy...my job requires me to know more and see more than a person would ever want to about teens/young adults with disabilities, not a week goes by I don't cry for the stories of abuse I hear...dmn it makes me mad!!!!! Parents need to be given a test to see if they qualify...like getting a drivers license...ok now I'm gonna get mud thrown on me....let me have it folks | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/16/2008 3:48:28 PM | A guy I was seeing had two kids who were waaaaayyyy out of control......
It actually broke us up.....I told him if HE couldn't play the 'heavy', don't ask me to come into your house and do it.......
Kids these days need CONSEQUENCES more than anything. They need to know that if they do something wrong, it's not just yelling that will occur, it's some OTHER thing that they won't like......even puppies need a couple whacks with the paper to learn their boundaries......LOL......
Nowadays, if your kid misbehaves in a store, you can't even smack their lil' hand without store security on your butt......
So, kids are learning that authority has no power, in the schools or at home, and therefore, they 'rule'.
Bring back the ruler and the paddle! | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:09:17 PM | And now just think of Yma here, the single parent (like everyone else here) and has a job that takes on other peoples problems! Now that what I call courage.. or is it insanity? *shrugs* 
Someone who takes on a job like that is good in my book (and no I dont mean the 'little black book' either for those of you wondering LoL) Takes a strong person to do sort of thing. I know I couldnt do it. Go Amy!
Yeah yeah yeah, so Im trying to butter her up a bit.. and could someone pass the sour cream please! need something to go with these other fore mentioned condiments from previous posts from another thread | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:07:18 PM | It's a combination of all three. Society has become a touchy, feely group of P.C. robots. Heaven forbid if you offend anyone, you'll get sued. TV has become a modern babysitter along with the computer and video games, many of these kids are getting their morals and values from an inanimate objects.
Think about the difference in education between our generation and what kids are being taught now. We were taught to think and to learn, they are taught to ace a standardized test. They have to do what they're told, when they're told and how they're told. God forbid any students get caught tossing starfish guts at each other, they'd get suspended or expelled (I was just told to clean it up)
We learned while life can be rosy, it can also come from behind and give you a swift kick in the rear right into a pile of (insert word here). They're learning that should never happen. We learned how to deal and move on, they're learning to blame someone else. This can go right back on the parents and how they're raising those kids. The kids that can think for themselves and deal with issues and move on can also be blamed on the parents. We are the one's shaping society and the future and if we don't like it...who's to blame?
This is one subject I could go on and on about, but I'll end it here for now. RDtoo, I'm from the same generation or close enough for it to have an effect, and I still don't care who I offend. We're not doomed, there is still many kids out there who's parents have taught them to question everything and draw their own conclusions. It's this group (hopefully) that will keep things in check. | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 12:17:36 AM | Aww, butter me up like popcorn baby!
It is a hard job, plenty of nights you go to bed with a sad heart and tears in your eyes. And the realization that some people are pure evil, and to keep your faith in the human race.
It shouldn't hurt to be a child!!!
The payoff at the end is unlike any other high life can bring you. To show a child that's it safe to laugh, smile, and just be a child full of new life. It's a powerful life changing moment, I wish you all could experience it just once. What a gift it is.
This kinda went off topic lol.
Either way, for whatever reason "kids today" are as they are, we can't give up! And yes, we do need to hold a mirror to our own faces and take blame where blame is due, most of the time the blame belongs to us. | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 7:28:07 AM | Ummm Sargo? Sour cream doesn't go well with TRIX and YOGURT as far as I know but hey, everyone has different tastes 
Now I see she's adding butter to the mix, yuck, you two are strange! LOLOL!
Me thinks me smells a little spark starting up pretty well
OK, back on topic...
I believe we can as the baby boomer generation, organize and become a lobby (Parents for Our Children's Safety) and pressure Congress to remove these kind of games (teaching tools they are) from shelves and send them back to China where they came from
I'm not picking on you...honest, just want to make a point here if I may...Congress and our legislators aren't going to make a bit of difference if we don't " get off the horse and get behind the plow" !!!!!
You want to make a difference? Stop writing letters and start volunteering! Get out there! There is SO MANY community agencies that need you to lend a real hand helping with our youth. Get involved that way...in person, really make a difference See first hand what's going on, what's needed, what child/children/youth you can help...then talk to me about writing letters. Sighhh, you have to live it, breathe it, be a part of it before you can ask for change. We need so much more then the removal of bad video games before there can be any kind of change. Be a mentor to a young man who has no role model...give him a reason to want to do something more !
