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Posted: 5/16/2008 8:41:57 AM | I rarely initiate a phone call... Then how do you know he typically doesn't answer calls? Confused here.  
I rarely just pick up a phone to answer it. Too many telemarketers. If I know I'm going to get a call from someone I want to talk to, I pick it up. My cell phone is on vibrate and often is not on my person--I'm certainly not married to it.
Seeing where he lives before you have gone out a few times seems premature.
Not everyone in the 21st century has a land-line phone in their home. Ask questions when you have questions. That's the best way to get answers. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:03:00 AM | Sandra0413,
It has been my experience that men that do this are married or have a SO that is around when the phone rings (they usually keep it on vibrate) and they can't answer it at that time. Then they call you back when they are out and about and away from prying ears.
I had this happen to me and I had never been to his place and he never answered the cell phone, even if he had JUST called me and I was calling him back. He swore he was divorced and wanted to be with me blah blah blah. Come to find out he was married and had not even filed for divorce and they had just bought a new home together.
It is a huge red flag if you have dated a few times and he does not want you to see where he lives.
Be careful.
TC
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:33:22 AM | I dont see a real problem, yet...Ask first...I dont give my home number to anyone until I get to know a little about them...Im a single dad, "I dont let woman roam through my house"...Ive got a 17 year daughter...Im very protective of my home and my little one (little one, shes 17)...Jus ask the guy...
Maybe this guy is a complete gentlemen, who knows?...Geez, all this analyzing...TALK TO THE GUY | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:46:30 AM |
OK...I forgot...(Sorry Guys.._)
It's his CELL PHONE
He has never given a home phone number to me...
Maybe he doesn't have a land line. I got rid of mine a few months ago. It's cheaper to use my cell phone. Even with long distance calls.
But......the fact that he NEVER answers is kind of strange. I would ask him about it. He might have a good answer for it. But he might be a control freak too. If I called a woman up and she never answered I would dump her after the 5th time this happened.
The short end of it is it is just plain rude. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:04:15 AM | who knows whats up?
seriously he may not even have a land line , tons of people I know have done away with them and use their cell only.
As for never answering , thats a little ,well ... odd.
If I was calling and someone was never answering well I'd .......... stop calling.
But you could go the route of asking him what (if anything) is up with that? | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:07:04 AM | | I'm like him, I never anwser the phone. I don't have a land line, and my cell is on vibrate. It drives everyone nuts! I don't even carry my cell 90% of the time. Leave me a voicemail or text, and I'll call back. And no, I'm not married or anything. He may be odd like me. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:11:59 AM | | I'd ask him if he has a home #, if he says yes and doesn't give it then I would run away. I did have this guy online who gave me a cell #(thought I never called him) and he said "oh I am never at home" or something when I asked for a home number, found out he was married when his wife emailed me. Was glad I trusted my gut. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:12:54 AM | I usually don't answer my cell either,
its because, well...its a CELL,
I may be in a meeting,
I may be busy
I may be driving
I may be in the bathroom ...lol
I may be doing whatever...
Leave a msg, I'll get back to ya..... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:35:22 AM | I hardly ever answer my phone. I let the machine screen my calls, or check caller id (which doesn't always show the number).
But it does seem weird since he gave you his number. Maybe he does the screening thing too, but doesn't recognize your number?
*shrug* got me | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 2:56:48 PM |
Is he a controll freek???
Is he hiding something(me??)
Trying to keep track of his women???
There are othere fish in the pond...
Does this one seem a little too fishy?
I think I've changed my mind. Do him a favor and dump him, or hopefully he'll find this thread and end it. I would not want you to know where I live. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 3:09:51 PM | I have all the ringers/alerts on my phones turned off. I receive telemarketing and wrong number calls a lot. Plus I feel the phone is for my use. Not for me to live my life by or put on hold just because it rings. If I see the phone caller id light up and it is someone I want to talk to then I will pick up.
At work I have caller ID. I do not answer personal calls. That is not what I am being paid for. I listen to the V.M. then call back using my cell, on a break or during lunch, or after work.
If he was married, he would not give you his home phone number, as his wife may answer.
I think you are being paranoid. As long as he calls you back in an acceptable (to you) amount of time I don't understand what the big deal is.
If someone freaked out because I did not answer the phone, yet called back right away, and then demanded for me to show them where I live I would probably decline to have further communication with them. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 3:42:00 PM | Oh man......
This was my pet hate of my last partner. In the end she physically didn't have the BRAIN POWER to understand the frustration she caused me by having her phone on for 3 minutes a day to check msgs.