Ok...I'm sorry, this is just me on my soapbox and I have such passion for this topic, I don't mean to go on and on...can't help myself, get me the duct tape and I'll use it. | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:01:13 AM | Good topic, made me think as I am a full time Dad of 3 ( 1 gone, 1 almost gone!lol } . Hope you guys dont mind a nehobour cutting in on your great Michigan forums.
{" quote Are those of us who are parents partly to blame? (I can see a rousing chorus of 'NOT ME!' inserted here, LOL) ' END OF QUOTE}
Well I afraid to say you wont get the " not me " from me. Am guilty of a lot of things listed here , including trying to make up for being raised in a broken home by buying my kids material things, working too many hours to accomodate those purchaces and also being too trusting at times when they told me they are somewhere they probably were not.
Broken homes have a huge impact on kids, some of us try and make up for it. In hind sight, I was a poor parent in this regard, should have been more strict, make them be more responsible .
As an example ,I am comfortable that I tried to show them the right thing by example, lol, except for speeding. Then I am a "do as I say Dad" more than a do as I do one"! | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 8:30:14 AM | dunrich, you are welcome to our threads anytime! 
And, kudos to you for your honesty......! If only more parents would 'wake up and smell the coffee'......before it burns.....ROFLMAO! | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:58:01 PM | I may be old fashioned but I think its the parents fault.
I came from a "broken home" and am a productive member of society.
My daughter has a ipod, cell phone etc.Her Dad and I do the every other week thing and are pretty protective of out time with her so she knows she is loved.Good grades, good kid maybe lucky who knows.
We hardly ever talk anymore but if something is a miss both react quickly.Grades down went for just a few weeks because she missed alot of school because of sickness .She was not very organized in making up her work on time.Her father and I saw all her teachers to find out why.She was grounded at his house and mine..no phone, TV, computer etc.And she is a awesome kid.
Overreacted maybe but this is the kicker.......
I am her parent and I am RESPONSIBLE for her behavior.Not society or the way things are now adays..........me cause I had her.Period. | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 5:44:15 PM | | i raised 5 kids with a little help from my friends...and family...loved them with all my heart...made them dinner every night...taught them right from wrong...kissed them goodbye every morning...cried when i was sad ...laughed when happy...wouldn't accept anything less than a "B"...helped with homework...left the city in 80' and raised them up north...they learned to work when they were young....our outings were fishing, swimming, bbq's, etc...but "LOVE" was the key factor...the boys are all business owners...oldest daughter, mechanical engineer, youngest daughter 2nd year nursing school... THANK YOU LORD | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 6:47:07 PM | Michkat , that is a remarkable accomplishmnet . Being a single parent is one of the hardest things in this life I think , looks like you got an A plus in that!
Moving North was a good move I think. Originally from Windsor, I moved to Northern Ontario when I started having kids. It was a lot more conducive I think to raising kids than the City was. Unfortuantely, when the Paper Mill I worked at closed in the mid 90`s I had to return south.
Looking back, I regret doing that. Not that my kids turned out bad, am very proud of how they turned out . There just seemed to be more time for things up north I think, the life style healthier with a better balance.
Sheesh, with the long hours I have had to work since returning to the " rat race", good thing there was a lovely girl down named Wendys down the road to help me feed them, lol. | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/17/2008 10:19:13 PM | oh thank you for the nice compliment...i always felt truly blessed that i got to have 5 kids...i had my share of takin the keys away...and the ole "you're grounded"...but my ears and arms were always open...i chose life over cash...kids are people too, and when you show respect they usually return it...i went back to school when mine were grown...14 more credits and i'll be done...want to teach math at a juvenille detention facility...my heart just goes out to the kids with no direction...i never lied to my kids, lies were unacceptable, and it works two ways...kids now a days just want love, same as always  | |
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| 'What's the matter with kids today'?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:49:50 AM | OHHHH Kat....you forgot one other VERY important thing kids want today that most of them aren't getting and it's something you gave yours...they want direction. You said it yourself Without direction they end up where you are heading....only in a different capacity.
We need to STOP trying to be their friend and remember what our true job really is...
PARENTS. They have enough friends, they need a mom and a dad....to give them that unconditional love, direction and know we have expectations that they need to meet. Be the best they can be. | |
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