I couldnt call to arrange a lunch/dinner out, if i was overseas, I would send a msg saying 'call me on this (friends house) number at 4pm your time' and 4 days later, when i'm long gone from that friends house the phone rings at 4pm.. (yes, didn't turn the phone on for 4 days...)
I got rid of her, not because of the phone issue, but many more things. If he doesn't understand the fact that people like to keep in contact with other people, and never answers his phone then he is just not all there upstairs, sorry... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 3:54:36 PM | | some people are screening calls i believe so they don't answer all the time. then there are some people who just don't like the phone and avoid answering. i dated a guy like this who NEVER answered, i didn't like it but then found out he did it to his own family members when they called which made me feel a bit better. his own sisters would call and he still would NOT answer, oh well, whatever floats your boat. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 4:05:51 PM | | just because he didn't give you his home # is no reason to be suspicious or think he's married. did you ask if he has a home #?? he most likely doesn't have a home phone, therefore no # to give you. this doesn't mean he is married, there are LOTS of people without home phones these days. most people just have one phone, a cell. also since this is his cell, why would his wife be answering it like someone said?? that doesn't make any sense. wouldn't he keep his cell phone on his person? so why would the wife have it then? she probably would have her own phone. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 4:24:29 PM | I rarely answer my phone when anyone calls either. 1) because it is on vibrate because I don't want to bother my co-workers, or 2) I am driving and I don't talk on my phone when I drive. or 3) I might not have my phone one me, if I am, let's say, in the bathroom. Don't just assume he is married or a control freak because of it.
Edit: Oh yeah, I don't own a home phone either. Seems rather redundant since the advent of cable internet. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 4:25:27 PM |
If he wont give you his home number..
Means nothing at all.Some people don`t have home #`s. | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 5:53:32 PM | | I know some people don't have landlines, and I never give my home phone # out right away. But if he never answers his cell either, and he has your number, I would think something was up too. He's either married, has a g/f or living with someone...I dated a guy a few years back, that never answered his cell around me, I thought it was weird. Turned out he was very involved. Watch out, and trust your gut! | |
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| doesn't answer phone
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:59:27 PM | | Sandra,Duh! He is NOT into you,he doesn't want you..Do you have to have a Rock fall on your head???? Why are you calling him anyway? If the man is interested,You can't get him off from ya'......Enacoo | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 9:58:48 PM | Enacoo...
You didn't read everything. I don't intiate the calls. I return his calls...Jeez... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 10:05:17 PM | | trailviews...Jeez...I don't initate calls, I return calls, He doesn't pick up even when I return his calls imediatley...I don't know what would happen if I changed plans. Don't worry, I wouldn't want to call you...you're safe... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 11:49:11 PM | trailviews...Jeez...I don't initate calls, I return calls, He doesn't pick up even when I return his calls imediatley...I don't know what would happen if I changed plans. Don't worry, I wouldn't want to call you...you're safe...
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Then stop returning his calls. One rule of "early dating" relationships is phone calls and invites are kinda tit for tat. I call my GF's house and she answers, great, either one can make the call next time. If I call, and get no answer or my call isn't returned, I don't call again. HERE'S AN IDEA: Ask him "whats a good time to call you, because I don't like leaving messages and I"m usually very busy, phone tag is not a fun game" try that.... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2008 11:52:03 PM | My opinion:
Something is strange in that relationship. People tend to have feelings when something is not right. If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, quacks like a duck... you know the drill. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 4:54:36 AM |
OK...I forgot...(Sorry Guys.._)
It's his CELL PHONE
He has never given a home phone number to me...
He is probably married or living with another girl. Even if he sees you frequently you would be amazed at what men will tell their wives as excuses to be away from home evenings or even entire weekends but they can't very well chat with their girl friends while sitting on the couch with their wives. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2008 5:12:20 AM | Get a good look at the house. Call the utility companies.(1-800-272-1000,call before you dig) They'll do a markout of utilities services. Then you can get a backhoe and dig up the front yard and look at the foundations and footings without tearing up a buried gas,sewer, or electrical lines. Be sure to have the roof inspected,too,(what's that? Oh.) Nevermind.
Yarimelma, one point you forgot to mention is that your phone is a SERVICE you pay for. I never understood why people pay for a service only to become a slave to it. I never did RUN to answer a phone, and it gets left off, left in the car, left on the table. Cell phones have all these wonderful free features like "missed calls" and voicemail. If it's important, and generally it isn't, I'll get back to you.
So OP, the guy in question may just have my attitude about phones, or it may be something
else.
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